FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Support and Advice

Photos on profiles or lack of male ones!

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just me (babe) but this really touches a nerve with me, when people contact us & they only have pics of the female! What's that about? I dont do blind dates & I like to see if there is some kind of visual attraction but have to keep asking for pics of the male! Just been told by a couple that people don't usually ask for pics of the male! Really? Do women just go along with the meet because there's nice pics of the female that their partner likes?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i am an exhibitionist, kev isnt...so our profile features public pics of me,

Do you ask for facepics ,because i would be suspicious of any couple who were unwilling to send them, even if they keep them private.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

pics of Mr for us are on the private profile/sent on request due to his work.

But yes if a couple cant come up with a picture of male they can bugger right off ! and we have had people try to meet us without providing a picture of the guy bit strange.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *pl- capdagdeCouple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France

In many cases the guys do the profiles and use the woman as the bargaining tool,they think that all is needed is 100,s of pics of the lady in diff poses and it's job done..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Assuming the OP means no pic of male at all...not even sent with mail?

And NO would never meet anyone who couldn't provide a face pic of both...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile pic is as a couple because we are and we do things together, our private gallery are for friends who might want to see more.

The profile pic is the first point of contact as it forms part of an advert.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont have a couples profile anymore.. but when we did we had a body shot.. but wouldnt send a photo because we never met females, or couples.. just single guys.

If we had been meeting women then we would have had one to send once we were sure.

cali

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *heiraWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Ive been trying to find my first couple to meet but with no luck as yet (( but would never consider a meet if pictures of both couldnt be provided . Its only natural that you would want to find an attraction for both

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Is it just me (babe) but this really touches a nerve with me, when people contact us & they only have pics of the female! What's that about? I dont do blind dates & I like to see if there is some kind of visual attraction but have to keep asking for pics of the male! Just been told by a couple that people don't usually ask for pics of the male! Really? Do women just go along with the meet because there's nice pics of the female that their partner likes?"

We have more photos of me than of Mr B. Purely becuase I like my photos taken and he doesn't.

But do have a body pic of Mr B on our profile and always send a clear face pic of us both, if interested in meeting. Won't meet without seeing clear face pics in return.

Neither of us just go along with the other, both of us have to 100% happy whether we are meeting a single guy/lady, couple or group.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've got it about 50/50 on ours. We've tried all kinds of mixes on pictures over the years, and found the way we do it now to be best in terms of the response we get. We believe that couples should show more pics of the male half, as its just as important that he's seen.

Wolf

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

Can be a bit frustrating, but when we've asked for pics of 'him' too, we've generally received them. And as we always meet socially first, you can be sure that the potential playmates are what you want. Simples.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

We have more photos of me than of Mr B. Purely becuase I like my photos taken and he doesn't.

But do have a body pic of Mr B on our profile and always send a clear face pic of us both, if interested in meeting. Won't meet without seeing clear face pics in return.

Neither of us just go along with the other, both of us have to 100% happy whether we are meeting a single guy/lady, couple or group."

That's exactly the same as us.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are so glad someone has mentioned this in the forum.

This has to be the must frustrating factor to this site.

After months and months of looking as at many naked pictures of the female and asking and asking and asking for the pics of the male half, we have decided that if the male is nowhere to be seen on a profile or pics sent before asking.....its just a big turn off. We are very honest, we show photos of us both, we hide nothing. So if we are looking to engage with a 'couple' we would like to see 'both' parties. After all thats who we intend to meet....both of you.

We too are in high/public profile jobs, but if any of our colleagues were to see us on here....guess what?? They are swinging too...lol

Maybe its us, but we find that 'our' profile and 'our play' is very mutual and we see everything as 50/50. We share the messaging etc (makes the admin lighter...lol)

So we fully agree with the OP and feel exactly the same...

Come on boys, show yourselves!!! lol

L & K

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm glad it's not just me that feels this way, was beginning to think it was

Just get so frustrated at having to keep asking for male pics!!!!

We're honest within our profile & with our pics & expect other couples to be the same there maybe a few more of me then Dez, but at least his there!!!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only share face pics with the trusted few people we want to share them with

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I've found is that it must be upsetting for the guy if things are going well.. then a photo of the guy are asked for And then its not for me..

So having a face photo or at least a body photo to send of the male would be a good thing. I've had couples that have got quite nasty at that point...

Cali

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are interested in playing with a couple we will show clear face pics of the two of us. I agree that ladies should see pics of the male.

I find that most people send face pics attached to private messages. If this is not offered during the first few messages then ask for pics and tell them that you only consider play after seeing both of the couple. If the couple still do not produce a face pic, or produce a cock pic or body pic instead of a face, or say they don't have any or will produce them by email or on the phone etc, then do not reply to any messages until they do.

If I'd sent face pics and continued to be sent only female pics or cock, body, left ear of the guy whilst he's giving oral sex pics, then I don't continue with the exchange. I have little patience with what I consider a simple and easily understood request.

But on the subject of male pics on public show then no we don't do this and never will. I am an exhibitionist, my pics are there because I like to be on show. He doesn't like to be on show, he will only show pics to interested people who want to meet.

I understand that some couples want to see public pics of both, as its a quicker way to see if there's an instant attraction rather than message. However we do things our way, our choice, we are not here to cater to what other people want or expect

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"If we are interested in playing with a couple we will show clear face pics of the two of us. I agree that ladies should see pics of the male.

