FabSwingers.com forum: Recognizing the fake profiles!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After after more than one bad experience,we need help! What are the red flags that make you think a profile isn't what it say it is.we ask because we are clearly awful at seeing them and it seems to be getting worse. X

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

Couples and single females profiles that have been on months without a verification

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By *arkndirtyMan
over a year ago

sale

Recently created profiles but the person has been around before. Know some really bad meets and because no one will give them a positive verification or block them they create new profile. They are as bad as fakes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Recently created profiles but the person has been around before. Know some really bad meets and because no one will give them a positive verification or block them they create new profile. They are as bad as fakes. "

Oh ok see we would have never thought of that! Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

These are both really good tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it’s the;

Not photo verified

Been on for 6months - 1 year + and no verifications (I get some people choose to hid their summary)

Contact picture requesting especially when requesting pretty specific pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us it’s the;

Not photo verified

Been on for 6months - 1 year + and no verifications (I get some people choose to hid their summary)

Contact picture requesting especially when requesting pretty specific pictures "

Constant * not contact sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For us it’s the;

Not photo verified

Been on for 6months - 1 year + and no verifications (I get some people choose to hid their summary)

Contact picture requesting especially when requesting pretty specific pictures

Yea we have gotten a lot more carful about that type of thing because of just that.its such a shame because it ruins it for everyone else! X

Constant * not contact sorry "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If by fake you mean the person isn't who they claim to be the only sure way to find out is to meet them for a drink.

If they have pictures run them through a reverse image search. People do have photos on other sites so it doesn't always mean they're fake but if it matches models from South America it's usually a good sign.

Wanting to meet you without exchanging photos.

Moving straight to sex chat.

Asking to immediately move to another communication method.

These are all signs that a profile is fake but not always.

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By *nsure2018Couple
over a year ago

BASINGSTOKE

Not all profiles with no verifications are fake

Our profile is photo verified only and doesn't have any other verifications as we haven't found what we are looking for yet ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess we have just been unlucky! We have become a lot more doubting of people and it's not really why we wanted to get into it! We wanted to make friends in the lifestyle and it seems we end up upset because of it.we are gonna keep trying but it is starting to get to us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not all profiles with no verifications are fake

Our profile is photo verified only and doesn't have any other verifications as we haven't found what we are looking for yet ...."

I get that completely and with us it’s on a case by case basis.

We totally understand that we were once unverified and our first meet was with another new unverified couple so definitely not all equal fake.

I think with us, we are just extra cautious with non verified. We don’t rule them out

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

The red flags for us are as follows.

No veries, excusable if they have only just joined, but otherwise a big no-no from us.

Pictures of only the male half, or no pics of them together, always check all pics with some version of reverse image search i.e. Tineye or similar.

Female half always unavailable to chat to on cam or on the phone.

Going straight to "fantasy" or overtly sexual chat when messaging.

Poorly written bio, with a general "feel" of being written by a male only.

Only online late at night, and rarely on weekends.

Requesting pictures, usually of a sexual nature.

Overly keen to move chat to some other platform (Kik, Skype etc).

Not all the above are definite indicators, but the more they tick off, the more likely they are to be fake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So much of what people are saying makes sense.i just hate that we have to jump though so many hoops to have a fun time.you guys are awesome and we are very thankful for the advice x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I guess we have just been unlucky! We have become a lot more doubting of people and it's not really why we wanted to get into it! We wanted to make friends in the lifestyle and it seems we end up upset because of it.we are gonna keep trying but it is starting to get to us x"

I think a lot of people come to swinging expecting to find a group of open, inclusive and honest people. Sadly it isn't always like that and you need to be a little worldly and dare I say it cynical.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"So much of what people are saying makes sense.i just hate that we have to jump though so many hoops to have a fun time.you guys are awesome and we are very thankful for the advice x"

When we joined 10 years ago, it was more "underground", and less like a hook-up site.

