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By *uesdaysfunday OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sandbach

Ok I am sure we have all been there. Tonight I was sat in the pub to meet with the female of a couple, after getting all dolled up, and sitting and sitting and sitting. I message my man to check our fab messages to see if we have heard from them and blocked. Surprise! We had even checked earlier today that they were still happy to meet. So my question is how do we go about reporting this? This is not the first time this has happened. Hotels have been booked and paid for and we can't report these people because they block us first. While we are innocently waiting for them! We need so sort of fix for this unless there is and I don't know about it, please let there be one

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If you still have their messages in your inbox you can report them from those, even though you're blocked.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never been stood up like that but I've had a couple of experiences on a social meet. Texted to confirm a time and location that suited then rather than me.

Double checked the night before

Left work early to get there on time but no show.

First time it happened the woman said she had forgotten we were meeting despite the confirmation the night before.

Second time was worse as that particular lady was double booked and I was the lucky loser. She said she agreed to both meets to make sure she wasn't stood up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I am sure we have all been there. Tonight I was sat in the pub to meet with the female of a couple, after getting all dolled up, and sitting and sitting and sitting. I message my man to check our fab messages to see if we have heard from them and blocked. Surprise! We had even checked earlier today that they were still happy to meet. So my question is how do we go about reporting this? This is not the first time this has happened. Hotels have been booked and paid for and we can't report these people because they block us first. While we are innocently waiting for them! We need so sort of fix for this unless there is and I don't know about it, please let there be one "

Happened to me last week, twice I biked just under 12 mile in less than 24 hours, least we know we are not time wasters

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By *lli_sissyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cambridge

Sorry to hear that op. Had similar myself only a month or so ago... travelled all the way to the town where the person was staying, got to the outside the hotel, exchanging messages... then bang... blocked...

As NSAChick says, go into the messages, you can report from there. Sadly, don't think you ever get to find out the outcome, but does make you feel a bit less annoyed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I am sure we have all been there. Tonight I was sat in the pub to meet with the female of a couple, after getting all dolled up, and sitting and sitting and sitting. I message my man to check our fab messages to see if we have heard from them and blocked. Surprise! We had even checked earlier today that they were still happy to meet. So my question is how do we go about reporting this? This is not the first time this has happened. Hotels have been booked and paid for and we can't report these people because they block us first. While we are innocently waiting for them! We need so sort of fix for this unless there is and I don't know about it, please let there be one "

Happened on my first meet last week.payed for a taxi to get me there and it was a no show,no apology just blocked. I reported them as I still had the Messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I am sure we have all been there. Tonight I was sat in the pub to meet with the female of a couple, after getting all dolled up, and sitting and sitting and sitting. I message my man to check our fab messages to see if we have heard from them and blocked. Surprise! We had even checked earlier today that they were still happy to meet. So my question is how do we go about reporting this? This is not the first time this has happened. Hotels have been booked and paid for and we can't report these people because they block us first. While we are innocently waiting for them! We need so sort of fix for this unless there is and I don't know about it, please let there be one

Happened on my first meet last week.payed for a taxi to get me there and it was a no show,no apology just blocked. I reported them as I still had the Messages."

Knocks your confidence especially when it was my very first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear that op. Had similar myself only a month or so ago... travelled all the way to the town where the person was staying, got to the outside the hotel, exchanging messages... then bang... blocked...

As NSAChick says, go into the messages, you can report from there. Sadly, don't think you ever get to find out the outcome, but does make you feel a bit less annoyed."

They should at least be decent enough to admit they bottled it FFS!!

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

This is a bad but common event,but I wonder WHY people do it. I do wonder if there is a common factor that is apparent during negotiations? Usually I think they are serial offenders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as I know nothing happens anyway. I reported after twice no show. And they still here

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

Sorry to hear that. Such a shitty thing to do.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"This is a bad but common event,but I wonder WHY people do it. I do wonder if there is a common factor that is apparent during negotiations? Usually I think they are serial offenders. "

There’s a good chance that a lot of female no shows who block without further contact are actually men.

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By *oneysucklebicplCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We always check the verifications, only thing we have to go on really to look for genuine people, even then we got stood up with a hotel booked!

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Welcome to fab!

Very there have I met a genuine couple on here .

Lots of single blokes that still think they are a couple!

Just one couple or female please that's genuine and restore my faith in this site

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

We only have one side of the story here. Yup this could have been a man pretending to be a woman or just someone with no intention of meeting. But it also could have been a woman that just felt like something was off and didn’t want to go.

I think we forgot that no one has to do anything they’re uncomfortable with and that, unless we have made relationships, we don’t owe each other anything.

