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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath

We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I make a comment about your profile?

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From your profile I gather you're looking for a single female to join you.

And whilst the male half is not meant to take part in playing, he is there to watch, correct?

If that's the case you may want to include pictures of the male half on your profile.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

Got nothing tbh x

Maybe pop to a club or to to expand the social side but that’s me calling the kettle black lol

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath

Tried it once, all excited. 5 people there two of which were staff

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Your profile is very clear on what you want, but what you want is pretty rare! You'd possibly have more luck on your own, but appreciate that's not your thing. Most women don't want to perform for a husband if he's not involved at all.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

One reason might be that you have only one published verification this is a Limitation for two reasons.

1) people like to be safe and are conservative

2) some people like to read varis because it gives them : A an extended veiw on what your like are. B i get to see what others thought of you and Woody you are like as people and sexually in bed, dud you have it rough or slow etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If looking for a man or a couple you’d be swamped!!

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By *onnybig9Man
over a year ago

bexley

I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"If looking for a man or a couple you’d be swamped!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are getting little interest because you are seeking women.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"From your profile I gather you're looking for a single female to join you.

And whilst the male half is not meant to take part in playing, he is there to watch, correct?

If that's the case you may want to include pictures of the male half on your profile."

I'd agree. You need pictures of him in your profile as well.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Same advice I'd give to anyone - your profile is very generic and doesn't really make you stand out - yes you have some great pics but being honest the text reads like the male half has written it with a view to fulfilling his own fantasies. Apologies if that sounds harsh but it's meant as constructive criticism.

Add to that that you're looking for the proverbial unicorn and not only that are expecting her to perform for hubby's pleasure (or that's how it reads) and your chances are further reduced.

I'd suggest either re-thinking what you are looking for, or re-writing your profile (including adding pics of the male half) or both

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I did a very brief search online. Unicorn was described as 'a mythical creature'.

You finding one could take a while.

One finding you may take longer.

Be patient x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You are after the smallest group on the site, single women willing to play with a woman in front of her husband. You will need to put in a great deal of effort as these ladies have many profiles to choose from.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help? "

Start your own thread , don't hijack someone else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tried it once, all excited. 5 people there two of which were staff "

Don't give up on clubs due to that experience. There are some very good clubs with much larger crowds.

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath

Thanks for all your advice!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you could try looking for a woman as a single woman and not a couple, and then asking any interested parties if your husband could join in or watch.

Just a thought.

It opens your eyes as to how difficult it is for us men though.

The imbalance of men to women on here means that women have the chance to be very very selective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

Start your own thread , don't hijack someone else's "
so strict

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe youre too sexy finding a woman is the most difficult ask and no pics of hubby whether he plays or not puts them off but you the lady look very attractive im sure you will succeed

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help? "

Come back when you are sober and start your own thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not seen you pop up in Bristol searches before, for some reason. A super attractive couple...maybe that is putting off a woman, to perform in front of you both - don’t know? Happy searching

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By *onnybig9Man
over a year ago

bexley

This is the first forum ive used and everyones saying ive hijacked it i just wrote a message lol

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I’ve not seen you pop up in Bristol searches before, for some reason. A super attractive couple...maybe that is putting off a woman, to perform in front of you both - don’t know? Happy searching "

Can I just ask how you know they're a 'super attractive couple' ?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"This is the first forum ive used and everyones saying ive hijacked it i just wrote a message lol"

It gets confusing if someone asks for advice on someone elses thread. It is unfair to the OP too. It's easy to start your own thread.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

Start your own thread , don't hijack someone else's so strict "

It's called etiquette

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

OP as others have said, you are looking for what a lot of others are looking for, so these ladies have lots of choice, so you have to stand out. I would also suggest a club. Good luck in your search.

