FabSwingers.com forum: Advice on finding FF fun

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys,

The OH’s biggest fantasy has always been to see me with another woman ... he knows I was with women before him and the idea of a ‘show’ being put on for him is what really gets him going. HOWEVER it’s not something he would be happy with any other men watching.

We’re members of xtasia and visit fairly frequently but as I’m sure you can imagine making this a reality for him has of yet been tricky !

Any ideas on how to push things in the right direction ? Obviously it’s a rareity for the male in a couple to be happy with his OH playing without him getting anything in return and single women interested in FF fun appear to be few and far between.

Would really appreciate any thoughts on the matter.

Love as always xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The idea of "putting on the show" would put me off. I'm there for my own pleasure, not for the show.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I think it’s the ‘show’ part that’s the issue. Seems like whatever you do with the woman won’t be about you enjoying her, it’s about performing for him. So what would she get out of it? It sounds like you’re looking for a woman to provide you with a service, maybe an escort is the way to go.

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By *iss_taylorraeWoman
over a year ago

Here and there

"The idea of "putting on the show" would put me off. I'm there for my own pleasure, not for the show."

This ^^

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi guys,

We’re members of xtasia and visit fairly frequently but as I’m sure you can imagine making this a reality for him has of yet been tricky !

Would really appreciate any thoughts on the matter.

Love as always xxx"

Sounds it’s all about the man. I would not get involved with this. I think you might struggle to find a lady who is just happy to ‘put on a show for you’.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above, I'm married but play as a single female. Though I'd definitely be put off by the fact that you're looking to put on a show for him, I'd feel like some sort of performing monkey. I'd consider paying an escort for a service like this, if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies ! You’re all right of course poor choice of wording on my part I was merely trying to explain that he would be spectating rather than involved. ??

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

I think that’s most guys fantasies which is why most women aren’t into it, who wants to be used for someone else’s kicks

As someone else mentioned an escort could be your best bet failing that another couple with the sand kink but obviously then you’d have to allow their Male to watch which you don’t sound keen on but if you want their female fairs fair & all that

MrsB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What your looking for is the atypical male fantasy and extremely hard to find.

Best advice here would be to go find an escort tbh. You also use the word putting on a show for your man in your profile text. That term seems to be pretty much disliked by most of the single women on fab certainly on the forums. Like people have said who wants to be a performing monkey? What's in it for them etc

As a couple with a bisexual wife we have played with another female in a club environment but we both played with her so it was 3 way fun.

The only times I as the male have sat back and watched my wife play with another woman is when we have met a couple and both guys are watching the ladies play together then we either joined in with full swap or soft swap depending on the other couples boundaries. Maybe your guy could consider that with soft swap I.e the males only play with their woman afterwards? Certainly a much greater chance of thst happening.

Good luck

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't just watch a show I'd want to be involved, and I know the mrs would want me involved too. Although it turns me on seeing her with another woman, I love it all the more from the doggy position lol.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Definitely look at getting an escort, she’d be perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby finds watching FF play frankly boring as it’s about the ladies enjoying each other not for his benefit. Putting on a show for a guy is really just a typical teenage male fantasy and immature. Especially when your guy won’t allow another man to watch!

Easy solution, hire an escort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single women interested in FF fun appear to be few and far between.

Plenty of single women are interested in FF fun, what they don't like is a strange guy watching them intently because it is actually FF fun they want.

Can I ask you something?

Why don't you team up with another couple who also want this (plenty around). Let them go first where you and the women have FF fun with their OH watching. Then meet again where you and the other women have FF fun with your OH watching.

What is wrong with this idea?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I honestly can't see many women going for this, it's coming across as you just wanting to use her to fulfill your mans fantasy. What exactly will she get out of it? Guaranteed you will be more interested in your mans reaction so it will be more a performance than actual passionate play.

As others have said, an escort us probably the way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly can't see many women going for this, it's coming across as you just wanting to use her to fulfill your mans fantasy. What exactly will she get out of it? Guaranteed you will be more interested in your mans reaction so it will be more a performance than actual passionate play.

As others have said, an escort us probably the way forward. "

This is why I asked what I did.

I was hoping that putting it that way they might realise what it is they are actually asking for

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

As others have said, an escort us probably the way forward.

This is why I asked what I did.

I was hoping that putting it that way they might realise what it is they are actually asking for"

Yeah, it doesn't sound like a fun time for the single lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single women interested in FF fun appear to be few and far between.

Plenty of single women are interested in FF fun, what they don't like is a strange guy watching them intently because it is actually FF fun they want.

Can I ask you something?

What is wrong with this idea? "

The silence is deafening

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We’re strughling for a regular girl/girl friend.

Actually thinking of a Tinder account instead

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