FabSwingers.com forum: Unicorn and couple

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right so this gets wild so make sure you're buckled in tight

I'm a unicorn always have been, I then get with a male best friend to make a swing account to attract couples. Is this a disaster waiting to happen? I've had the couples then add my account and start messaging me saying drop him and meet, I've had we can meet you both together and yourself seperate. Lines have got blurred very quickly. I would like to continue the joint profile as I'm open to the experience but I'd love different points of views.

Side note I meet a couple on my single account and he asks why I didn't tell them about my joint. Am I in the wrong there. Long winded so sorry! X

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I'm confused what the issue is a bit.

I guess it depends - are you playing exclusively as a couple now? In which case the people saying to bin off your FWB, if I understand correctly, are asking you to do something you've agreed you don't want to.

If it's an added string to your bow, then do whatever you want - just discuss with your FWB what the boundaries are - play exclusively, play but tell each other first, none of each others business as free agents etc.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Right so this gets wild so make sure you're buckled in tight

Side note I meet a couple on my single account and he asks why I didn't tell them about my joint. Am I in the wrong there. Long winded so sorry! X

Boundaries need to be set. I've been a part of a couple so I know how important this is.

If the couple you meet only want to meet you then that's their prerogative not his.

If you still play as a single on your single profile direct them to that profile, have clear lines of different profiles.

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. In every aspect xxx

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Ok, where to start?

If yours is a FWB profile, and you have agreed to be exclusive, then anyone who mails you trying to meet you on your own should get blocked.

If you arent exclusive, and I'm guessing not from the bit about meeting from your single account, then I guess it depends on your relationship with him, i.e. how "tight" you are as friends...is it worth falling out over?

Finally, if your single profile is still "current" and attracting attention, you need to decide which you want most, and... dont shoot me... reading between the lines it seems you want to have your cake and eat it too maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay boundaries are important. You would think I would have considered something as simple as that. Yes we both have our own active seperate accounts and yes I having my cake and eating it because I'm unsure if I'm wanting to share. If they've contacted me soley on my single they have already decided have they not?

I did have one couple we were both talking to on the joint and then they said wasn't interested in me but was him. As I'm aware he's a single male would you let him have that because if it was roles reversed I would feel guilty. I'm sorry to actually sound silly. I'd hate to lose friendship over something I'm now thinking is petty

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Okay boundaries are important. You would think I would have considered something as simple as that. Yes we both have our own active seperate accounts and yes I having my cake and eating it because I'm unsure if I'm wanting to share. If they've contacted me soley on my single they have already decided have they not?

I think all this depends on your fb.

If he's cool with probably getting less action than you, then you should both keep your single profiles active, and also keep the couples one going, but make no reference either way to other profiles. That way, if its a couple-on-couple meet they want via your couples profile, everyone is happy.

I'd still tell them to take a flying fuck if they ask you to meet as a single behind his back via the cpls profile though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it sounds like you shouldn't really be saying you are a couple

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I'm not sure I understand the issue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couples profile and this one.

Yes I want to have my cake and eat it! Fab is the perfect place for that.

I’m always honest with my FWB, and with prospective meets.

If you want to meet me on my own, use this profile. If you’d like to meet us both use the couples profile. Simple

Bring on the cake!

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By *oppyrose97Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Every example would be different. Alot of the time, we would find one have of a couple attractive but have no interest as the other, normally for us, this would be the end of it, but if the one half we did find attractive had a singles account and were willing to play with us as a single, there's nothing wrong with that.

It sounds like he feels he's missing out. But we can't tell you what to do, it's your life.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Just mention each profile on the others? That way no matter where they look people have an easy way of getting to the profile that they'd prefer to meet with.

As far as people messaging on the couple profile then saying they only want one then shrug your shoulders & direct them to the correct profile.

Lifes to short to be worrying over stuff like that especially from pretty much complete strangers

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"I have a couples profile and this one.

Yes I want to have my cake and eat it! Fab is the perfect place for that.

I’m always honest with my FWB, and with prospective meets.

If you want to meet me on my own, use this profile. If you’d like to meet us both use the couples profile. Simple

Bring on the cake!

I dont feel like I'm eating enough cake....you go girl

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By *uperGuy68Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I'm not sure I understand the issue?

Don’t understand the issue? Sex with animals is wrong, mythical or otherwise!

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I think this is always going to be an issue as a couple who both meet separately, there are loads of couples out there and single women who aren't nutters/hard work are rare af, so as a couple the option off ffm is possibly more desirable over fmfm due to it's rarity so once couples know you meet alone trying to "poach" you is going to be common (although it isn't something we'd do).

As for a solution I'd say don't mention single profiles on the couples profile, it's fab not a relationship full disclosure isn't a must, just put yourselves forward as a fwb couple looking to meet as a couple and don't entertain the idea of meeting on your own with anyone you've made contact with as a couple if that makes sense, it isn't like you'll be short of options on your own.

As for couples wanting him alone, this may sound really unfair and sexist but I'd say encourage him to crack on if nothing is going to come from it as a couple. I can only imagine being a single guy on Fab is a lot of effort for very little reward compared to being a single woman which must be like shooting fish in a barrel so it's only fair when the opportunity arises let him take it. Overall you'll still be getting a bigger slice of the proverbial cake so to speak.

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