FabSwingers.com forum: Best way to get replies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I keep messaging people but seem to be struggling to get any replies or takers, any advice on how to improve

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

What do you say in your messages?. I always respond to complinents but seldom to "hi".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I keep messaging people but seem to be struggling to get any replies or takers, any advice on how to improve "
it's all about your profile and what you say so unless we know that we can't help you

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Change your update to swingers clubs instead of sex clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Change your update to swingers clubs instead of sex clubs."
lol no sex in a swingers club then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I usually pop up and say hello, how are you, with a face pic, i try to keep it chill

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Change your update to swingers clubs instead of sex clubs.lol no sex in a swingers club then? "

Sex clubs employ prostitutes. Not knowing the difference shows a lack of understanding of the scene and the mind set of what you think about the women.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"I usually pop up and say hello, how are you, with a face pic, i try to keep it chill"

Boring. Delete and block. Now imagine getting 100's of the same message. Maybe tell them a bit about yourself and that you have read their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay thank you, i will try giving that a go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just get confused on what to tell them precisely about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just get confused on what to tell them precisely about me "
show some personality beef your profile up, never dive in with sex straight away, your age may go against you slightly but someone for everyone here, good luck oh and snapchat thing won't work if they're here most want to stay here until they know you

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"I just get confused on what to tell them precisely about me "

You need to employ your best social skills. One of my pet hates is this kind of comment - what do you think people need to know about you and what would you like them to know? If you’re struggling at the messaging stage, when you have time to think, it’s going to be like pulling teeth in person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am way better face to face with people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am way better face to face with people"

Then go to a club and meet people there

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I am way better face to face with people

Then go to a club and meet people there "

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"I just get confused on what to tell them precisely about me "

What would you tell them face to face?

Copy and repeat in text form.

OK you are not looking for a life partner on here, but it is still essentially dating.

Seduction and interest need to be aroused.

Yes it may get mass deleted because you are mixed in with 100's of others, but it may be a slow day and the lady only has 50 in her inbox and so has time to read a few.

Also stick to verified ladies. As not all women are really women, so don't waste your efforts chasing a fake profile.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

As you've not asked for profile advice I won't comment, but maybe consider changing your avatar. You just look bored and it's one of the first things a woman will see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry. 95 % of women are not interested in 95% of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually pop up and say hello, how are you, with a face pic, i try to keep it chill"

Ur not the only one im trying my best to get to talk I may get one or two is tht any good or anyone done better

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Think of it this way OP - you're not attracted to every person you meet I'm real life, and every person isn't going to be attracted to you.

So the key is finding the ones that mutual attraction is there - now you can't force anyones arm of course, but you can present the best possible version of you that you can initially with your profile and pics and message style.

Similarly there is no catch all message that will work for everyone - but a brief introductory message telling people a little about you and inviting them to take a look at your profile and reply if interested in chatting more is as good as anything.

Alternately if the cold messaging approach isn't working you could always try a different approach, such as using the forums or chat rooms more to get to know people and them you, or going to group socials and clubs

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I am way better face to face with people"

Maybe t'interweb's not for thou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i must admit the internet sometimes do no one any favors ive blocked guys before then at some point in the future come across them at a club and thought wow hes nice come home and unblock but then there's those you think wow hes nice and meet for real and then think what a twat.

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By *pitfiremk10Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

It's all a gamble, Im fairly new but wrote clear concise and polite messages when I started, all of which were just deleted so that of course creates the issue of perceived time wasting. So I developed a shorter message and had a better response. Try suggesting ladies check your profile and if you spend time writing a good one you might have some success. Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without knowing what you write it's hard to say,but I find being friendly,showing you have read their profile,having more than a basic profile yourself,being relaxed and not being pushy,demanding or desperate,and talking to them as a person (or couple if applicable) rather than someone you just want to fuck works rather well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually pop up and say hello, how are you, with a face pic, i try to keep it chill"

This gets deleted with out even being opened. Read the profile your messaging and personalise the message a little. Make sure your actually what there looking for couple/fems get so many messages from people that there not looking for. Keep dic pics to a minimum on your profile everyone knows what one looks like. Go to a few social meets there a great way to get out there with no pressure and usually will earn you a few veris that will go in your favour. When messaging a couple (if that's what you want) make sure you address both parties if they say no or just delete just move on dont be "that" guy.

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By *exyFunAshWoman
over a year ago

Mansfield

For me fun going respectful.messages that come across as wanting to know me are the best.

The hi or suckycock messages just bore me.

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By *r Nice Guy 1Man
over a year ago

manchester

"I am way better face to face with people

Then go to a club and meet people there "

Exactly this

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

You could try smiling in your face pics.

Going for the moody type might seem like a good idea, but you can come across as miserable and stroppy.

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By *hilli75Man
over a year ago

MALTA

Too interesting a profile to just say hi bluebell

well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I keep messaging people but seem to be struggling to get any replies or takers, any advice on how to improve "

What you want lots of no thanks messages? I would have though it would be better to get more genuine interest in you rather than just replies and the best way to do that is to improve your profile and messages sent.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Start by reading their profile.

Then start with an introduction.

Who are you?

What do you like?

(you can copy this bit and paste to save time)

Then say something tailored to their profile.

"I see you guys are into X"

Being polite and showing that you have read the profile and paid attention really helps.

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