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By *utlerman OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

In an attempt to avoid crap one-liners, and 'same old' introductions....how do you say hello to someone that get's their attention?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"In an attempt to avoid crap one-liners, and 'same old' introductions....how do you say hello to someone that get's their attention?"

Be yourself, I always think it's false if you're asking someone what to say if that makes sense

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Read their profile and address it in your message. Be personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In an attempt to avoid crap one-liners, and 'same old' introductions....how do you say hello to someone that get's their attention?"
humour and reading profile count for a lot but women do like a good pic to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In an attempt to avoid crap one-liners, and 'same old' introductions....how do you say hello to someone that get's their attention?"

My wife opened a single profile to see if she could just chat to some guys and try and get a connection. She is swamped with hundreds of emails. There are just too many to read.

So to try and get the numbers down we wind up deleting unread all of the following:

No profile picture

A dick profile picture.

One liners like 'hi how are you'.

All the naff ones that say things like 'I want to eat your pussy' or 'I'm in a hotel' or offering money.

So we would suggest none of that. Just write a natural, not too long email that comes from a normal person and doesn't make you sound like some desperate sex crazed saddo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jazz hands

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I find the more someone compliments me, the more I cringe, and think they are insincere.

For me, pick a non-sexual subject is a good start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In an attempt to avoid crap one-liners, and 'same old' introductions....how do you say hello to someone that get's their attention?"

Erm...by saying "hello"?

To be fair the majority will read your profile before reading your message. The message comes last when it comes to getting attention.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In an attempt to avoid crap one-liners, and 'same old' introductions....how do you say hello to someone that get's their attention?"

It doesn't matter (kind of) what your email says.

When you send an email 99% of people look at your profile first. If your profile is shit you are not getting a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the more someone compliments me, the more I cringe, and think they are insincere.

For me, pick a non-sexual subject is a good start. "

Agreed. OTT compliments just sound insincere. A couple of amiable sentences and something picked up from my profile would be masses better than telling me I’m beautiful, or ‘Wow, stunning’ (again).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In an attempt to avoid crap one-liners, and 'same old' introductions....how do you say hello to someone that get's their attention?

My wife opened a single profile to see if she could just chat to some guys and try and get a connection. She is swamped with hundreds of emails. There are just too many to read.

So to try and get the numbers down we wind up deleting unread all of the following:

No profile picture

A dick profile picture.

One liners like 'hi how are you'.

All the naff ones that say things like 'I want to eat your pussy' or 'I'm in a hotel' or offering money.

So we would suggest none of that. Just write a natural, not too long email that comes from a normal person and doesn't make you sound like some desperate sex crazed saddo. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say hello

Say who you are

Say where you are

Say a bit about what you're looking for or offering

Say "Hope to hear back"

Attach a face pic

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By *zzy69Woman
over a year ago

The Lake District


"Say hello

Say who you are

Say where you are

Say a bit about what you're looking for or offering

Say "Hope to hear back"

Attach a face pic

"

I agree however I also agree that it is important to actually write on your profile what you are looking for- eg one off meets FWB swinging partner etc

And show you have read the profile and address any preferences expressed eg actually single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get lots of ‘you look hot’ messages....

(Check out my profile)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read their profile and address it in your message. Be personal. "

This

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Say hello

Say who you are

Say where you are

Say a bit about what you're looking for or offering

Say "Hope to hear back"

Attach a face pic

"

I agree, but add why you were attracted to them and why you think you would be a good match. This shows you have read and thought about their profile and are not just thinking about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The men we have met have generally told us what they liked about our profile and had things in theirs that we were looking for

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By *is BitchCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Don't use copy and paste messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never and I repeat never say. " what are you into "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Copy and paste messages from the same people drive me insane BLOCKED

Be original stand out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Copy and paste messages from the same people drive me insane BLOCKED

Be original stand out x "
are you insane yet then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Copy and paste messages from the same people drive me insane BLOCKED

Be original stand out x are you insane yet then? "

Another one bites the dust

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By *ants Horse Hung CockMan
over a year ago

co durham


"Read their profile and address it in your message. Be personal. "

Never works. Ive done this many times and just get ignores and deleted

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Read their profile and address it in your message. Be personal.

Never works. Ive done this many times and just get ignores and deleted"

Shrug. It's the only way I'll respond.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Read their profile and address it in your message. Be personal.

Never works. Ive done this many times and just get ignores and deleted"

Maybe it gets deleted because of your profile pic ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get lots of ‘you look hot’ messages....

(Check out my profile)"

How? You have no pictures!

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge


"Read their profile and address it in your message. Be personal.

Never works. Ive done this many times and just get ignores and deleted

Maybe it gets deleted because of your profile pic ?"

Harsh. But fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having only just opened up our profile to look for single men, we received 300+ in the space of 2 days. We are specific on our profile about what we are looking for. We'll over half the men that messaged hadn't read it and that was blatantly obvious. Others were one liners or just rude.

Those we replied to had we'll written messages, had attached a face picture and a great profile. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read their profile and address it in your message. Be personal.

Never works. Ive done this many times and just get ignores and deleted

Maybe it gets deleted because of your profile pic ?

Harsh. But fair "
...and true. We delete all messages from profiles that have dick closeups. Have to admit we didn't appreciate a mail from someone saying they had a group of guys that needed sucking either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get lots of ‘you look hot’ messages....

(Check out my profile)

How? You have no pictures!"

Exactly

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