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"So, bit of an open topic this one. We started a family at the start of last year and have had a few meets since. But we're really limited on baby-sitters and were just wondering how others manage around kids. Does anyone meet when the kids are in bed? I'd imagine it would depend on age and arrangements, but with very young children I'd imagine it would be possible. And how do you let people know that you're organising things around children? Obviously it can have a big impact on your reliability to meet. Anyone got any good horror stories? " We state on our profile that we have family commitments, so we have to plan ahead always upfront about it if we are chatting to people so they know, rather than thinking we are wasting their time. We have kids of various ages so it’s not as easy to get a babysitter. Wouldn’t have meets when the kids are in bed for many obvious reasons not sure how comfortable others would be meeting InThat situation either? Most people understand though you do have kids and respect that | |||
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"Its tough and it even limits time alone between us because if we get a free night then typically we look to swing. Have had a few rude mails being called a timenwaster from people when I say its rare we meet. Moderators do nothing about it though. If you guys feel comfortable inviting strangers into your house with your child in the house then its up to you. Some people will say its okay and some will say its not. " The site admins will always do something about reports of abusive mail. You won't be advised what they've done though. | |||
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"I'm glad I don't have children. I enjoy my freedom and will never take it for granted. I'd be uncomfortable meeting at someone's home with children there. If it was a baby, and nothing else was possible, then maybe. But it's not ideal. Once they're old enough to ask "who's that man, mummy?", definitely not - unless we're regular partners and the kids know that. Children see and hear a lot more than you think. And they can be very curious. And they don't always understand that there are some questions it's best not to ask. I've had hotel meets with a woman where we've booked rooms with a connecting door. She returned to her room to sleep with the kids afterwards (it was sold to them as a little holiday, using the hotel's pool). We had the door unlocked on her side so she could get to them if needed, but locked on mine so they couldn't wander in. The kids were around 10 at the time. It worked. And don't think it stops once they grow up and leave home. I had to hide in the bathroom once because the son decided to come and visit his parents unannounced. Fortunately it wasn't a long visit. We did have a good laugh about it afterwards, and a very good night." That's disgusting. 10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on. She should be reported to child protection services. | |||
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"Not sure why anyone would have strangers in there own house to swing with kids in the house, an absolute no no for us, whatever age the children are" Completely agree with this statement | |||
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"10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on." She left her room after they were asleep and returned long before they woke up. As far as they knew, she was there the whole night. They never saw me. And they were perfectly safe. If they had woken and needed her, she could have been there in seconds. | |||
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"So, bit of an open topic this one. We started a family at the start of last year and have had a few meets since. But we're really limited on baby-sitters and were just wondering how others manage around kids. Does anyone meet when the kids are in bed? I'd imagine it would depend on age and arrangements, but with very young children I'd imagine it would be possible. And how do you let people know that you're organising things around children? Obviously it can have a big impact on your reliability to meet. Anyone got any good horror stories? " No horror stories, I'm afraid. I rarely met when I was a single female on here. I was lucky if i managed to meet my regular playmate once a month. I never met at my home. I didnt believe in mixing my family life with my meeting life. If that meant going a long time between meets, then I was comfortable with that Holly | |||
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"I'm glad I don't have children. I enjoy my freedom and will never take it for granted. I'd be uncomfortable meeting at someone's home with children there. If it was a baby, and nothing else was possible, then maybe. But it's not ideal. Once they're old enough to ask "who's that man, mummy?", definitely not - unless we're regular partners and the kids know that. Children see and hear a lot more than you think. And they can be very curious. And they don't always understand that there are some questions it's best not to ask. I've had hotel meets with a woman where we've booked rooms with a connecting door. She returned to her room to sleep with the kids afterwards (it was sold to them as a little holiday, using the hotel's pool). We had the door unlocked on her side so she could get to them if needed, but locked on mine so they couldn't wander in. The kids were around 10 at the time. It worked. And don't think it stops once they grow up and leave home. I had to hide in the bathroom once because the son decided to come and visit his parents unannounced. Fortunately it wasn't a long visit. We did have a good laugh about it afterwards, and a very good night. That's disgusting. 10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on. She should be reported to child protection services. " It’s not criminal to meet people for sex when you’re a parent. | |||
