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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." Same here. Very disappointing | |||
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"We meet. But we prefer clubs as we can see who we decide to play with beforehand. If we have met someone at a club before then have no problem hosting at home or arranging to meet again " I’m more and more inclined this way! They’ve turned up for a start... | |||
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"We meet. But we prefer clubs as we can see who we decide to play with beforehand. If we have met someone at a club before then have no problem hosting at home or arranging to meet again I’m more and more inclined this way! They’ve turned up for a start... " Our free time is every rare and precious. Arranging a meet to be let down is whole wasted evening hence we prefer a club | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." Don't you still meet the folk you met before? | |||
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"We meet. But we prefer clubs as we can see who we decide to play with beforehand. If we have met someone at a club before then have no problem hosting at home or arranging to meet again I’m more and more inclined this way! They’ve turned up for a start... Our free time is every rare and precious. Arranging a meet to be let down is whole wasted evening hence we prefer a club " Totally see your view. At least this way there is a hot tub and plenty of other options | |||
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"Yep, lots of people are meeting others. " This made me lol Cos when I clicked on your profile it says ‘I’m not meeting’ and I heard a million men’s hearts break everywhere lol x | |||
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"We only meet at parties or in clubs " Same. That said got a social next week | |||
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"No luck here.had a few couples contact but unfortunately timewasters" They all didn't turn up? | |||
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"The nearest club to us is miles away, so it's just not practical. We used to arrange to meet people for play, never any issues. These days the people we used to meet have moved on and we're just not getting the interest. Or its only single men. We really want to play with couples. If they're bi all the better, but that seems to be an impossible ask! " Members club in clacton, not that far from Ipswich | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." Your profile's obviously attractive so it does seem off. Perhaps this just happens after a while? Maybe jigg the text up a bit for newer members? Say what interests you about being bi-curious perhaps. The lines on what you both like and do are pretty vanilla, but maybe that's what you want tho. Maybe also switch the profile pic or upload a new of you both or something. I'm saying all this because it's not something you can immediately make sense of. Actually, being specifically welcoming to new couples etc is probably a good idea for people who are finding its gone flat. | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." There seems to be to much finger tapping on here and not enough real meets | |||
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"With having a family life, we find it hard to meet at home. so only meet at clubs. Its a bit hard to meet for a social with possible play if the chemistry is there in a hotel room, we find anyone going to an hotel room expects play. We agree to only meet at clubs because for us to play we need some chemistry and a connection on the night. For us clubs offer a chance for all to meet others if there's no chemistry..." This is exactly what we do now. F x | |||
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"With having a family life, we find it hard to meet at home. so only meet at clubs. Its a bit hard to meet for a social with possible play if the chemistry is there in a hotel room, we find anyone going to an hotel room expects play. We agree to only meet at clubs because for us to play we need some chemistry and a connection on the night. For us clubs offer a chance for all to meet others if there's no chemistry... This is exactly what we do now. F x" this makes perfect sense, it's just not going to suit a lot of people. I expect it's worth pushing the boat out at least one time if you can though. | |||
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"Yes, I still meet, mainly people I've known for a long time though. I'm happy to accommodate them too. " One thing I've never read here is that it may be different trends in meeting, or other types of websites perhaps. I know there is nothing quite like fab (or as good as), but some form of outside factor could be part of the reason perhaps. | |||
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"Yep...got one on Wednesday" Show off lol x | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing. Your profile's obviously attractive so it does seem off. Perhaps this just happens after a while? Maybe jigg the text up a bit for newer members? Say what interests you about being bi-curious perhaps. The lines on what you both like and do are pretty vanilla, but maybe that's what you want tho. Maybe also switch the profile pic or upload a new of you both or something. I'm saying all this because it's not something you can immediately make sense of. Actually, being specifically welcoming to new couples etc is probably a good idea for people who are finding its gone flat." Thanks, we'll have a think about it. See what we can change/update xx | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." Yes they do,have you questioned yourself what could be wrong? | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." I’m genuinely having the time of my life in here, regularly meeting people from a circle of friends I’ve built up over the last few years, and also making new friends too. I do the occasional club visit, and while that side of the swinging scene has been a testing experience for me (as a single guy), I’m currently enjoying a run of popularity in Club f A point to note for you OP; not every woman enjoys being “made to squirt”, so perhaps you could drop this from your profile, as it may not sound appealing to many? All the best to you both | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." Tell me about it. Not been back on here long but looks like I haven't missed much. It's like single guys have to beg for it! | |||
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"I meet on a consistent basis " Lucky guys. | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." Of course! I'd meet you | |||