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By *eddyeddyMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

I would say most will be intimidated by your beauty personally

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x

I would say most will be intimidated by your beauty personally "

I doubt that's the reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

Start your own thread , don't hijack someone else's so strict

It's called etiquette "
you're like a dominatrix can we meet

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

Start your own thread , don't hijack someone else's so strict

It's called etiquette you're like a dominatrix can we meet "

Get in the queue

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

In all honesty, it wouldn't interest me. Sorry, but if and when I join couples it's for all 3 of us to be involved. Sure if the man wants to watch at first but eventually I'd want him to join in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

Start your own thread , don't hijack someone else's so strict

It's called etiquette you're like a dominatrix can we meet

Get in the queue "
im German

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP as others have said, you are looking for what a lot of others are looking for, so these ladies have lots of choice, so you have to stand out. I would also suggest a club. Good luck in your search. "
your bum stands out

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

Start your own thread , don't hijack someone else's so strict

It's called etiquette you're like a dominatrix can we meet

Get in the queue im German "

Ok that's different then

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"OP as others have said, you are looking for what a lot of others are looking for, so these ladies have lots of choice, so you have to stand out. I would also suggest a club. Good luck in your search. your bum stands out "

Thank you....I think, now we're hijacking the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP as others have said, you are looking for what a lot of others are looking for, so these ladies have lots of choice, so you have to stand out. I would also suggest a club. Good luck in your search. your bum stands out

Thank you....I think, now we're hijacking the thread "
yes but thinking about your bum distracts me from that thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be more pro active go get what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In one of your pictures there is a baby highchair visible. I've seen quite a few people on other forums say this is a dealbreaker for them. Just something to think about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

Come back when you are sober and start your own thread "
no need to be so rude if I don’t agree with people’s comments I just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the first forum ive used and everyones saying ive hijacked it i just wrote a message lol"
ignore them some just look for an excuse to argue x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"This is the first forum ive used and everyones saying ive hijacked it i just wrote a message lolignore them some just look for an excuse to argue x"

People don't always use the quote button, so it's not always obvious if advice is being given to the OP or the other person, that's why it can be confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is the first forum ive used and everyones saying ive hijacked it i just wrote a message lolignore them some just look for an excuse to argue x"
oh no they didn't

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Get to more clubs.

Arrange a FAB social in town at a pub easy to get to.

Get known as a couple. You are looking for a needle in a cornfield the way you are going about things right now... of course you're not going to have much luck.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Patience is the key lol"

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Not clear what the hubby's involvement in the meet is....that's a instant no no, does he jump in when he likes? Watches? Seems like it would be decided by him at the time ....a lone female joining you needs more information I think....

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Not clear what the hubby's involvement in the meet is....that's a instant no no, does he jump in when he likes? Watches? Seems like it would be decided by him at the time ....a lone female joining you needs more information I think...."

Yes this

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Not having any photos of your partner would be a complete no for me. Doesn't matter if he's not physically taking part, if he's present at all I'd have to find him attractive in order to feel comfortable enough and sexy enough for anything to happen.

Another thing to note (and I'm not saying this is the case with you and your partner by any means), is that partners often don't always chat together. I've had to block countless couple profiles over the years both here and elsewhere because whenever the female half wasn't around, the male half would suddenly become the clichéd horny single male who doesn't take no for an answer, inundates you with dick pics and explicit messages about what he 'is going to do'.... conversations he then deletes before his partner sees them. I've had wives and partners complain that I have suddenly changed my mind or blocked them, but quite frankly, the few times early on that I did naievely tell a wife or partner that their man was harassing me behind their back, I ended up being the one at fault and called a prick tease or timewaster. Now I just block without explanation and hope that's the end of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

You say you're unsure how involved the man will be. You don't know your rules. It's not the time to figure that out when he's balls deep in some woman and the wife gets jealous. Or he sees her having more fun with the woman than he's ever given her and he throws a strop.

Dangerous for a single woman to enter that kind of situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not having any photos of your partner would be a complete no for me. Doesn't matter if he's not physically taking part, if he's present at all I'd have to find him attractive in order to feel comfortable enough and sexy enough for anything to happen.

Another thing to note (and I'm not saying this is the case with you and your partner by any means), is that partners often don't always chat together. I've had to block countless couple profiles over the years both here and elsewhere because whenever the female half wasn't around, the male half would suddenly become the clichéd horny single male who doesn't take no for an answer, inundates you with dick pics and explicit messages about what he 'is going to do'.... conversations he then deletes before his partner sees them. I've had wives and partners complain that I have suddenly changed my mind or blocked them, but quite frankly, the few times early on that I did naievely tell a wife or partner that their man was harassing me behind their back, I ended up being the one at fault and called a prick tease or timewaster. Now I just block without explanation and hope that's the end of it. "

Men thinking with their dick are a pain in the arse. Then the wife blames the other woman when it's his fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not having any photos of your partner would be a complete no for me. Doesn't matter if he's not physically taking part, if he's present at all I'd have to find him attractive in order to feel comfortable enough and sexy enough for anything to happen.

