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By *oonytoon OP   Man
over a year ago

derby

I know its a random question for this kind of site being single I use the swinging scene to explore my sexual fantasies and push my boundries without it imposing on my life outside the scene plus most I've met seem to be genuinly nice people altho not met anyone off here yet. The question was based on couples I've met always appear to be deeply in love and at ease with it all but how did you get to that point because surely seeing a loved one enjoying being seen to by one or more other people would raise issues such as trust and jealousy or one person being more into it than the other etc.. So my question is have you experienced this if so in what form and what did you do to overcome it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was seeing my loved one with another man that got me into this, I caught her with another man, but found it facinating and couldnt get angry so after that the rest history and hear I am. Was mentally mind blowing and I love to find another gf who would swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always been a fantasy of mine to see my loved one getting fucked , or engaging in 'getting off' with someone else - so when s and I got together and realised we loved each other enough to fulfil some fantasies it was great. Upon actually doing it we realised that although I was cool with it she found it more difficult to see me engaging in too much activity with other women and tbh it doesn't do that much for me either so we are almost a cuckold couple now !

I think I just love seeing her being desired by another and it leads to even better sex for us in the aftermath and I don't get jealous at all - infect we plan to get married very soon !

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

It was my greatest fantasy to see my wife fucking another guy, and when it first happened it was better than I ever imagined. No jealousy or misgivings.

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By *oonytoon OP   Man
over a year ago

derby


"It was seeing my loved one with another man that got me into this, I caught her with another man, but found it facinating and couldnt get angry so after that the rest history and hear I am. Was mentally mind blowing and I love to find another gf who would swing"

My ex cheated on me altho I didn't see it but the thought infuriates me but I used to think about her with multiple guys before I found out which turned me on probably the reason behind my question how did u not get angry did u stay with her or move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the thought of sharing your partner with other couple, always made both us excited....it certainly spiced our sex life, but the trick is not to meet the same cpls often (lol)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the thought of sharing your partner with other couple, always made both us excited....it certainly spiced our sex life, but the trick is not to meet the same cpls often (lol)..."

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boy oh boy....I would just love to see my new wife getting fucked senseless by another bloke....hearing and seeing her have multiple orgasms on somebody else's cock would be amazing....unfortunately she's a one man woman....!

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By *oonytoon OP   Man
over a year ago

derby

I can appreciate the fantasy of seeing it and maybe even the joy of the reality but is it the same each time or is it one of those that once you've done it its done in which case would your partner want to continue again creating the one partner more into it than the other scenario and once the kettle of fish has been opened so to speak surely the partner would want to explore there fantasies creating more problems if for instance the instigator feels obliged to agree seein as their fantasy was met but isn't truely happy about it or turns them down making the other feel it was a one sided arrangement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting analogy , and one which opens up a potential can of worms.

For us there is no one sided issue nor ever a feeling of wanting to go further - although in the club scene she has taken on up to six guys at a time but that's just part of the fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the couple is a true entity then that couple is no different to a single person, they do what is right for them.

As a singleton, you go through live sharing all your adventures and sexual exploits with.............yourself. As a couple you share your adventures and exploits.

When you mature and if you meet the right person you will see - but you may well have boundaries and limits set to keep you both comfortable and they will change in both directions at different times.

You just have to find your soul mate and your question would not even come up. Sex is physical but an emotional betrayal is much worse because it damages the couple as an item.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the thought of sharing your partner with other couple, always made both us excited....it certainly spiced our sex life, but the trick is not to meet the same cpls often (lol)...

So true "
Defo, very true and erotic and naughty, yumm, yumm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the couple is a true entity then that couple is no different to a single person, they do what is right for them.

As a singleton, you go through live sharing all your adventures and sexual exploits with.............yourself. As a couple you share your adventures and exploits.

When you mature and if you meet the right person you will see - but you may well have boundaries and limits set to keep you both comfortable and they will change in both directions at different times.

You just have to find your soul mate and your question would not even come up. Sex is physical but an emotional betrayal is much worse because it damages the couple as an item. "
This posting sums the scenario up perfectly

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

You've kind of hit the nail on the head between swingers and singles on the scene.