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"I take it all back. Have arranged a meet for next weekend! Can't wait!!" Well done... see, us meeters do exist | |||
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"No luck here.had a few couples contact but unfortunately timewasters They all didn't turn up? " they Just made excuses as the messaging progressed | |||
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"No luck here.had a few couples contact but unfortunately timewasters They all didn't turn up? they Just made excuses as the messaging progressed" Oh changed their minds rather than time wasters! Not everyone is for everyone hence why we chat ... I know everyone's not the same but to me time wasters either don't show up at all or change their minds at the last minute wasting the other person's time. Just messaging doesn't mean a definite meet just how people decide whether to meet or not! | |||
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"No luck here.had a few couples contact but unfortunately timewasters They all didn't turn up? they Just made excuses as the messaging progressed Oh changed their minds rather than time wasters! Not everyone is for everyone hence why we chat ... I know everyone's not the same but to me time wasters either don't show up at all or change their minds at the last minute wasting the other person's time. Just messaging doesn't mean a definite meet just how people decide whether to meet or not! " yes and time is precious as we get older......... Do not waste older people's time | |||
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"We meet. But we prefer clubs as we can see who we decide to play with beforehand. If we have met someone at a club before then have no problem hosting at home or arranging to meet again I’m more and more inclined this way! They’ve turned up for a start... Our free time is every rare and precious. Arranging a meet to be let down is whole wasted evening hence we prefer a club Totally see your view. At least this way there is a hot tub and plenty of other options " This xx | |||
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"People still meet but it feels a lot rarer now and a lot of people are just really nasty for no reason. We've learned it's best to not put all your eggs into the fab basket, you'd be surprised at how much more active and even friendly other places can be." Such as? | |||
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"Such as? " We can't say here due to FABs rules of pretending to be the only place for swingers, but FL, FB groups, t, hope that helps set a direction. | |||
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"With real world stuff, finding time and opportunity is a challenge. That said hoping for more time soon. " indeed | |||
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"Yep...got one on Wednesday Show off lol x " Don't worry it's been cancelled | |||
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"Such as? We can't say here due to FABs rules of pretending to be the only place for swingers, but FL, FB groups, t, hope that helps set a direction." Nope. That means nothing to me x | |||
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" Members club in clacton, not that far from Ipswich " Ipswich folk don't travel | |||
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"We meet. But we prefer clubs as we can see who we decide to play with beforehand. If we have met someone at a club before then have no problem hosting at home or arranging to meet again I’m more and more inclined this way! They’ve turned up for a start... Our free time is every rare and precious. Arranging a meet to be let down is whole wasted evening hence we prefer a club Totally see your view. At least this way there is a hot tub and plenty of other options This xx" | |||
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"And guess what...we booked a hotel for tonight, and they suddenly decide to block us this evening. No explanation. No warning. Nothing. I can't afford to be spending on hotel rooms like it's nothing. Bloody rude! " That's really unfortunate, we always try to book a room we can cancel last minute and still get our money back. On the odd occasion we haven't been able to, we use the room for a night out together anyway, so no big lost. | |||
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"And guess what...we booked a hotel for tonight, and they suddenly decide to block us this evening. No explanation. No warning. Nothing. I can't afford to be spending on hotel rooms like it's nothing. Bloody rude! " This. We’ve had it happen a couple of times. Did get apologies though but annoying when you’ve booked childcare and a hotel. We haven’t bothered trying to arrange anything since and just kept it to clubs and socials. Saying that, we travel up to Suffolk a few times a year so.... | |||
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"Some of us try to meet..but Iv had 2 no shows and a cancellation in the space of 6 days...so it’s other people that are not meeting it seems " Don't understand why people do this stuff - cancellation with notice I guess can be genuine but I see so many stories of people doing no shows. There also seem to be a lot of fake couples profiles around where the 'husband' is conveniently available all the time That all said meets can and do happen, just sometimes specific requirements can limit your choices. | |||
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"Some of us try to meet..but Iv had 2 no shows and a cancellation in the space of 6 days...so it’s other people that are not meeting it seems " Let’s meet | |||
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"And guess what...we booked a hotel for tonight, and they suddenly decide to block us this evening. No explanation. No warning. Nothing. I can't afford to be spending on hotel rooms like it's nothing. Bloody rude! That's really unfortunate, we always try to book a room we can cancel last minute and still get our money back. On the odd occasion we haven't been able to, we use the room for a night out together anyway, so no big lost. " That’s a good way of doing it, plan a night out and stay over for yourselves and if anything happens it does and if not just enjoy yourselves and have a good night just the two of you | |||
