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Turning my wife in to a slut

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been married 7 years together 10

She loves to watch mmf amateur porn but more turned on with the penetration side. We’ve spoken about a threesome or her just going out and playing. She says she would feel like a slut so won’t do it. She’s blonde beautiful and loves cock. Similar situations where you’ve got passed this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been married 7 years together 10

She loves to watch mmf amateur porn but more turned on with the penetration side. We’ve spoken about a threesome or her just going out and playing. She says she would feel like a slut so won’t do it. She’s blonde beautiful and loves cock. Similar situations where you’ve got passed this ? "

Think you just need to talk to her a lot. Find out what you both want. With time, she might be interested enough to turn fantasy into reality.

Maybe talk fantasies while you both watch porn or fuck. Talking about it enough may interest her in doing more. You could also find an online quiz about what sexual interests you both have. She may suggest some things you never knew she was into.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite a friend round you can trust get some beers and slip in conversation about watching porn with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Invite a friend round you can trust get some beers and slip in conversation about watching porn with her "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same with my wife. Been trying to get her to meet then possible Mmf but I think it will happen without any pre set meet. Maybe a night out with friends. She had a Mmf when she was 17 which she tells me about. She loves cock and talking dirty. Maybe it will happen one day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all"

We're at that same point too and we started talking about Greece and ethical hedonism what it must of been like without labels or judgements true sexual liberation that's helped my good lady feel less sluty and even more cock hungry still need a starter but found our she could have an appetite lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Think you just need to talk to her a lot. Find out what you both want. With time

Maybe talk fantasies while you both watch porn or fuck. Talking about it enough may interest her in doing more. You could also find an online quiz about what sexual interests you both have. She may suggest some things you never knew she was into.

Good luck! "

Yes definalty talk talk talk communication is KEY to unlocking desires that and good massage we talked on and off for 6/8 hours learning massage yoni and we found out a pool much about each other and we've been together for 11 years how mad s that!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Don't pressure her. It'll backfire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow its really difficult for some guys to realise their fantasies... we started by me telling my wife that she would look good with another guys cock in her mouth...2 hours later we joined fab...24 hours later we were in a hotel with me fucking her while she sucked a guys cock. 5 years later and we're still going strong and having more fun together than ever. I think I got very lucky

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why do you want to turn her into something she doesn't want to be, don't you love her as she is?

You can bet your life this thought will cross your wife's mind at some point. I suggest you start from the point of reassuring her that you love her exactly as she is and she is enough for you but you would like to go on a journey of exploration together. It's a funny thing but women like to feel valued for what and who they are.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow its really difficult for some guys to realise their fantasies... we started by me telling my wife that she would look good with another guys cock in her mouth...2 hours later we joined fab...24 hours later we were in a hotel with me fucking her while she sucked a guys cock. 5 years later and we're still going strong and having more fun together than ever. I think I got very lucky "

That’s the perfect start

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

She might enjoy the porn but the reality could be too much

Don’t pressure her as she’ll hate the idea more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow its really difficult for some guys to realise their fantasies... we started by me telling my wife that she would look good with another guys cock in her mouth...2 hours later we joined fab...24 hours later we were in a hotel with me fucking her while she sucked a guys cock. 5 years later and we're still going strong and having more fun together than ever. I think I got very lucky

That’s the perfect start "

Actually it was

Because we had been together 6 years at that point and we were still at it like rabbits (still are). We thought worse case scenario would be we didn't like it and if that was the case it was only a BJ and we'd forget about it and just move on

Still love watching that vid back of her eyes looking at me as she was filthy for the first time

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"She might enjoy the porn but the reality could be too much

Don’t pressure her as she’ll hate the idea more. "

And it may damage the trust between you, too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow its really difficult for some guys to realise their fantasies... we started by me telling my wife that she would look good with another guys cock in her mouth...2 hours later we joined fab...24 hours later we were in a hotel with me fucking her while she sucked a guys cock. 5 years later and we're still going strong and having more fun together than ever. I think I got very lucky

