FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Support and Advice

Dark room ....

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can someone please tell us the "rules" of a dark room .

As new couple we have had a few meets tried a few things and keen to keep going .

We have spoken about a dark room but are unsure what to expect . Mrs d is adamant no penetration from others without a condom which I share with , so would this be hard to ensure in a dark room .

We love the idea of it but dont want to go in and be out of our depth

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You can feel with your hand if someone is wearing a condom but in a dark room you wouldn't know if it had already been used in someone else.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Also condoms have been found in darkrooms with the end ripped off. If the guy was inside you and you just felt with your hand at the base of his dick you could easily think he was wearing a condom.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Glow in the dark rubbers

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Not all sex in a 'dark room'is penetrative it can just go from being fondled to oral and other sex acts. If a guy is trying to enter you just say no. It's generally quiet in there so a no ! Will be heard

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe my post has been misconstrued. The condom issue isnt our only worry although it is a major concern especially after hearing about cut condoms.....

Basically the rules of engagement ... it's dark pitch black you cant see anything.tou cant pick and choose who you fancy or dont . Is it just a matter of anything goes .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Maybe my post has been misconstrued. The condom issue isnt our only worry although it is a major concern especially after hearing about cut condoms.....

Basically the rules of engagement ... it's dark pitch black you cant see anything.tou cant pick and choose who you fancy or dont . Is it just a matter of anything goes . "

Yes, the whole idea is it's just a body nothing to do with looks or even which sex is touching you. You go in not knowing who will be in there, if you like what you feel have fun, knowing whilst you're doing it another pair of hands could join you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe my post has been misconstrued. The condom issue isnt our only worry although it is a major concern especially after hearing about cut condoms.....

Basically the rules of engagement ... it's dark pitch black you cant see anything.tou cant pick and choose who you fancy or dont . Is it just a matter of anything goes .

Yes, the whole idea is it's just a body nothing to do with looks or even which sex is touching you. You go in not knowing who will be in there, if you like what you feel have fun, knowing whilst you're doing it another pair of hands could join you "

I think that basically answers my question . So we are both straight so basically if I'm.not.cpmfortable with a man touching or sucking me I shouldn't enter .....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same rule as outside the dark room no is no no matter where you are.

but to a point if your stepping into a darkroom then you must be more open knowing that's the idea ..but these rooms are never fully dark ..

I just say no and if they don't agree I say it louder then ill pull them up outside the room so everyone knows too no is no assault is assault and watch out for the condom doggers they are very very real make sure your feeling with you hands whats entering you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also I may add I find dark rooms very exciting the unknown im lucky as ill always have cuck with me but you do get those who push there luck been pinched hard a few time hard enough to bruise and have had hair yanked hard but as said lucky enough to have cuck with me and never afraid to tell the said persons what they did outside the room was unacceptable

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Maybe my post has been misconstrued. The condom issue isnt our only worry although it is a major concern especially after hearing about cut condoms.....

Basically the rules of engagement ... it's dark pitch black you cant see anything.tou cant pick and choose who you fancy or dont . Is it just a matter of anything goes .

Yes, the whole idea is it's just a body nothing to do with looks or even which sex is touching you. You go in not knowing who will be in there, if you like what you feel have fun, knowing whilst you're doing it another pair of hands could join you

I think that basically answers my question . So we are both straight so basically if I'm.not.cpmfortable with a man touching or sucking me I shouldn't enter ....."

To be honest I wouldn't think it's a good idea, they can be very hardcore areas of a club. The people going in will expect you to play but consent is still applies

As your straight maybe stick to other play areas or take a partner in when the place is quieter.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Can someone please tell us the "rules" of a dark room .

As new couple we have had a few meets tried a few things and keen to keep going .

We have spoken about a dark room but are unsure what to expect . Mrs d is adamant no penetration from others without a condom which I share with , so would this be hard to ensure in a dark room .

We love the idea of it but dont want to go in and be out of our depth "

Maybe get more experience in private rooms or open play areas first before trying dark rooms.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"The condom issue isnt our only worry although it is a major concern especially after hearing about cut condoms.....

"

Cut condoms ??? Can you tell more ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I've discussed total back out dark rooms with my partner. Find the idea hot, but not so much reality in terms of sexaul safety. I think in reality we'd only have dark room fun with people we already knew pretty well, who we trust and under an agreed set of rules. Maybe that would take out some of the fun but anything else just sounds too risky to put in the hands of strangers. And to be fair I'm sure it'd still be fun.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I tend to just stick to groping or kissing. So much fun, having lots of exploring hands everywhere!

