FabSwingers.com forum: Reality of finding and maintaining a loving committed MF relationship and being swingers?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just wondered if anyone in this situation has any advice or insights?

At 34 I’m a little late to the party in realising and getting to grips with being a Bi-sexual Male.

I’m currently single and although perfectly happy being single at the moment, long term I would like to find a female ‘soul mate’ (apologies that sounds so cringe), get married etc etc however I would also not want to spend the rest of my life either suppressing part of my sexuality or having to lie and go behind the back of said soul mate (and I will openly admit I’ve already made my fair share of mistakes) therefore would want to be part of a swinging couple.

Is it a realistic goal to find a MF relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I’m honestly not thinking this is a dating site and I’m going to find a partner on here (as I know right now that thought is going through lots of peoples heads because it is exactly what I would think if I was reading this post written by a stranger. The reason I posted it is because I’ve spent some time on the forum and there does seems to be a fair amount of MF couples that appear to have been on the scene for a while, have experience and seem to want to give advice when it is asked for so I thought this is probably the best way to find out the reality of how things actually work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also one last thing, if you got this far but haven’t looked at my other thread you may be thinking it’s a slightly strange thread for a TV/TS to post... long story short this profile will be amended to male as I am a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it is realistic to find mf relationship you're craving for. From experience though if you're trying too hard you'll just get frustrated and it won't happen. It'll come when you least expect it and probably will take some time. Best of luck.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Yes it is realistic and the type of sexual openness you are seeking is more likely to be found here than anywhere else.

You will get people saying this isnt a dating site, but there are lots of people here looking for that special someone so stick at it, be honest about your intentions, and all the best xx

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"Yes it is realistic and the type of sexual openness you are seeking is more likely to be found here than anywhere else.

You will get people saying this isnt a dating site, but there are lots of people here looking for that special someone so stick at it, be honest about your intentions, and all the best xx "

I agree. Your more likely to find someone who accepts you for who you are on here rather than try to explain in the vanilla world that your bi. Don’t understand why your changing your profile though if you want to be true to yourself.

TVs can find relationships too. I have a lovely TV friend and she is in a relationship with a partner who knows about her TV side. People do find love on here. I was at a wedding last year of a couple that met on here.

Love will find you when you least expect it.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Bookmarking for later

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I found Paul in a coffee shop and he was pretty clear about his lifestyle. I was intrigued and pretty soon I wanted to experiment myself and the rest is history. Potential swinging soul mates are out there OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don’t understand why your changing your profile though if you want to be true to yourself.

Love will find you when you least expect it."

Oh yeah I fully understand that and each person should be able to live their life in whatever way they see fit and without judgement. But when you say you don’t understand why I am changing my profile as I should be ‘true to myself’... have a read of the other thread I posted as that should probably make it a little better.

I understand that for some TVs it is a lifestyle choice and fair play, spend as much or as little time as you want living that lifestyle. Everyone should be entitled to live their life how they want and are comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My question on the other post was more geared towards understanding the difference between a TV and a cross-dresser which was answered per my understanding however my next point is that for me personally it is purely a sexual/kink/fetish interest of which I many of.

But when you say be true to your self that is precisely what I am attempting to do by changing my profile gender to male as that is what I am.

I guess the point i'm trying to get across is that if something is done purely for sexual gratification I consider it to be a sexual interest or fetish rather that a my gender. In real world terms, I would not define myself as a TV as essentially I am only ever going to doing it specifically for sexual gratification, be that with another person or as part of masterbation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on here over 2 years ago. Neither of us were looking for a long term thing. Live together now and still have a great time. So yes it is possible.

F x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It is realistic but I personally think that thinking in terms of a soul mate isn't useful, it unrealistic and in my opinion leads people to reject possible relationships because they're waiting to feel a connection that takes years to build up.

Just be realistic, open and be prepared to think about some compromise. Discuss things with potential partners as honestly as possible.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(Mrs chatting)

Years ago I had a loving relationship with a Bi man. He was very honest with me early on, I won't lie it did shock me. He was previously a family man with a young family. After a day or 2 I happily got my head around it then we spoke about how we would move forward. It was absolutely NO threat to me. I was 100% comfortable with the situation.

The relationship ended but that had nothing to do with him been Bi.

It can happen. But I would say ALWAYS stay true to yourself & how you feel.

You only have 1 life, live it to the max whichever way makes you happy.

Good luck x

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

We’ve been together since 16 and would follow each other to the end of the earth in all manner of different ways.

Not only do we have each other we are privileged enough to be able to share a journey of fun and exploration together as well as a marriage and family.

It’s 100% possible. You just need to find that right person xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this. Beautiful x

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