Its a big chasm in some cases.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"You've kind of hit the nail on the head between swingers and singles on the scene.

Its a big chasm in some cases."

For us there was nothing to get over...its getting increasingly harder to consider this site as a swinging site when people clearly view us as some strange minority.

It makes it very hard to feel welcome or " at home"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@op there is no getting over anything to handle except the stuff social conventions and expectations teach you. Once you realise boys can wear pink, girls can wear blue and fecking someone isn't the be-all and end-all of everything and sex with others being a romantic dealbreaker then you're set for life. Until then they keep you in a trap like flies in amber, preaching the gospel that limits relationship lifetimes and engenders distrust and pre-emptive cheating on partners...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having a completely honest relationship and one where both parties feel free to express their desires is what lots of people do have on here and there are some awesome honest and wonderful people on here.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


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For us there was nothing to get over...its getting increasingly harder to consider this site as a swinging site when people clearly view us as some strange minority.

"

ditto..

jealousy does'nt come into it, never has and never will for us..

insecurity within a 'couples' relationship in 'this aspect' will only end in tears we feel..

quite a difference of views between the couples and some singles on the site..

the former sees sharing their OH as something very arousing and erotic by and large..

some of the latter see it as an issue and that probably explains why some of the married guys playing away wont ever involve their OH..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love watching my wife being ejoyed by others male or female. once i just sat back in the arms of the other guys wife and we both just watched my wife and the other womans hubby going at hammer and tong we both agreed it was one of the sexiest sights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if it's something you have to 'handle' then it's definitely not for you.

(you as in people in general, not you personally)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" So my question is have you experienced this if so in what form and what did you do to overcome it "

Overcome what exactly???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if it's something you have to 'handle' then it's definitely not for you.

(you as in people in general, not you personally)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i love watching my wife being ejoyed by others male or female. once i just sat back in the arms of the other guys wife and we both just watched my wife and the other womans hubby going at hammer and tong we both agreed it was one of the sexiest sights."

that sounds so good it's put me on a really warm and mellow vibe tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i love watching my wife being ejoyed by others male or female. once i just sat back in the arms of the other guys wife and we both just watched my wife and the other womans hubby going at hammer and tong we both agreed it was one of the sexiest sights.

that sounds so good it's put me on a really warm and mellow vibe tbh

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By *scottMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"It's always been a fantasy of mine to see my loved one getting fucked , or engaging in 'getting off' with someone else - so when s and I got together and realised we loved each other enough to fulfil some fantasies it was great. Upon actually doing it we realised that although I was cool with it she found it more difficult to see me engaging in too much activity with other women and tbh it doesn't do that much for me either so we are almost a cuckold couple now !

I think I just love seeing her being desired by another and it leads to even better sex for us in the aftermath and I don't get jealous at all - infect we plan to get married very soon ! "

Your own situation is very much like mine. I adore to see my partner pleasured. This also goes outside of swinging. I love to see her laugh, smile or find deep happy emotional places. If other people can assist to bring about these reactions, then I am in their debt, for nothing gives me more pleasure than seeing pleasure in others, especially my Jackie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would we (as a couple) ever get jealous? I think it's you who should be jealous!! Single men may, if lucky, get to play with my beautiful wife once or twice. I however, have her attention all of the time, in the last ten years I have had the most extraordinary sex life!

I have experienced things you could probably only ever dream of!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its a random question for this kind of site being single I use the swinging scene to explore my sexual fantasies and push my boundries without it imposing on my life outside the scene plus most I've met seem to be genuinly nice people altho not met anyone off here yet. The question was based on couples I've met always appear to be deeply in love and at ease with it all but how did you get to that point because surely seeing a loved one enjoying being seen to by one or more other people would raise issues such as trust and jealousy or one person being more into it than the other etc.. So my question is have you experienced this if so in what form and what did you do to overcome it "

i have met many couples where jealousy has raised its ugly head and have been made the scape goat in many a bust up when thing have gone wrong for couples and sooner than them admit they wasnt ready for this found it easier to blame the 3rd party, namely me, some couples really shouldnt be doing this

