FabSwingers.com forum: Open relationship??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay single.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stay single. "

Netflix and chill gets boring though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have as open a relationship as you like though, no?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I agree OP, this is hard or its a one way street, with only his side being open. I've experienced this.

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By *hubarbandcustard1000Couple
over a year ago

Dudley

I think open relationships only work if theres complete honesty and transparency with what each party is up to. If someone wants secrets it doesnt work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree OP, this is hard or its a one way street, with only his side being open. I've experienced this. "

Hahaha yeah been there too - he dipped it elsewhere whilst expecting loyalty from me -.- not sure how that works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The man was a fool!!!!!!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I agree OP, this is hard or its a one way street, with only his side being open. I've experienced this.

Hahaha yeah been there too - he dipped it elsewhere whilst expecting loyalty from me -.- not sure how that works "

It didn't, I dumped him lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easier to stop single its just not worth the hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure it's possible if you're upfront from the beginning with any potential dates but I have found that the guys who are into open relationships don't tend to be my type and those who want monogamy tend to be the guys I find more attractive! Keep up the search though because you will find the right one/two or more but it's just a much smaller pool to fish from x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sure it's possible if you're upfront from the beginning with any potential dates but I have found that the guys who are into open relationships don't tend to be my type and those who want monogamy tend to be the guys I find more attractive! Keep up the search though because you will find the right one/two or more but it's just a much smaller pool to fish from x"

I told my last ex I loved women and he called me disgusting

so much for trying to be honest Lol .. Think I just need to move elsewhere because people around here are too narrow minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move to Inverness

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Meet a swinger but choose carefully !, worked for me

. We love and trust each other totally. We know other swinger couples that met here and it worked, yes some that ended in disaster too

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I told my last ex I loved women and he called me disgusting

so much for trying to be honest Lol .. Think I just need to move elsewhere because people around here are too narrow minded

Yea I would not have responded like that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my last ex I loved women and he called me disgusting

so much for trying to be honest Lol .. Think I just need to move elsewhere because people around here are too narrow minded

It could be just Midlands. Ive had a fwb, not open relationship so Idk if the same applies but I told the girl alot about my sexual experiences and so did she. We never judged eachother at all. I'm like a person who's a safe place for his friends so overtime she opened up more. I still talk to her once a week. It's a unique relation we have even though she moved away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are guys out there had do get it. An open relationship means you both have the same options and can do the same things in your relationship. You can set hard limits and some rules, but regardless if you want to play with either sex then there is no issue. They can do the same. Our 3 has been like this for a while we can all play elsewhere we do enjoy adventures together. There are guys out there who do get it, but yes you do get a lot that don’t like sharing even though they do.

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By *oomformorepodcastCouple
over a year ago

all over the place

Our podcast is all about how we have developed our open relationship. We’ve found it’s becoming more common actually and really suits long term couples. Anyway have a listen and pm us if you have any questions. Good luck. V&M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

Hey. I am also looking for an open relationship. It's quite hard to find in regular dating apps. Your best bet will be ok cupid. They have an option in profile to specify if you are monogamous or not. You could search for people based on that. Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't easy to find a regular partner in experiencing fun sexual exploits, we have been trying for over a year. Just looking for a non drama nice connection every so often for both of us which isn't a one on one relationship is hard. We can find couples who we love dearly and have great fun with but that regular one on one without being in a relationship is still evasive, but we keep on looking and hoping. Mr

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Many men want to be in monogamous relationships to start as it’s all quite intense and the sexual side it at it’s peak and love is fairly maniac so is all consuming then boredom hits and they want extra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have fun on your own and eventually you will meet a guy who shares your hobby and it will become something you do together

. Nothing hotter than watching Mrs Cherry have fun and I know she loves watching me play

From our experience alot of the guys on here are white knights who will want to 'protect' you from the other men on here and would never share you (we've actually had that in a message from a guy we were going to meet, we laughed so hard we nearly vomited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be open with guys about what you’re looking for and ease them in to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are forum threads with people looking for relationships on here. From a man's perspective and talking to couples from here. It is easy for a woman to get a meet, but difficult for men, do there could be an imbalance

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

It must be possible.... For one thing I've never been in a wholly monogamous relationship and I know plenty of people similar.

