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By *entakuru OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

Honestly I have to wonder... All the conversations I get into seem to fizzle out. I'm OK at polite introductions but awful at escalating things or getting meets etc. But I seem to do OK in clubs. What I could really do with is a peek into someone else's messages to the people I am interested in (who has successfully met them) for pointers. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall sometimes. I like to meet socially as much as sexually but for whatever reason I keep drawing blanks...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It’s the nature of Fab

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Honestly I have to wonder... All the conversations I get into seem to fizzle out. I'm OK at polite introductions but awful at escalating things or getting meets etc. But I seem to do OK in clubs. What I could really do with is a peek into someone else's messages to the people I am interested in (who has successfully met them) for pointers. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall sometimes. I like to meet socially as much as sexually but for whatever reason I keep drawing blanks... "

Just stick to what you feel comfortable with, I'm the same at times and much prefer the classic face to face meeting, rather then have a cold inanimate object like a PC between us as most communication is not just about words you type but the body language.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have spent many a hour chatting & arranging meets then nothing it all goes dead just think it’s the nature of this site

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By *amamanMan
over a year ago

Inverness and around. ...

Very difficult to communicate with people who you haven't met face to face...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Just stick to what you feel comfortable with, I'm the same at times and much prefer the classic face to face meeting, rather then have a cold inanimate object like a PC between us as most communication is not just about words you type but the body language. "

I agree. I’ll swap a few messages, just to make sure I’m not talking to a “I’ll pound you into next week’ type of idiot.

But then I want a social. And the sooner you discover that a guy hasn’t got the balls to even meet over a coffee, the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they’re just not that into you, and that’s why the conversation fizzles out.

It’s no doubt far easier to talk to someone in person. I also find that not everyone can have engaging conversations and sometimes the most interesting people don’t have a lot to say online & are far more engaging face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just stick to what you feel comfortable with, I'm the same at times and much prefer the classic face to face meeting, rather then have a cold inanimate object like a PC between us as most communication is not just about words you type but the body language.

I agree. I’ll swap a few messages, just to make sure I’m not talking to a “I’ll pound you into next week’ type of idiot.

But then I want a social. And the sooner you discover that a guy hasn’t got the balls to even meet over a coffee, the better "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to remember many are on fab because they aren't that good in person

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"You have to remember many are on fab because they aren't that good in person"

That’s so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to remember many are on fab because they aren't that good in person"

Good point and possibly wouldn’t get the same attention say in a pub, unless they had their bits out there as well

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Your profile narrative reminds me of an old fashioned lonely hearts advert.

you could try mentioning that you are well up for a social and that you like to get to know someone first before getting intimate.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be to stop trying to have conversations on here

After a couple of messages back and forth, arrange a social

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Some people will chat just to be polite and then the following day ignore and delete, they are probably not that in to you but aren't great at saying no thanks or maybe are just seeing if you happen to dazzle them or something.

Regardless of success rate don't try to be someone you're not, stay true to who you are and just keep at it, eventually you will catch a lass with her guard down and bam!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to remember many are on fab because they aren't that good in person"

That's why I'm on here.

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By *heEpicureanMan
over a year ago

Warminster


"Honestly I have to wonder... All the conversations I get into seem to fizzle out. I'm OK at polite introductions but awful at escalating things or getting meets etc. But I seem to do OK in clubs. What I could really do with is a peek into someone else's messages to the people I am interested in (who has successfully met them) for pointers. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall sometimes. I like to meet socially as much as sexually but for whatever reason I keep drawing blanks... "

Yes you’re boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to remember many are on fab because they aren't that good in person

That's why I'm on here. "

Me too

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By *rAngleseyMan
over a year ago

Anglesey


"Honestly I have to wonder... All the conversations I get into seem to fizzle out. I'm OK at polite introductions but awful at escalating things or getting meets etc. But I seem to do OK in clubs. What I could really do with is a peek into someone else's messages to the people I am interested in (who has successfully met them) for pointers. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall sometimes. I like to meet socially as much as sexually but for whatever reason I keep drawing blanks... "

Its a numbers game with the odds stacked heavily against you.

Don`t try to be someone your not, instead relax & at some point there will be a spark between you & someone, Just be yourself & have fun.. People like happy people.

Dont give up & your hard work will pay off.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Honestly I have to wonder... All the conversations I get into seem to fizzle out. I'm OK at polite introductions but awful at escalating things or getting meets etc. But I seem to do OK in clubs. What I could really do with is a peek into someone else's messages to the people I am interested in (who has successfully met them) for pointers. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall sometimes. I like to meet socially as much as sexually but for whatever reason I keep drawing blanks... "

Sounds like sticking to clubs & using fab to keep up with the people you’ve met is a much better option.

That’s what I do too - I haven’t had a meet via Fab for over 2 years now & it’s sooooo much better this way!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice would be to stop trying to have conversations on here

After a couple of messages back and forth, arrange a social

"

I think many people like a bit more messaging than that so they can get a better idea of what someone is like before deciding if they'd like to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yawn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm way better in person than on line ... messaging bores me and is a terrible form of communication for anything that isn't business or arrangements tbh

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

Dump the pics OP, they're not what you'd call flattering, if I'm being honest. Try a smart suit for one idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get down about it pal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm way better in person than on line ... "

Would you be keen to meet someone that made that claim?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly I have to wonder... All the conversations I get into seem to fizzle out. I'm OK at polite introductions but awful at escalating things or getting meets etc. But I seem to do OK in clubs. What I could really do with is a peek into someone else's messages to the people I am interested in (who has successfully met them) for pointers. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall sometimes. I like to meet socially as much as sexually but for whatever reason I keep drawing blanks... "

Sorry feel asleep reading that!

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