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"I'm glad I don't have children. I enjoy my freedom and will never take it for granted. I'd be uncomfortable meeting at someone's home with children there. If it was a baby, and nothing else was possible, then maybe. But it's not ideal. Once they're old enough to ask "who's that man, mummy?", definitely not - unless we're regular partners and the kids know that. Children see and hear a lot more than you think. And they can be very curious. And they don't always understand that there are some questions it's best not to ask. I've had hotel meets with a woman where we've booked rooms with a connecting door. She returned to her room to sleep with the kids afterwards (it was sold to them as a little holiday, using the hotel's pool). We had the door unlocked on her side so she could get to them if needed, but locked on mine so they couldn't wander in. The kids were around 10 at the time. It worked. And don't think it stops once they grow up and leave home. I had to hide in the bathroom once because the son decided to come and visit his parents unannounced. Fortunately it wasn't a long visit. We did have a good laugh about it afterwards, and a very good night. That's disgusting. 10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on. She should be reported to child protection services. It’s not criminal to meet people for sex when you’re a parent." Good grief. Yeah sod the kids' well being and mental health. It's not criminal, it's fine to fuck a stranger in the next room. Disgusting!! | |||
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"I'm glad I don't have children. I enjoy my freedom and will never take it for granted. I'd be uncomfortable meeting at someone's home with children there. If it was a baby, and nothing else was possible, then maybe. But it's not ideal. Once they're old enough to ask "who's that man, mummy?", definitely not - unless we're regular partners and the kids know that. Children see and hear a lot more than you think. And they can be very curious. And they don't always understand that there are some questions it's best not to ask. I've had hotel meets with a woman where we've booked rooms with a connecting door. She returned to her room to sleep with the kids afterwards (it was sold to them as a little holiday, using the hotel's pool). We had the door unlocked on her side so she could get to them if needed, but locked on mine so they couldn't wander in. The kids were around 10 at the time. It worked. And don't think it stops once they grow up and leave home. I had to hide in the bathroom once because the son decided to come and visit his parents unannounced. Fortunately it wasn't a long visit. We did have a good laugh about it afterwards, and a very good night. That's disgusting. 10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on. She should be reported to child protection services. It’s not criminal to meet people for sex when you’re a parent. Good grief. Yeah sod the kids' well being and mental health. It's not criminal, it's fine to fuck a stranger in the next room. Disgusting!!" how do you feel single parents with no support would ever have a sex life just because some people have never been in this position does not mean they should be so judgmental | |||
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"I'm glad I don't have children. I enjoy my freedom and will never take it for granted. I'd be uncomfortable meeting at someone's home with children there. If it was a baby, and nothing else was possible, then maybe. But it's not ideal. Once they're old enough to ask "who's that man, mummy?", definitely not - unless we're regular partners and the kids know that. Children see and hear a lot more than you think. And they can be very curious. And they don't always understand that there are some questions it's best not to ask. I've had hotel meets with a woman where we've booked rooms with a connecting door. She returned to her room to sleep with the kids afterwards (it was sold to them as a little holiday, using the hotel's pool). We had the door unlocked on her side so she could get to them if needed, but locked on mine so they couldn't wander in. The kids were around 10 at the time. It worked. And don't think it stops once they grow up and leave home. I had to hide in the bathroom once because the son decided to come and visit his parents unannounced. Fortunately it wasn't a long visit. We did have a good laugh about it afterwards, and a very good night. That's disgusting. 10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on. She should be reported to child protection services. It’s not criminal to meet people for sex when you’re a parent. Good grief. Yeah sod the kids' well being and mental health. It's not criminal, it's fine to fuck a stranger in the next room. Disgusting!!how do you feel single parents with no support would ever have a sex life just because some people have never been in this position does not mean they should be so judgmental " Babysitters. They are not that expensive. I am a single parent and had no support before I got together with LJ. So I paid for a sitter when I could afford it. I get that it can be more difficult. But it's not impossible. Safeguarding my toddler was always far more important than getting my end away. We are responsible for keeping them safe. Inviting a meet into your home, is not a responsible thing to do, when you have children, in my opinion. You may have chosen to live this lifestyle, but they didn't. Holly | |||
