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By *aughty Lovers 69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

Just wondering anyones thoughts on messages that people send to you that contain one word... Dare I say conversations.

We get a lot of messages that people send just saying 'hi' or 'hey'. If your interested in someone should it not contain more of a conversation or am I missing something? Or if you do reply and try and start a convo, you still get one word answers but the profile says they like to chat first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete them to be honest x don’t even check out their profile as they haven't checked out mine. Same with the obviously copied and pasted messages you know have been sent to everyone on here hoping someone (anyone) will reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering anyones thoughts on messages that people send to you that contain one word... Dare I say conversations.

We get a lot of messages that people send just saying 'hi' or 'hey'. If your interested in someone should it not contain more of a conversation or am I missing something? Or if you do reply and try and start a convo, you still get one word answers but the profile says they like to chat first "

It's better than no messages at all

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By *aughty Lovers 69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wallasey


"I just delete them to be honest x don’t even check out their profile as they haven't checked out mine. Same with the obviously copied and pasted messages you know have been sent to everyone on here hoping someone (anyone) will reply. "

It just baffles me, most of them have looked at the profile too, so in my head, if they then message then it's out of interest but im finding its sooooo effort on my part, which I don't mind but it's got to be two way street surely xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be nice, but now I just delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete. Fed up of timewasters and one liners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate them , why waste the time just to put . Hi or hello , also just saw someone on my hotlist put up there sick of people ignoring he's messages why can't people reply with not interested etc he ignored my message ( karma )

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

A simple hi or hello is as pointless as a wink, fire off a question or make an observation every time to get a conversation going. If people don't put the effort in with their messages why would they in the bedroom.

Same goes for the few and far between replies, in my experience if someone does reply on here as often as not it is very short and has limited opportunity to develop a flow of conversation, probably due to not being interested but if you go to the trouble of replying in the first place may as well say not interested.

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By *nceinawhileCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Depends upon my mood to weather I answer one word or very few word messages often if I do it's just with similar to see if it kick-starts anything or I just delete it if it's hard to have a conversation with the person then they are not for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just delete them to be honest x don’t even check out their profile as they haven't checked out mine. Same with the obviously copied and pasted messages you know have been sent to everyone on here hoping someone (anyone) will reply.

It just baffles me, most of them have looked at the profile too, so in my head, if they then message then it's out of interest but im finding its sooooo effort on my part, which I don't mind but it's got to be two way street surely xx"

I bet they looked at the pics only and didn't read the profile.

I ignore them. It means that they either have nothing in their profile other than "will fill in later" or if they do then they've found nothing of interest in mine.

Either way not for me.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

I delete or if I'm feeling petulant I reply with ok.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Just say Hi back, nothing else

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

It can be quite difficult to get a conversation going at the best of times, let alone when it all seems to be one way.

Good indication that there isn't much interest there though.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"It can be quite difficult to get a conversation going at the best of times, let alone when it all seems to be one way.

Good indication that there isn't much interest there though."

On many occasions I’ve had a conversation of sorts with people, who offer one and two word answers. After numerous messages I think these aren’t going anywhere. I say “take care” meaning goodbye. It’s amazing the effect these two words have.

They often come back with “don’t you want to chat”. Lol.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I tend to spend the effort that has been spent on me in deciding. If I can read the message without opening it, I delete without opening it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to spend the effort that has been spent on me in deciding. If I can read the message without opening it, I delete without opening it. "

Agreed.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

One that said cake was intriguing...

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I delete them too. Pointless. It’s not a face to face conversation and people who treat it as such are hard work.

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By *aughty Lovers 69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Wallasey


"It can be quite difficult to get a conversation going at the best of times, let alone when it all seems to be one way.

Good indication that there isn't much interest there though.

On many occasions I’ve had a conversation of sorts with people, who offer one and two word answers. After numerous messages I think these aren’t going anywhere. I say “take care” meaning goodbye. It’s amazing the effect these two words have.

They often come back with “don’t you want to chat”. Lol. "

Haha love this xx

Thanks everyone for the info and advice xxx

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