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Did I make a huge social faux pas on this site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Did nothing wrong. You asked about boundaries which you are entitled to. Wouldn't worry about it.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Don’t let it put you off, you were well within your rights to ask the questions you did, it’s their problem not yours.

k

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks"

Nothing is wrong with asking what is allowed, expected and what is not. Clearly they weren't for you if that was the reason to block.

As far as personal jabs go - grow a thicker skin. A lot of that is going on on here. Report if someone gets abusive.

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

You did right, but they were probably going to be messing you about anyway with an attitude like that, so lucky escape on your part.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks"

You did well to ask where their boundaries are mate, don’t sweat it I met a young couple once, and the female was an absolute hottie! But, when we started to get intimate, she told me she doesn’t kiss other men. Oh, and I don’t suck cock either...... Killed the mood for me entirely, so I thanked them for their time, and left. Better to ask up front than have an evening wasted like I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks

You did well to ask where their boundaries are mate, don’t sweat it I met a young couple once, and the female was an absolute hottie! But, when we started to get intimate, she told me she doesn’t kiss other men. Oh, and I don’t suck cock either...... Killed the mood for me entirely, so I thanked them for their time, and left. Better to ask up front than have an evening wasted like I did "
you were already there though

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks"

I see absolutely nothing wrong with what you asked

In fact I'd consider it a valid question.

A lot of profiles, especially state no kissing, as they consider that a personal intimate thing just between themselves.

If soneone is going to take offence on being asked a basic question about bounderies, preferences, it says way more about them, than you.

Silly name calling, is par for the course on here I'm afraid though, I'm guilty of it myself - although usually in reply to a rude message.

Keep your out on the events page, there's a brilliant Sussex Social held in the Brighton area.

Go along yo one of those & meet some really nice people

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You did the right thing by having the courtesy to ask OP. Report any abuse and block. Just rude arrogant people imo. You dodged a bullet there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks"
Maybe it was already on the profile or just maybe it was only a guy some couples unfortunately are only a guy

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Totally reasonable question to ask. Some people don't kiss, but no need to be rude when asked the question.

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By *liceinWonderland38Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

I applaud you for asking. Set out your bar, what you like what’s acceptable and search those who match on here. If they don’t match what you like, don’t meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks"

Don't worry Fab can be brutal at times. Better to always ask and also miscommunication is very easy by text as well.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"You did right, but they were probably going to be messing you about anyway with an attitude like that, so lucky escape on your part."
you dodged a bullet we think ... come to our part of the UK ... we play nice and erotic xx Anne

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks

You did well to ask where their boundaries are mate, don’t sweat it I met a young couple once, and the female was an absolute hottie! But, when we started to get intimate, she told me she doesn’t kiss other men. Oh, and I don’t suck cock either...... Killed the mood for me entirely, so I thanked them for their time, and left. Better to ask up front than have an evening wasted like I did "

Put boundaries on your profiles. Ask before you meet. Saves a wasted journey and time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks"

You did a very brave thing for being new. And it's totally the right thing to do Well done. Dodged a bullet there

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks

You did well to ask where their boundaries are mate, don’t sweat it I met a young couple once, and the female was an absolute hottie! But, when we started to get intimate, she told me she doesn’t kiss other men. Oh, and I don’t suck cock either...... Killed the mood for me entirely, so I thanked them for their time, and left. Better to ask up front than have an evening wasted like I did

Put boundaries on your profiles. Ask before you meet. Saves a wasted journey and time. "

Believe me, I learned a lot that night (it was a few years ago)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You did right, but they were probably going to be messing you about anyway with an attitude like that, so lucky escape on your part. you dodged a bullet we think ... come to our part of the UK ... we play nice and erotic xx Anne "
Ok on my way

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

Enquiring about boundaries is very sensible. If the other party responds in that way then consider it a bonus to have found out BEFORE you are meeting in person. There is no need for that kind of response.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"You did right, but they were probably going to be messing you about anyway with an attitude like that, so lucky escape on your part. you dodged a bullet we think ... come to our part of the UK ... we play nice and erotic xx Anne "

Now there's an offer......!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks"

You did the right thing, ignore the personal jabs, if that's the worst one you get, you're doing pretty well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I’m new to this site and scene so I’m not versed in the etiquette of this all. So I was messaging a couple for a while tonight and after a few exchanges they wanted to meet for a quick fuck. I asked if foreplay and kissing was also okay and I just got a swift block and message saying “your a dick no wonder your single.” Was I out of line for asking that? Is this an unwritten rule of swinging? Are there any other things I should be aware of while I’m here? Feel like a personal jab was a bit much too, honestly just want to fit in and don’t want to offend anyone. Thanks"

I wouldn't pay it no mind, people have all sorts of reasons why the get mad online. We chose not to worry about it as we're only here for the fun. Your question is an important question, we need to know each others boundaries for it to go well. How can you have fun with someone if you don't know what they consider fun ? Our advice ?? Focus on the fun people and give no energy to the bs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the reassurance every one! Good to know I'm not completely an absolute dick haha

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