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Should Fantasies stay fantasies ?

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By *ystuff32 OP   Couple
over a year ago

essex

Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go

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By *hoenix Couple 666Couple
over a year ago

Dewsbury

If it isn’t against the law then why not go for it?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Definitely not unless you think they’ll hurt your relationship. I have a few I’d like to indulge in and a few I’ve managed to do

Some I fancy trying again and maybe a few not anymore but I don’t regret anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many of the ones people reveal on here probably should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely not unless you think they’ll hurt your relationship. I have a few I’d like to indulge in and a few I’ve managed to do

Some I fancy trying again and maybe a few not anymore but I don’t regret anything "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've kept mine fantasies as unless they happened in reality they would just seem fake and too contrived ... also I love fantasizing about them still lol

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

If your both happy to try why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "
their aren't too many sexy things that in reality are better in practice, keep it a fantasy

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By *hoenix Couple 666Couple
over a year ago

Dewsbury


"I've kept mine fantasies as unless they happened in reality they would just seem fake and too contrived ... also I love fantasizing about them still lol "

It’s good having things to imagine isn’t it

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Some of them yes! Especially the ones that involve men in nappies.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

go for it man you only live once ..Unless there are realperverted .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've kept mine fantasies as unless they happened in reality they would just seem fake and too contrived ... also I love fantasizing about them still lol

It’s good having things to imagine isn’t it "

Oh those daydream moments always have a smile on my face

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By *wansfeetCouple
over a year ago

Guisborough

Throw caution to the wind and try everything you Fantasise about. If it doesn’t pan out quite like imagined it, then try it again.

If you don’t try then you’ll never know

Kiki x

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

To quote Sir Thomas Beecham: "Try anything once, except inc*st and Morris dancing".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it depends on the degree of acting out. If it’s a general idea then that great I’ve been all for it. If it’s the whole scenario however, then I find that it doesn’t work so well. In my mind the right thing happens at exactly the right time when in reality timing can be off etc which tends to spoil the moment for me.

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I think Life is too short, so why not try your fantasies.

When I am 80, I would rather regret trying something, then regret never having the balls to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am interested, do the people who have commented on here or anyone who says "only live once do it" or "life's too short for regrets" live all parts of their lives with the same attitude?

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "

My fantasy is rather tame but is staying a fantasy, as I’m a creature that rarely comes out of her comfort zone and my worry would be ‘what’s next’! Mr J is far more adventurous than I am!

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Am interested, do the people who have commented on here or anyone who says "only live once do it" or "life's too short for regrets" live all parts of their lives with the same attitude? "

I think I do now as I get older. But this lifestyle only cemeted that saying into my mind after trying things that I thought I would never try. Whether that was through fear or being over optimistic. I go with the flow now and just enjoy the ride and if an opertunity exists to check things of the bucket/fantasy list I would not look back.

This is very much true in vanilla life too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines simply. Ffm or a straight Mmf but unsure I’ve the bottle to actually do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am interested, do the people who have commented on here or anyone who says "only live once do it" or "life's too short for regrets" live all parts of their lives with the same attitude?

I think I do now as I get older. But this lifestyle only cemeted that saying into my mind after trying things that I thought I would never try. Whether that was through fear or being over optimistic. I go with the flow now and just enjoy the ride and if an opertunity exists to check things of the bucket/fantasy list I would not look back.

This is very much true in vanilla life too.."

Cool it's just so many seem to be fab adventurous but not life adventurous

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

There are some fantasises that are mentally very exciting and stimulating but which you have no intention of enacting in real life. These should stay fantasies that are perfect in your mind whereas acting them out in real life will be a let down.

Then there are fantasies which you are curious of experiencing. Having a threesome or going to a sex club started out that way for me. I'm glad I did as I enjoyed them so much that they are part of my sex life and no longer a fantasy. On the other hand, some fantasies turned out to be disappointing but at least I know I've tried them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some fantasises that are mentally very exciting and stimulating but which you have no intention of enacting in real life. These should stay fantasies that are perfect in your mind whereas acting them out in real life will be a let down.

Then there are fantasies which you are curious of experiencing. Having a threesome or going to a sex club started out that way for me. I'm glad I did as I enjoyed them so much that they are part of my sex life and no longer a fantasy. On the other hand, some fantasies turned out to be disappointing but at least I know I've tried them out."

I think that's about right and common sense should be observed.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

A fantasy isn't reality so we like to think of it as something that we want to do....and if we want to do it, we do it.

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By *orth South DivideCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

As you are couple you also need to check these are joint fantasies. Nothing worse than when one is clearly getting there's played out while the partner is not on the same page. N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "

Go for it. We did. Talked about lots of things for a while. We know what we want and don’t. So far so good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "

As you have said you are only here once. Try your fantasies. If you like it do it again. If you don't like it at least you tried it. Don't have regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am interested, do the people who have commented on here or anyone who says "only live once do it" or "life's too short for regrets" live all parts of their lives with the same attitude? "

Yes. I don't want to die with any regrets.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "

Depends on the fantasy, some are quite good to live out and sometimes fun.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Done all of mine and very happy I have done. For me I would rather regret doing it than regret not doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really depends on what they are. Were finding that were checking ours off pretty quickly without trying to

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go their aren't too many sexy things that in reality are better in practice, keep it a fantasy "

Can't agree with that, some are far better than the fantasy version, some a total turn off when you try them.

If you can both go into it with the attitude that you are going to try it, if it doesn't work you'll just forget it and move on, then fine. Go for it.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

If you see single then go for it can be the attitude. If you are in a partnership, then go for it maybe potentially pushing someone beyond their comfort zone.

Seen a few people in a club trying their fantasy, when actually it was his.

Also not all fantasies are doable or advisable.

We get quite filthy between the sheets, but there is no way for a one off fantasy fulfilment, we would risk our health or safety.

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By *hangerMan
over a year ago

brighton

It depends on what the fantasies are, as some may be impossible or maybe unwise, but others quite achievable. However always be prepared that reality may not live up to the fantasy.

I have been lucky and have experienced most of my fantasies and have loved them!

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Wish I had the opportunity to make my fantasies realty I would be very happy lol

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