FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Support and Advice

Verification - vicious circle

Jump to newest
 

By *ime4action OP   Man
over a year ago

Ripley

Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

This is simply not true there are people out there that will meet unverified people.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've met none verified people x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Being unverified doesn't prevent you meeting but does make it harder.

I would suggest that you go to a social or a club. If you are friendly and chatty I'm sure you will find someone willing to verify you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks."

It's just a nice way of say get lost... sorry pal but it the truth.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks.

It's just a nice way of say get lost... sorry pal but it the truth.

"

What a load of dribble

You'll get verified soon I'm sure mate, like your man said....get to a social etc. I don't dabble with socials but I'm sure it will help you in some way!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also met unverified people

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that all you need to get meets is a verification. It's not some sort of key. Networking is much the fastest way to get meets, get to socials and clubs, get out there and get known

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 19/08/19 04:37:46]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to be verified to get meets plenty will meet if you're worthy of a meet, the socials probably are an option but tend to be cliquey, I've been to a few on other sites. cam is maybe your best choice if you feel it's important go in the cam room section and ask there

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks."

Camming is no longer an option for single men (check out FAQ).

From a personal perspective I won't meet someone without verifications only if they've been on the site for over a year and still not verified. Set's all kinds of alarms ringing for me. Up to that point it's all about the person and lack of veris wouldn't stop me from meeting.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eavenlyWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Plenty meet without a verification, if someone won't meet you because of no veri then message someone who will.

Also a verification isn't some golden key to endless meets, you still need to be someone the other person wants to meet, veri or not.

I choose not to be verified & still meet.

I still get the occasional message asking to meet me but when they start to talk about me verifying them & I say I can't (because of not being verified myself) they don't want to meet!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks."

If you wish to be verfied.

Site Photo verification is pretty good starting point.

Chatrooms with camera, ask nicely if someone will verify you.

FAB socials are common. Book into a local event and network.

Swingers clubs. Can be a lityle expensive, but oportunity to network and socialise.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks."

Even verified people struggle so don't think one is a magic cure a well worded message and a good profile can be more effective than what some stranger says about someone in a verification.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks.

Camming is no longer an option for single men (check out FAQ).

From a personal perspective I won't meet someone without verifications only if they've been on the site for over a year and still not verified. Set's all kinds of alarms ringing for me. Up to that point it's all about the person and lack of veris wouldn't stop me from meeting."

Camming IS an option for single men. It hasn't been updated in that section. I've cam verified plenty of single guys.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks.

Camming is no longer an option for single men (check out FAQ).

From a personal perspective I won't meet someone without verifications only if they've been on the site for over a year and still not verified. Set's all kinds of alarms ringing for me. Up to that point it's all about the person and lack of veris wouldn't stop me from meeting.

Camming IS an option for single men. It hasn't been updated in that section. I've cam verified plenty of single guys. "

Camming used to be an option but according to FAQ (below) it no longer is for single men.

"How do I get verified by other members?

You need to find someone who is already verified and ask them to verify you. If you are a couple or a woman then you can get verified by webcam. An easy way to do this is to go into the chatroom while you are both there, switch your webcam on and ask someone to verify you. If you are a single guy then you need to meet someone."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks.

Camming is no longer an option for single men (check out FAQ).

From a personal perspective I won't meet someone without verifications only if they've been on the site for over a year and still not verified. Set's all kinds of alarms ringing for me. Up to that point it's all about the person and lack of veris wouldn't stop me from meeting.

Camming IS an option for single men. It hasn't been updated in that section. I've cam verified plenty of single guys.

Camming used to be an option but according to FAQ (below) it no longer is for single men.

"How do I get verified by other members?

You need to find someone who is already verified and ask them to verify you. If you are a couple or a woman then you can get verified by webcam. An easy way to do this is to go into the chatroom while you are both there, switch your webcam on and ask someone to verify you. If you are a single guy then you need to meet someone.""

Unless you're saying that FAQ hasn't been updated?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.

I have also cam verified single men very recently so how odd that it says you cant

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

As a rule I prefer to meet people with verifications x but even that is no guarantee of a time waster or a no show x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.

Op get to a social event and I'm sure you will get verified at least once from it, but like people have said being verified isn't a magic guarantee to sex meets

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks.