Another thing to note (and I'm not saying this is the case with you and your partner by any means), is that partners often don't always chat together. I've had to block countless couple profiles over the years both here and elsewhere because whenever the female half wasn't around, the male half would suddenly become the clichéd horny single male who doesn't take no for an answer, inundates you with dick pics and explicit messages about what he 'is going to do'.... conversations he then deletes before his partner sees them. I've had wives and partners complain that I have suddenly changed my mind or blocked them, but quite frankly, the few times early on that I did naievely tell a wife or partner that their man was harassing me behind their back, I ended up being the one at fault and called a prick tease or timewaster. Now I just block without explanation and hope that's the end of it.

Men thinking with their dick are a pain in the arse. Then the wife blames the other woman when it's his fault. "
no that's men thinking of their dick in your arse

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Id suggest you try meeting some women one on one. Get some veris from them, then it looks less like you're one of those couples looking for a unicorn to satisfy the Male half's love of watching lesbian porn.

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

99% Of couples on here want exactly the same!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"99% Of couples on here want exactly the same!"

We must be 1% that's not then lol. No pics of hubby plus all we know he's ample which may be off-putting as said by others there has to be attraction to be horny. Go go organised socials and pic better club, club events that's how we role.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the norm experience on there. Don'r worry, there's nothing wrong with you two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally.. I'd be put off by anyone who called themselves attractive on their own profile.

Other than that, I'd echo Gemini Mans words.

You are seeking the most in-demand group of people on Fab.

For the most part, they're quite a selective bunch of women and base their decisions on all sorts of things, not just how physically attractive you may, or may not be.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Personally.. I'd be put off by anyone who called themselves attractive on their own profile.

Other than that, I'd echo Gemini Mans words.

You are seeking the most in-demand group of people on Fab.

For the most part, they're quite a selective bunch of women and base their decisions on all sorts of things, not just how physically attractive you may, or may not be. "

I would be put off by that too.

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By *ornyQueerWoman
over a year ago

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It wouldn’t bother me because with couples I’m looking for the man to only watch while I play with the woman. But I’ve not actually tried it in reality because I’m still not sure if it would put me off getting watched.

You should probably try some clubs might have more luck.

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"It wouldn’t bother me because with couples I’m looking for the man to only watch while I play with the woman. But I’ve not actually tried it in reality because I’m still not sure if it would put me off getting watched.

You should probably try some clubs might have more luck."

Thanks for the advice. We put a picture with both of us on and it’s seens to have done the trick. Nice to open up with mo 10 messages for a change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

Just picked up on this;

It is hard to understand why you two are not meeting more, you read well and look good - might be the interaction in messages - meet request might be good though

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Good luck you and thousands of couples looking for this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your local sex shop should help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you could try looking for a woman as a single woman and not a couple, and then asking any interested parties if your husband could join in or watch.

Just a thought.

It opens your eyes as to how difficult it is for us men though.

The imbalance of men to women on here means that women have the chance to be very very selective."

This sums things up nicely

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By *ugarbearCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

Not sure why you blanked your face's out in that pic anyone who knows you would reconize you even with your face's blanked out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop messing around, grow some and just get it on properly with a couple

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

Why not look for another couple who are looking for a similar thing? That way both girls get what they want, and both guys get to watch. If you as the female don't want to be with another guy, then you can just go back to your own partner at the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

Try taking that legal disclaimer off as I guarantee you won't see it tgrough, we see them and instantly move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple more pics of what would be on offer and maybe a bit of info on fantasies and what you are wanting. Things you're in to etc x

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Hit the socials, Bristol and Newport are regularly held, and making friends, networking and being seen on the scene will garner much more interest than a fairly average profile.

Also, ignore the whole "unicorns are rare" .... it's so wrong...go to any swingers gathering and a large proportion of the ladies, both single and in couples, are bi.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Using the search function, with the age range you specify, there are 246 bi ladies who want to meet couples within 10 miles of you, 100 of whom have been online in the last week.