Since then guys have found it, and it's now become somewhere that they go looking for free sex, and a lot will say, and do, anything to get it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes exactly cynical is the word! Lol but that's just part of it unfortunately.it shouldn't be that way but it is and I can see why people get frustrated.we are just lucky we have found some amazing people that we can call friends helping us lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To us everyone is a fake or timewaster until we meet them at a social.

I ask for a selfie if I’m dubious with a paper or driving license in it,takes 30 secs to do but most can’t so they move on!!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are trying to organise a social now for that very reason.we feel pushy asking people to jump through hoops for us lol.but your right it take 30 seconds and that way you can be sure.we usually ask for a web chat after a little while before anything gets to heavy and that helps x

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I don’t think I’m photo verified

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"I don’t think I’m photo verified "

Neither are we, its too easily faked to be a reliable way to sort the wheat from the chaff.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

If people have plenty of verifications and by different people unlikely to be fake

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

If they have “elephant” in their profile.

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By *arkndirtyMan
over a year ago

sale

I also think it is really useful to cultivate friendships and conversations with people - not just sex based but to swap notes. It can also add to the safety of the more vulnerable people on here. If we highlight where we have had serious doubts about people then it can only be a good thing. Obviously you report where the are significant issues but as I say earlier people just create new profiles. Admin do not like naming and shaming which is understandable as we don't want lynch mobs but local networks are good things.

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By *arkndirtyMan
over a year ago

sale

Other 'red flags' to watch out for are obvious lies like saying they are muscular when clearly they would would struggle to get off their sofa or not able to share pics because they are awaiting admin approval when they joined days ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just want to say thank you to everyone comments. We have gone through them and took it all on board. We will keep our chin up and just be more cynical in future.we will definitely be using some of this mentioned in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a profile hasn’t got any verifications after a month they are either fake or dreamers, bi girl only chasers or fantasists. In all cases best to move on. We’ve always lived by that rule and it’s never let us down

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"The red flags for us are as follows.

No veries, excusable if they have only just joined, but otherwise a big no-no from us.

Pictures of only the male half, or no pics of them together, always check all pics with some version of reverse image search i.e. Tineye or similar.

Female half always unavailable to chat to on cam or on the phone.

Going straight to "fantasy" or overtly sexual chat when messaging.

Poorly written bio, with a general "feel" of being written by a male only.

Only online late at night, and rarely on weekends.

Requesting pictures, usually of a sexual nature.

Overly keen to move chat to some other platform (Kik, Skype etc).

Not all the above are definite indicators, but the more they tick off, the more likely they are to be fake.

One for us is the single female with pictures obviously taken by another party. So who? Just as likely to be the boyfriend/husband or ex partner using old pics taken in "fun" rather than the woman herself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a profile hasn’t got any verifications after a month they are either fake or dreamers, bi girl only chasers or fantasists. In all cases best to move on. We’ve always lived by that rule and it’s never let us down"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would disagree with this, I joined in March, but didn’t get my first veri until June, I was just getting used to it all before that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would disagree with this, I joined in March, but didn’t get my first veri until June, I was just getting used to it all before that. "

You are right the odd one slips past this system but we’d rather some we misdiagnosed rather than waste our time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got my first veri fairly quickly. The idea that had it taken longer i would definitely have been a fake profile feels a little insulting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally the ones that are too good to be true are fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got my first veri fairly quickly. The idea that had it taken longer i would definitely have been a fake profile feels a little insulting. "

It doesn’t say that in the text you’ve quoted it says we just avoid unverified for a NUMBER of reasons not just because we think they are fake and the reality is we get enough interest not to warrant spending any time on anyone we have the slightest doubt about, that was the point, so stop feeling insulted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would disagree with this, I joined in March, but didn’t get my first veri until June, I was just getting used to it all before that.

You are right the odd one slips past this system but we’d rather some we misdiagnosed rather than waste our time"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got my first veri fairly quickly. The idea that had it taken longer i would definitely have been a fake profile feels a little insulting. "

To be fair I'd say 2 maybe 3 months as opposed to just a month thinking about it.