Go in with an open mind and enjoy...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"The condom issue isnt our only worry although it is a major concern especially after hearing about cut condoms.....

Cut condoms ??? Can you tell more ?"

Post number 3 in this thread

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"

Post number 3 in this thread

"

Yes, I saw, but what is the reason behind it ?

Sorry if sounding stupid, but can’t really understand that behaviour.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I love the idea of the dark room but the condom thing puts me off

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I enjoy dark rooms,It's the unknown for me. Sometimes you walk in and out in about 30 seconds, other times you crawl out about an hour or two later

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always loved the thought of a dark room . I went into one once but was disappointed it wasn't really dark enough.

I do agree with what others have said and I'd avoid anyone going inside me .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"

Post number 3 in this thread

Yes, I saw, but what is the reason behind it ?

Sorry if sounding stupid, but can’t really understand that behaviour."

It's just another method of "stealthing" a quick Google will explain.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the idea of entering a dark room. I’m sure I’d be nervous but such a sexy situation

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always enjoyed darkrooms it can be so much fun to join a couple, but I be honest I never had sex with any couple or ladies in a darkroom, it’s been all about touching and that’s what turns the ladies on not knowing who’s hands that are touching them or fingering them and who’s cocks they are sucking or wanking it’s about having fun and enjoying yourself, all I say is give it a try if you don’t like it walk out, but with you asking about the darkroom I think the thought of having hands all over your body turns you on

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I love the idea of the dark room but the condom thing puts me off "

Luminous condoms and a wing man/woman may be the way forward

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love the idea of the dark room but the condom thing puts me off

Luminous condoms and a wing man/woman may be the way forward

"

The luminous condoms would be too comical for me. All these fluorescent yellow disembodied cocks floating around in mid air. I’d end up laughing too much. Especially when they start bobbing in and out.

Now you see it, now you don’t

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Safety first we won't use dark rooms u less I am outside and know beforehand the guys playing with wife are ones I trust

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I love the idea of the dark room but the condom thing puts me off

Luminous condoms and a wing man/woman may be the way forward

The luminous condoms would be too comical for me. All these fluorescent yellow disembodied cocks floating around in mid air. I’d end up laughing too much. Especially when they start bobbing in and out.

Now you see it, now you don’t "

I'd rather be laughing at a Ghostbuster cock scenario than crying down the clinic later

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

The problem with dark rooms is the zombie you’ve spent all night saying no to has every chance of getting involved as you’ll often not be able to see whose touching you & worse still entering you

It’s such a shame as I love the idea but I don’t trust that the guys I’ve said no to won’t take it as an opportunity to take advantage

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It suppose to be about having fun, but reading some of your messages you would put anyone off using the darkrooms, yet I know quite a few couples that enjoy them but I suppose they are not for every one

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *restonM50Man
over a year ago

preston

Dark rooms are very sensual. Relies on heightened other senses.

No is always no. Listen feel enjoy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been in the round room at chams and most of the time it was orally, full sex is mostly with the partners and obviously if there was any swapping pretty sure people would take precautions first.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

There's lots of fun to be had without penetration and the various risks & concerns.

Maybe stick to fun without fornication.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We've been in a couple of dark rooms. One was more a 'dim room' which was actually more exciting than the pitch black one. Just enough light to make out shapes.

Standard club rules are no touching without asking first. Dark rooms essentially drop that rule, turning the room into a grope box. That's not to say you don't have the same ability to refuse as in other rooms.

Steph wasn't up for being fingered or peneteated in there but was happy with the rest of her to be groped. She pushed away any hands that went too far - no problems. We then both ended up in a 4-way fondle with another couple in there, which was very sensual

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Dark rooms a bit like Russian Roulette in my opinion

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're not that bothered about who touches you, or who you touch, then a dark room might be just the ticket. It's not for us, though.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"I love the idea of the dark room but the condom thing puts me off

Luminous condoms and a wing man/woman may be the way forward

The luminous condoms would be too comical for me. All these fluorescent yellow disembodied cocks floating around in mid air. I’d end up laughing too much. Especially when they start bobbing in and out.

Now you see it, now you don’t

I'd rather be laughing at a Ghostbuster cock scenario than crying down the clinic later "

Reminds me of the movie ‘Skin deep’, when 2 males fought one another in a lady’s bedroom wearing luminous condoms, which reenacted a scene reminiscent of Star Wars’ lightsabers!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It reminds me of a game of chance... Do you feel lucky punk ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top