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot


"Tried it once, all excited. 5 people there two of which were staff "

What club did you try and what night did you go on

There are a couple of clubs in your area

We go to a club near you and Jess has played with another female while I watched

But as others have said you are looking for a very limited area of swinging

Hope you do find what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the proverbial 'unicorn'.

Your profile isn't very warm or welcoming, it reads more like rules and regulations. Try rewording it to make it more like you'd enjoy meeting me for a drink, you both like meeting people and having fun. At the moment it reads like I'm being chosen from a catalogue to meet your needs.

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By *ornyQueerWoman
over a year ago

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I really hate it when talking to a single woman and then they say my husband wants to watch us. I prefer honest down the start and this would make me not meet someone. Single profile means you would be up to meeting alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

Perhaps ask for MF couples who just want girl on girl play. That way when you girls are entertaining the boys, it's a level playing field, everybody should feel safe.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

You're looking for the holy grail it's hard to find unfortunately. We look for couples and single women and we struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never looked to meet a single F but have heard its the hardest scenario to fulfill on here, so thats why you are most likely struggling.

We are a straight couple and rarely get messages because Mrs doesn't play with other women at all.

We find clubs and parties are much better for meeting and then fab is good for keeping in touch afterwards.

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"We've never looked to meet a single F but have heard its the hardest scenario to fulfill on here, so thats why you are most likely struggling.

We are a straight couple and rarely get messages because Mrs doesn't play with other women at all.

We find clubs and parties are much better for meeting and then fab is good for keeping in touch afterwards. "

We find the opposite we rarely messages because we're a couple with a bi fem. All the couples round here either want a single fem. Or straight couples. Or super models. We're out on a limb haha

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

Personally not being photo verified is a deal-breaker for us. I'm sure there are others out there who feel the same way. Photo verification gives reassurance that the lady at least knows about their profile!

Amazing how many 'couples' are actually just the guy with a fantasy.

Not that I'm suggesting this is the case with your profile! Just a suggestion as it takes a couple of minutes and will likely open you up to more ladies and couples. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help? "

All dick pics and no profile makes jack a dull boy.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help?

All dick pics and no profile makes jack a dull boy."

Without them where can the towel be hung tho

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Why not look for another couple who are looking for a similar thing? That way both girls get what they want, and both guys get to watch. If you as the female don't want to be with another guy, then you can just go back to your own partner at the end. "

I would have suggested this too.

It's certainly a scenario that we would consider. Although I do have a single profile I only meet other ladies alone.

Nita

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I dont think your profile is the problem. I think your problem is people are actually reading your profile and respecting your stated requirements (for a rather small area of the fab market).

Maybe you may have to do more active fishing your selves (if your not all ready) rather than relying on them swiming into your net?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Your profile appears to be all about finding a single bi fem, which as has already been said is the smallest demographic on here.

So it's mainly a supply and demand issue.

We've been meeting for years in clubs and I think only met one single female looking for fun with couples.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Your profile appears to be all about finding a single bi fem, which as has already been said is the smallest demographic on here.

So it's mainly a supply and demand issue.

We've been meeting for years in clubs and I think only met one single female looking for fun with couples.

"

Of all the single fems I've know across on the club scene the vast majority are either mainly looking to play with single guys or come alone with various fwb/fb's to play together and/or with other groups.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Your profile appears to be all about finding a single bi fem, which as has already been said is the smallest demographic on here.

So it's mainly a supply and demand issue.

We've been meeting for years in clubs and I think only met one single female looking for fun with couples.

Of all the single fems I've know across on the club scene the vast majority are either mainly looking to play with single guys or come alone with various fwb/fb's to play together and/or with other groups."

Yep that's our experience too. I was just emphasising that it's not nessasarily all about their profile.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs. "

You are so observant, Sally

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs.

You are so observant, Sally"

Made me look lol, think it's ky jelly tho is that a bonus pic

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help? "

easy to solve that!!!! pu a bag over your head!!!! lol

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs.

You are so observant, Sally

Made me look lol, think it's ky jelly tho is that a bonus pic "

Haha! I think you are right. Op think you need to take more time with yours pics, good luck!

