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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi there I am a sub and looking for a mistress can anyone help me find one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok.

What can you offer the Domme,

What makes you a better submissive than anyone else

Why do you want to be someones submissive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ok.

What can you offer the Domme,

What makes you a better submissive than anyone else

Why do you want to be someones submissive

"
I can offer my body mind and soul I will be 100% loyal I will do anything that is asked of me and well if I'm your sub I'm your sub until you say further I don't have the experience slot have on here but unlike them I can be molded into what you wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok.

What can you offer the Domme,

What makes you a better submissive than anyone else

Why do you want to be someones submissive

I can offer my body mind and soul I will be 100% loyal I will do anything that is asked of me and well if I'm your sub I'm your sub until you say further I don't have the experience slot have on here but unlike them I can be molded into what you wish "

my best advice.

look at a few munches in your area from a well known fetish site and take it from there, get to know people.

I have known people to meet dommes/doms here but its rarely .

enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ok.

What can you offer the Domme,

What makes you a better submissive than anyone else

Why do you want to be someones submissive

I can offer my body mind and soul I will be 100% loyal I will do anything that is asked of me and well if I'm your sub I'm your sub until you say further I don't have the experience slot have on here but unlike them I can be molded into what you wish

my best advice.

look at a few munches in your area from a well known fetish site and take it from there, get to know people.

I have known people to meet dommes/doms here but its rarely .

enjoy!"
thank you for the advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok.

What can you offer the Domme,

What makes you a better submissive than anyone else

Why do you want to be someones submissive

I can offer my body mind and soul I will be 100% loyal I will do anything that is asked of me and well if I'm your sub I'm your sub until you say further I don't have the experience slot have on here but unlike them I can be molded into what you wish "

Okay.. so if i said to you,"you can clean my house, wash my dishes, paint the walls of my hall way and wear a chasitity device for the rest of you life and you would not cum ever again. You would be happy to do this because you will do anything for me...

Hmmmm.....

Be vey careful with this 100% do anything for anyone..... everybody should have boundaries.

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By *ister KinkyMan
over a year ago

Sussex


"Okay.. so if i said to you,"you can clean my house, wash my dishes, paint the walls of my hall way and wear a chasitity device for the rest of you life and you would not cum ever again. You would be happy to do this because you will do anything for me...

Hmmmm.....

Be vey careful with this 100% do anything for anyone..... everybody should have boundaries.

"

I respectfully agree with the above 100%

Also if someone asks you what your session limits are, please don’t say that cringeworthy line, “I have no limits”. Trust me, in 24 years of playing on the scene, everyone has a limit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any sub worth their weight in dog crap would shut up and let the Domme find you.

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

True dommes are the real unicorns if you ask me...especially on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay.. so if i said to you,"you can clean my house, wash my dishes, paint the walls of my hall way and wear a chasitity device for the rest of you life and you would not cum ever again. You would be happy to do this because you will do anything for me...

Hmmmm.....

Be vey careful with this 100% do anything for anyone..... everybody should have boundaries.

I respectfully agree with the above 100%

Also if someone asks you what your session limits are, please don’t say that cringeworthy line, “I have no limits”. Trust me, in 24 years of playing on the scene, everyone has a limit. "

agree with this totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok.

What can you offer the Domme,

What makes you a better submissive than anyone else

Why do you want to be someones submissive

I can offer my body mind and soul I will be 100% loyal I will do anything that is asked of me and well if I'm your sub I'm your sub until you say further I don't have the experience slot have on here but unlike them I can be molded into what you wish

Okay.. so if i said to you,"you can clean my house, wash my dishes, paint the walls of my hall way and wear a chasitity device for the rest of you life and you would not cum ever again. You would be happy to do this because you will do anything for me...

Hmmmm.....

Be vey careful with this 100% do anything for anyone..... everybody should have boundaries.

