FabSwingers.com forum: Gloves, dental dams, safe sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hiya,

First post.

I'm new to the scene. Have been to one club night so far. Saw plenty of condoms being used for penetration, but none for oral. Saw bare fingers going from one woman to another, and mouths doing the same.

My fuck buddy said I'd be looked at weirdly if I took gloves to a club. And going on what I saw, it seems he's right.

But surely you'd swap condoms if you were moving from one woman to another, so why not use dams or gloves? It's just a different body part, it's still sharing sexual fluids, so potentially just as risky.

Am I being over cautious?

Or perfectly safe?

How do you stay safe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really interested to see the comments on this one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Really interested to see the comments on this one. "

Me too!

Do you ever use gloves or dams?

Or wash your hands inbetween touching different genitals?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the reasons I find the whole group scenario a bit weird

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

I can honestly say I have never sen anyone with gloves on in a club. I would think them v strange if I did. When we play Mr tends to us one hand for me and another for the other lady. Oral is unprotected. That is our level of risk. Some bare back numerous people in one night fo each to their own. The only safe sex is no sex so plsy your way.

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By *ughandJayneCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

The “norm” seems to be uncovered oral, protected vaginal penetration and hardly any anal. I’ve tried to convince Jayne that someone’s condom covered cock is more hygienic that someone’s bare pudgy fingers but I’ve had no luck so far...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, it is something I can be quite conscious about, I would usually wash my hands in between playing with different people, although if it was a full on group thing, then you do tend to get carried away in the moment. but as for dams, they aren't something I have ever used, I don't think I ever even seen one used.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Oral is always unprotected for me, fingers I would expect the guy to have washed his hands or use the other hand. Penetration is protected.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm enjoying hearing these different boundaries, thanks for taking time to respond x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Ive had many a guy try to use this very arguement to try to tell me that i may as well go bare.. because I do not use condoms for oral.. and if someone came at me with gloves to play with me I wouldn't be happy.

However. Its rare I allow people to play with me with fingers... but the times I have then yes it has been with fingers used on or in other people.

I have never seen anyone use dental dams or gloves in clubs or private

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

Shocking really how ppl risky their health.

Still try figure out why sucking/licking pussy unproctect is ok for most ppl

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Shocking really how ppl risky their health.

Still try figure out why sucking/licking pussy unproctect is ok for most ppl"

So you insist on dental dams?

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

"Shocking really how ppl risky their health.

Still try figure out why sucking/licking pussy unproctect is ok for most ppl

So you insist on dental dams?"

Oral only for my partnerx

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Shocking really how ppl risky their health.

Still try figure out why sucking/licking pussy unproctect is ok for most ppl

So you insist on dental dams?"

....and condoms for oral? Always? And gloves for digital penetration? Always?

It's about an individuals acceptable level of risk. It's a personal thing.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Shocking really how ppl risky their health.

Still try figure out why sucking/licking pussy unproctect is ok for most ppl

So you insist on dental dams?

Oral only for my partnerx"

So you don't give or receive oral from anyone except your partner? What about fingers?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd be perfectly happy for a play mate to wear a glove when touching me, I am not offended by any implication that I may be infected. I'd rather be safe both ways, for me receiving and the next woman after me being touched.

And I quite like the smooth texture of a gkice, it glides nicely over wet skin.

And it's really really easy to clean up afterwards - remove glove inside out, job done.

I love wearing a glove to give anal pleasure, for the same reasons I've already mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shocking really how ppl risky their health.

Still try figure out why sucking/licking pussy unproctect is ok for most ppl"

Probably because it tastes better to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I share your concerns OP.

This is what puts me off going to clubs. I've even heard of men using the same condom on different women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I share your concerns OP.

This is what puts me off going to clubs. I've even heard of men using the same condom on different women. "

Really?!!!

Condoms can be gotten for free from sex clinics, GPs etc.

There's absolutely no need to be using the same condom for multiple partners!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I share your concerns OP.

This is what puts me off going to clubs. I've even heard of men using the same condom on different women.

Really?!!!