Camming is no longer an option for single men (check out FAQ).

From a personal perspective I won't meet someone without verifications only if they've been on the site for over a year and still not verified. Set's all kinds of alarms ringing for me. Up to that point it's all about the person and lack of veris wouldn't stop me from meeting.

Camming IS an option for single men. It hasn't been updated in that section. I've cam verified plenty of single guys.

Camming used to be an option but according to FAQ (below) it no longer is for single men.

"How do I get verified by other members?

You need to find someone who is already verified and ask them to verify you. If you are a couple or a woman then you can get verified by webcam. An easy way to do this is to go into the chatroom while you are both there, switch your webcam on and ask someone to verify you. If you are a single guy then you need to meet someone.""

Like I've just said, this section hasn't been updated to reflect the changes.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks.

Camming is no longer an option for single men (check out FAQ).

From a personal perspective I won't meet someone without verifications only if they've been on the site for over a year and still not verified. Set's all kinds of alarms ringing for me. Up to that point it's all about the person and lack of veris wouldn't stop me from meeting.

Camming IS an option for single men. It hasn't been updated in that section. I've cam verified plenty of single guys.

Camming used to be an option but according to FAQ (below) it no longer is for single men.

"How do I get verified by other members?

You need to find someone who is already verified and ask them to verify you. If you are a couple or a woman then you can get verified by webcam. An easy way to do this is to go into the chatroom while you are both there, switch your webcam on and ask someone to verify you. If you are a single guy then you need to meet someone."

Unless you're saying that FAQ hasn't been updated?"

Exactly what I said in a couple of previous posts.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met unverified guys, and usually verify them, for which they are grateful.

Just keep going. Be you, be polite, be enthusiastic.

Good luck.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Being unverified doesn't prevent you meeting but does make it harder.

I would suggest that you go to a social or a club. If you are friendly and chatty I'm sure you will find someone willing to verify you."

This exactly. But it's not just recommended to get a very and then think you'll get lots of meets on here. Clubs, socials etc is the lifestyle for us, made so many awesome friends

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless you're saying that FAQ hasn't been updated?

Exactly what I said in a couple of previous posts. "

Thanks. From now on won't be referring anyone to that section anymore

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Unless you're saying that FAQ hasn't been updated?

Exactly what I said in a couple of previous posts.

Thanks. From now on won't be referring anyone to that section anymore "

No problem, think it's o ly that bit, though have to agree that better for guys to go to socials etc. Cams are fine if they have met someone else unverified as it starts the ball rolling.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can take a single guy 6 months to get a meet.

If it's a poor profile it could take years.

As has been said get to an organised social. Personally a cam verification on confirms you exsist.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Verifications are not the answer to everything its sad so many think they are.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are not the answer to everything its sad so many think they are. "

It is made worse by many profiles, stating boldly in caps, and repeatedly, that they will only meet verified people...not cam, nor pic verified, but, meeting verified.

That, in my opinion, adds, pressure to single guys, to get verified.

A few profiles we have seen, have also stated that verifications must come from certain groups, and not club/social.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Verifications are not the answer to everything its sad so many think they are.

It is made worse by many profiles, stating boldly in caps, and repeatedly, that they will only meet verified people...not cam, nor pic verified, but, meeting verified.

That, in my opinion, adds, pressure to single guys, to get verified.

A few profiles we have seen, have also stated that verifications must come from certain groups, and not club/social."

Certain groups??

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are not the answer to everything its sad so many think they are.

It is made worse by many profiles, stating boldly in caps, and repeatedly, that they will only meet verified people...not cam, nor pic verified, but, meeting verified.

That, in my opinion, adds, pressure to single guys, to get verified.

A few profiles we have seen, have also stated that verifications must come from certain groups, and not club/social.

Certain groups?? "

Certain 'sexual preference' groups, or, those of similar interests...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Verifications are not the answer to everything its sad so many think they are.

It is made worse by many profiles, stating boldly in caps, and repeatedly, that they will only meet verified people...not cam, nor pic verified, but, meeting verified.

That, in my opinion, adds, pressure to single guys, to get verified.

A few profiles we have seen, have also stated that verifications must come from certain groups, and not club/social.

Certain groups??

Certain 'sexual preference' groups, or, those of similar interests..."

Oh right, have encountered that as yet.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are not the answer to everything its sad so many think they are.