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs. "
Ha ,ha i have that same bin in my bathroom ,will look at it and smile now

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs. Ha ,ha i have that same bin in my bathroom ,will look at it and smile now "

Me too, that's why you have to be so careful where you take your pics

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

As a single fem who likes playing with couples the only off-putting thing about your profile is that disclaimer at the bottom

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"
stick with it you're time will come don't rush, it is a experience of a life time and don't come up as often as people think

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"As a single fem who likes playing with couples the only off-putting thing about your profile is that disclaimer at the bottom "

Noted, actually you’re right, they’re a waste of time!!! Otherwise, thanks you for the thumbs up

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs. "

No time to stage it, it was an early morning getting ready pic, she was about done and about to move so I had to act quickly. She’s got such a great bum, I doubt that would put people off, would it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey dont worry its not just you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

Come to norwich haha x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs.

No time to stage it, it was an early morning getting ready pic, she was about done and about to move so I had to act quickly. She’s got such a great bum, I doubt that would put people off, would it?"

Strangely it does some people

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

I kinda hate to rub salt in the wound, but we got a meet with a sexy single bi fem in Bristol next Friday...seek and you will find lol.

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x

I kinda hate to rub salt in the wound, but we got a meet with a sexy single bi fem in Bristol next Friday...seek and you will find lol. "

Well, that’s just being mean now!

I’m an optimist so can you pass on our details? (Ben is on knees praying)

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs.

No time to stage it, it was an early morning getting ready pic, she was about done and about to move so I had to act quickly. She’s got such a great bum, I doubt that would put people off, would it?

Strangely it does some people "

How long does it take to whisk a litter bin out of camera shot ?

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs.

No time to stage it, it was an early morning getting ready pic, she was about done and about to move so I had to act quickly. She’s got such a great bum, I doubt that would put people off, would it?

It was a sneaky pic from me

Strangely it does some people

How long does it take to whisk a litter bin out of camera shot ?"

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs.

No time to stage it, it was an early morning getting ready pic, she was about done and about to move so I had to act quickly. She’s got such a great bum, I doubt that would put people off, would it?"

Could have cropped bin and ky jelly out of pic, just saying

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x

I kinda hate to rub salt in the wound, but we got a meet with a sexy single bi fem in Bristol next Friday...seek and you will find lol.

Well, that’s just being mean now!

I’m an optimist so can you pass on our details? (Ben is on knees praying) "

Lol, you mean do all the leg-work for you?

When she does us a verification, you will see her name on the list, drop her a line and see how you get on lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up OP. I’m sure you’ll both find someone before long.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Your profile says husband will join but there's no photo of him or anything.

Unicorns take a very long time to find

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"I suggest taking a photo without a full litter bin between your legs.

No time to stage it, it was an early morning getting ready pic, she was about done and about to move so I had to act quickly. She’s got such a great bum, I doubt that would put people off, would it?

Could have cropped bin and ky jelly out of pic, just saying "

Blimey...and maybe had an afternoon at the salon, get her hair and nails done too?

People cant win, folks want pics on profiles, and when others do, they get slated for it?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"One reason might be that you have only one published verification this is a Limitation for two reasons.

1) people like to be safe and are conservative

2) some people like to read varis because it gives them : A an extended veiw on what your like are. B i get to see what others thought of you and Woody you are like as people and sexually in bed, dud you have it rough or slow etc."

Err where did I come into this scenario

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Your profile says husband will join but there's no photo of him or anything.

Unicorns take a very long time to find"

Let me be clear.

"Unicorns take a very long time to find" ---- this is crap.

"Unicorns" are neither mythical, or rare.

You will all but trip over single bi fems at various swingers events such as socials etc. Most ladies, both in couples and as singles at such events are bi.

The biggest mistake couples make is to label these ladies, and "hunt" them like some sort of big game animal, or trophy.

In the upcoming week, we have meets planned with 2 ladies, we didn't chase them, pester them or exert any influence on them, one even contacted us first.

We simply make friends, and let them make up their own minds.

As I'm fond of saying, we have never played with a "unicorn"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, single, and female.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool


"Your profile says husband will join but there's no photo of him or anything.

Unicorns take a very long time to find

Let me be clear.

