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"If you've met socially first them I think the likelihood of that happening is going to be very slim. Discuss any insecurities, fears or concerns during you're social - if he, she or they don't make you feel 100% secure, take it no further. " Great advice - thank you! X | |||
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"Does, or has, anyone ever gone for a meet, met the person and changed their minds? We are very much a couple that wants to meet for a social first, so wouldn’t get naked without being sure, but I’m (Mrs) am nervous about the likelihood of a man saying ‘Naaaaaaaa, I’m outta here’ once we get down to the nitty gritty. Does that happen? " I only ever meet for a pure social meet first as if we don't click then no way I'm gonna shag em lol | |||
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"If you've met socially first them I think the likelihood of that happening is going to be very slim. Discuss any insecurities, fears or concerns during you're social - if he, she or they don't make you feel 100% secure, take it no further. " Exactly this | |||
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"I've had fantastic socials and arranged a meet only to turn up and the vibe be totally wrong and I've said no thanks. You're entitled to say no at any given point so don't be afraid to do so " Agreed | |||
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"Does, or has, anyone ever gone for a meet, met the person and changed their minds? We are very much a couple that wants to meet for a social first, so wouldn’t get naked without being sure, but I’m (Mrs) am nervous about the likelihood of a man saying ‘Naaaaaaaa, I’m outta here’ once we get down to the nitty gritty. Does that happen? " yes it's the smell drives me nuts I think lavender or honeysuckle here I come | |||
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"If you've met socially first them I think the likelihood of that happening is going to be very slim. Discuss any insecurities, fears or concerns during you're social - if he, she or they don't make you feel 100% secure, take it no further. " Excellent advice | |||
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"I'm going to admit I've been to a meet and been told that I just wasn't her cup of tea. No worries, we can't all click, so I left on good terms. After I'd handed over a bottle of wine though hmmmmmm! " Went to a social and we got on very well. She then told me later that she enjoyed my company but there wasn't a "spark". No issues with that at all. Social meets help out that way for both partied | |||
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"If you've met socially first them I think the likelihood of that happening is going to be very slim. Discuss any insecurities, fears or concerns during you're social - if he, she or they don't make you feel 100% secure, take it no further. " Great advice!!! But I wouldn't discuss insecurity/fears with a stranger (meeting with a stranger is an intrinsic risk) I don't want to be an open book | |||
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"If you've met socially first them I think the likelihood of that happening is going to be very slim. Discuss any insecurities, fears or concerns during you're social - if he, she or they don't make you feel 100% secure, take it no further. Great advice!!! But I wouldn't discuss insecurity/fears with a stranger (meeting with a stranger is an intrinsic risk) I don't want to be an open book " I read it as relatee to the meet, not sharing personal information | |||
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"If you've met socially first them I think the likelihood of that happening is going to be very slim. Discuss any insecurities, fears or concerns during you're social - if he, she or they don't make you feel 100% secure, take it no further. Great advice!!! But I wouldn't discuss insecurity/fears with a stranger (meeting with a stranger is an intrinsic risk) I don't want to be an open book I read it as relatee to the meet, not sharing personal information " I am not sure in first meeting anyone would say, hey I am a bit insecure with you | |||
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"If you've met socially first them I think the likelihood of that happening is going to be very slim. Discuss any insecurities, fears or concerns during you're social - if he, she or they don't make you feel 100% secure, take it no further. " This | |||
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" Does that happen? " Had the no spark thing happen both ways. Were all adults so its just part of everyday interaction. Club meets are far easier as its easy to step apart and still have fun with others. | |||
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"Actually probably one of our least successful sexual encounters happened after we got on like a house on fire socially, there is no magic formula, sometimes we can be a bit not sure about people but give it a go and it’s dynamite and vice versa. Hence we don’t do social only meets anymore. We’ve walked away and not played with people a few times, they might have great veris and be hot, but they’ve been arseholes, not nice people and up themselves. Just annoying arseholes don’t do it for us Sometimes doubts can just be nerves though" a powerful post - reality that social is just that "a social" ... we find that the erotic is different ... people you get along with might be just not the people you desire for play; our experience from all nude sex spa in Madrid is that when you are in the sensual/sexy play space you can size up each other and take things forward or just say no thanks ... | |||
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"Actually probably one of our least successful sexual encounters happened after we got on like a house on fire socially, there is no magic formula, sometimes we can be a bit not sure about people but give it a go and it’s dynamite and vice versa. Hence we don’t do social only meets anymore. We’ve walked away and not played with people a few times, they might have great veris and be hot, but they’ve been arseholes, not nice people and up themselves. Just annoying arseholes don’t do it for us Sometimes doubts can just be nerves though a powerful post - reality that social is just that "a social" ... we find that the erotic is different ... people you get along with might be just not the people you desire for play; our experience from all nude sex spa in Madrid is that when you are in the sensual/sexy play space you can size up each other and take things forward or just say no thanks ... " Well being naked gives you a more accurate perspective of whether you fancy a person sexually but a person who can comfortably converse with you naked and still be attractive even better | |||
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