"

i love housework an cleaning so a sub to me wouldnt be asked to do this LOL

Gardening errrr maybe

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Hi there I am a sub and looking for a mistress can anyone help me find one "

Better on a Fet website. Too many people on here think they are Dom’s/Dommes but they aren’t. An experienced sub will know by the questions a master/mistress asks if they know how to look after a sub. Know your boundaries. Don’t by bullied. A good Dom/Domme will know how to look after you. It’s not all about obedience and pain there is a very pleasurable side to being sub as well.

Remember the sub holds the power. PM me if you want to discuss it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something we’re looking to try the next few month and attend a few events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, you are getting into dangerous territory here.

I've not got much experience compared to some but will say this. You need to have 100% trust in your partner.

You certainly don't want to have a few hours of entertainment then go your own separate ways. You may not have heard of a thing called sub drop but it lasts about 24 hours after a session and it certainly makes me very clingy, needy, even occasionally tearful. You don't want to be going through that on your own, especially the first time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op, you are getting into dangerous territory here.

I've not got much experience compared to some but will say this. You need to have 100% trust in your partner.

You certainly don't want to have a few hours of entertainment then go your own separate ways. You may not have heard of a thing called sub drop but it lasts about 24 hours after a session and it certainly makes me very clingy, needy, even occasionally tearful. You don't want to be going through that on your own, especially the first time."

some people dont suffer the sub drop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op, you are getting into dangerous territory here.

I've not got much experience compared to some but will say this. You need to have 100% trust in your partner.

You certainly don't want to have a few hours of entertainment then go your own separate ways. You may not have heard of a thing called sub drop but it lasts about 24 hours after a session and it certainly makes me very clingy, needy, even occasionally tearful. You don't want to be going through that on your own, especially the first time.

some people dont suffer the sub drop "

But can we be sure the OP doesn't?

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

In the fetish world the male sub to domme ratio is huge. Therefore you will need to do your research.

The first stop is to know yourself, i.e. what is that you really want to do as a submissive and what is you have to offer? You can do any of the umpteen tests online to find what what is your style of submission.

For the reasons mentioned above you should not say that you will do anything. Additionally it marks you out as new. Contrary to porn and erotica the dommes I have spoken to socially dislike training new subs.

When you know what you are looking to offer. Then research the type of domme you are looking for, to see if they exist. Then start looking.

I would tend not to use munches as a place to look for a domme but as a social or for networking. You don't want to seem predatory. I would suggest the nearest city femdom event. Their rules will show you how to behave and you may and networking. Talk to the other subs about their experiences. Th advantage of a fem dom event is you will get to see submission in action.

If you do meet a mistress do your research on her to ensure that you are a match. But prepare to be interviewed. I would look for people who negotiate and explain what they are about, rather than those that jump in.

I would quickly deal with my view on "real dom/mes" and " true dom/ mes". In my view they don't exist as usually spoken about. The only real dom/mes that exist are the ones that are right for that individual sub. As an example just because someone does not check the individual items of their car before a journey does not mean to a passenger they are not a "true driver" it means they may be to some respects an unsafe driver. It is a question of your risk matrix and what you are willing to risk. Because you are a new, I would stick to someone with safe practices.

Try reading "Screw the Roses give me the thorns" or the "Better bottoming" book. There are also good submissive run websites out there.

Fetlfe, has a lot of financial dommes on it, if it is not your thing then be wary.

Finally because my play runs from sadistic to sensual, I have to disagree with those who warn people away from doms that can be rough.

Firstly, some of us actually only play roughly with people who want it. Anyone who inflicts on pain on someone who does not want it is a bully and commits a criminal offence. Secondly some of us play within the pain tolerance of the subs. Those who play outside of the subs pain tolerance are bullys and commit a criminal offence. The fact they call themselves a dom is irrelevant, they are abusers, unless the sub has asked to be pushed beyond their boundaries. Domestic abusers don't necessarily call themselves dom/mes. As I say that is my opinion. Kink is a wide church and people have different opinions. I am not challenging other opinions just setting out an alternative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the fetish world the male sub to domme ratio is huge. Therefore you will need to do your research.

