FabSwingers.com forum: Conflicting sex drive, wanting more

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone,

After a bit of advice.

Recently me and my partner have had a few relationship issues which we are working on.

He introduced me to the swinger lifestyle but we have yet to have our first experience, due to the issues we had we decided to leave venturing out as yet - my request.

Although we are working hard on getting better I have noticed for about two months now my sexual drive and attraction to him has waned quite alot to the point I am completely disinterested in sex with him.

I want to note that I was the more reluctant of the two of us initially about swinging however I warmed to the idea over time and found it something that excites me alot.

Given where we are now I can't help but really crave going to the likes of Townhouse for a night and seeing how we go.

Has anyone else experienced anything similar? my bf has always been up for a 3/4some or more and its only now I really want to go ahead with it especially if it helps wake me up a bit.

Considering its the only thing that turns me on right now I feel like I am in limbo just hoping for my old sex drive to return.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a tough one.

I mr am in a sort of similar situation

I had a massive confidence knock in the new year and since havent had the courage or anything to play with others but mrs has had plenty,

If the issues why you stopped are relationship based and trust or such then i wouldnt go to a club.

maybe look at sorting your own sex life out first before involving others.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

not sure that swinging and all the brain and heart ache will patch things up

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't do use swinging as a way to solve anything because it won't.

You need to talk to your partner, not us. He's going to feel pretty rubbish if he reads this.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
over a year ago

west london

"Don't do use swinging as a way to solve anything because it won't.

You need to talk to your partner, not us. He's going to feel pretty rubbish if he reads this."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would strongly suggest sorting out the issues between yourselves as a couple before introducing people into your bed. Swinging can make or break couples. You need to be happy and strong in your relationship and you need to trust each other.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

How has your lack of sexual intent towards him affected his confidence and feeling of security in your relationship? I would suggest not to swing unless you go with complete faith and security as individuals, in each other and in the realtionship. Swinging is not the cause of relationship breakdown but it quickly exposes and exacerbates problems in a relationship that can cause their collapse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there are cracks they are going to start to show pretty quickly.

The advice above is bang on tbh. Xxx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If you guys are having a few problems swinging won't help it will expose them even more. You have to be 100% solid for swinging to work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there are trust issues or either person is being pushed into doing something they don't want to do then swinging isn't going to help it. Mr

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