Try that site named after Cupid?

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By *rent Bridge SwingersCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

The next Swingles event at Purple Mamba is in November x

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I second using ok cupid for the non-monogamous filter. I have met two poly partners on there. Like Fab, you have to use it a bit to figure out the wrong'uns but once you've got the hang of it, it is a good way to meet other ENM (ethically non monogamous) or poly people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I second using ok cupid for the non-monogamous filter. I have met two poly partners on there. Like Fab, you have to use it a bit to figure out the wrong'uns but once you've got the hang of it, it is a good way to meet other ENM (ethically non monogamous) or poly people. "

Ohhh - I may give that a go!

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By *ressed4fun03TV/TS
over a year ago

Midlands

I would love an open relationship, love any lady im seeing to be open minded and happy to play with others.

Tried it with last gf but she always told me she wouldn't want to see me with another girl, so I decided to be loyal to her but encouraged to play with other guys and gals, I kind of cucked myself but loved every minute of it.

There is something really horny about watching your gf get all dressed up (or even helping her dress) knowing shes going to meet another man.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Also for those interested in polyamory (more emotional connections) look out for your local polyamory meets, Facebook groups etc.

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By *elliNevvaMan
over a year ago

London

Op -why don't you just start off by chatting to couples you like the look of that are advertising this about themselves in the first place?

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By *awtymarkyMan
over a year ago

chester

Op - it’s very hard finding one person who you connect with for a relationship as we all have different likes / dislikes / tastes. Then when you go a step further and try to find a partner who will allow an open relationship is even harder as another set of emotions come into play.

I have been looking for a woman like this for years and often find great women who want a single relationship with me but not an open one or the women who are open are not prepared to have a full non sexual relationship.

My advice is keep searching and if you really like the person be open and honest with them plus yourself. If you find a person doesn’t want the same things as you then you might have to make the hard decision and state your not for them.

Ultimately there is often compromise on both parties about swinging which you might be happy with.

Happy hunting

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By *offee27Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Been in open relationships in the past and see no problems in a girlfriend having a few other guys 'on the go'

It's normally worked out well so long as it's safe and we're both open about what we've done.

Used to enjoy my ex coming round and telling me what she's been up to while we get down to business ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wife and I have been in an open relationship for a few years now.

You need a very strong, trusting, open minded and no jealousy relationship to start with before embarking on one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to find a more kinky woman for relationship, but being a TV seems to rule you out for a lot, and POF is dire waste of time, 52,years of age, any ladies interested?

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Debbie... What is your experience of POF ?? M

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By *ab Swingers PartiesCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH. Cambridgeshire Border.

"So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

Hi Hun.

Just a little word of advice yes From someone with experience of Open/poly relationship, is take your time and if they to eager move on, it should be at all pace not wham bahm sweet. Lots of luv Bexs XX

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

Best of luck because it will come down to you and your feelings and nobody can change that... plenty of opportunities here but from experience you need to find (do your homework) what works exactly for you moving forward x

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

Check out poly dating sites, probably your best option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are technically in an open relationship. Which helps as we live in different countries, and my wife is very work focused.

We have both chosen not to act on the freedom we have, but weirdly may have had more tension if we didn't have one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best just to stop single and meet people regularly without commitment.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Tall about it to anyone who is a possible. Char was very surprised when I explained that even though she hates the idea of me being with another woman, I genuinely have no problem with her doing whatever she wants with whoever she wants.

I've no desire to go with other girls so it's not an issue. And we've agreed "rules" that I need to know what's happening beforehand and be sure that she's safe (to the extent that I'll drive her and wait outside if she wants) but that works for us. An ex-boyfriend of her's has suggested a threesome with his new GF and I've no problem with that.

There are guys out there that will "fit" with your idea of an open relationship. It's just a case of being able to talk and get it out there.