Condoms can be gotten for free from sex clinics, GPs etc.

There's absolutely no need to be using the same condom for multiple partners!"

You do have to be very aware of what's going on around you in group situations

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You do have to be very aware of what's going on around you in group situations"

This is what puts me off in open play rooms.

I want to be able to relax, to lose myself in pleasureable moments.

I don't want to have to be on guard watching for which hand is clean, or if it's a fresh condom.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"You do have to be very aware of what's going on around you in group situations

This is what puts me off in open play rooms.

I want to be able to relax, to lose myself in pleasureable moments.

I don't want to have to be on guard watching for which hand is clean, or if it's a fresh condom. "

That's why if I'm doing group play I always have a spotter, they watch out for things like that, I very rarely take part in mixed group play now, I'm greedy so I prefer mmf or mmmf.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I struggle in group settings for this reason, I'm super careful, I do oral unprotected but I take very specific precautions, but the amount of guys who play with their cock then try to use the same hand to touch me. Hell no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's reassuring to see I'm not alone in wanting to be safe.

Thank you all for sharing, I've enjoyed seeing where different boundaries are drawn. And I'm happy to hear more viewpoints too.

It seems like I might have to pretend that gloves are a kink for me, to get them into play!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"It's reassuring to see I'm not alone in wanting to be safe.

Thank you all for sharing, I've enjoyed seeing where different boundaries are drawn. And I'm happy to hear more viewpoints too.

It seems like I might have to pretend that gloves are a kink for me, to get them into play!"

Don't compromise on your level of safety, whatever you feel is right for you is what you should do.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"I share your concerns OP.

This is what puts me off going to clubs. I've even heard of men using the same condom on different women.

Really?!!!

Condoms can be gotten for free from sex clinics, GPs etc.

There's absolutely no need to be using the same condom for multiple partners!"

It's not the price of them, it's the fact they don't even consider anyone else's safety apart from themselves if they don't change condoms.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

It’s about culture change. If people brought and used gloves and dams in clubs it would become the norm. I’m sure there was a time when using condoms was seen as strange, but in my limited experience of clubland, they are accepted as normal now.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

Maybe get a club or promotor to do gloves and dams night to get that shift started.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't compromise on your level of safety, whatever you feel is right for you is what you should do."

Thanks for the reminder.

It'll be sods law that if I take a risk, I'll end up getting more than I'd hoped for!

Prevention is better than cure x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe get a club or promotor to do gloves and dams night to get that shift started. "

That's a good point about what becomes "the norm".

Maybe I could start a discussion the next time I'm at a club.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Don't compromise on your level of safety, whatever you feel is right for you is what you should do.

Thanks for the reminder.

It'll be sods law that if I take a risk, I'll end up getting more than I'd hoped for!

Prevention is better than cure x"

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By *esicupidsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"It’s about culture change. If people brought and used gloves and dams in clubs it would become the norm. I’m sure there was a time when using condoms was seen as strange, but in my limited experience of clubland, they are accepted as normal now. "

Couldn’t agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr here

Iv gloves never seen it but at same time you have to be careful as seems like there a high amount of latex allergies on the scene( just my opinion as never meet anyone with a latex allergy till I was on the scene

As most gloves would be latex it could cause transfer issue so just be cautious if you decide to take them.

As for the pepole useing same condom I have seen it done but you just need to be cautious of your own protection if your not sure ask them to put on a fresh one clubs generally have bowls full of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mr here

As most gloves would be latex it could cause transfer issue so just be cautious if you decide to take them.

I've got nitrile gloves, so no allergy issues with them.

And the one club I've been to had condoms for sale, not as a freebie.

It would be great if there was a pick n mix style counter full of different condoms, dams and gloves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I share your concerns OP.

This is what puts me off going to clubs. I've even heard of men using the same condom on different women. "

Heard of is not seen first hand so potentially not going to a club because of just a rumor is a little drastic, especially when ultimately you only play with who you want and choose to anyway.

We have been to many club nights and we and the other people we have seen playing always change condoms when changing partners. With a little practice is only takes seconds to do.

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