If they have been here for 3 months+ and haven't been verified by then it's a no go for us now. Even single guys if they are serious could have attended a club by then.

It's been let down to many times now that has made us implement this and it's definitely cut down on the no show / time wasters to be fair.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all are like that

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By *r Nice Guy 1Man
over a year ago

manchester

As a single guy on this site, I'm sure to get " photo verified" may assist me in being believable. However I firmly believe that getting to clubs/socials and chatting to people is the only genuine way to be verifiable... just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy on this site, I'm sure to get " photo verified" may assist me in being believable. However I firmly believe that getting to clubs/socials and chatting to people is the only genuine way to be verifiable... just my opinion. "

You've hit the nail on the head!

Most club owners / staff will be more that happy to give you your first verification and you will get a few more off members no problem that night x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After after more than one bad experience,we need help! What are the red flags that make you think a profile isn't what it say it is.we ask because we are clearly awful at seeing them and it seems to be getting worse. X"

Spend a long time getting to know people online before meeting. Fakers will not want to do that. Ask for a video chat such as Skype or Kik. Fakers wil not want to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Normally the ones that are too good to be true are fake"

Nail on head.

You'll see a lot of brand new accounts with non sexual face pics of pretty girls in their 20s that look like they could be facebook profiles...cos that's where they have been nicked from!!! Usually with overtly sexual updates looking for guys to contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard it profiles being fake even though they have lots of verifications.

I don't know how they do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've heard it profiles being fake even though they have lots of verifications.

I don't know how they do it. "

Dead easy. Single guy gets verified. Opens a couples account and a female account. Verifies each of them then in turn verify each other.

Voila. 3 veris.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Pics that don't stack up, as they're distinct from usual profiles - though could be copied.

A slant on a couples profile that hints it's a man, not a woman contributing.

A reluctance to engage on your terms.

Eagerness to meet without full communication.

Pics that appear elsewhere or are like models. Extremely long cocks can be a giveaway

Dislike a phone chat

Individual aspects of these may be fine but if several arise, I'd be more wary.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I've heard it profiles being fake even though they have lots of verifications.

I don't know how they do it.

Dead easy. Single guy gets verified. Opens a couples account and a female account. Verifies each of them then in turn verify each other.

Voila. 3 veris. "

I'd not realised that was happening but it's possibly because I may be good all spotting many of them in other ways. Admin would take action against them too - so report any that you find.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Why don't we post a thread that tells the fakes the signs we look out for so they can avoid them.

Wait!

We just did (again)

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

"Normally the ones that are too good to be true are fake"

Definitely

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I am a genuine single female. I have pictures taken by others on my profile. I have friends with benefits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just yesterday I had 3 different guys message all with the wrong ages..clearly after sending their pictures and me questioning them they admitted they were older...alot older!!

Why?? You can obviously see they were lying so why I just dont get.

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By *oungAndFreeOnesCouple
over a year ago

Telford

From our limited experience:

1. No profile photo (it's not hard to make a profile image where faces cant be seen)

2. Requesting a face photo from them and they demand we switch to KIK (WE NEVER use kik now apart from if we have already met)

3. After chatting and friends requests have been accepted:

They only have body shots in their friends only pictures and deffo no face pics

4. A handle which is a string of words like:

Applehorny88

(As an example and is NOT an actual handle)

5. Their profile information after over a week of being on here is:

"..." or "fill in later"

6.No veris since being on here (often over a year)

I think I got the main ones...

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By *ida8780Couple
over a year ago

any town

Profiles showing as joined for example 5 months ago with the “will fill in later” description. Takes minutes to write down what you want/looking for. If you can’t be arsed to tell us then why should we bother with you.

