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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I want to go to my first club. But I'm nervous about going alone. My friend has done clubs on her own before and she said they're great. I just don't know what to do. Anything to ease my nerves? What do I expect? Should I arrange to meet someone there first or shall I just wander around until I get an offer I like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be interested in what people post. As a single guy i have often thought about clubs but being not overly confident about going on my jack jones ive kinda knocked it on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I want to go to my first club. But I'm nervous about going alone. My friend has done clubs on her own before and she said they're great. I just don't know what to do. Anything to ease my nerves? What do I expect? Should I arrange to meet someone there first or shall I just wander around until I get an offer I like? "
I'd wander but be sure you'll get an offer......... Is it an offer you can't refuse....... Probably not

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"So I want to go to my first club. But I'm nervous about going alone. My friend has done clubs on her own before and she said they're great. I just don't know what to do. Anything to ease my nerves? What do I expect? Should I arrange to meet someone there first or shall I just wander around until I get an offer I like? "

Be sociable,. Its a social setting with the option for friskiness if you let the staff know its your first time they'll likely look after you make an introduction or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I want to go to my first club. But I'm nervous about going alone. My friend has done clubs on her own before and she said they're great. I just don't know what to do. Anything to ease my nerves? What do I expect? Should I arrange to meet someone there first or shall I just wander around until I get an offer I like? "

Its ok but you will get a lot of attention I often go but its better earlier than later as some guys think they can take liberty's. In general though lots of nice people in most clubs and once chatting you will find they help make it a fab time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go alone. Simple

Need a clubbing companion then I am only minutes away. Yes it's a ploy but a genuine offer too.

Say hello

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

You will be innundated with offers of 'I will go with you to hold your hand'. Be very careful. If you do go with some random off here you are automatically seen as a couple by the staff and other guests. Now if the guy is a dick....well he's your dick and your problem. So best to go alone. Tell the staff it is your first time. Good clubs look after single ladies. Any issues tell the staff, but remember no means no. If you aren't interested then just firmly and politely say no thanks. If they are pushy get staff involved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a club for the first time on Sunday with my FB. I will say that I felt better being in a couple than if I was on my own. I would suggest either going with another lady or going with a gent that you trust to look after you for the evening. If you go as a single lady expect a fair amount of attention, and for a first timer I would personally find it overwhelming.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Thank you x"

And usually the randoms are only looking for 1. A cheap way into a club 2. An opportunity to play with couples as they 'have a woman'. 3. They lack the confidence to go alone. 4. They have no interest in your enjoyment, safety or fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you x

And usually the randoms are only looking for 1. A cheap way into a club 2. An opportunity to play with couples as they 'have a woman'. 3. They lack the confidence to go alone. 4. They have no interest in your enjoyment, safety or fantasies."

You're full of the best advice. Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been to a club and was looking to go this weekend - luckily for me my sister has offered to take me

Not sure how that will pan out lol

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

If you introduce yourself to the staff, they’ll almost certainly show you around: The play areas, lockers, toilets, communal bits etc. I’d use this tour to have a good look at who’s about. Don’t turn up too early, as there won’t be that many people about. You may wish to chat to other women, or a couple to begin with just to take the pressure off. Be honest about it being your first time, and they’re probably take you under their wing for a while until you find your sea legs. Above all, don’t feel pressured to do anything unless you want to, and decline any offers you don’t want with a simple “no thanks”

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

It would certainly be easier to have some one with you on your first visit. That said, and decent club will take the time to make sure you're OK.

Check out some of the clubs you like the look of and see if they have any events on. If there's a thread for the event on the forum, try chatting with people who are going so at least you have some people to talk to when you're there. Even better, have a social before hand.

You don't need to play with anyone but it's a lot easier if you have some friendly faces there.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Thank you x

And usually the randoms are only looking for 1. A cheap way into a club 2. An opportunity to play with couples as they 'have a woman'. 3. They lack the confidence to go alone. 4. They have no interest in your enjoyment, safety or fantasies.

You're full of the best advice. Thank you x"

I've been around a bit lol. Feel free to message me if you have any specific questions x

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’ve been looking at this also. Don’t think I’ve got the bottle to go alone though. X

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By *ofusandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Hi. Mr here. It can be quite intimidating at first and that's coming from a couple. A few visits soon settle your nerves. Not sure what the mrs would say but you would be welcome to to tag along with us the next time we go to xtasia. No need to worry about me as I don't play so you can have a wander around with my partner. Just a suggestion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First couple of times I went, I went with a few other women I'd been chatting to and then we went off and did our own thing when we felt comfortable, then went a couple of times on my own when I felt braver

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You do not need anyone to go with you.

It took me 5 weeks to visit my first club alone and I got cold feet twice.

I finally decided the time was right. I got ready, went to the club, deep breath, walked in, announced to staff I was alone. Had a guided tour round then sat at the bar. I got lots of attention, every one was nice and I felt at ease.

You don’t have to play if you don’t want to. My advice is the first couple of visits use it as a social until you feel at ease.

Do not play if you don’t wish to, a firm no is all you need. Any persistent hounders report to the staff.

I’m so glad I went alone. I now adore going to clubs.

Oh and refuse any offers of Fab guys on here offering to take you, it’s a way to get in cheap and they may leave you.

Be confident, liberated, happy and you’ll not go wrong.

If you want to PM me for more info please do so.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I have done a couple of clubs on my own on a regular basis and found people really friendly towards me including couples xx

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I'd love to do this but am far too chicken to go alone xx

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

Clubs are very good for single girls, the staff will show you around and help you understand the rules, (the club we use the number one rule is girls are in charge) they will also keep an eye on you and keep you safe ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm planning to go to chams this Friday. I'm hoping to chat to another woman on here so I've at least got someone to say hello to when I get in there

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By *agise3Man
over a year ago

wigan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never been to a club and was looking to go this weekend - luckily for me my sister has offered to take me

Not sure how that will pan out lol "
omg your sister, what if two brothers are at the club waiting for you?

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"I’ve never been to a club and was looking to go this weekend - luckily for me my sister has offered to take me

Not sure how that will pan out lol omg your sister, what if two brothers are at the club waiting for you? "

My girlfriend fell out with me for measuring my cock. !! .

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For the record it reaches the back of her sisters throat.

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