It’s irritating but it’s not the end of the world.

V x

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"We only have one side of the story here. Yup this could have been a man pretending to be a woman or just someone with no intention of meeting. But it also could have been a woman that just felt like something was off and didn’t want to go.

I think we forgot that no one has to do anything they’re uncomfortable with and that, unless we have made relationships, we don’t owe each other anything.

It’s irritating but it’s not the end of the world.

V x "

There is such a thing as common decency - if we don’t owe each other that, then we are finished

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

It's such a shitty thing to do. It happened me a few times, including having a hotel booked but now I try chat on the phone or on cam with them first? Not fool proof but it helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn’t uncommon, unfortunately.

I think some are genuine and simply get cold feet, others are probably men posing as women/couples and getting off on whatever thrill they get out of it.

Costly in time and occasionally money but we just have to move on.

Nice to know that some of us are ‘genuine’ and do actually meet when the right opportunity arises.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've had it on here and I've had it on dating sites. It's crap but you can't really avoid it. I personally wouldn't pay out for hotels when I hadn't met someone before.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"We only have one side of the story here. Yup this could have been a man pretending to be a woman or just someone with no intention of meeting. But it also could have been a woman that just felt like something was off and didn’t want to go.

I think we forgot that no one has to do anything they’re uncomfortable with and that, unless we have made relationships, we don’t owe each other anything.

It’s irritating but it’s not the end of the world.

V x

There is such a thing as common decency - if we don’t owe each other that, then we are finished "

You’re right. There is such a thing as common decency and I probably wouldn’t just not show up. But I have cancelled at the last minute because I simply didn’t want to go. Where we differ in opinion is that I don’t think we are purely owed it, but that we earn it too. We have no idea of the other side of this. Who knows what was said or done or what could have happened in the life of the other profile.

V x

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Here's a test ....go in cam/ chat rooms click on m/f couple cams then sit back and watch some geezer bashing his bishop for all it's worth !! If you are a single bloke FFS be up front and honest about it

I'm single genuine and struggle for meets like the rest of us singletons but I refuse to say I'm in a couple when I've been divorced for 12 years !! Rant over

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Even if you are blocked you can still report the user. On the mobile site it's under 'Menu'

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Here's a test ....go in cam/ chat rooms click on m/f couple cams then sit back and watch some geezer bashing his bishop for all it's worth !! If you are a single bloke FFS be up front and honest about it

I'm single genuine and struggle for meets like the rest of us singletons but I refuse to say I'm in a couple when I've been divorced for 12 years !! Rant over"

Erm. Possibly the wrong thread?

V x

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"We only have one side of the story here. Yup this could have been a man pretending to be a woman or just someone with no intention of meeting. But it also could have been a woman that just felt like something was off and didn’t want to go.

I think we forgot that no one has to do anything they’re uncomfortable with and that, unless we have made relationships, we don’t owe each other anything.

It’s irritating but it’s not the end of the world.

V x

There is such a thing as common decency - if we don’t owe each other that, then we are finished

You’re right. There is such a thing as common decency and I probably wouldn’t just not show up. But I have cancelled at the last minute because I simply didn’t want to go. Where we differ in opinion is that I don’t think we are purely owed it, but that we earn it too. We have no idea of the other side of this. Who knows what was said or done or what could have happened in the life of the other profile.

V x

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We may not be owed it I suppose, but it’s not really acceptable behaviour x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"We only have one side of the story here. Yup this could have been a man pretending to be a woman or just someone with no intention of meeting. But it also could have been a woman that just felt like something was off and didn’t want to go.

I think we forgot that no one has to do anything they’re uncomfortable with and that, unless we have made relationships, we don’t owe each other anything.

It’s irritating but it’s not the end of the world.

V x

There is such a thing as common decency - if we don’t owe each other that, then we are finished

You’re right. There is such a thing as common decency and I probably wouldn’t just not show up. But I have cancelled at the last minute because I simply didn’t want to go. Where we differ in opinion is that I don’t think we are purely owed it, but that we earn it too. We have no idea of the other side of this. Who knows what was said or done or what could have happened in the life of the other profile.

V x

We may not be owed it I suppose, but it’s not really acceptable behaviour x"

No it’s not. My point was more that it’s not really the end of the world, and we only have one side of the story.

V x

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"We only have one side of the story here. Yup this could have been a man pretending to be a woman or just someone with no intention of meeting. But it also could have been a woman that just felt like something was off and didn’t want to go.

I think we forgot that no one has to do anything they’re uncomfortable with and that, unless we have made relationships, we don’t owe each other anything.