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By *r_BigHeadMan
over a year ago

The Naughty Step (aka Northampton)

Fake profiles are always harder to spot when you're all worked up and horny. In the cold light of day there is usually a voice in the back of your head telling you that something isn't quite right even if you can't put your finger on it (a gut instinct).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask lots of leading.. open ended questions about themselves. Remember the answers and watch them fall apart.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I am always suspicious of couples 6 months plus and no meets the same with single females as if they are serious or genuine they should have had at least 1 meet in that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples and single females profiles that have been on months without a verification"
that means nothing,we took a year off from swinging and closed our last account down.so it's took us months to get a veri lol

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By *Cocksucker84Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Biggest one for me is requesting pictures when a blank profile and not verified either by photo or meet. If you're unwilling to send or upload your own pictures why ask? Then they'll use the excuse of their job. Load of shit. Also watch out for users with multiple profiles using copy and paste messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Biggest one for me is requesting pictures when a blank profile and not verified either by photo or meet. If you're unwilling to send or upload your own pictures why ask? Then they'll use the excuse of their job. Load of shit. Also watch out for users with multiple profiles using copy and paste messages. "
I hate those copy and paste messages

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By *Cocksucker84Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Yep. So lazy and lacking any thought. I'd rather get a 'hey you alright' basic first message but they do act as good indicators of fakes when they're explicit and written as an essay.

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By *Cocksucker84Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Another one is using photos of porn actors. I had a guy using photos of Max Deeds messaging me. Luckily I follow him on snapchat. Lucky escape because had I not known I'd have been well up for that meet. Let the lad talk shit for a while then asked him when his next porn film was out. Instant deletion of profile.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I am a genuine single female. I have pictures taken by others on my profile. I have friends with benefits.

You missed the point I think, You have veris so logic would assume one of those took the pics so no bother. Your early pics look like you took them yourself? Maybe pre any meets? so the sort of pics you would expect.

I know its an assumption but we'd rather miss out on one hottie than talk to five or more fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

We usually don't bother with anyone online anymore. It's generally only people we meet at Clubs or organised socials that we bother with. FAB is generally used to keep up to date with club events, socials and to keep in touch with people we've met before.

The way profiles are written is a big clue as are photos, reverse image searches work well but other things that are easy to spot are the weirdly changing tattoos (although we do have some that were taken before some tattoos, so look at the order of posting), piercings, distinct marks or features that change between pictures. We once questioned a guy why he was driving a left hand drive car on the wrong side of the road (for the UK) and where his neck tattoo had gone...

People that obviously haven't read your profile or looked at your preferences are also a no go for us, doesn't necessarily scream fake but doesn't say much about the effort they would be likely to put into a meet.

We weren't photo verified for a long time as we don't believe it is much use if not compulsory for everyone, yes there are ways to fake it but that takes an amount of effort that most chancers won't put in.

Verifications are the other thing we would go by. Everyone starts somewhere so can't all have verifications early on, but it is a good indicator as to being genuine. Watch out for a string of overly complimentary ones about sexual performance as these could well be self written with other profile names, check out the profile of those that wrote them for similar time on site, hidden profile, etc.

Probably loads more but gut feel and experience is likely the most important factor.

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

Contact that Catfish programme if you’re suspicious - those guys will sort it out for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gut feeling tells you , I saw a profile on here tonight a couple with over 40 photos oddly not one of them together and he meets on he's own ?? Why would you post photos of he's wife if he meets on he's own

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Contact that Catfish programme if you’re suspicious - those guys will sort it out for you "

Could never work out if I was happy or annoyed on the rare occasion they got together.. think twice I saw that happen. Funny old show that

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Contact that Catfish programme if you’re suspicious - those guys will sort it out for you

Could never work out if I was happy or annoyed on the rare occasion they got together.. think twice I saw that happen. Funny old show that "

I know what you mean - it feels wrong somehow when there’s a happy ending

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"For us it’s the;

Not photo verified

Been on for 6months - 1 year + and no verifications (I get some people choose to hid their summary)

Contact picture requesting especially when requesting pretty specific pictures "

As a single bloke, it took 2 years to get a verification! But I get what you mean.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

you can google fake /scammer pics

see if you see them

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am a genuine single female. I have pictures taken by others on my profile. I have friends with benefits.

I have lots on my profile which were taken by my partner. I am definitely a genuine woman.

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