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"I'm glad I don't have children. I enjoy my freedom and will never take it for granted. I'd be uncomfortable meeting at someone's home with children there. If it was a baby, and nothing else was possible, then maybe. But it's not ideal. Once they're old enough to ask "who's that man, mummy?", definitely not - unless we're regular partners and the kids know that. Children see and hear a lot more than you think. And they can be very curious. And they don't always understand that there are some questions it's best not to ask. I've had hotel meets with a woman where we've booked rooms with a connecting door. She returned to her room to sleep with the kids afterwards (it was sold to them as a little holiday, using the hotel's pool). We had the door unlocked on her side so she could get to them if needed, but locked on mine so they couldn't wander in. The kids were around 10 at the time. It worked. And don't think it stops once they grow up and leave home. I had to hide in the bathroom once because the son decided to come and visit his parents unannounced. Fortunately it wasn't a long visit. We did have a good laugh about it afterwards, and a very good night. That's disgusting. 10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on. She should be reported to child protection services. It’s not criminal to meet people for sex when you’re a parent. Good grief. Yeah sod the kids' well being and mental health. It's not criminal, it's fine to fuck a stranger in the next room. Disgusting!!how do you feel single parents with no support would ever have a sex life just because some people have never been in this position does not mean they should be so judgmental Babysitters. They are not that expensive. I am a single parent and had no support before I got together with LJ. So I paid for a sitter when I could afford it. I get that it can be more difficult. But it's not impossible. Safeguarding my toddler was always far more important than getting my end away. We are responsible for keeping them safe. Inviting a meet into your home, is not a responsible thing to do, when you have children, in my opinion. You may have chosen to live this lifestyle, but they didn't. Holly" Wow - I need your sitters contact details, round here the girls that sit have set up a cartel - £6 an hour raising to £8 after midnight..... to switched on for their own good What ever happened to £15 a pizza and the Wi-fi password? | |||
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"I'm glad I don't have children. I enjoy my freedom and will never take it for granted. I'd be uncomfortable meeting at someone's home with children there. If it was a baby, and nothing else was possible, then maybe. But it's not ideal. Once they're old enough to ask "who's that man, mummy?", definitely not - unless we're regular partners and the kids know that. Children see and hear a lot more than you think. And they can be very curious. And they don't always understand that there are some questions it's best not to ask. I've had hotel meets with a woman where we've booked rooms with a connecting door. She returned to her room to sleep with the kids afterwards (it was sold to them as a little holiday, using the hotel's pool). We had the door unlocked on her side so she could get to them if needed, but locked on mine so they couldn't wander in. The kids were around 10 at the time. It worked. And don't think it stops once they grow up and leave home. I had to hide in the bathroom once because the son decided to come and visit his parents unannounced. Fortunately it wasn't a long visit. We did have a good laugh about it afterwards, and a very good night. That's disgusting. 10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on. She should be reported to child protection services. It’s not criminal to meet people for sex when you’re a parent. Good grief. Yeah sod the kids' well being and mental health. It's not criminal, it's fine to fuck a stranger in the next room. Disgusting!!how do you feel single parents with no support would ever have a sex life just because some people have never been in this position does not mean they should be so judgmental Babysitters. They are not that expensive. I am a single parent and had no support before I got together with LJ. So I paid for a sitter when I could afford it. I get that it can be more difficult. But it's not impossible. Safeguarding my toddler was always far more important than getting my end away. We are responsible for keeping them safe. Inviting a meet into your home, is not a responsible thing to do, when you have children, in my opinion. You may have chosen to live this lifestyle, but they didn't. Holly Wow - I need your sitters contact details, round here the girls that sit have set up a cartel - £6 an hour raising to £8 after midnight..... to switched on for their own good What ever happened to £15 a pizza and the Wi-fi password? " Hahaha those were the days eh? Maybe I just met those who didn't have a lot of stamina, so booked a few hours in Holly | |||
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"I'm glad I don't have children. I enjoy my freedom and will never take it for granted. I'd be uncomfortable meeting at someone's home with children there. If it was a baby, and nothing else was possible, then maybe. But it's not ideal. Once they're old enough to ask "who's that man, mummy?", definitely not - unless we're regular partners and the kids know that. Children see and hear a lot more than you think. And they can be very curious. And they don't always understand that there are some questions it's best not to ask. I've had hotel meets with a woman where we've booked rooms with a connecting door. She returned to her room to sleep with the kids afterwards (it was sold to them as a little holiday, using the hotel's pool). We had the door unlocked on her side so she could get to them if needed, but locked on mine so they couldn't wander in. The kids were around 10 at the time. It worked. And don't think it stops once they grow up and leave home. I had to hide in the bathroom once because the son decided to come and visit his parents unannounced. Fortunately it wasn't a long visit. We did have a good laugh about it afterwards, and a very good night. That's disgusting. 10 years old, they'd know exactly what was going on. She should be reported to child protection services. It’s not criminal to meet people for sex when you’re a parent. Good grief. Yeah sod the kids' well being and mental health. It's not criminal, it's fine to fuck a stranger in the next room. Disgusting!!how do you feel single parents with no support would ever have a sex life just because some people have never been in this position does not mean they should be so judgmental Babysitters. They are not that expensive. I am a single parent and had no support before I got together with LJ. So I paid for a sitter when I could afford it. I get that it can be more difficult. But it's not impossible. Safeguarding my toddler was always far more important than getting my end away. We are responsible for keeping them safe. Inviting a meet into your home, is not a responsible thing to do, when you have children, in my opinion. You may have chosen to live this lifestyle, but they didn't. Holly" Some people care more about sex with strangers than about the wellbeing of their own kids. | |||