The first stop is to know yourself, i.e. what is that you really want to do as a submissive and what is you have to offer? You can do any of the umpteen tests online to find what what is your style of submission.

For the reasons mentioned above you should not say that you will do anything. Additionally it marks you out as new. Contrary to porn and erotica the dommes I have spoken to socially dislike training new subs.

When you know what you are looking to offer. Then research the type of domme you are looking for, to see if they exist. Then start looking.

I would tend not to use munches as a place to look for a domme but as a social or for networking. You don't want to seem predatory. I would suggest the nearest city femdom event. Their rules will show you how to behave and you may and networking. Talk to the other subs about their experiences. Th advantage of a fem dom event is you will get to see submission in action.

If you do meet a mistress do your research on her to ensure that you are a match. But prepare to be interviewed. I would look for people who negotiate and explain what they are about, rather than those that jump in.

I would quickly deal with my view on "real dom/mes" and " true dom/ mes". In my view they don't exist as usually spoken about. The only real dom/mes that exist are the ones that are right for that individual sub. As an example just because someone does not check the individual items of their car before a journey does not mean to a passenger they are not a "true driver" it means they may be to some respects an unsafe driver. It is a question of your risk matrix and what you are willing to risk. Because you are a new, I would stick to someone with safe practices.

Try reading "Screw the Roses give me the thorns" or the "Better bottoming" book. There are also good submissive run websites out there.

Fetlfe, has a lot of financial dommes on it, if it is not your thing then be wary.

Finally because my play runs from sadistic to sensual, I have to disagree with those who warn people away from doms that can be rough.

Firstly, some of us actually only play roughly with people who want it. Anyone who inflicts on pain on someone who does not want it is a bully and commits a criminal offence. Secondly some of us play within the pain tolerance of the subs. Those who play outside of the subs pain tolerance are bullys and commit a criminal offence. The fact they call themselves a dom is irrelevant, they are abusers, unless the sub has asked to be pushed beyond their boundaries. Domestic abusers don't necessarily call themselves dom/mes. As I say that is my opinion. Kink is a wide church and people have different opinions. I am not challenging other opinions just setting out an alternative.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the fetish world the male sub to domme ratio is huge. Therefore you will need to do your research.

The first stop is to know yourself, i.e. what is that you really want to do as a submissive and what is you have to offer? You can do any of the umpteen tests online to find what what is your style of submission.

For the reasons mentioned above you should not say that you will do anything. Additionally it marks you out as new. Contrary to porn and erotica the dommes I have spoken to socially dislike training new subs.

When you know what you are looking to offer. Then research the type of domme you are looking for, to see if they exist. Then start looking.

I would tend not to use munches as a place to look for a domme but as a social or for networking. You don't want to seem predatory. I would suggest the nearest city femdom event. Their rules will show you how to behave and you may and networking. Talk to the other subs about their experiences. Th advantage of a fem dom event is you will get to see submission in action.

If you do meet a mistress do your research on her to ensure that you are a match. But prepare to be interviewed. I would look for people who negotiate and explain what they are about, rather than those that jump in.

I would quickly deal with my view on "real dom/mes" and " true dom/ mes". In my view they don't exist as usually spoken about. The only real dom/mes that exist are the ones that are right for that individual sub. As an example just because someone does not check the individual items of their car before a journey does not mean to a passenger they are not a "true driver" it means they may be to some respects an unsafe driver. It is a question of your risk matrix and what you are willing to risk. Because you are a new, I would stick to someone with safe practices.

Try reading "Screw the Roses give me the thorns" or the "Better bottoming" book. There are also good submissive run websites out there.

Fetlfe, has a lot of financial dommes on it, if it is not your thing then be wary.