On the other hand i have also had the pleasure of meeting some really sane, secure couples and had a great time with them

Its all about confidance in your relationship, i honestly think some couple think this will save a failing marrage and it wont it just adds to your problems and they are also dragging others into them

If you love someone and are secure in your relationship theres no need or room for jealousy

Surely if you love someone seeing them get pleasure would only be a turn on, only someone who wasnt confidant in themselves would feel bad, think others are doing a better job than them etc, its not a competition its not about if someone can give your mrs more orgasums than you its just about having fun, seeing your partner have a good time and going home together at the end of the night, i know lots of couples who say they have the best sex ever after a meet, talking about what they did etc and thats how it should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good question is, how do single men cope with being used as a piece of meat? Lol. I assume it might be enjoyable to start with, but it must be sole destroying after a while??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A good question is, how do single men cope with being used as a piece of meat? Lol. I assume it might be enjoyable to start with, but it must be sole destroying after a while??"

they're using your mrs, your using them, cant see it being any more sole destroying for a man than a couple

im single and i dont find it sole destroying, infact i quite like being single, if anything goes wrong i can go home and just leave them to the argument lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being single, do you think couples should get jealous?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quote "If you love someone and are secure in your relationship theres no need or room for jealousy

That's the difference between you and the original poster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id usualy handle it by egging her on and joining in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id usualy handle it by egging her on and joining in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife said "These men have the chance to fuck me but there's only one man's arms I want around me and thats yours." She isn't on the scene anymore but I didn't get jealous as it was a turn on itself to see her having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never... dont watch... its like when my bike got nicked, I got a new one but wasn't the same, then the police returned my original one but I didn't want it after someone else had ridden it...

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By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley

I wonder how many of the "single guys" would be happy to share their partners as it were, if they were in a relationship where their partner wanted top join in.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

It's not a problem for us - first, both of us are usually with someone else at the same time, more often than not right alongside, so jealousy doesn't come into it, and second, it's only sex, not love! We might have confused sex and love when we were much younger but over the years we've learnt to separate our emotional needs and pleasures from our physical ones.

Far from making either or both of us jealous, it's brought us even closer together. No matter how good other people are, sex together is best!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Nothing to get over or overcome. Both take delight in enjoying others/others enjoying us.

And the weathers getting better all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get over?

Get off on more like lol

if you have to get over something its not something your happy doing,, if your not happy doing it you shouldnt be!

Watching my partner with someone else was an enjoyable experience the first time we did it... and if it wasnt we would have stopped right then and there...

nothing wrong with not liking it.. there is something wrong with just getting over it and carrying on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi

In our experience you either have to have a really strong or really weak relationship. It's the middle ground ones where jealousy and distrust can manifest very quickly. Complete and total honesty with each other, only ever doing what each is happy to do. We both know that we would give it all up if the other stopped getting the enjoyment from it. We are different to most in that we do not form any friendships with the people we go with. It is purely a physical thing. We know most like to form a social bond beforehand, but for us it is purely about the physical. Whatever your preferences, just keep talking openly and honestly and this aspect of a couple's life can be an amazing suplement to their relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Boy oh boy....I would just love to see my new wife getting fucked senseless by another bloke....hearing and seeing her have multiple orgasms on somebody else's cock would be amazing....unfortunately she's a one man woman....!"

I also am a one man woman, and after 17 years together he is still the only man for me.