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"Sounds very much like our selves, having kids is a nightmare,and it gets worse as they get older,it's got that bad we have meets on a spur of the moment unless we have got the kids, shipped off to relations for a night,but even then they can throw a spanner in the works they are sick etc" Def gets worse as they get older we have one at 4 and one at 14 always easy to manoeuvre the youngest but the teenager is a nightmare...to old to be babysat and too young to babysit lol | |||
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"Sounds very much like our selves, having kids is a nightmare,and it gets worse as they get older,it's got that bad we have meets on a spur of the moment unless we have got the kids, shipped off to relations for a night,but even then they can throw a spanner in the works they are sick etc Def gets worse as they get older we have one at 4 and one at 14 always easy to manoeuvre the youngest but the teenager is a nightmare...to old to be babysat and too young to babysit lol " Is 14 to young to babysit a sleeping 4 year old? I know I’d be happy to allow a responsable 14 year old to look after my 2 - in fact I’ve done it. Arghhhh - have I just opened myself up to being criticised | |||
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"When my daughter was 13 with loads of friends I suggested a sleep over for them all. One sat night with 9 friends was mayhem, but they all enjoyed it. The result was they decided to take turns in holding one at their own houses. result, one night in 9 at my house, meant I had 8 sat nights free to have my fun. " Genius! I did that too when I first met the OH and my child hadn't been introduced to him. Even now, 7 years on and with the OH my side, I wouldn't EVER invite anyone over for a play meet if my child was home... I'm not being judgemental, but it wouldn't sit right with me at all. And even if my child was still a baby, I wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy myself anyway. I'm sure there are plenty of other solutions! x N | |||
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"Sounds very much like our selves, having kids is a nightmare,and it gets worse as they get older,it's got that bad we have meets on a spur of the moment unless we have got the kids, shipped off to relations for a night,but even then they can throw a spanner in the works they are sick etc Def gets worse as they get older we have one at 4 and one at 14 always easy to manoeuvre the youngest but the teenager is a nightmare...to old to be babysat and too young to babysit lol Is 14 to young to babysit a sleeping 4 year old? I know I’d be happy to allow a responsable 14 year old to look after my 2 - in fact I’ve done it. Arghhhh - have I just opened myself up to being criticised " Lol...possibly!!...though i tend to agree with you I know I was babysitting at 14 though he is responsible to a point.. he is still a boy which means he’s more interested in the Xbox than feeding himself sometimes so wouldn’t really leave him longer than the hour here and there that I do... but any length of time probably not lol I’ll just need to give it another year and then hopefully I’ll have my in house babysitter... | |||
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"Sounds very much like our selves, having kids is a nightmare,and it gets worse as they get older,it's got that bad we have meets on a spur of the moment unless we have got the kids, shipped off to relations for a night,but even then they can throw a spanner in the works they are sick etc Def gets worse as they get older we have one at 4 and one at 14 always easy to manoeuvre the youngest but the teenager is a nightmare...to old to be babysat and too young to babysit lol Is 14 to young to babysit a sleeping 4 year old? I know I’d be happy to allow a responsable 14 year old to look after my 2 - in fact I’ve done it. Arghhhh - have I just opened myself up to being criticised Lol...possibly!!...though i tend to agree with you I know I was babysitting at 14 though he is responsible to a point.. he is still a boy which means he’s more interested in the Xbox than feeding himself sometimes so wouldn’t really leave him longer than the hour here and there that I do... but any length of time probably not lol I’ll just need to give it another year and then hopefully I’ll have my in house babysitter... " Tbh.... we never grow out of the Xbox, I wondered why I was loosing weight | |||
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"Sounds very much like our selves, having kids is a nightmare,and it gets worse as they get older,it's got that bad we have meets on a spur of the moment unless we have got the kids, shipped off to relations for a night,but even then they can throw a spanner in the works they are sick etc Def gets worse as they get older we have one at 4 and one at 14 always easy to manoeuvre the youngest but the teenager is a nightmare...to old to be babysat and too young to babysit lol Is 14 to young to babysit a sleeping 4 year old? I know I’d be happy to allow a responsable 14 year old to look after my 2 - in fact I’ve done it. Arghhhh - have I just opened myself up to being criticised Lol...possibly!!...though i tend to agree with you I know I was babysitting at 14 though he is responsible to a point.. he is still a boy which means he’s more interested in the Xbox than feeding himself sometimes so wouldn’t really leave him longer than the hour here and there that I do... but any length of time probably not lol I’ll just need to give it another year and then hopefully I’ll have my in house babysitter... Tbh.... we never grow out of the Xbox, I wondered why I was loosing weight " Haha so true | |||
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