Bry (and Charlotte)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think open relationships only work if theres complete honesty and transparency with what each party is up to. If someone wants secrets it doesnt work. "

Absolutely, I (we) couldn't agree more. I'm in a loving, caring and commited relationship with Artemis (on the site under Artemis08).

My stance is that I want her to have as full a life as possible, and want a 'partner in crime' as well as just a partner.

We love to perv together. But we do it as a couple, even if it's only one of us there, if that makes sense. It's a totally different vibe than being sneaky. Deceit is the enemy here.

Artemis knows that if someone takes her fancy and a situation presents itself, she's got my blessing to persue the matter to fuition, and then come back and tell me about it.

We both know that if either of us has something that starts making us feel uncomfortable, we say, immediately, instead of holding back. Personally I use a 3-day rule... I might wait up to 3 days to say something just to make sure that I'm not just being cranky.

And finally, the other absolute necessity for something like this is trust. Complete, abject and all-encompasing trust. Her body is hers to play with as she sees fit. Her heart belongs to me.

We have both forgone playtoys in the past because things got a bit too real. These decisions were done voluntarily and usually before the other one knew there was even a problem in the works.

I know every couple is different, but this is such a specific thing in an outlier social practice that we're all going to end up approaching it pretty much the same way if its going to work.

Just remember the 3-t's: Trust, Transparence & Titties.

Ok fine, I made that last bit up, but still. lol

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

Try the OKCupid app it supports all this type of stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh ooh yeah, I almost forgot the most important thing!

I want to type this in caps sooo badly, but I'll just star it a bunch of times.

***You have to set the terms of the relationship up front, before anything else. Before you commit it's gotta be full disclosure. There can be no surprises, on either side going into something like this.***

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"I agree OP, this is hard or its a one way street, with only his side being open. I've experienced this. "

As a man in open relationships, I have had far less opportunity than the women I have been with. But I am not typical about much in life so don’t use me as a benchmark!

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"I think open relationships only work if theres complete honesty and transparency with what each party is up to. If someone wants secrets it doesnt work. "

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

I was going to say exactly that.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

They are all different. You need to establish some rules that suit you both, for instance R's ex was OK with her having other men and women as long as she didn't bring them home. And he didn't want to know any details.

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By *ab Swingers PartiesCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH. Cambridgeshire Border.

"So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

I was going to say exactly that. "

Good morning everyone.

I put my contribution in fend or please and apologies not.

The problem with OK Cupid's, there a lot who think, would like and wonder if it does happen but just interested in the dynamics and of course scarred.

You have got to all meet talk and be transparent together.

I we did. We always getting judge by people and or trying to cause trouble, put or try put spanner in works as we or my other half has profile with another partner/lover and that's where most of problems can arise. If no transparencies honesty from the start and you know what... from our experience over 15-20 years together, with others we seen when cracks/ confrontation comes about is because of alcohol. the One and only factor that erupts time after time with those who say they are or try open poly relationships, a bit like some swinger have to have drink to play calm nerves. The drinking always show cracks or influences cross words.

Always When people had to much then try to talk and fails and fall out spills over to next morning instead of just walking away or discussing maybe after walking out of Sunday morning mass.

In any situation when people are d*unk in a frenzies row or fall out your looking for compromise or a resolution when someone under the influence...DONT BOTHER until the following day or 2 days when they have come round and challenge only when sober or after Sunday school lol.

Makes us laugh when we hear of... Oh He was d*unk and did it behind the bins with a girl or vise versa, and many give another chance or more and carry on wtf cos d*unk lol Excuse.

Then they do it again or revenge well you done it sorry I was d*unk bla bla. Many of our poly family dont drink, but then some do. Someone got to be sober, reasonable in our opinion.

Hey everyone to there own and I dont want the army attacking me who am I to say who can drink or not and say everyone in these scenes are adults and you have choice drinking included and I say again Everyone to there own, but seriously TRANSPARENCY TRUST in one another Cards on the table at the starting block!

