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Advice to get things going for couple wanting another woman to join in

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By *meliablue OP   Couple
over a year ago

Matlock

Hi, we're a newbie couple. We've been to a couple of club nights so far, but not actually been able to get playing with anyone yet.

The nights we've been to have had plenty of couples around, but no single ladies and we're not sure how to kick things off.

We're looking for a girl to join us. Any suggestions on how we can get things going, profile improvements, or how to approach meets outside of clubs if that works better?

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

Unicorn Alert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you play with a couple in a club first to see if female actually likes FF. Suppose the bi female goes down on female and you don't like it?? Is Male going to be watching? Many females won't like that.

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By *meliablue OP   Couple
over a year ago

Matlock

Female has a little bi-experience. Male would want to play as well. Female has no interest in another guy playing with her.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

For me personally I need to have a connection to the couple, I just like it that way. I'd not be likely to play with a couple in a club I didn't know. I'm sure others are different but that's just me. I am lucky to have had a meet with 1 particular couple who I get on great with, both of them are My friends and I feel so at ease with them. Its having a connection with both parties for me xx

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By *meliablue OP   Couple
over a year ago

Matlock

So how did you go about first meet with them? Chat online and then organised meet/drinks elsewhere? I think we need to get looking at a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve not much chance of meeting a single lady from here, you need to get out and socialise. In our numerous meets with single ladies we’ve rarely met anyone via fab and on that rare occasion it has happened it’s because of recommendation/mutual friend

Lots of single girls are turned off and not interested in meeting couples who ONLY want to meet a single lady, they don’t want to be a living toy, plaything, fantasy provider etc

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"So how did you go about first meet with them? Chat online and then organised meet/drinks elsewhere? I think we need to get looking at a social meet."

Chat online then agreed for a social with fun after if everyone was happy.

Its few and far between but it does happen! Xx

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

We've been here a while and had some success but we have had more success at clubs and socials. I think face to face is easier to put yourself across and build a connection than on here where the competition is fierce. We only meet ladies but do same room same partner scenarios with couples, and have come across women who worry they will just be viewed as a plaything by a couple, and i think in person it is easier to reassure them that isnt the case. Patience is definitely key. We were here 9 months before we got our first meet, but it was definitely worth the wait.

Gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's two things I'd suggest / for you to consider...

1. Persevere at clubs. Talk to people. Be sociable....but subtle. You may find that many "couples " at club events are fbs or she may play alone. She may not want to play on her own with you at the club, but you can make a connection that you follow up with on messaging.

2. Look at couple's profiles where the female is bi. If that profile indicates she meets alone, then reach out.

What I would say (single guys take note! !!!) is whenever you approach a couple either in a club or on fab, address both of them and be respectful of the fact they are together (as Fbs or otherwise). Nothing more off putting than being approached and the male is treated as an impediment or ignored.

Hope that helps

Anna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's two things I'd suggest / for you to consider...

1. Persevere at clubs. Talk to people. Be sociable....but subtle. You may find that many "couples " at club events are fbs or she may play alone. She may not want to play on her own with you at the club, but you can make a connection that you follow up with on messaging.

2. Look at couple's profiles where the female is bi. If that profile indicates she meets alone, then reach out.

What I would say (single guys take note! !!!) is whenever you approach a couple either in a club or on fab, address both of them and be respectful of the fact they are together (as Fbs or otherwise). Nothing more off putting than being approached and the male is treated as an impediment or ignored.

Hope that helps

Anna "

We echo this the amount of people that message us and ignore MT is annoying.

Yes we do play seperate bit that does not mean not being polite to the other half.

The other thing around couples is that if you only want to play with the female they may see it as double standards if you want to do a mff. As you don't want any makes playing with her. If that makes sense.

There are enough single bi women on here who play maybe focusing on taking your time and building a friendship with one is the best bet

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