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How do I let him down??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful....

It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x"

Yes, I like that....x

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

Does he use the forums?

If he does, you just did.

E

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know but fair point!! xx

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By *urrey Dave 69Man
over a year ago

Epsom, Surrey

My advice is be honest. You can sugar coat it if you want but honesty is always the best approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't just block or ignore him because that would be like kicking a puppy.

Ween him off slowly by saying you are busy or traveling away for a holiday/work trip.

Eventually the messages will stop.

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By *otwhenwetCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"

It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x"

I'd prefer to hear this instead of fabricated excuses. Will add to the excitement rather than an insult through lies

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"

It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x

I'd prefer to hear this instead of fabricated excuses. Will add to the excitement rather than an insult through lies"

This is what I'd want to read if I was in that situation. No mind games just a nice, honest response so I'd know exactly where I stood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't just block or ignore him because that would be like kicking a puppy.

Ween him off slowly by saying you are busy or traveling away for a holiday/work trip.

Eventually the messages will stop.don't do this ha ha,just say you enjoyed it but you just like one offs,I go to a club and I use the same answer if am asked again. "

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful....

It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x"

I'd probably say "one off" as opposed to "one night stand", but definitely this.

It's a soft let down with a positive to take away.

E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give him false hope, as my guess is you wouldn't appreciate someone doing that to you.

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Just say it how it is.... you cant sugar coat shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just say it how it is.... you cant sugar coat shit. "

Yes, better than fobbing off with lies. Don't block unless a last resort really

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

Be honest

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By *ultrySiriWoman
over a year ago

Arundel

Let him down quick! No point keeping him hoping.

And sorry it was not what you hoped for.

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By *exyFunAshWoman
over a year ago

Mansfield


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

Just be honest that you enjoyed the night but it was only a one off for you.

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By *ittlemiss1985Woman
over a year ago

Lansing

I agree with being honest with him, that you didn't feel enough chemistry for another round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why did you regret it ?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Say “sorry, but unlike most profiles I actually am looking to fuck my way through the whole site, now I need to find the next one”

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

There’s being honest and there’s being honest

No one wants anyone to feel hurt

If I was you say that although you had the horny encounter, you would prefer to not meet anyone for a second time at present

Therefore he’s not going to have his ego damaged and you don’t have to feel trapped into another meet

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

This isnt a dating site. Some people want regular meets, some want the excitement of different people.

Just explain that you enjoyed meeting him but you are here to experience fun with different people and you're not looking for another meet but maybe paths will cross again in the future.

There is never any guarantee that meets with one person become a regular thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
tell him straight..... Make up a rhyme with the punch line you'll never be mine

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Tell him to fuck off. Block him. Post his photo in the local shops with the title “ Beware. Small cock.”

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think clear polite honesty is always the best way for everybody. But remember to make it clear that this is the end of the road. If he doesn't drop it and persists then you can quite legitimately block him.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

Do what most women do on here ignore him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I (her) had a single profile and found myself in this situation I would contact the individual sooner rather than later, be honest and decent about it.

In my experience I never received a bad response back and was always happy to remain friendly through any messages.

In other words treat him as you would like to be treated.... with respect

Good luck OP

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the sentiment of:

Thanks for last night. You're a decent guy but I'm not really up for another meet. If things change then I'll let you know otherwise good luck on here.

Personally I'd prefer to know that I wasn't being ignored and knew where I stood.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Just slip out of the back, Jack

Make a new plan, Stan

You don’t need to be coy, Roy

Just get yourself....

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

Have to agree with most comments here. Nice veri and say thanks was great but not looking to repeat

And as someone else mentioned. He would have seen the forum by now

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By *arksterxMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

I think a gentle polite let down would be best, particularly if he is being respectful. It’s how I would want to be told. I think if you just ignore him he might persist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant reply

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Have to agree with most comments here. Nice veri and say thanks was great but not looking to repeat

And as someone else mentioned. He would have seen the forum by now "

And don't forget the 'don't miss out ladies' in the veri. Sort of code for 'yeh, n8ce fella but you can have him, not my cup of tea'.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

If it were me being let down, I'd appreciate something like "thanks for last night but for me, we just didn't click."

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

I do know I wouldn't want to see it here first. I had a meet years ago that went south...It put me right off Fab when I saw her post about it (indirectly) in the forums.

Just get on with it and tell him.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Aww I hope the poor lad doesn’t this this. How shit would you feel to see this

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Prefer replies from Justus and Scarlett's

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey all....sorry for delay in replying...I had a 48 hour forum timeout...oooppps...my bad..

Took on board all the suggestions and resolved the issue..

Thanks! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off the naughty step? Glad you sorted it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all....sorry for delay in replying...I had a 48 hour forum timeout...oooppps...my bad..

Took on board all the suggestions and resolved the issue..

Thanks! xxx"

Lol i was thinking some of the messages disappeared from this thread. I guess it's to do with the timeout.

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

If he says can we meet up tonight etc just say no thanks, don’t need to give any reason

Don’t owe him anything and just being honest is good

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Just say sorry not interested someone did that to me because the same reason I think they regretted it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a man well used to rejection down the years, I'd say simple honesty is by far the best approach.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

Best thing is just to be honest and say it how it is and leave no confusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."

Welcome to Dumpsville, population:- YOU!

That should do it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send him the link of this thread

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