I object and think something to hide maybe when I hear this (My Opinion)

'I don't mind if he does.... but I don't see anyone or want too' or 'I don.t mind she does but I don't' This shouldn't come in to open/poly relationship. TRUST from start if from

friends too the first time you meet just like my man. We met he told me straight away the scene he was into had lived with two girls in past and had two twins even as playmates in the dynamics and over dinner with his partner said I have had Tuti Fruity my darling I wouldn't go back to exclusive or vanilla this is as it is and how do you feel and the rest is history. It has suited and worked for us. I wouldn't go back.

One last comment before I am no doubt shot down is My partner says your dammed if you do and damed if you dont, also upfront honesty straight away if you meets someone for a date even as you have the secret your a swinging do you? dont you say? well he always done it and said over the meal. He into the fetish scene and has been now for 28 years, straight away in past as he says how it is and what he likes and says its a lie from start if not upfront and you be accused if only after a day, week, month goes by then you say to that person and he says you lied to a person which is wrong in any situation in our eyes hence we direct.

Its now gone into afternoon lol writing this I know.

THE END!

Sorry guys if i direct but best way. Lots of luv Bex xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wife and I have been in an open relationship even before we married. 28 years later it still works for us and still going strong.

Not something for everybody though.

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By *ab Swingers PartiesCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH. Cambridgeshire Border.

"The wife and I have been in an open relationship even before we married. 28 years later it still works for us and still going strong.

Not something for everybody though."

Congratulations Huns X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

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its quite easy really, you find someone you like on here, tbey know what you're looking for, you don't discuss anything else you do with each other simples, its tbe bragging bit That kills it

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By *orkiecplCouple
over a year ago

York

I told my last ex I loved women and he called me disgusting

so much for trying to be honest Lol .

. Think I just need to move elsewhere because people

around here are too narrow minded

To solve the problem go find an attractive bi male who you find hot as he will be a lot more understanding than any straight male

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

I told my last ex I loved women and he called me disgusting

so much for trying to be honest Lol .

. Think I just need to move elsewhere because people

around here are too narrow minded

To solve the problem go find an attractive bi male who you find hot as he will be a lot more understanding than any straight male "

Hmm. I know men and women across a range of sexual orientations who are in successful open relationships. I know some in the above categories who are in unsuccessful ones. Difference is being honest about expectations and a sense of equality.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Have you tried OK Cupid? There tends to be more people who are (and open about being) non-monogomus or Poly on there. Plus the matching questionnaires include aspects on non-monogomy. So would hopefully help match you with someone looking for the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few people can hack the true reality of a full open relationship where it's both sexual and emotional without jealousy. We think most none monogamous relationships are more a couple who have friends with benefits where they both get something from the activities you all participate in. Good luck on your search.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Few people can hack the true reality of a full open relationship where it's both sexual and emotional without jealousy. We think most none monogamous relationships are more a couple who have friends with benefits where they both get something from the activities you all participate in. Good luck on your search."

It's certainly possible.....

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

I told my last ex I loved women and he called me disgusting

so much for trying to be honest Lol .

. Think I just need to move elsewhere because people

around here are too narrow minded

To solve the problem go find an attractive bi male who you find hot as he will be a lot more understanding than any straight male "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought i'd found the guy for this too but he just can't be open for some reason although i always am

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By *ab Swingers PartiesCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH. Cambridgeshire Border.

"So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

its quite easy really, you find someone you like on here, tbey know what you're looking for, you don't discuss anything else you do with each other simples, its tbe bragging bit That kills it

This here again is the problem, in my opinion.

This site is a swingers site not a site for looking open relationship or to find someone for a loving poly relationship. WE here for swinging! Another way to say you would not go to the bakers for a pound of mince, However people think especially if a female is a swinging automatically presume in many cases they may do a open relationship and this is totally dangerous as they have not even grown with each other & cope day to day in a new relationship together with challenges.

Another example totally mad.. you see female profiles looking for a Dom on here, (Yes some are genuine) totally mad in my opinion or a 20-25 year old male say experienced Dom really looking for a submissive! Very dangerous and asking for trouble. Sorry to say in my opinion wrong place to meet much better meet at a munch/social meet/play organised event, face to face with others present take thing from there. Lots of Luv Bexs

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

This is what I get when I talk to polygamous people I know. Often they will have a primary partner and then non primary partners. But often there a difficulty especially with the non primary partners. People genrally find it hard to be second fiddle (even if logically they've squared it away in their reasoning).