Finally because my play runs from sadistic to sensual, I have to disagree with those who warn people away from doms that can be rough.

Firstly, some of us actually only play roughly with people who want it. Anyone who inflicts on pain on someone who does not want it is a bully and commits a criminal offence. Secondly some of us play within the pain tolerance of the subs. Those who play outside of the subs pain tolerance are bullys and commit a criminal offence. The fact they call themselves a dom is irrelevant, they are abusers, unless the sub has asked to be pushed beyond their boundaries. Domestic abusers don't necessarily call themselves dom/mes. As I say that is my opinion. Kink is a wide church and people have different opinions. I am not challenging other opinions just setting out an alternative.

"

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By *ictoriaathomeTV/TS
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Don't give yourself away and never say you have no limits.

A good sub/dom relationship has to be worked at.

Trust is everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok.

What can you offer the Domme,

What makes you a better submissive than anyone else

Why do you want to be someones submissive

I can offer my body mind and soul I will be 100% loyal I will do anything that is asked of me and well if I'm your sub I'm your sub until you say further I don't have the experience slot have on here but unlike them I can be molded into what you wish

Okay.. so if i said to you,"you can clean my house, wash my dishes, paint the walls of my hall way and wear a chasitity device for the rest of you life and you would not cum ever again. You would be happy to do this because you will do anything for me...

Hmmmm.....

Be vey careful with this 100% do anything for anyone..... everybody should have boundaries.

"

Totally agree, everyone has limits, albeit newbies might not be understanding in how they use language as I didn’t as such over 10 years ago. I researched and met wonderful people in the kink community who encouraged me to embrace my wants and needs and fully understand how important safe and consensual respectful is regardless of submissive or dominant!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the great friendly and helpful advice I understand my wording wasn't really clear I can only take your advice and learn from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all for the great friendly and helpful advice I understand my wording wasn't really clear I can only take your advice and learn from it "

Only thing I’d say is research read and discover yourself, your wants and needs. Submissives have needs and limits. Ask people as your doing now. Most importantly ensure your always doing what is right for YOU not to please. If you want to chat ever pm me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you all for the great friendly and helpful advice I understand my wording wasn't really clear I can only take your advice and learn from it

Only thing I’d say is research read and discover yourself, your wants and needs. Submissives have needs and limits. Ask people as your doing now. Most importantly ensure your always doing what is right for YOU not to please. If you want to chat ever pm me x"
thank you I'd appreciate it but honestly this discussion has taught me a lot about what it actually means in a sub/domme relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all for the great friendly and helpful advice I understand my wording wasn't really clear I can only take your advice and learn from it

Only thing I’d say is research read and discover yourself, your wants and needs. Submissives have needs and limits. Ask people as your doing now. Most importantly ensure your always doing what is right for YOU not to please. If you want to chat ever pm me x thank you I'd appreciate it but honestly this discussion has taught me a lot about what it actually means in a sub/domme relationship "

In all seriousness if you think that this conversation has taught you I’d take a long hard look and research. Find yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you read through all this, OP, then a brief summary.

The best Dom/me for you isn't the best Dom/me for anyone else

You need to think about exactly what you want from this and exactly what you are prepared to put in. Saying you have no limits isn't doing either. No one would believe this, including yourself if you stop and think about it.

You sound like you lack experience. Don't be fooled by a bully masquerading as a dom/me.

Don't jump straight in with a stranger, only ever get involved with someone you trust. (I know someone who got handcuffed to a strangers sink for 24 hours)

You may not know your limits, so make sure you have a safe word.

Aftercare is important, especially to start with, some people have sub drop the following day, some even get suicidal. This is a strange sensation and not something to go through alone for the first time. While you may not be affected by this, you need to be prepared for the possibility.

Don't forget that ultimately you are in control. You have the safe word and it's up to you when to stop. The dominant submissive roles in reality are reversed it should always be the submissive that gets the final say, it's their body and safety on the line.

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