That’s the perfect start "

Officially jealous lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You’re killing me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a similar situation with my ex. 3 somes got mentioned during times when we watched porn together but she said she didn't want to feel like a slut. I dropped the matter and didn't mention 3some again. After about a month she said she had been thinking about 3somes and that she would be willing to give it a go but only with a guy that she chose. To cut a long story short, we eventually met a guy at a social, get chatting end arranged a 3some with him. Since then she was quite relaxed and we had quite a few 3somes. So the point is, just be patient and you never know what will happen, don't try forcing a 3some onto your wife or else it may never happen.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Have you seriously spoken to her about it, have you shown her your single profile on here, does she even know about Fab?

To us that would be a good start, presumably you live together hence you can’t accommodate?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"She might enjoy the porn but the reality could be too much

Don’t pressure her as she’ll hate the idea more.

And it may damage the trust between you, too. "

Precisely

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’d never force the issue just after tips from people who’ve started this way too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you seriously spoken to her about it, have you shown her your single profile on here, does she even know about Fab?

To us that would be a good start, presumably you live together hence you can’t accommodate? "

Yes to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Encourage her to play on her own too if she wants , off fab if required,that helped me with the breakthrough ,

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By *rontmanMan
over a year ago

Derby and often London

Happy to help if she decides to take the plunge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Encourage her to play on her own too if she wants , off fab if required,that helped me with the breakthrough , "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey,

The best thing is to talk and if you decide to meet do it somewhere far from where you live or maybe on holiday so if it doesn’t go to plan it’s just a random and you’ll never have to see them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been married 7 years together 10

She loves to watch mmf amateur porn but more turned on with the penetration side. We’ve spoken about a threesome or her just going out and playing. She says she would feel like a slut so won’t do it. She’s blonde beautiful and loves cock. Similar situations where you’ve got passed this ? "

Don't pressurise her, don't try and manipulate her just talk about it. Right now it look more about you and what you want to make her and you might get the ultimate and make her leave you.

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford

Took me a long time to decide to go through with it. We started of going naturist swimming, as there was no sexual element to it, it just made me feel a little more comfortable getting naked in front of someone else.

I spent over a year chatting to one guy on-line before finally agreeing to meet him. Even though I knew my husband was completely ok, even enthusiastic about me meeting someone else it felt like I would be cheating. I spent a couple of really good nights with him and it all felt a bit strange at first but eventually I got used to the new freedom. You need to be sure that you really want it though, don't imagine that it means you will then get to have sex with a stream of women. My husband very rarely gets to see other women, where as I now have two regular partners that I spend a lot of time with as well as plenty of casual encounters as and when the mood takes me. You need to be sure you are happy with that kind of arrangement, while my husband is happy with it, he was shocked by my transformation from someone that would never have though of it to someone that is now taking full advantage.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

You don’t ‘turn someone into a...’ I’m always a little confused by the belief that some people hold that if they want, they should get - even when it involves others.

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford


"You don’t ‘turn someone into a...’ I’m always a little confused by the belief that some people hold that if they want, they should get - even when it involves others. "

I see where you are coming from, but I have to say I felt that there was an expectation that had been drummed into me as a girl by society that sex was exclusively something between a husband and wife or at least long term partners.

When my husband asked me if I would like to have sex with someone else I was indignant and gave him a good telling off for even asking. If he hadn't pursued it and helped me to realise that it is ok then I would never be here today.

Some would say he turned me into a slut, but I would say he helped me realise that men created the label slut to control women and that there is no reason why we shouldn't enjoy ourselves when it is out in the open.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"You don’t ‘turn someone into a...’ I’m always a little confused by the belief that some people hold that if they want, they should get - even when it involves others.

I see where you are coming from, but I have to say I felt that there was an expectation that had been drummed into me as a girl by society that sex was exclusively something between a husband and wife or at least long term partners.