Also unless as primary partners you are totally secure and committed to a life together fear of being replace futher down the line can be very hard. A lot of people do (even if they won't admit) want stability and consistency from a partner. Its very hard to lay down foundations and life plans if you fear any chance that your plans could be changed by others entering the relationship futher down the line and changing the goal posts.

Of course there is lots of forms on non-monogomy. Everthing from a relationship involving many living as a cooperative to the soley relationship monogomus but sexaully non monogomus relationship (which I think many swingers are).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw on TV a woman who lived with her two male partners, and why not, everyone is happy ??,. I once dated a lady for 5 months who was insatiable for cock, never had so much sex, I was exhausted, glad to be dumped off in the end, for a rest, a , needed to bring in a young rugby team to help out, her new bloke. She didn't know I was a cross dresser, that would have got me dumped pronto.

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By *ab Swingers PartiesCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH. Cambridgeshire Border.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"I saw on TV a woman who lived with her two male partners, and why not, everyone is happy ??,. "

Polyamory.... Works for me though i only live with one wife....

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

"I saw on TV a woman who lived with her two male partners, and why not, everyone is happy ??,.

Polyamory.... Works for me though i only live with one wife.... "

Now this is where we do question when some comment.

If a polygamous marriage is performed, (UK) the already-married person may be guilty of the crime of bigamy under the s.11 of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, so when you say live with one wife... its highly unlikely your married to both? as you say you live with just one wife? Do you divide spend time say 3 nights with one or alternate each night if not under same roof? Is it not just a open relationship as oppose poly?

Alan lived under one roof with the two poly girls then, twins came Tuesday, Thursdays over night and all together out clubs etc at weekends. They had rota who was sleeping where etc lol. Yes all happy. All on same level no jealously calm and anything upset one they all talk no if no buts. (Meeting)

Trust, Communication with all & Harmony.

Now we happy with our poly situation as Bexs states. We all very happy. At the end of the day everyone to there own and what works well for some does not for others. Good luck to all in your search for happiness. Sj Xx

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Oh I'm poly, as is my relationship status. To clarify, I've been legally married to my "nesting wife" for 21 years. I had a handfasting with another woman last year which was a beautiful (if totally unofficial) occasion in a London park... Attended by my nesting wife and my new wife's nesting husband of 13 years... Indeed he made her dress. Very much in love with both women, vut as we both have nesting spouses at don't live together. We consider ours married, the state certainly wouldn't.

We all have other connections of varying intensity and engage in casual fun from time to time.

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over a year ago

"So...last few months I've been trying to figure out how to find one for an open relationship?? It seems pof doesn't cut it

And im not after one offs .. But it seems that men around me gets too "territorial" and ruin the potential fun

Any advice ?

Opinion: I think true open relationships are very rare, they are generally one-sided. If you look at the research and the studies. Open relationships are really stacked on the male side as justification for playing outside the relationship. Most guys who are claiming open relationship want to have their cake and eat it as to use the expression it is also partly instinct.

The question really is in the definition of an open relationship - is that really a relationship?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Wow.... I have to butt in and say that i know a lot of people I open relationships and in my experience most were suggested by the women and are pretty egalitarian in nature.

There are a few fragile men who "offer" to "let" their partners see other women if they can do so too.... This is known as the "one penis policy" Abe is widely frowned upon.

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over a year ago

"Wow.... I have to butt in and say that i know a lot of people I open relationships and in my experience most were suggested by the women and are pretty egalitarian in nature.

There are a few fragile men who "offer" to "let" their partners see other women if they can do so too.... This is known as the "one penis policy" Abe is widely frowned upon. "

I would agree that this applies to our situation. It is mainly me who is wanting to make the most of our open relationship and establish emotional and sexual connections. My husband is just happy if he gets his hands on a woman

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over a year ago

"Wow.... I have to butt in and say that i know a lot of people I open relationships and in my experience most were suggested by the women and are pretty egalitarian in nature.