Was never sure how this would work for us but tbh it has enhanced our sex life, so you just never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can appreciate the fantasy of seeing it and maybe even the joy of the reality but is it the same each time or is it one of those that once you've done it its done in which case would your partner want to continue again creating the one partner more into it than the other scenario and once the kettle of fish has been opened so to speak surely the partner would want to explore there fantasies creating more problems if for instance the instigator feels obliged to agree seein as their fantasy was met but isn't truely happy about it or turns them down making the other feel it was a one sided arrangement "

well thats a can of worms you open when swinging is new to you both.

i think if you know before you get into it if you could see her with another man and get into it.

but i think one thing alot of people dont consider till it becomes reality is it can take only 1 bad meet to ruin things for you if your not as secure as people say you should be as a couple to make things work.

imgaine you got a bi girlfriend, both agree then goto a meet, the other couple arnt interested in you really, just your girl, this where jealously can really come into play much more than seeing someone else with your girl.

i mean what if your lass really enjoys it, maybe looses control a little and forgets about a bit enjoying the attention of them both, and for what ever reason your getting crap sex from his mrs as she's not into you either she's just wanting fun with your girl and her parter.

stuff like that people dont tend to think of and you might feel left out and realise its not for you!

you really need a open mind, lots of trust and secuirty and know that you are both still going to get what both of you want out of the meet, but you can never control what the other couple are like and sometimes one of you can get on well with them and the other just dont click sexually.

all sorts of things can cause jealously, and mess with you much more than just seeing another guy with your girl!

takes more than a single man to be a swinger, its being able to be with your mrs and another person(s) but still not loose sight of why you are doing it and making sure both of you get what your doing and get your kicks that way or it will never work and maybe you will fuck things up between you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can appreciate the fantasy of seeing it and maybe even the joy of the reality but is it the same each time or is it one of those that once you've done it its done in which case would your partner want to continue again creating the one partner more into it than the other scenario and once the kettle of fish has been opened so to speak surely the partner would want to explore there fantasies creating more problems if for instance the instigator feels obliged to agree seein as their fantasy was met but isn't truely happy about it or turns them down making the other feel it was a one sided arrangement

well thats a can of worms you open when swinging is new to you both.

i think if you know before you get into it if you could see her with another man and get into it.

but i think one thing alot of people dont consider till it becomes reality is it can take only 1 bad meet to ruin things for you if your not as secure as people say you should be as a couple to make things work.

imgaine you got a bi girlfriend, both agree then goto a meet, the other couple arnt interested in you really, just your girl, this where jealously can really come into play much more than seeing someone else with your girl.

i mean what if your lass really enjoys it, maybe looses control a little and forgets about a bit enjoying the attention of them both, and for what ever reason your getting crap sex from his mrs as she's not into you either she's just wanting fun with your girl and her parter.

stuff like that people dont tend to think of and you might feel left out and realise its not for you!

you really need a open mind, lots of trust and secuirty and know that you are both still going to get what both of you want out of the meet, but you can never control what the other couple are like and sometimes one of you can get on well with them and the other just dont click sexually.

all sorts of things can cause jealously, and mess with you much more than just seeing another guy with your girl!

takes more than a single man to be a swinger, its being able to be with your mrs and another person(s) but still not loose sight of why you are doing it and making sure both of you get what your doing and get your kicks that way or it will never work and maybe you will fuck things up between you!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's always been a fantasy of mine to see my loved one getting fucked , or engaging in 'getting off' with someone else - so when s and I got together and realised we loved each other enough to fulfil some fantasies it was great. Upon actually doing it we realised that although I was cool with it she found it more difficult to see me engaging in too much activity with other women and tbh it doesn't do that much for me either so we are almost a cuckold couple now !

I think I just love seeing her being desired by another and it leads to even better sex for us in the aftermath and I don't get jealous at all - infect we plan to get married very soon !

Your own situation is very much like mine. I adore to see my partner pleasured. This also goes outside of swinging. I love to see her laugh, smile or find deep happy emotional places. If other people can assist to bring about these reactions, then I am in their debt, for nothing gives me more pleasure than seeing pleasure in others, especially my Jackie."

