FabSwingers.com forum: Profile advice

By *partharmony OP Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We're generally happy with what we're getting from this site but I thought I'd ask for the traditional feedback on our profile because there's always room for improvement.

We have tried to keep our text positive and informative, avoiding saying what we don't like or what will get users blocked.

For our photos we have intentionally steered clear of just showing everything. We are trying to be enticing and a bit titillating but leaving plenty to be discovered if we meet.

We chose to put both of us on our avatar.

Do you think these are good objectives? Have we achieved them? Do we come across as a couple you'd like to meet? Have we told you the most important things you would want to know? Do you like our photos? Have we picked the best photos for our avatar composite?

All constructive feedback welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. A well written profile. Two things for me. Firstly there’s no pictures of you together. If I’m looking for a couple I like to see pictures of them together and not necessarily in a sexual way. Secondly you’ve been very honest about your living conditions. This would put me off purely based on the fact that until you live together there’s a lot of things that need to align for a meet. Both of you being available and me all at the same time

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By *partharmony OP Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Thank you. I take your point about a photo together. We'll rectify that.

Regarding our living arrangements, that's just how it is but not for much longer.

It's got a lot to do with why we don't have any meets yet to verify us from. The best we can do is be clear about our situation, and we have been having some good conversations with couples who are keen to meet us when the time is right.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You cannot travel and cannot accommodate and one of you is in Surrey and other York so I dont see how you can ever meet people. I agree you need pics of you together.

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By *partharmony OP Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"You cannot travel and cannot accommodate and one of you is in Surrey and other York so I dont see how you can ever meet people. I agree you need pics of you together. "

That will be changing in about six weeks when we shall be living together and able to accommodate. Our time on this site so far has enabled us to start conversations and make some friends.

I understand our situation is not ideal for meeting people but we have been happy to take things slowly and we have found a few couples we like who are up for meeting when the time comes.

The question here is not about our living situation which can only change at the pace it is going, but about how we come across on our profile.

So to be a little clearer, when we no longer say we are apart, and when we are able to accommodate, how does our profile look then? Photos of us together is already noted.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile is all about finding the right couple but you are also looking to meet women?

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By *partharmony OP Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Your profile is all about finding the right couple but you are also looking to meet women?"

Fair question. We're focussing on couples because that is our main interest but we would certainly like to experience mmf and mff. It's more realistic to find a couple than a unicorn so we haven't mentioned looking for one. Maybe we should clarify our position on single women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the curious thing throws me. I don’t meet couples or single people who are bi curious as part way through one meet she decided it wasn’t for her. That’s totally there choice but doesn’t stop you feeling slightly rejected and then leaving becomes awkward.

If you’re curious get yourselves to a club and start on a less one on one level, start with flirting etc. If you decide it’s not for either of you there’s still fun to be had

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By *partharmony OP Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

To be perfectly honest, Hannah has crossed the Curious Line well and truly. The curious bit is more a reference to her considerably greater experience with men than women and where the majority of her physical attractions lie. There are simply fewer women she would consider having sex with than men, but she would absolutely not hold back with the right woman.

We have talked about changing her status to bi. I suspect the next time she goes all the way with a woman we'll change it. If she's attracted to a woman it's extremely unlikely she would get cold feet if they/we meet up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I take this is the male half talking you also describe as being curious. Maybe add a line or two on what that means to both of you. Curious ranges from you’re thinking about it to wanting full sex and all the in between. How important is that to you? Does that mean you’ll meet only other full bi couples?

You could say “male half is wanting to explore his bi curious side”

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

" I suspect the next time she goes all the way with a woman we'll change it. "

What would she need to do for you class her going "all the way" with a woman ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s a well written profile with good pics. The two things I would pick up on personally are the “Can’t accommodate/can’t travel” and no meets yet in the 8 months you’ve been on the site. I’m putting it down to your living arrangements but have there been no opportunities for you to meet another couple yet?

Fully sympathise as myself and Abby are often apart due to my working away so on the spur of the moment meets are impossible.

Wishing you lots of fun when you move in together!

V x

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By *partharmony OP Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

" I suspect the next time she goes all the way with a woman we'll change it.

What would she need to do for you class her going "all the way" with a woman ?"

It's hard to put a check list together of course, but I would say more than kissing (although that would be part of it), probably fully naked together and bringing each other to orgasm.

This has happened on a couple of occasions with the same woman. I think if that happens again with another woman, whether on her own or with me, we would change her description to bi. I personally think she is already there because she has made it clear she wants to with one particular woman and certainly is expressing enthusiasm in women we see on here, subject to the chemistry being there.

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By *partharmony OP Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"I think it’s a well written profile with good pics. The two things I would pick up on personally are the “Can’t accommodate/can’t travel” and no meets yet in the 8 months you’ve been on the site. I’m putting it down to your living arrangements but have there been no opportunities for you to meet another couple yet?"

It is indeed down to us being together intermittently. We have conversations going with a few couples we are very keen on but timing hasn't been quite right for us and any of them at the same time yet. That should change when we get our own place together in August.

We did go to a club and arrange beforehand to meet two couples there but although we were there, they both were no-shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did go to a club and arrange beforehand to meet two couples there but although we were there, they both were no-shows."

It will happen, it’s hard to get the timing right sometimes. We have couples on our friends list where the first meet is long overdue. The upside is you build up friendships with them which is important to us.

And yes, the club meets can be as unreliable as private ones.

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