FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Support and Advice

Is my profile really that bad

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi Forumites

I would like a little feed back on my profile please

I’ve been on for a few months but not really had a bite

Help would be great I am beginning to think it’s an age thing as I’m 50 and I see a lot of ladies look for under 40s I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on

Thanks for your time

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a dick pic for your first picture.. enough said!!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 21/08/19 07:17:39]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a dick pic for your first picture.. enough said!!!"

I have changed that thanks for the reply

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK

You’re photos aren’t great - the body shot isn’t bad but it’s not particularly good either. The dick pic should be put as friends only if you really just keep it. We all know what they look like.

You mention that most want people under 40... what age range are you looking at yourself? The general consensus is actually that younger blokes have it tougher in that respect, unless you are looking at women and couples significantly younger than yourself? Why not focus on those you do match up with... use the filters on the search function so you only bring up people where you match their age range too.

Good luck!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is plenty of advice on forum, there are some links on my profile. But I can give you a few pointers:

1) you have 1 photo of yourself, need more variety

2) are you seriously prepared to meet a 99 year old? What could you offer them?

3) your profile is very hard to read, a bit more punctuation wouldn't go amiss. Also, have a read of it yourself a couple of times - is it appealing? Would you reply to a message from a profile like that?

4) not many people are into men wearing high heels, that certainly narrows your potential replies. But if that's what turns you on, wearing heels to a meet, stick to it.

Good luck.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not bad. But it’s not good. It’s just bland. In blends in with the other 100,000 generic bloke profiles. What are the messages like that you are sending? Guys like to think they are putting effort in, but I bet it’s all something we have all seen a thousand times before.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

One pic only, no veris (you say swingers clubs so surely your social and chat) at 50 an 18yr old feels wrong upto 99 just desperate Bio shows no personality

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton


"There is plenty of advice on forum, there are some links on my profile. But I can give you a few pointers:

1) you have 1 photo of yourself, need more variety

2) are you seriously prepared to meet a 99 year old? What could you offer them?

3) your profile is very hard to read, a bit more punctuation wouldn't go amiss. Also, have a read of it yourself a couple of times - is it appealing? Would you reply to a message from a profile like that?

4) not many people are into men wearing high heels, that certainly narrows your potential replies. But if that's what turns you on, wearing heels to a meet, stick to it.

Good luck. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hi Forumites

I would like a little feed back on my profile please

I’ve been on for a few months but not really had a bite

Help would be great I am beginning to think it’s an age thing as I’m 50 and I see a lot of ladies look for under 40s I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on

Thanks for your time "

Better than some but having lots of TV's in your friends list yet saying straight on your profile is conflicting and may confuse people. More photos will help too.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Hi Forumites

I would like a little feed back on my profile please

I’ve been on for a few months but not really had a bite

Help would be great I am beginning to think it’s an age thing as I’m 50 and I see a lot of ladies look for under 40s I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on

Thanks for your time

Better than some but having lots of TV's in your friends list yet saying straight on your profile is conflicting and may confuse people. More photos will help too. "

How can you tell who is on someone’s friend’s list? Mr.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hi Forumites

I would like a little feed back on my profile please

I’ve been on for a few months but not really had a bite

Help would be great I am beginning to think it’s an age thing as I’m 50 and I see a lot of ladies look for under 40s I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on

Thanks for your time

Better than some but having lots of TV's in your friends list yet saying straight on your profile is conflicting and may confuse people. More photos will help too.

How can you tell who is on someone’s friend’s list? Mr. "

Yuo look at his profile! Seriously you didn't realise you can do that?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see people's friends lists on laptop but not on phone

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Hi Forumites

I would like a little feed back on my profile please

I’ve been on for a few months but not really had a bite

Help would be great I am beginning to think it’s an age thing as I’m 50 and I see a lot of ladies look for under 40s I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on

Thanks for your time

Better than some but having lots of TV's in your friends list yet saying straight on your profile is conflicting and may confuse people. More photos will help too.

How can you tell who is on someone’s friend’s list? Mr.

Yuo look at his profile! Seriously you didn't realise you can do that?"

No, hence the question I can’t see it on my phone, where is it on someone’s profile?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Hilarious

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Hilarious "

What is?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"Hi Forumites

I would like a little feed back on my profile please

I’ve been on for a few months but not really had a bite

Help would be great I am beginning to think it’s an age thing as I’m 50 and I see a lot of ladies look for under 40s I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on

Thanks for your time "

Good profile or bad profile. The truth is hardly anyone will read it anyway.

To be fair you probably need to improve your pics as that tends to be what people look at rather than reading text.

The big problem though is the last sentence of your post.

"I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on"

It seems like you think that a profile on here and sending a few messages is the golden key to getting meets. IT ISN'T.

As I've said countless times on similar threads.

A profile is just one tool in your box. It can be handy at times but it will not get the whole job done on its own.

Clubs, socials, chat Etc. Are some of the other tools that you need.

Put them all together along with your profile and you may get something out of it.

To leave and move on is just like throwing away your screwdriver because it couldn't undo a bolt.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Forumites

I would like a little feed back on my profile please

I’ve been on for a few months but not really had a bite

Help would be great I am beginning to think it’s an age thing as I’m 50 and I see a lot of ladies look for under 40s I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on

Thanks for your time

Better than some but having lots of TV's in your friends list yet saying straight on your profile is conflicting and may confuse people. More photos will help too.

How can you tell who is on someone’s friend’s list? Mr.

Yuo look at his profile! Seriously you didn't realise you can do that?

No, hence the question I can’t see it on my phone, where is it on someone’s profile? "

That function is not available on mobile site version. You have to use desktop site and friends list will only show if the user hasn't ticked the "don't show friends list" box.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I can see people's friends lists on laptop but not on phone"

Thanks for this! I’ve never accessed the site other than on my phone. A new world of fun now awaits Mr.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Hilarious

What is?"

Him having Tvs etc

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"Hi Forumites

I would like a little feed back on my profile please

I’ve been on for a few months but not really had a bite

Help would be great I am beginning to think it’s an age thing as I’m 50 and I see a lot of ladies look for under 40s I always put time into my messages but alas no luck if I’m wasting my time on here please let me know so I can leave and move on

Thanks for your time "

Folk often blame things they can't change such as age or height or whatever.. often the reason for their perceived lack of success isn't anything to do with those reasons, you don't message folk who exclude that'd be insane.. so those reasons aren't to blame.

Look closer to home Mr loads of advice threads in the archives they all say similar, you can't please everyone so please yourself your profile your choice..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all so much for your advice

I will take stock and reformulate my profile

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top