It’s irritating but it’s not the end of the world.

V x

There is such a thing as common decency - if we don’t owe each other that, then we are finished

You’re right. There is such a thing as common decency and I probably wouldn’t just not show up. But I have cancelled at the last minute because I simply didn’t want to go. Where we differ in opinion is that I don’t think we are purely owed it, but that we earn it too. We have no idea of the other side of this. Who knows what was said or done or what could have happened in the life of the other profile.

V x

We may not be owed it I suppose, but it’s not really acceptable behaviour x

No it’s not. My point was more that it’s not really the end of the world, and we only have one side of the story.

V x

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Ok

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By *trangeleftyMan
over a year ago

London

Happens to me all the time. I just don't bother reporting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you have named the couple on ya profile,they still have an account on fab.at some point we all get stood up,I've had it done to me this is why I say which day am off to quest so if a bloke turns up then cool....if not plenty of other men to play with.il only meet in clubs

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"Ok I am sure we have all been there. Tonight I was sat in the pub to meet with the female of a couple, after getting all dolled up, and sitting and sitting and sitting. I message my man to check our fab messages to see if we have heard from them and blocked. Surprise! We had even checked earlier today that they were still happy to meet. So my question is how do we go about reporting this? This is not the first time this has happened. Hotels have been booked and paid for and we can't report these people because they block us first. While we are innocently waiting for them! We need so sort of fix for this unless there is and I don't know about it, please let there be one "
You are not allowed to name and shame on your profile , report it to admin

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By *uesdaysfunday OP   Couple
over a year ago

Sandbach

Sorry about the status my partner posted it whilst I was asleep this has now been taken down.

The couple in question has been reported as it has been suggested by yourselves, with thanks.

We do not usually report, we have had a spate recently and after last night of having the meet confirmed by the couple, having being instigating by the couple it was the no show that broke the camels back. Especially having being blocked for no understandable reason.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Ok I am sure we have all been there. Tonight I was sat in the pub to meet with the female of a couple, after getting all dolled up, and sitting and sitting and sitting. I message my man to check our fab messages to see if we have heard from them and blocked. Surprise! We had even checked earlier today that they were still happy to meet. So my question is how do we go about reporting this? This is not the first time this has happened. Hotels have been booked and paid for and we can't report these people because they block us first. While we are innocently waiting for them! We need so sort of fix for this unless there is and I don't know about it, please let there be one "

Had same experience with a guy I'd been chatting and speaking on phone with for several weeks. Hotel booked etc then he disappeared and blocked me an hour before the meet. Report to fab always, if it's a pattern they'll likely be banned.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Unfortunately it seems to be a common occurrence.

It has happened to me a couple of times.

I've taken the time to get ready get all dolled up, only to sit and wait and then find out that I've been blocked!

And as someone quite rightly said....we have no idea who is on the other end?

What I have found out over time is that there are a lot of fake profiles and timewasters on this site.

How do you ensure you don't get caught up with them?? I wish I had an answer.

I try to do all of the right things by chatting over time and ensuring they are photo verified and have good verifications, yet it still happens.

Meanwhile... I'll just keep trying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can still report but you may find they report you as well. Personally its pointless though you are well rid people like that are not worth dwelling over so block and forget.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

It's happened to me in the past, I find most of them that do that are dreamers who enjoy the fantasy but bottle it when the time comes

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Its a shitty thing to do,We were catfished in the early days & later have had one no show but as others have said arrange to meet in a club as you have other options to still enjoy your evening.

We still don't understand the many negative responses to Kik though. Everyone seems to complain the only ones on it are fakes & pic hunters but since it added video chat it has for use become the safest way or outing fakes & tbh those that take a "Ahem" very g9d photo. No numbers need to be exchanged, no private details.

So use it to confirm your talking to who you think you are talking to & then go from there.

Obviously if someone has many veris chances are they'll show but its still no guarantee on here they are who they say they are especially if they are old veris on couples profiles.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would the site take any action? It makes no sense for them to, they'd loose potential revenue.

You have to remember that you are responsible for making your arrangements and potentially being stood up and out of pocket for hotel or travel costs, etc., that's the unfortunate truth.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As I think others have stated, people who block you can still be reported for any reason. This stops them doing hit and run attacks, blocking so they'd pay no cost for wrongdoings.

All inappropriate behaviour is right to be reported, even if uncertain - you can let admin know your uncertainty. The site depends on us all for free observation and feedback, to supplement the site tools fab has.

It's despicable what they've done op - it's unjustified, except perhaps for the personal tragic circumstances but even then, a message as well as a block would ideally be sent.

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