When my husband asked me if I would like to have sex with someone else I was indignant and gave him a good telling off for even asking. If he hadn't pursued it and helped me to realise that it is ok then I would never be here today.

Some would say he turned me into a slut, but I would say he helped me realise that men created the label slut to control women and that there is no reason why we shouldn't enjoy ourselves when it is out in the open."

I’m not saying you get an answer and that’s it but equally he didn’t turn you into anything. He put the ideas out there but you responded positively. Because his suggestions appealed to you once you got past societal conditioning.

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By *oubledongWoman
over a year ago

Headington, Oxford


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Because his suggestions appealed to you once you got past societal conditioning. "

Interestingly the societal conditioning never completely goes away, when arranging to meet someone I still have a sense of apprehension due to that conditioning. Once we meet I have a good time and all question of ethics are far from my mind.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

We all want our significant other to be on the same or similar page to us sexually. Have you tried to openly discuss what you want, and listen to what she wants?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

This, big time. If she really wanted it, she would have done it by now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think she should only do what she's comfortable with. I'm not sure it's for you to turn her into anything to be honest don't you think OP?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

You can't turn your wife into anything she doesn't want to be. Ave trying could damage both of you and your marriage.

But you can keep communicating. It could be that she only finds the porn exciting and has no intentions of ever paying query anyone else. That needs eu be respected.

However, gently pointing out that there's nothing wrong with enjoying sex with multiple people and that it doesn't make one a bad person also won't do any harm. Just remember it won't magically turn hey into anything she's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok, she's already a whore, for the rest of the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning, took us a while to get round to first meet, lots of talking, reassuring each other.

When we did have first meet it was major rollercoaster of emotions for us both. Strange as it is, it brought us closer together & cemented our trust in one another. We don't meet often but when we do it's great fun. Talking is the answer. Goodluck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how about asking her to set up a couple profile on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U need to Mke it bout her that u want her to have pleasure on her on pace n rules just I still in her that u will love her having that freedom

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall


"Been married 7 years together 10

She loves to watch mmf amateur porn but more turned on with the penetration side. We’ve spoken about a threesome or her just going out and playing. She says she would feel like a slut so won’t do it. She’s blonde beautiful and loves cock. Similar situations where you’ve got passed this ? "

Give her my details .I'm in Brum too and cud do with a lady friend to accompany me to an adult cinema !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been married 7 years together 10

She loves to watch mmf amateur porn but more turned on with the penetration side. We’ve spoken about a threesome or her just going out and playing. She says she would feel like a slut so won’t do it. She’s blonde beautiful and loves cock. Similar situations where you’ve got passed this ? "

Talk to her about what she really wants and what you want. Find your boundaries. Then go and explore. We’ve not been playing long but have some great experiences from swops, mmf, mmmf and the wife exploring women. As long as you both know what you want to gain from experiencing this, then you’ll enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to speak about threesomes a lot. Decided it wasnt for us but i always liked the idea of more cock but only with his permission. Having discussed it a lot i signed up here as a single female as he wants nothing to do with meets etc. It has boosted our already good sex life.

We both know there will possibly come a time where it isnt fun anymore but for now im loving all the variety and hes loving how constantly wet i am.

Its certainly not for everyone though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been married 7 years together 10

She loves to watch mmf amateur porn but more turned on with the penetration side. We’ve spoken about a threesome or her just going out and playing. She says she would feel like a slut so won’t do it. She’s blonde beautiful and loves cock. Similar situations where you’ve got passed this ? "

What’s her view on you playing? Does she enjoy watching etc?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been married 7 years together 10

She loves to watch mmf amateur porn but more turned on with the penetration side. We’ve spoken about a threesome or her just going out and playing. She says she would feel like a slut so won’t do it. She’s blonde beautiful and loves cock. Similar situations where you’ve got passed this ?

Lots

What’s her view on you playing? Does she enjoy watching etc?"

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over a year ago

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