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What’s a good opening message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m really struggling to understand what a good opening message is, I try the hi, how’s things and then talk about something in the profile (to show I’ve read it) then ask them to take a look at mine as it’s got some important info.

Most of the time I never get a reply, where am I going wrong

Please help ladies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so good you will need to sign this waiver just in case the sex kills you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Just send a picture of your cock, next to a sky remote

In all honesty, not one messages will work with everyone you’re trying to attract. You start with some tasteful pictures and a decent profile text and hope that whatever message you send, will lead them to check out your hard work on your profile

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm no expert but your profile text needs some work.

Too much self deprecation is bound to be off putting and saying you have limited time is just another way of saying hurry up ladies!

If you are going to be honest about being married then just leave it at that and don't try to justify your reasons for being here.

Too much of your profile is about what you want or expect rather than what you have to offer in as positive way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, if there’s nothing in a profile to catch my eye then the message is unlikely to change my mind.

A hi, short sentence that references my profile and a photo is enough

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you meet now?

Works every time

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By *nlyoneruleMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Just be yourself. There isn't a formula. I'd suggest avoid one liners, attach or link a face pic or pay attention to what the person(s) looking for. Don't cut and paste. Put some thought in. Not everybody is or likes the same. Be true to yourself.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

I don't send many messages but as a starter

Don't send fancy a fuck, any woman on fab has a default filter of delete for that

Avoid general chit chat such as how are you. The reason it doesn't work is that is something intended for verbal communication where body language is present

Be friendly and go from the profile text

Hope you get some replies

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

Well for a starter one message doesn't fit all so send a personalised one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So try:

“Hi, I enjoyed reading your profile, and I particularly liked [add your comment here]...”

Read the profile, try to understand the person. Could be a good start!

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

my opening message is dependent on the profile im sending it too... i dont really have a 'standard' opening message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's the deal..

I see another male message amongst the vast amount.

I don't have to open the message to read the first line.

Say it sparks interest. I go into steath mode and look at your profile. Then I go meh!! Nothing to offer me.

Message is deleted or I move into another.

Thats the basic concept.

So regardless of how good your message is. Your profile lets tou down.

Mistress Amelia

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town

Get a decent profile photo and you might find you actually get more responses. We dont even open messages if they dont have a profile photo.

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Do you fuck on first dates work great for me. If no reply send again and ask if her sister does. Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make it personal so they know you have read their profile, we like a bit of humour and someone who can’t write a sentence saying a little bit about them but it also needs to be backed up by a decent profile.

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By *YC SausageMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I’m really struggling to understand what a good opening message is, I try the hi, how’s things and then talk about something in the profile (to show I’ve read it) then ask them to take a look at mine as it’s got some important info.

Most of the time I never get a reply, where am I going wrong

Please help ladies x"

I’m presuming this is just a thread to get you noticed but I’ll play along anyway.

There’s no copy and paste message that is guaranteed to get you a reply.

Just be yourself, keep each reply unique, and always attach a photo, more likely to be read then.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd look at your profile and not reply cause your married.

Not my thing at all. Delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be yourself. There isn't a formula. I'd suggest avoid one liners, attach or link a face pic or pay attention to what the person(s) looking for. Don't cut and paste. Put some thought in. Not everybody is or likes the same. Be true to yourself. "

this 100% only you know you.. only you know what you want don't become another fab robot be you and don't over think thing as the first message is not to get a meet its to get notice and state an interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show pics of yourself hung out ov every slapper in your area I'm sure you'll get loads ov offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner sends all the messages. I trust her with it and she gets a good number of responses. Maybe women respond better to her.

She says that she is just open, honest and friendly.

(Not so friendly when I hog the duvet.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say that you have a 12 inch tongue and can breathe through your ears, that'll get a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about the timing and if it gets read or goes into mass delete.

If it's the latter it could be the best message ever but it goes down as a poor message....

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

The more you make the women feel like gold dust the more you will empower them to act as such , look closer , open ur mind and think is there anybody worth your precious time ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say you’re VWE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's all about the timing and if it gets read or goes into mass delete.

If it's the latter it could be the best message ever but it goes down as a poor message.... "

So this. It's all about timing and the first line. Guys need to remember anything could be happening on our side of the screen. Even the best message can be binned if we are not in the mood and just cos we are online don't mean we want to meet now. I. D, tend to be up late at night and get so many requests to meet at 3am??? My biggest advice to guys is to look to send messages to people with active statuses as if we are in the mood to meet we will make it clear. Also if writing to a couple don't assume it's the girl writing.. hope this helps

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"It's all about the timing and if it gets read or goes into mass delete.

If it's the latter it could be the best message ever but it goes down as a poor message....

So this. It's all about timing and the first line. Guys need to remember anything could be happening on our side of the screen. Even the best message can be binned if we are not in the mood and just cos we are online don't mean we want to meet now. I. D, tend to be up late at night and get so many requests to meet at 3am??? My biggest advice to guys is to look to send messages to people with active statuses as if we are in the mood to meet we will make it clear. Also if writing to a couple don't assume it's the girl writing.. hope this helps"
best advice you will get lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like your tits maybe?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I'd look at your profile and not reply cause your married.

Not my thing at all. Delete. "

Exactly the same. I wouldn’t even look at anything else.

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