Was going to write a reply but couldn't put it better than this message just change the name to sharon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be honest its just all about trust and being honest not keeping secrets,me and hubby feel we have an open relationships we are both allowed either together or alone to explore our sexual fantasies etec, making sure we both know whats going on and not hiding anything saying that when i do tell hubby he gets turned on and excited by it and when i can i send him pictures of my meets while he is at work or not with me,after we have a bloody good session lol. but i do feel if all is arranged and your partner isn't told and aware then that would be a secret and classed as an affair thats just the way we see it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@op there is no getting over anything to handle except the stuff social conventions and expectations teach you. Once you realise boys can wear pink, girls can wear blue and fecking someone isn't the be-all and end-all of everything and sex with others being a romantic dealbreaker then you're set for life. Until then they keep you in a trap like flies in amber, preaching the gospel that limits relationship lifetimes and engenders distrust and pre-emptive cheating on partners...

Wolf

"

+1

Pork

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

It's wonderful to see your loved other half having good sex as an observer, looks completely different from the times you are doing it together. I think R looks truly beautiful when she is cumming with someone else. Nothing to get over at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if a relationship establishes boundaries and limits, talks about it openly, trusts each other and are in a committed, loving relationship then this place is a lot of fun! Xx

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By *now-bbw-bunnyCouple
over a year ago

southend-on-sea

We love seeing each other having fun but knowing the next morning we be awakening in bed together . But Mark doesn't like seeing me with lots of men so he goes into a different room. But on the way home i have to tell him what went on the..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quote "If you love someone and are secure in your relationship theres no need or room for jealousy

That's the difference between you and the original poster"

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

i belong to jay everyone else just borrows me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more my husband does with another women the better for me..thats why we swing..not an ounce of jelousy from me..the more i hear her enjoy him the bigger the turn on for me.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"The more my husband does with another women the better for me..thats why we swing..not an ounce of jelousy from me..the more i hear her enjoy him the bigger the turn on for me."

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

thats true im marring ken , hes mine and im his , but swinging is using others bodys for your pleasure and theirs

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

We decided we both missed being single and wanted to swing, her having f/buddies and me having mine.

Now its great both going to fuck someone else anytime we want and still loving our family life too.

Were tempted to play together as a couple but why risk a great set up?

maybe one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was seeing my loved one with another man that got me into this, I caught her with another man, but found it facinating and couldnt get angry so after that the rest history and hear I am. Was mentally mind blowing and I love to find another gf who would swing

My ex cheated on me altho I didn't see it but the thought infuriates me but I used to think about her with multiple guys before I found out which turned me on probably the reason behind my question how did u not get angry did u stay with her or move on "

Cheating is an entirely different subject. I imagine many would be hurt by cheating and lies.

Swinging is enjoying whatever it is they enjoy together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore seeing mrs buff being fucked! The more she gets into the guy, the better! We love it! The sex we have tgthr afterwards is always amazing xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only ever had a stab of jealousy once, and after the evening I spoke about it with my partner (pork) and it was put down to something else that had happened that evening. We always chat about what happens, likes and dislikes and to me that makes the perfect swinging partnership

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was my greatest fantasy to see my wife fucking another guy, and when it first happened it was better than I ever imagined. No jealousy or misgivings. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me and K had talked about it for sometime and the idea really turned me on.

When we did it the first time, it was the horniest thing I have ever seen, with K on the end of a nice thick long cock.

Have done it twice since and still get off on it.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"It was my greatest fantasy to see my wife fucking another guy, and when it first happened it was better than I ever imagined. No jealousy or misgivings. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the couple is a true entity then that couple is no different to a single person, they do what is right for them.

As a singleton, you go through live sharing all your adventures and sexual exploits with.............yourself. As a couple you share your adventures and exploits.

When you mature and if you meet the right person you will see - but you may well have boundaries and limits set to keep you both comfortable and they will change in both directions at different times.

