FabSwingers.com forum: Coming back from new family

By *ittlecouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

We were really active in our early 20s, swinging from dating to marriage, then of course children came.

So we have been on complete hiatus for the last 7-8 years, and now our availability is completely changed. No more spontaneously driving 30 miles, and no more clubs!

This is obviously a common set of life changes. Can others share advice on getting back into the game?

One major change we discussed is playing single, because both being available at the same time is just about impossible. We haven’t done this before but hadn’t ruled it out either. Taking it slow and don’t think we should encounter jealousy issues.

By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

When I looked at your pics I thought you were a two women couple.

I think if you start to play separately she will find it a lot easier to get meets than the male and jealousy might arise.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were really active in our early 20s, swinging from dating to marriage, then of course children came.

So we have been on complete hiatus for the last 7-8 years, and now our availability is completely changed. No more spontaneously driving 30 miles, and no more clubs!

This is obviously a common set of life changes. Can others share advice on getting back into the game?

We're in the same boat. Child free time is very very limited and at times when everyone else is working. Also even so we're a couple - we're also individuals and some of the preferences don't match. Meeting on my own to explore things my husband has no intetest in is a way forward for us so I have my own profile on here now. He chose not to have his own.

We're still looking to meet together whenever we can. If you feel secure in yourselves and your relationship - meeting separately can only add to it.

Mrs

By *ittlecouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

It’s a great point. The M is always the one with the camera and we need partners to take some of us in action together. It needs to be planned, which we’ve never been good at.