"Unicorns take a very long time to find" ---- this is crap.

"Unicorns" are neither mythical, or rare.

You will all but trip over single bi fems at various swingers events such as socials etc. Most ladies, both in couples and as singles at such events are bi.

The biggest mistake couples make is to label these ladies, and "hunt" them like some sort of big game animal, or trophy.

In the upcoming week, we have meets planned with 2 ladies, we didn't chase them, pester them or exert any influence on them, one even contacted us first.

We simply make friends, and let them make up their own minds.

As I'm fond of saying, we have never played with a "unicorn"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, single, and female.

"

Honestly it's a name

A bull isn't a man who comes smashing through your house mooing but the name is still Bull.

Weve had more meets with unicorns than couples, doesn't change their nickname.

Judging by your replies in this post you're just here trying to boast. It's fab, you can't boast about getting a meet

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Your profile says husband will join but there's no photo of him or anything.

Unicorns take a very long time to find

Let me be clear.

"Unicorns take a very long time to find" ---- this is crap.

"Unicorns" are neither mythical, or rare.

You will all but trip over single bi fems at various swingers events such as socials etc. Most ladies, both in couples and as singles at such events are bi.

The biggest mistake couples make is to label these ladies, and "hunt" them like some sort of big game animal, or trophy.

In the upcoming week, we have meets planned with 2 ladies, we didn't chase them, pester them or exert any influence on them, one even contacted us first.

We simply make friends, and let them make up their own minds.

As I'm fond of saying, we have never played with a "unicorn"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, single, and female.

Honestly it's a name

A bull isn't a man who comes smashing through your house mooing but the name is still Bull.

Weve had more meets with unicorns than couples, doesn't change their nickname.

Judging by your replies in this post you're just here trying to boast. It's fab, you can't boast about getting a meet "

People read the forums, and learn about swinging, and it would be wrong to give them the impression that their search for a bi fem could take years (one couple claimed this on a similar thread), they might just give up, which would be a shame.

In our own way, we are trying to demonstrate that it's actually quite easy to meet ladies, if you dont make them feel like some sort of article or trophy that you have hunted.

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"Your profile says husband will join but there's no photo of him or anything.

Unicorns take a very long time to find

Let me be clear.

"Unicorns take a very long time to find" ---- this is crap.

There’s a photo available to friends and on request

"Unicorns" are neither mythical, or rare.

You will all but trip over single bi fems at various swingers events such as socials etc. Most ladies, both in couples and as singles at such events are bi.

The biggest mistake couples make is to label these ladies, and "hunt" them like some sort of big game animal, or trophy.

In the upcoming week, we have meets planned with 2 ladies, we didn't chase them, pester them or exert any influence on them, one even contacted us first.

We simply make friends, and let them make up their own minds.

As I'm fond of saying, we have never played with a "unicorn"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, single, and female.

Honestly it's a name

A bull isn't a man who comes smashing through your house mooing but the name is still Bull.

Weve had more meets with unicorns than couples, doesn't change their nickname.

Judging by your replies in this post you're just here trying to boast. It's fab, you can't boast about getting a meet "

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x

I kinda hate to rub salt in the wound, but we got a meet with a sexy single bi fem in Bristol next Friday...seek and you will find lol.

Will do, thanks for doing all the work. Make sure you give her a good night

Well, that’s just being mean now!

I’m an optimist so can you pass on our details? (Ben is on knees praying)

Lol, you mean do all the leg-work for you?

When she does us a verification, you will see her name on the list, drop her a line and see how you get on lol xxx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says husband will join but there's no photo of him or anything.

Unicorns take a very long time to find

Let me be clear.

"Unicorns take a very long time to find" ---- this is crap.

"Unicorns" are neither mythical, or rare.

You will all but trip over single bi fems at various swingers events such as socials etc. Most ladies, both in couples and as singles at such events are bi.

The biggest mistake couples make is to label these ladies, and "hunt" them like some sort of big game animal, or trophy.

In the upcoming week, we have meets planned with 2 ladies, we didn't chase them, pester them or exert any influence on them, one even contacted us first.

We simply make friends, and let them make up their own minds.

As I'm fond of saying, we have never played with a "unicorn"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, single, and female.

