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By *edp.e84 OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading

Evening all

So I am finding the site hard work

and am thinking about giving it up. Do I stick it out a bit longer ??

Or just go tonight

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By *hangerMan
over a year ago

brighton

In what way is it hard work?

With only 4 weeks on the site, it would seem to be that you expect quick results, but possibly without putting in enough effort.

The decision is yours and yours alone. No-one else can make up your mind for you!

Whatever you decide, I hope it is the right decision for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only been here 4 weeks that's no time at all in the fab / swinging world mate.

If your talking about giving up now after this short a period of time then maybe your actually just looking for nsa sex /

a quick fuck rather than immersing yourself into the swinging world and becoming a proper swinger.

Fab is only 1 tool especially if your a new single guy only relying on Fab then you will struggle. Men can out number women 50 to 1 and more on here.

You have to work hard to stand out and build a positive reputation. The successful single males use all the tools at your disposal i.e not just fab but also swinging clubs which allow you to start to build your network which in turn can lead to invites to group socials, private parties as well as various experience playing in the clubs themselves. Then once you receive a number of genuine verifications from people on your local scene finding meets on fab itself will become a little easier.

KJ x

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"You have only been here 4 weeks that's no time at all in the fab / swinging world mate.

If your talking about giving up now after this short a period of time then maybe your actually just looking for nsa sex /

a quick fuck rather than immersing yourself into the swinging world and becoming a proper swinger.

Fab is only 1 tool especially if your a new single guy only relying on Fab then you will struggle. Men can out number women 50 to 1 and more on here.

You have to work hard to stand out and build a positive reputation. The successful single males use all the tools at your disposal i.e not just fab but also swinging clubs which allow you to start to build your network which in turn can lead to invites to group socials, private parties as well as various experience playing in the clubs themselves. Then once you receive a number of genuine verifications from people on your local scene finding meets on fab itself will become a little easier.

KJ x"

Great advice

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"You have only been here 4 weeks that's no time at all in the fab / swinging world mate.

If your talking about giving up now after this short a period of time then maybe your actually just looking for nsa sex /

a quick fuck rather than immersing yourself into the swinging world and becoming a proper swinger.

Fab is only 1 tool especially if your a new single guy only relying on Fab then you will struggle. Men can out number women 50 to 1 and more on here.

You have to work hard to stand out and build a positive reputation. The successful single males use all the tools at your disposal i.e not just fab but also swinging clubs which allow you to start to build your network which in turn can lead to invites to group socials, private parties as well as various experience playing in the clubs themselves. Then once you receive a number of genuine verifications from people on your local scene finding meets on fab itself will become a little easier.

KJ x

Great advice "

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By *edp.e84 OP   Man
over a year ago

Reading

Yeah, it is thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, it is thanks

"

No problem I would start by looking into which clubs are local to you and then joining / attending one. Make sure to call up first so you can find out exactly when and how you can join / attend.

Good luck

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I'd go a step further and go to a local social before attending a club (near the social). That way you should at know at least a few people at the club. That starts you networking and that is a major success factor for a single on the swinging scene.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

I think I agree that swinging is it’s own little world and that it does take effort to get into it. I know we bore on about it, but we drive a lot of miles to go the events we like, and occasionally come out of our comfort zone eg we’ve just been to the festival of fun even though we’re not really campers.

Whether it takes more effort on fab to meet people compared to regular online dating is an interesting question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it should be hard work ?? nobody get anything for nothing so much to add in like attraction being free the same time family work nothing is easy and that includes swinging

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

Due to numbers single males have no chance as they supply the majority of revenue the slant of the sight is you do have a chance reality is one meet a year if your very lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Due to numbers single males have no chance as they supply the majority of revenue the slant of the sight is you do have a chance reality is one meet a year if your very lucky"

utter rubbish I meet some guys who have meets every week just don't see them complaining they get on with it they don't sit back with a sense of entitlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it should be hard work ?? nobody get anything for nothing so much to add in like attraction being free the same time family work nothing is easy and that includes swinging "

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"Due to numbers single males have no chance as they supply the majority of revenue the slant of the sight is you do have a chance reality is one meet a year if your very lucky"

This, sir, is a load of cobblers.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Due to numbers single males have no chance as they supply the majority of revenue the slant of the sight is you do have a chance reality is one meet a year if your very lucky"

Agree ... complete bollocks

Btw... it’s ‘’site’ not ‘sight’

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Due to numbers single males have no chance as they supply the majority of revenue the slant of the sight is you do have a chance reality is one meet a year if your very lucky"

Weird every time I've been to clubs, plenty of single guys having fun. Also I know due to verifications on some of the regulars here on the forums those guys are getting meets.

Op contribute more on these forums at socials and certainly get down to a club, just pick the right night

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Due to numbers single males have no chance as they supply the majority of revenue the slant of the sight is you do have a chance reality is one meet a year if your very lucky"

So my 11 meets in a year with 5 months off is what? Beginners luck?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I find it hard to get people to have a social in a public place with me before anything else happens for mutual safety. All most of them want is to come to mine for a quick. Not going to ever happen. Effort in = rewards out. I refuse to be treated like a free hooker by entitled men and couples.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside


"I find it hard to get people to have a social in a public place with me before anything else happens for mutual safety. All most of them want is to come to mine for a quick. Not going to ever happen. Effort in = rewards out. I refuse to be treated like a free hooker by entitled men and couples. "

A social is beneficial to both parties, as horny as i may get i still want to feel a connection and attraction in the flesh.

Made the mistake in the past and not had a social only to find they look nothing like their photo and wasn't physically attracted. Shallow? Maybe, but we all like what we like.

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By *ultrySiriWoman
over a year ago

Arundel

You just need to up your tricking game probably. its all about telling woman what she wants to hear most of the time.

On a slightly serious note. No, do not give up. Just keep trying different things. Or look up those with many veris to see why they do so well at fabbing.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

OP, when you say it is hard work - what did you expect? What did you hope to achieve? Why this site? What did the owners promise you that they have not delivered?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's hard work for everyone in its own way. But it can be amazing when it works.

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