FabSwingers.com forum: Big guys that are not vwe vrs bbw

By *rcadian110 OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Hi everyone.

Looking for some advice and intelligent opinions lol.

My wife and I are just embarking on this wonderful lifestyle but I'm a bit self conscious.

She is a stunning babe with low self esteem and I know that this will hugely boost her confidence and self image , but there seems to be a slight disconnect between BBW and BBM lol

I'm a latger guy and not where I would like to be. Love to please and always make sure my wife cums first. But I don't know how I will be received by the wider community.

Do the ladies here actually like to play with guys like me?

I know BBW don't really have and issue and rightly so. BBW look sexy and their smiles usually light up a room.

What do you guys think? Am I paranoid for no reason or is their a genuine disconnect.

We have a rule that if we play no one takes one for the team so to speak and I don't want to prevent my princess from enjoying every opportunity to enjoy this life.

Jason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Jason MT here

Myself and boo have now been swinging for sometime and like your self I am.a big teddy bear of a man.

I think it is different on here as a bigger man but there are some really genuine females and couples that are happy to make friends and play with guys like us.

All you have to do is check our profile veris to testify to that.

No you are not going to be everyone's cup of tea but then no one on here is.

If your genuine, friendly and willing to get to know the right people whilst ignoring the crsp.you may get on here then you will have a great time.

Feel free to message is if you both want to chat more

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By *rcadian110 OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Thanks guys

I just want to make sure that my wife isn't held back by my size as she's insistent that we play together only as she want me to have fun too

I know I'm probably being paranoid but even though I've never had complaints about the size of my penis I'm a realist and know it's a little below average. That's not what worries me.

I put a lot of weight on through illness and it's shattered my confidence

Rhi is a stunning BBW and I see on here that guys and girls look past that and BBW are popular but no so much for us bi guys.

People like you guys make me feel a lot better but I think until I'm actually in the scene I'm gonna be second guessing myself

Let see what tonight brings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of you sound in a healthy place esteem wise

Here won't fix that

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By *rcadian110 OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

To be honest we haven't been out in a long time and have never been to a swing club. We are confident with each other just not in ourselves. I know just how stunning and wayyyy out of my league my wife is and she says same about me. Lol. I was in the scene a long time ago when younger and much fitter, rhi has never played out but is really excited by the idea (me too)

We are totally dedicated to each other and are comfortable whit each other being with someone else as we know how to separate sex from love. To us sex would be a great way to end a good night with friends.

Rhi will be popular but if I hold her opportunities back I know she will fee frustrated and guilty as will I. But this is something we both want and have taken a few years to concider it.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

If it was me! Id stay away from fab meets & clubs etc until u have lost the weight! Its clear ur not comfortable with ur size and u wont enjoy the experience, u will be in a better place mentally if u start losing, then u both can go to clubs feeling so much more confident..

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I'm not a slim bloke, but never had major issues with people judging on body size.

As with everything, some people like it, some don't.

Positive attitude is more important than physical appearance.

Being happy with yourself is more attractive than being insecure, however you're built.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1st welcome to the world of fun, 2nd I like your rule both or none this is clear if anyone wants to play, it means they have agreed to your rule, if not plenty of people's are here...

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would suggest that you visit a club, just for a social visit. They are a great place to experience the reality of swinging. You will see the variety of different folk and how well they are accepted.

Cal

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I would suggest that you visit a club, just for a social visit. They are a great place to experience the reality of swinging. You will see the variety of different folk and how well they are accepted.

Cal"

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By *rcadian110 OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Well we are going to asylum tonight for our first taste. Butterflies are rampant but hope it will be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck mate

Hope you both have a lot of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair play for taking the plunge and going and good luck to you both. As has been said above, treat it as a social and you should be fine - you've always got each other anyway.

Be sure to post back to say how you found it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know how you know that swinging will boost your wife's self esteem

If neither of you are in a good place where self esteem is concerned why not just socialise for a while. There's too much potential for heart ache from what you say

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton

Neither of us are slim (putting it mildly!) And both suffered from body image issues, however found that visiting club has really helped. Football has a large port wine birthmark that he has always struggled with but now couldn't give a fuck thanks to our time at Chams. Flower was very shy to begin with but again has grown in confidence and last visit was walking around naked!!

Visiting a club has shown us that swingers come in all shapes and sizes and we have had some unbelievably sexy fun! Just believe in yourselves and don't sit shyly in the corner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither of us are slim (putting it mildly!) And both suffered from body image issues, however found that visiting club has really helped. Football has a large port wine birthmark that he has always struggled with but now couldn't give a fuck thanks to our time at Chams. Flower was very shy to begin with but again has grown in confidence and last visit was walking around naked!!

Visiting a club has shown us that swingers come in all shapes and sizes and we have had some unbelievably sexy fun! Just believe in yourselves and don't sit shyly in the corner."

As someone due to go to a club for the first time next week, and that club being Chams, that is reassuring to know

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By *rcadian110 OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Thanks again guys. More excited than nervous now.

And enjoy your first time buddy.

We will keep you all posted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go to clubs even look out for curvy girls nights it swinging has boosted my wife's confidence just remember not to take a rejection to heart

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By *rcadian110 OP Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Well our first night was a hell of a confidence boost even tho we only played together. We were watched and that really boosted me and rhi. She looked amazing and I got confidence in her just being with me.

The forum and community have been amazing. Thank you all.

And for others in the same boat, jump. The great people out there are there to catch and support you

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

OP You and your missus look to be a lovely couple.... Good luck....!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said it before and il day it again ,it's the guy and not his size that attracts me,so will love you Ok and some will Loath you simple fact

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I really wouldn't worry. You both look a lot of fun and your good lady has a shape and lush smile that appeals to me (And no doubt many others). I'm a large guy and my partner is bigger woman. There are many of us out there on the scene. Granted not everyone is everyone's cup of tea but we've never found our size a big disadvantage.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I've been on the scene 16 years and my size hasn't exactly held me back. I'm sure some ladies do choose not to play with me, while others do. Over the years I've never met anyone actually negative in their behaviour towards me as a big guy.

Contrast that with society in general.....

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

Really glad you had a good time

. You sound like a very happy couple who cherish each other. For what it’s worth, I think you should have as much fun as you can, but as a couple it can be very difficult to always both be equally involved. Sometimes watching is fun! Also, if you’re wanting to make a change, knowing you’re going to get naked around others is a great motivator lol x Jessy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with a lot that's been written above and a glad you had a good experience at the club. As someone who has lost a lot of weight recently for health reasons, perhaps you can use your lifestyle hopes as a motivator to both get fitter and leaner. Once you start seeing a little weight drop, and noticing life getting a liitle bit easier it will probably do your self esteem good. People are turned on by all shapes and sizes and ages. Don't worry if your not everyone's types, you'll be the right combo for others!

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By *omis.69Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Well done guys glad it lived upto you expectations.

Don’t be intimidated by gym fit bodies let your personality win

That’s how I find works.

Great profile by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP feel free to get in touch about a BBW & BHM appreciation group

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

Yes

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