I find that most people send face pics attached to private messages. If this is not offered during the first few messages then ask for pics and tell them that you only consider play after seeing both of the couple. If the couple still do not produce a face pic, or produce a cock pic or body pic instead of a face, or say they don't have any or will produce them by email or on the phone etc, then do not reply to any messages until they do.

If I'd sent face pics and continued to be sent only female pics or cock, body, left ear of the guy whilst he's giving oral sex pics, then I don't continue with the exchange. I have little patience with what I consider a simple and easily understood request.

But on the subject of male pics on public show then no we don't do this and never will. I am an exhibitionist, my pics are there because I like to be on show. He doesn't like to be on show, he will only show pics to interested people who want to meet.

I understand that some couples want to see public pics of both, as its a quicker way to see if there's an instant attraction rather than message. However we do things our way, our choice, we are not here to cater to what other people want or expect

"

If anyone chooses not to meet us because we dont jump through their hoops Good!

We are here for us not them

As for the poster who said they worked in a "high profile" job but didnt care who saw them; they presumably dont work in the public sector or with vulnerable children or adults; as people who do have a disrepute clause in their contract and could loose their jobs if found here

Swinging is never worth loosing your job over

This thread comes up weekly and the answer as always is personal choice;Everyone has the right to run their profile as they see fit;The only time others need comment is if they start a help with my profile or why aren't i getting meets thread

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it slightly bewildering that someone needs to mention that they are in a profession working with vulnerable children and have a clause in their contract but choose to disregard this clause and then lecture on the possibility of losing their job...... If you are risking your job by doing this then it cannot be so important to you.........

That said this thread was not talking about face pics it was talking about pics of the male half of a couple in general......... This could be body/cock/back of the head or anything else..... The reality is there are too many couples on here that choose to show only pictures of the female (which i agree is their choice and i would never question that)........

However what i do question is when you have to request a picture of the male..... once received you then politely say no thanks (usually because they are not showing a picture as they are not very appealing to the eye).... to then be questioned why!!!!!!! Have a guess you have just sent us a picture of your partner!!!!! If a picture was displayed within public gallery then this would stop a lot of disappointment as chat would not begin in the first place..................

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people working in public sector - teachers, nurses, doctors, othe medical /health care professionals/ social workers, civil servants etc all have a "disrepute" clause in their contract. If we all chose not to take any risk at all this would be a very quiet forum and site! However we do our utmost to protect our privacy by not posting any facial pics of either of us and generally do not send them either :- will cam on request with prospective meets in a social chat to show we are real and both exist and also to see if there is any chemistry both ways. We have been caught out with pic collectors in the past and just say no now - if that limits our chances so be it. Our Privacy and annonimity is paramount

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we are interested in playing with a couple we will show clear face pics of the two of us. I agree that ladies should see pics of the male.

I find that most people send face pics attached to private messages. If this is not offered during the first few messages then ask for pics and tell them that you only consider play after seeing both of the couple. If the couple still do not produce a face pic, or produce a cock pic or body pic instead of a face, or say they don't have any or will produce them by email or on the phone etc, then do not reply to any messages until they do.

If I'd sent face pics and continued to be sent only female pics or cock, body, left ear of the guy whilst he's giving oral sex pics, then I don't continue with the exchange. I have little patience with what I consider a simple and easily understood request.

But on the subject of male pics on public show then no we don't do this and never will. I am an exhibitionist, my pics are there because I like to be on show. He doesn't like to be on show, he will only show pics to interested people who want to meet.

I understand that some couples want to see public pics of both, as its a quicker way to see if there's an instant attraction rather than message. However we do things our way, our choice, we are not here to cater to what other people want or expect

If anyone chooses not to meet us because we dont jump through their hoops Good!

We are here for us not them

As for the poster who said they worked in a "high profile" job but didnt care who saw them; they presumably dont work in the public sector or with vulnerable children or adults; as people who do have a disrepute clause in their contract and could loose their jobs if found here

Swinging is never worth loosing your job over

This thread comes up weekly and the answer as always is personal choice;Everyone has the right to run their profile as they see fit;The only time others need comment is if they start a help with my profile or why aren't i getting meets thread"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *pl- capdagdeCouple
over a year ago

Cap d agde,France


"I find it slightly bewildering that someone needs to mention that they are in a profession working with vulnerable children and have a clause in their contract but choose to disregard this clause and then lecture on the possibility of losing their job...... If you are risking your job by doing this then it cannot be so important to you.........

That said this thread was not talking about face pics it was talking about pics of the male half of a couple in general......... This could be body/cock/back of the head or anything else..... The reality is there are too many couples on here that choose to show only pictures of the female (which i agree is their choice and i would never question that)........

However what i do question is when you have to request a picture of the male..... once received you then politely say no thanks (usually because they are not showing a picture as they are not very appealing to the eye).... to then be questioned why!!!!!!! Have a guess you have just sent us a picture of your partner!!!!! If a picture was displayed within public gallery then this would stop a lot of disappointment as chat would not begin in the first place.................. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r and Mrs FlintstoneCouple
over a year ago

bridgwater

always ask to see both m and fem we both have to have an attraction . no taking one for the team here

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *halk2cheeseCouple
over a year ago

Heathrow

got to agree with you on that not many couples have pics of male which is a shame xx Daisy Steve

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top