FabSwingers.com forum: Think I might be doing this wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I think I'm doing this totally wrong. I've added everything to my profile I have messaged a few ladies but no replies. I have been here a while and just not had any luck what so ever. Not even a nice conversation. Could do with a little bit of advice to see if things improve. All ideas are welcome.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

You've only been on for a couple of months fella

I'd remove about half your pics too

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"You've only been on for a couple of months fella

I'd remove about half your pics too"

Only because you have too many I should clarify

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone will be successful here. It’s like applying for the school football team. Not everyone has what it takes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The odds are stacked against you before you put your pics on and write your profile.There was a post about the male to female to couples ratio and the men outnumber the couples and females vastly.Some on there were saying it's 30 to 1 others were saying it's 60 to 1.So Your swimming in a small pond full of other men it's that simple.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It takes many months typically for a single man to become established as well as an awful lot of effort. Your photos are a mixed bunch, some dark but largely similar. Your body isn't shown, so it makes it harder to decide if attraction is there. Only use clear photos and that reflect you best atm ! Eg bearded or not.

Consider clarifying the area you'll travel in for meets. Check out profile advice topics in the forum too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say in the first line of your profile that you are laid back. Your profile seems to reflect that, doesn't look like you put any effort in it.

Check existing profile advice threads, but if you believe your profile is the true reflection of you, leave it the way it is.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"You say in the first line of your profile that you are laid back. Your profile seems to reflect that, doesn't look like you put any effort in it.

Check existing profile advice threads, but if you believe your profile is the true reflection of you, leave it the way it is. "

I would go with more effort into your profile too.

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By *ycallMan
over a year ago

Dorking

Make your profile text more unique, it is really generic sounding at the moment and doesn’t really stand out.

Cut down on your pictures and try just have a few interesting ones that highlight your best features. We can all look good from the right angles. Even me. LOL

Join in on the forums, basically all of the messages I get from women are results from comments I have made on the forums rather than replies to messages I have sent out.

Last but not least try regularly changing things about your profile until you find what works for you.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"So I think I'm doing this totally wrong. I've added everything to my profile I have messaged a few ladies but no replies. I have been here a while and just not had any luck what so ever. Not even a nice conversation. Could do with a little bit of advice to see if things improve. All ideas are welcome."

You can't be all things to all folk..

Einstein said to do the same things over and over again and expect a different result is insane,

Change something when you find a successful way stick to that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You definitely need more information on your profile as it's way too short. When messaging make sure you read the profile thoroughly and mention things you have in common. What will make you stand out from the hundreds of other guys on here? Honesty goes a long way..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brave a club social and get an idea of the lifestyle.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Profiles that say ’anything you want to know, just ask’ come over as lazy.

As mentioned above, single guys make up about 60/70% of Fab. Of the remaining 30 odd %, there are also couples, TV’s and single females looking for single females. So you have a HUGE amount of competition.

With so many people to choose from, why would a lady ask for more information from you when other people have got detailed profiles?

Do some research on profile advice threads & check out the club scene!

Good luck

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Profiles that say ’anything you want to know, just ask’ come over as lazy.

With so many people to choose from, why would a lady ask for more information from you when other people have got detailed profiles?

Do some research on profile advice threads & check out the club scene!

Good luck

This

read and process the information.

There's no magic formula, someone will be attracted to you or not, but you certainly can enhance your attractiveness with good pictures and a witty and informative profile text.

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Keep going. Your messages will be buried in hundreds that single girls and some couples receive. A girl I met a few weeks back had around 500 in one day, she didn't have time to read them all !. If your message is unread for a week or so, delete and resend. Be prepared to put in a huge amount of effort and you will get the odd bite

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

My advice would be to Lower your expectations

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

Hi OP. Some of your pictures are quite dark/ blurred). I’m a straight guy so not best judge, but the one which actually looked good was your profile picture.

Leave out that you can’t drive. If you can get to most places within your area it doesn’t matter how you get there (unless they are into digging or going into the wilds!)

What is it you want from a swinging site as opposed to getting hook ups via a dating app?

You haven’t been on here that long. Single guys need to be patient, respectful and resilient to being ignored and knocked back.

Good luck.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

My advice would be to Lower your expectations "

Yup just accept nothing will happen, if it does then happy days.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Some good advice above. You're already ahead of a lot of single guys though - you've got some profile pics, you're not afraid to show your face. No dick pics - some men can never get that message, you have understood it. It's fine to be a bit cheeky, a hint of the reveal, but close up photos of the beast - no thank you. Your profile text is a bit brief and generic, but is polite and uses proper english, so miles ahead of some

Be a bit more selective with your photos, throw out the poorer quality ones. The playing pool, and the flat cap are really nice pictures, but some of the face only look quite moody or even forbidding.

As many have said, a couple of months is not a long time on fab. Think of it not as a quick hook up site, but as an entry into a community of people who are perhaps just a bit more open about their sexual activites than the general. It takes a while to get yourself known - take part in some forum discussions, try to get to a few social parties, maybe look into club events.

Perhaps it's wishful thinking, but i do believe that nice people get there in the end. Good luck, Polly xx

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By *ady PaulaWoman
over a year ago

bradford

"The odds are stacked against you before you put your pics on and write your profile.There was a post about the male to female to couples ratio and the men outnumber the couples and females vastly.Some on there were saying it's 30 to 1 others were saying it's 60 to 1.So Your swimming in a small pond full of other men it's that simple."

Search men seeking women in your area count how many are on line at that moment then reverse the search and count again

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By *ady PaulaWoman
over a year ago

bradford

At the moment 8 am there are 87 men and 8 women online

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"At the moment 8 am there are 87 men and 8 women online "

And if all 8 women are looking for a guy just like the op.. bingo.

Likewise if there were thousands of women not looking for what he offered. unlucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile very dull. Miserable photos suggest a miserable personality! Only need 1 or 2 photos.

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