It is made worse by many profiles, stating boldly in caps, and repeatedly, that they will only meet verified people...not cam, nor pic verified, but, meeting verified.

That, in my opinion, adds, pressure to single guys, to get verified.

A few profiles we have seen, have also stated that verifications must come from certain groups, and not club/social.

Certain groups??

Certain 'sexual preference' groups, or, those of similar interests...

Oh right, have encountered that as yet. "

We have seen a few profiles, whereby it states something along the lines of:-

"Only meet guys who have been verified over 10 times" or

"Only meeting guys who have been verified by bisexual/gay guys", that sort of thing.

Limits their choices, but, their preference, we understand.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a few weeks now. It seems people won't meet unless you're verified and you can't get verified without meeting a verified person. Can anyone give a solution or help out. Camming is an option also but no takers yet. Thanks."

Club visit is a great way to meet people so they can see you're genuine

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are not the answer to everything its sad so many think they are.

It is made worse by many profiles, stating boldly in caps, and repeatedly, that they will only meet verified people...not cam, nor pic verified, but, meeting verified.

That, in my opinion, adds, pressure to single guys, to get verified.

A few profiles we have seen, have also stated that verifications must come from certain groups, and not club/social.

Certain groups??

Certain 'sexual preference' groups, or, those of similar interests...

Oh right, have encountered that as yet.

We have seen a few profiles, whereby it states something along the lines of:-

"Only meet guys who have been verified over 10 times" or

"Only meeting guys who have been verified by bisexual/gay guys", that sort of thing.

Limits their choices, but, their preference, we understand."

Exceptional males only . That's a good one.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ime4action OP   Man
over a year ago

Ripley

Thanks for all the advice. Appreciated.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy "

Yes, easier for us ladies lol.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

I sympathise with you so be prepared to chat and send full facial pics that should help.If people do that I sometimes meet unverified people but do not make it easy for them.You have to work at it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ftofJoyWoman
over a year ago

Harpenden

I had a very frustrating day getting verified a month back.

In the end I just popped myself on the chatroom and switched on my cam. Had fun and got the job done

Hope you get veried soon all the best x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Yes, easier for us ladies lol. "

Anyone can go to a social though?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Yes, easier for us ladies lol.

Anyone can go to a social though? "

That's not true. At a couple of the Bradford socials I organised. A few singles and couples got to the venue and turned away. Some we met in the car park and waked in with them

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Yes, easier for us ladies lol.

Anyone can go to a social though? "

No, a lot of socials exclude single men completely and require genuine couples and single females. Some don't want FWB or FB either. This is why I'm planning a singles only social in October.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Yes, easier for us ladies lol.

Anyone can go to a social though?

No, a lot of socials exclude single men completely and require genuine couples and single females. Some don't want FWB or FB either. This is why I'm planning a singles only social in October. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Yes, easier for us ladies lol.

Anyone can go to a social though?

No, a lot of socials exclude single men completely and require genuine couples and single females. Some don't want FWB or FB either. This is why I'm planning a singles only social in October. "

None of the local social exclude single men. But most limit there numbers. Too many men is not good for the couples and ladies or more so for the men themselvesx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Yes, easier for us ladies lol.

Anyone can go to a social though?

No, a lot of socials exclude single men completely and require genuine couples and single females. Some don't want FWB or FB either. This is why I'm planning a singles only social in October.

"

Can't have all the couples monopolising all of us single ladies, can we lol?!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Yes, easier for us ladies lol.

Anyone can go to a social though?

No, a lot of socials exclude single men completely and require genuine couples and single females. Some don't want FWB or FB either. This is why I'm planning a singles only social in October. "

Then I apologise, I’ve only see ones around here that allow allow single men, limited numbers maybe but they are allowed

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat. I put my name down for a social with the hope of getting verified and was told by the organiser that I had to get verified before I can come to the social.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got verified by going to socials, then I met a non verified person with no probs and verified her?

It’s easy

Yes, easier for us ladies lol.

Anyone can go to a social though?

No, a lot of socials exclude single men completely and require genuine couples and single females. Some don't want FWB or FB either. This is why I'm planning a singles only social in October.

Then I apologise, I’ve only see ones around here that allow allow single men, limited numbers maybe but they are allowed

"

I know Heathrow social allows single men to attend

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top