There are a few fragile men who "offer" to "let" their partners see other women if they can do so too.... This is known as the "one penis policy" Abe is widely frowned upon.

Do you have singles profile and does he he go off and have sex/relationship with others with or without your knowledge ? Or is it something you do together as a couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay single. "

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over a year ago

We have the freedom to play solo but try and keep that on a 50/50 experience. We like playing together and apart but the F will normally get much more action so our holy grail is another couple were all play in any combination with no angst. One day maybe

Otherwise, works for us!

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By *ab Swingers PartiesCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH. Cambridgeshire Border.

"Oh I'm poly, as is my relationship status. To clarify, I've been legally married to my "nesting wife" for 21 years. I had a handfasting with another woman last year which was a beautiful (if totally unofficial) occasion in a London park... Attended by my nesting wife and my new wife's nesting husband of 13 years... Indeed he made her dress. Very much in love with both women, vut as we both have nesting spouses at don't live together. We consider ours married, the state certainly wouldn't.

We all have other connections of varying intensity and engage in casual fun from time to time. "

Congrats to you all sweet xx Luv Bexs x

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over a year ago

"Wow.... I have to butt in and say that i know a lot of people I open relationships and in my experience most were suggested by the women and are pretty egalitarian in nature.

There are a few fragile men who "offer" to "let" their partners see other women if they can do so too.... This is known as the "one penis policy" Abe is widely frowned upon.

Do you have singles profile and does he he go off and have sex/relationship with others with or without your knowledge ? Or is it something you do together as a couple?"

He has a singles profile. Personally I don't want to know about what he gets up to so he respects that. So he has my permission but not my knowledge if that makes sense. I see other men and he does want to know about it so that's also fine. It works for us. We have played as a couple quite a bit but we're enjoying the more separate aspects at the moment.

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By *ilverstriderMan
over a year ago

narberth

Inject him with Luteinising.

He'll go from a territorial bull to a pussy in your hand

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over a year ago

"Wow.... I have to butt in and say that i know a lot of people I open relationships and in my experience most were suggested by the women and are pretty egalitarian in nature.

There are a few fragile men who "offer" to "let" their partners see other women if they can do so too.... This is known as the "one penis policy" Abe is widely frowned upon.

Do you have singles profile and does he he go off and have sex/relationship with others with or without your knowledge ? Or is it something you do together as a couple?

from the context of a true open relationship you both are statisticaly in the rare category. Swinging is by its nature will have a higher concentration of genuine open relationships but overall demographically you are relitively unique statically.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I dunno... I Know a lot of "genuine open relationships"... But i do inhabit the world of ethical non-monogamy...

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over a year ago

"Wow.... I have to butt in and say that i know a lot of people I open relationships and in my experience most were suggested by the women and are pretty egalitarian in nature.

There are a few fragile men who "offer" to "let" their partners see other women if they can do so too.... This is known as the "one penis policy" Abe is widely frowned upon.

Do you have singles profile and does he he go off and have sex/relationship with others with or without your knowledge ? Or is it something you do together as a couple?

Well I'll take that as a compliment, it's certainly not an easy journey but one with many rewards.

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over a year ago

I dont know what to describe ours as. Part open I guess in that we have sex a lot together but he allows me to play and explore sexually he isn't interested in joining in or watching and doesn't want anybody else himself

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

"I dont know what to describe ours as. Part open I guess in that we have sex a lot together but he allows me to play and explore sexually he isn't interested in joining in or watching and doesn't want anybody else himself "

I say from what you say you have a secure trusted open relationship sweet & congratulations x

As long as that trust lasts.

I have known friends tell me same and only to find the male covering secrets. All the best to you. Long may it last & carry on enjoying hun. Sj x

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"I think open relationships only work if theres complete honesty and transparency with what each party is up to. If someone wants secrets it doesnt work. "

Absolutely, my partner and I to a tee... Yes we play with others alone at times, no issues whatsoever.

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