You just have to find your soul mate and your question would not even come up. Sex is physical but an emotional betrayal is much worse because it damages the couple as an item. This posting sums the scenario up perfectly "

We have always said that the couple in our relationship is a separate entity and it is the couple that swings... crazy but how it works in our heads! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its a random question for this kind of site being single I use the swinging scene to explore my sexual fantasies and push my boundries without it imposing on my life outside the scene plus most I've met seem to be genuinly nice people altho not met anyone off here yet. The question was based on couples I've met always appear to be deeply in love and at ease with it all but how did you get to that point because surely seeing a loved one enjoying being seen to by one or more other people would raise issues such as trust and jealousy or one person being more into it than the other etc.. So my question is have you experienced this if so in what form and what did you do to overcome it "

Never was an issue in my case.I suppose its partly because I am so confident that my wife loves me very deeply and that in her eyes no man could ever remotely compare with me in any respect. It's also partly because I know that if I said I don't want to do it anymore then it would just stop without any need for discussion because neither of us would do anything if the other person wasn't happy with it. And partly I suppose because I am a naturally self-confident person myself and don't believe many other men compare with me! (only being honest here!)

So maybe confidence in of one's partner's love, a very strong bond with good communication and a good measure of self confidence are needed in order to see your partner with others and enjoy it without any problem at all.

Oh yes and a little bit of affection between you both after the event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its a random question for this kind of site being single I use the swinging scene to explore my sexual fantasies and push my boundries without it imposing on my life outside the scene plus most I've met seem to be genuinly nice people altho not met anyone off here yet. The question was based on couples I've met always appear to be deeply in love and at ease with it all but how did you get to that point because surely seeing a loved one enjoying being seen to by one or more other people would raise issues such as trust and jealousy or one person being more into it than the other etc.. So my question is have you experienced this if so in what form and what did you do to overcome it "

Never was an issue in my case.I suppose its partly because I am so confident that my wife loves me very deeply and that in her eyes no man could ever remotely compare with me in any respect. It's also partly because I know that if I said I don't want to do it anymore then it would just stop without any need for discussion because neither of us would do anything if the other person wasn't happy with it. And partly I suppose because I am a naturally self-confident person myself and don't believe many other men compare with me! (only being honest here!)

So maybe confidence in your partner's love, a strong desire not to hurt each other and a good measure of self confidence are needed in order to see your partner with others and enjoy it without any problem at all.

Oh yes and a little bit of affection between you both after the event.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

A question that we find is often asked to us by single men at clubs who later go on to admit they have a Mrs at home, to which we then reply..

'How do you live with yourself knowing your out fucking other people behind the back of the person you love....'

but we digress...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me as a man seeing my other half being fucked etc, yes it turns me on and really enjoy seeing her being pleasured but you know that out of all this craziness I fondly look at her and her me and every night we tell each other how much we mean to each other and every morning we wake up wrapped around each other. I know that I may only have her for a short time and if it is meant to be that she goes off and lives her life without me then I am a better person for having known her. Life is a roller coaster and it is all about enjoying today but you know whatever happens we will live our life to the full and what will be will be......

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By * pool 1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I think if it's something you have to 'handle' then it's definitely not for you.

(you as in people in general, not you personally)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to watch her and she loves watching me.

Went to a club the other week and she made me watch her being fucked by several guys.

What a shag we had afterwards lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if it's something you have to 'handle' then it's definitely not for you.

(you as in people in general, not you personally) "

and definitely not for them if it's something you have to 'get over'!

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubbie loves to watch other guys fucking me. He arranges guys to visit us and I get to have fun with them.

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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago

The Dungeon


"the thought of sharing your partner with other couple, always made both us excited....it certainly spiced our sex life, but the trick is not to meet the same cpls often (lol)..."

Totally agree with this. I just love watching my wife getting all steamy with another guy, watching her abandon her normal shyness for pure filth. I know she feels the same way about me with another woman. As for not meeting the same people too many times? We've never met the same people more than twice because we feel familiarity causes staleness and robs us of the 'exciting' feeling of meeting someone new.

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By *now-bbw-bunnyCouple
over a year ago

southend-on-sea

We also apply the two meet rule . But at parties i been with the same guysmore then twice but never meet them away from the party .

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By *now-bbw-bunnyCouple
over a year ago

southend-on-sea

We also apply the two meet rule . But at parties i been with the same guysmore then twice but never meet them away from the party .

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

We never had the old "See partner with others" fantasy! We just thought it might be fun and it is! BUT... I do like to see Innuendo with other people, so it's all good!

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