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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So is there something wrong with me or my profile I'm getting nowhere. Ladies arent reading my msgs, im polite an well thought out after reading a profile. Getting sick of it and this site. To clicky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So is there something wrong with me or my profile I'm getting nowhere. Ladies arent reading my msgs, im polite an well thought out after reading a profile. Getting sick of it and this site. To clicky. "

Ok pics arent too bad a good selection but your profile is all about you,you,you a tad selfish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok pics arent too bad a good selection but your profile is all about you,you,you a tad selfish.

So what should I be writing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

What do you have to offer someone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you have to offer someone? "

It's a sex hook up site not a dating site??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok pics arent too bad a good selection but your profile is all about you,you,you a tad selfish.

So what should I be writing. "

Its your profile so if your happy with it leave it

And your status is negative

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Every profile on this site is about the person who wrote it. I thought that was the idea??

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What do you have to offer someone?

It's a sex hook up site not a dating site?? "

Yes, but I'm here for great sex. For me. What you want is only part of the story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every profile on this site is about the person who wrote it. I thought that was the idea?? "

But a selfish man wont get far

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My profile indicates both things I like and what I have to offer...

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

If you are getting sick of the site then leave! Obviously the females you are messaging are not interested, You say its a sex hook up site? So females should be meeting you? They have that wee thing called choice.....

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

And the fact that there's alot of choice on here. So much in fact it's like every restaurant in the world has been crammed into one city and there's unlimited time to decide. But there's also alot of the same restaurant, you don't feel like reading every single Italian menu, so you skim and well the first 400 just don't float your goat.

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"What do you have to offer someone?

It's a sex hook up site not a dating site?? "

No, this is a swingers site. Your profile paints a picture of a selfish man with a list of wants. You offer nothing in return though. It reads like a guy who just wants to use women.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Have to agree with the others OP your profile is very much "I want" not "I can offer" and to be honest in places comes across as quite demanding (your sign off line for example).

Yes this is a sex site for NSA meets and swinging BUT that doesn't mean you're guaranteed it or should expect it either - it IS about finding people you connect with and have a chemistry with even if it's only on a very superficial level and one of the factors in finding that is to make your profile as appealing as possible and detailing not only what you would "like" but the type of person you are and what you think you bring to the table.

Also if you find messages aren't working for you, look at other approaches you could use like the forums or chat rooms or group socials/clubs which are all good ways to get to know others and get yourself known.

Finally the main part of what you are looking for is fairly niche and is going to limit your chances of finding what you are looking for even further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are getting sick of the site then leave! Obviously the females you are messaging are not interested, You say its a sex hook up site? So females should be meeting you? They have that wee thing called choice....."

Right and women are spoilt for choice. Don't take it personal OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you have to offer someone?

It's a sex hook up site not a dating site?? "

With that attitude im not surprised you arent getting a response.

So you think ladies should lay back and let you fuck them cos its a SEX SITE. Wow. Its about connection my friend. That comes first before SEX

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Right and women are spoilt for choice. Don't take it personal OP."

In quantity you may find women are spoilt for choice....in quality however....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Right and women are spoilt for choice. Don't take it personal OP.

In quantity you may find women are spoilt for choice....in quality however....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so changed the description. Better??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so changed the description. Better?? "

Be better to change your attirude. It stinks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok so changed the description. Better??

Be better to change your attirude. It stinks"

What the hell.....

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You could replace every "an" in your profile with "and". Saying you have a massive foot fetish sounds as if you like big feet !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok so changed the description. Better??

Be better to change your attirude. It stinks"

And your profile states your always polite hahaha. Oh an very specifically black guys well some may find that racist. Pot an kettle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so changed the description. Better??

Be better to change your attirude. It stinks

What the hell....."

Yep. Sorry. But only being honest. Sex site. Yes. But a certain amount of respect to the ladies would be nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok so changed the description. Better??

Be better to change your attirude. It stinks

What the hell.....

Yep. Sorry. But only being honest. Sex site. Yes. But a certain amount of respect to the ladies would be nice"

I'm constantly respectful in my msgs. How the hell do you decide that I'm not an talk to me like crap.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Now very generic, in some ways worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so changed the description. Better??

Be better to change your attirude. It stinks

What the hell.....

Yep. Sorry. But only being honest. Sex site. Yes. But a certain amount of respect to the ladies would be nice

I'm constantly respectful in my msgs. How the hell do you decide that I'm not an talk to me like crap. "

As a lady reading your message saying its a sex site. I think i can. Im not deciding anything its just my opinion on why you might have a problem. If you dnt then crack on

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The idea that you shouldn't have to offer anything because it's a sex site took me by surprise.

You need to sell yourself here. Particularly as a man. Why should I choose you over the umpteen other guys who message me? If all you can say is what you want, I shouldn't and I won't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Now very generic, in some ways worse."

Feeling like I cant win. Really dont have a clue what to write. Cheers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The idea that you shouldn't have to offer anything because it's a sex site took me by surprise.

You need to sell yourself here. Particularly as a man. Why should I choose you over the umpteen other guys who message me? If all you can say is what you want, I shouldn't and I won't. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Now very generic, in some ways worse.

Feeling like I cant win. Really dont have a clue what to write. Cheers. "

Talk about you and why someone would want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so changed the description. Better??

Be better to change your attirude. It stinks

What the hell.....

Yep. Sorry. But only being honest. Sex site. Yes. But a certain amount of respect to the ladies would be nice

I'm constantly respectful in my msgs. How the hell do you decide that I'm not an talk to me like crap. "

The problem is you are only one of several respectful men that has messaged that woman that day.

As others have said what makes you stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so I've changed an updated it what do you you all think now?? X

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

This should help, assuming that you have the constitution to read this useful 'guide'.

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This should help, assuming that you have the constitution to read this useful 'guide'.

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

Thank you very helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This should help, assuming that you have the constitution to read this useful 'guide'.

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

That is brilliant!

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"Ok so I've changed an updated it what do you you all think now?? X"

Didn’t see your profile before but I think it looks good now. Great pics and text - love the body pics and the smile

. In our experience, and if you’ve got the personality to go with that smile, organised socials are the best way to meet people. Or just come to Belfast

x Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you have to offer someone?

It's a sex hook up site not a dating site?? "

So you have nothing whatsoever to offer anyone?.... I'm surprised your inbox isnt exploding OP.

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didnt see the earlier version of what you wrote. But that quote about it being a hook up on here, completely contradicts what you've put in your profile. Other than that, its not a bad profile. You have a decent variety of pics and the text isnt too bad. Good luck in your search OP

Holly

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I didn’t see your profile before, but I’ve noticed several things which may affect you receiving replies. It appears you want bareback by not listing ‘safe sex’, this could limit you getting replies greatly; some people have a different opinion when men list themselves as ‘straight’, but looking for a TV/TS - many view this as ‘bi-curious’; and too many cock pictures on display, some people prefer to see one or two in a profile, as many know what one looks like. Perhaps put the others in ‘friends only’ and show them if asked.

It’s your profile, but if you believe it truly reflects you, then leave it how it is.

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