Honestly it's a name

A bull isn't a man who comes smashing through your house mooing but the name is still Bull.

Weve had more meets with unicorns than couples, doesn't change their nickname.

Judging by your replies in this post you're just here trying to boast. It's fab, you can't boast about getting a meet

People read the forums, and learn about swinging, and it would be wrong to give them the impression that their search for a bi fem could take years (one couple claimed this on a similar thread), they might just give up, which would be a shame.

In our own way, we are trying to demonstrate that it's actually quite easy to meet ladies, if you dont make them feel like some sort of article or trophy that you have hunted.

"

If anyone reads these forums to learn about swinging then god help them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never seem to get any replies im always polite read bios maybe im just ugly lol can anyone help? "

Lose the dick pics and write a profile, that might help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve locked down the age range you wish to receive attention from, younger couples are quite a minority in the southwest, we tried to message and wink you in the past but haven’t been able to get through xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bristol Social in October is couples only and some fantastically sexy people attending... hopefully meet you both there..... some of us oldies have got it going on lol

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"Bristol Social in October is couples only and some fantastically sexy people attending... hopefully meet you both there..... some of us oldies have got it going on lol"

Where can I find more details? Thanks

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"You’ve locked down the age range you wish to receive attention from, younger couples are quite a minority in the southwest, we tried to message and wink you in the past but haven’t been able to get through xxx"

Not seen them, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forums

Swinging club event ads

BRISTOL Social - 19th October 2019

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"Forums

Swinging club event ads

BRISTOL Social - 19th October 2019"

Thank you

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

I think some couples find it hard depending on what your preferences are

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By *mieandBen OP   Couple
over a year ago

Bath


"I think some couples find it hard depending on what your preferences are"

You like what you like right?

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"I think some couples find it hard depending on what your preferences are

You like what you like right? "
defintly

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire


"We are on here for a while and have had very little interactions. What are we doing wrong? Tips please! Amie x"

We have been the same but after some time and advice from here we realise that our preferences and what we are looking for is t always the easiest finding being more social and attending clubs could be the better way x (fem)

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area


"Forums

Swinging club event ads

BRISTOL Social - 19th October 2019"

Hi! It’s us! Come and meet lots of awesome people!

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By *immyblue69Man
over a year ago

Poole

So any of you gorgeous lot can help with my profile and tell me what I’m doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a 'unicorn' I would be highly sceptical about meeting a couple where the male just watches and doesn't join in. I have done in the past and will do in future, but I would want to see verifications from other single females, photographs of both the male and female, and at least one social meet in public. Not everyone is who they say they are on here. As a single female it's up to me to keep myself safe xx

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By *roud_RedheadWoman
over a year ago

Reedham

You look beautiful Hunni, but what you are seeking is fresh meat for you man. I will meet the female half of couples, but not with the drooling voyeur alongside trying to convince me that if he takes his hand off my ass I will fall on the floor!

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By *rincessandscoundrelCouple
over a year ago

westcliff

Pics of a pair of jeans standing over a rubbish bin.

That's one reason...

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"So any of you gorgeous lot can help with my profile and tell me what I’m doing "

You need to start your own thread or read one of the many many many others that offer advice your looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the sketchy wallpaper.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Your profile says husband will join but there's no photo of him or anything.

Unicorns take a very long time to find

Let me be clear.

"Unicorns take a very long time to find" ---- this is crap.

"Unicorns" are neither mythical, or rare.

You will all but trip over single bi fems at various swingers events such as socials etc. Most ladies, both in couples and as singles at such events are bi.

The biggest mistake couples make is to label these ladies, and "hunt" them like some sort of big game animal, or trophy.

In the upcoming week, we have meets planned with 2 ladies, we didn't chase them, pester them or exert any influence on them, one even contacted us first.

We simply make friends, and let them make up their own minds.

As I'm fond of saying, we have never played with a "unicorn"... but we have played with loads of our friends who, it just so happens, are bi, single, and female.

"

Perfect. Great advice. Xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"You’ve locked down the age range you wish to receive attention from, younger couples are quite a minority in the southwest, we tried to message and wink you in the past but haven’t been able to get through xxx"

That's because their filters have stopped you as you are above their stated age range. Winks and messages won't go through if these are used.

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