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"And guess what...we booked a hotel for tonight, and they suddenly decide to block us this evening. No explanation. No warning. Nothing. I can't afford to be spending on hotel rooms like it's nothing. Bloody rude! That's really unfortunate, we always try to book a room we can cancel last minute and still get our money back. On the odd occasion we haven't been able to, we use the room for a night out together anyway, so no big lost. That’s a good way of doing it, plan a night out and stay over for yourselves and if anything happens it does and if not just enjoy yourselves and have a good night just the two of you " Definitely when you're a couple you always have your favourite filthy fun with you - your partner More frustrating for singles this happens to I imagine. | |||
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"And guess what...we booked a hotel for tonight, and they suddenly decide to block us this evening. No explanation. No warning. Nothing. I can't afford to be spending on hotel rooms like it's nothing. Bloody rude! That's really unfortunate, we always try to book a room we can cancel last minute and still get our money back. On the odd occasion we haven't been able to, we use the room for a night out together anyway, so no big lost. That’s a good way of doing it, plan a night out and stay over for yourselves and if anything happens it does and if not just enjoy yourselves and have a good night just the two of you Definitely when you're a couple you always have your favourite filthy fun with you - your partner More frustrating for singles this happens to I imagine." Totally as a single I think you have to go on trust and verifications and chatting on the phone etc but as a couple you can do whatever you want! It’s bliss! | |||
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"Some of us try to meet..but Iv had 2 no shows and a cancellation in the space of 6 days...so it’s other people that are not meeting it seems Don't understand why people do this stuff - cancellation with notice I guess can be genuine but I see so many stories of people doing no shows. There also seem to be a lot of fake couples profiles around where the 'husband' is conveniently available all the time That all said meets can and do happen, just sometimes specific requirements can limit your choices." If they don’t meet the requirements they shouldn’t ask you to meet...it’s all in black and white on my profile and in this case someone I’d been talking to for months... | |||
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"Yes people meet. Our experience is that it takes time,we want to meet the right people not just meet for meetings sake. If that means we go months without a meet then so be it." Snap! | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing. Same here. Very disappointing " Yes, disappointing is the word of the moment. | |||
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"This is were clubs come into their element. Clubs don't cancel and you don't have to commit to one fixed meet. If the chemistry is not there, you simply find someone else to talk to. Clearly clubs are not to everyone's taste, but they do have their benefits. " | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." Yes, a lot. Considering I'm back after a long break I've found it much easier to meet people on my new profile... took me ages when first started years back. | |||
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"This is were clubs come into their element. Clubs don't cancel and you don't have to commit to one fixed meet. If the chemistry is not there, you simply find someone else to talk to. Clearly clubs are not to everyone's taste, but they do have their benefits. " | |||
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"You've probably already met everyone and no one left" Exactly lol... | |||
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"Yes, I had two lovely meets last week " were they both on a Wednesday? | |||
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"Yes, I had two lovely meets last week were they both on a Wednesday? " Nope | |||
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"Yes, I had two lovely meets last week were they both on a Wednesday? Nope" lol damnit that's my theory crushed | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." of course people meet on here OP this site has changed a lot be patient I never expect anything if I do then great if not I will not cry my eyes out or lose sleep one day someone will message you for all the right reasons | |||
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"And guess what...we booked a hotel for tonight, and they suddenly decide to block us this evening. No explanation. No warning. Nothing. I can't afford to be spending on hotel rooms like it's nothing. Bloody rude! " Perhaps meeting for a social first rather than jumping straight in with booking hotels would be better in future. | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." I had a lovely cock on yesterday. With a nice man attached! | |||
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"Yes, of course. " Having been in the Manchester area for over 3 months now, I’d have to disagree. The Northwest seems to have a thriving club scene (which doesn’t really interest me, if I’m honest) but individual meets, even getting messages read, let alone receiving replies, seems rarer and rarer. I can’t even persuade anyone to join me for nothing more than a curry in Wilmslow tonight. | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing." No! Did nobody tell you? Meets finished in 2019. It's a rule now. | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing. No! Did nobody tell you? Meets finished in 2019. It's a rule now." That’s a terrible rule lol and needs to be changed! We should make 2020 the year of awesome meets! | |||
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"We used to get loads of meets. Not had one in a long time. Disappointing. No! Did nobody tell you? Meets finished in 2019. It's a rule now. That’s a terrible rule lol and needs to be changed! We should make 2020 the year of awesome meets! " you bloody jinx | |||
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"My meeting trends are so unintentionally weird lol I usually go a while without meets, then when I finally get one, for some weird reason I get a few more in that same time space.. them goes dry for a while again lol " Then ** | |||
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"whatever you do don't say you're meeting anytime soon you'll be lynched " why anyone would try to meet at the moment is beyond me!! | |||
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"I've met a few seagulls today do you think theyre related to albatrosses because they are big birds " Only if they're close up, more likely related to sparrows if they are a distance away as they're a similar size | |||
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