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" Any advice will be appreciated xxx" I'd keep it to myself...for now at least | |||
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"I have recently re-aquainted with a childhood crush. It has come about that he also had a crush but neither of us acted on it. We have met for a few coffee dates and are meeting again soon for an actual date as we've both realised there are feelings still lingering. Now I obviously don't know if anything more will happen but my fab life is playing on my mind. I know for sure he is not a swinger but do I admit to it? If I dont I'll feel like a liar which I dont want to be but if I do he may run... Any advice will be appreciated xxx" don't mention past most guys not all wouldn't want to know and theirs only one world and one life you're living it, don't feel guilty about what you do but don't share what you don't need to | |||
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"I'd give it up for the right guy but I'd miss it, just dont want to lie to him but also dont want to put a spanner in the works if something develops. It's a tough one xx" I dont think it really is a tough one... if you start a new relationship just stop swinging until you discuss it with your new partner. Just see how your new relationship develops. Swinging Will always be there for you to get back into if you need it with your new partner included or without him if the relationship doesn't work out | |||
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"I'd be honest about the past, if you want a future. " Succinct, to the point and very good advice | |||
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"I'd give it up for the right guy but I'd miss it, just dont want to lie to him but also dont want to put a spanner in the works if something develops. It's a tough one xx" How honest do you hope he will be with you? | |||
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"I'd give it up for the right guy but I'd miss it, just dont want to lie to him but also dont want to put a spanner in the works if something develops. It's a tough one xx I dont think it really is a tough one... if you start a new relationship just stop swinging until you discuss it with your new partner. Just see how your new relationship develops. Swinging Will always be there for you to get back into if you need it with your new partner included or without him if the relationship doesn't work out" Exactly this..... | |||
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"I told a potential new female partner and she walked off calling me all sorts of names!! Pervert seemed to used a lot I think, if it’s a female introducing a male, he’d probably be more open to it than a female. Let’s be honest most males would consider this heaven! A partner that swings, happy for him to swing but goes home or back to him after!! Bliss.." I'm not convinced he would be that way but I guess time will tell xx | |||
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"I have recently re-aquainted with a childhood crush. It has come about that he also had a crush but neither of us acted on it. We have met for a few coffee dates and are meeting again soon for an actual date as we've both realised there are feelings still lingering. Now I obviously don't know if anything more will happen but my fab life is playing on my mind. I know for sure he is not a swinger but do I admit to it? If I dont I'll feel like a liar which I dont want to be but if I do he may run... Any advice will be appreciated xxx" Hide your profile for starters and just because you don't open your past doesn't make you a liar I am sure you are not going to ask about his past in detail so if he asks about certain things just say you would rather not discuss it. | |||
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"I have recently re-aquainted with a childhood crush. It has come about that he also had a crush but neither of us acted on it. We have met for a few coffee dates and are meeting again soon for an actual date as we've both realised there are feelings still lingering. Now I obviously don't know if anything more will happen but my fab life is playing on my mind. I know for sure he is not a swinger but do I admit to it? If I dont I'll feel like a liar which I dont want to be but if I do he may run... Any advice will be appreciated xxx" It’s just a 1st date so no need to say a thing.. If it develops into something more you can decide then, if you think you kinda need a partner to swing with it’s best to bring it up sooner rather than later, if you don’t, just leave and you’ll never need to bring it up... | |||
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"To be fair I always like to wait with men for the prime reason that if they aren’t a swinger but find it ‘exciting’ they think they are all of a sudden invited to everything and ‘you must know a girl for a threesome’ ugh, bitch please. No. I’d personally wait to see if he was someone I’d want to share the lifestyle as a whole with. Not just a bed. Xx" Eloquently put, and very true. I'm overthinking lol xx | |||
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" Any advice will be appreciated xxx I'd keep it to myself...for now at least" agree with this ... see where this goes but do give hints | |||
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"Thanks all, I'm very guilty of overthinking everything. Hed have laughed and encouraged me back then but now? Its been a long time so who knows? If, and it's a big if, we become a couple then I'll stop swinging, but I suppose it's a wait and see kinda thing... Xx" Can I meet you before you stop lol | |||
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"Thanks all, I'm very guilty of overthinking everything. Hed have laughed and encouraged me back then but now? Its been a long time so who knows? If, and it's a big if, we become a couple then I'll stop swinging, but I suppose it's a wait and see kinda thing... Xx" Go with your heart....but wait till the time is right I would leave here if I found love as I'm a very loyal person ....good luck | |||
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"Thanks all, I'm very guilty of overthinking everything. Hed have laughed and encouraged me back then but now? Its been a long time so who knows? If, and it's a big if, we become a couple then I'll stop swinging, but I suppose it's a wait and see kinda thing... Xx Can I meet you before you stop lol " xx | |||
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"Thanks all, I'm very guilty of overthinking everything. Hed have laughed and encouraged me back then but now? Its been a long time so who knows? If, and it's a big if, we become a couple then I'll stop swinging, but I suppose it's a wait and see kinda thing... Xx Can I meet you before you stop lol xx" Slip us in there too | |||
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"Thanks all, I'm very guilty of overthinking everything. Hed have laughed and encouraged me back then but now? Its been a long time so who knows? If, and it's a big if, we become a couple then I'll stop swinging, but I suppose it's a wait and see kinda thing... Xx Can I meet you before you stop lol xx Slip us in there too " Hehehe!!! To be fair he may hate me so we will see xx | |||
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"Thanks all, I'm very guilty of overthinking everything. Hed have laughed and encouraged me back then but now? Its been a long time so who knows? If, and it's a big if, we become a couple then I'll stop swinging, but I suppose it's a wait and see kinda thing... Xx Can I meet you before you stop lol xx Slip us in there too Hehehe!!! To be fair he may hate me so we will see xx" Hate you?? I doubt that very much he'll whisk you away if he don't he's mad and you know we will try and console you if he don't | |||
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"Don't tell him..I went down this same road once..he recoiled and said he didn't want to date a woman from a swinging site as they were 'easy' We are not, I know, but his perception.. Ruined the whole thing so yeah keep it quiet he doesn't need to know x" I agree. No way I'd tell anyone about my past. None of their business. | |||
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"I think people have a preconceived idea that swingers sleep with everyone... i am actually ridiculously picky. I dont sleep with everyone and I'm safe. It's hard thinking of entering a potential relationship while swinging " I think it's trebally hard because of it | |||
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"I have recently re-aquainted with a childhood crush. It has come about that he also had a crush but neither of us acted on it. We have met for a few coffee dates and are meeting again soon for an actual date as we've both realised there are feelings still lingering. Now I obviously don't know if anything more will happen but my fab life is playing on my mind. I know for sure he is not a swinger but do I admit to it? If I dont I'll feel like a liar which I dont want to be but if I do he may run... Any advice will be appreciated xxx" Clearly not a first date conversation, but at some point you need to tell him. So the question is really when? Second date Second base Second anniversary of getting together When he moves in Wedding night Retirement day You get the point. There is never a perfect time. Also it depends on whether you want to give up swinging for him? Personally my view is you love who you love including the bits you may not like or agree with. | |||
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"In all honesty for me it would depend on if you wanted to carry on swinging, if so then tell him (but not straight away, after 3rd date maybe). If you didn’t want to then i’d Not tell him. I wouldn’t want to know the ins and outs of a new fellas past sex life and most men i’ve Dated haven’t wanted to know details about my sexual life. " Interesting, I was the opposite and wanted to know it all. But maybe I'm just nosey | |||
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