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"Your location uses a word most fab ladies dont appreciate. " Thank you, for that, I didn't see that perspective, it was intended as a joke, but I completely see the issue with that. My apologies if I offended anyone. X | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed " maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? | |||
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"unfortunately, you're location would put people off, not respectful towards women" My apologies to you too, I see what you meant. I'll get my coat | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed " . Plenty of people go to clubs for the social side and see play as a bonus if it happens. Don’t be daunted by them they’re quite fun and the atmosphere is great. Or do what has been suggested and get yourself on a large social event. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed " meet a verified person but verifications aren't that important in the grand scheme of things, just chat meet socially mission accomplished | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? " if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed " You almost certainly have a smart phone though. If you get chatting to a more established member you could ask to video chat with them (Kik or FaceTime etc) and get verified that way | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available" Really! I didn’t know that! | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available" is there a reason why single fellas are not allowed but couples are??? | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed " Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... " apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. " I didn’t know this until this thread... but I went for a nosey and it is indeed in the FAQs! | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. I didn’t know this until this thread... but I went for a nosey and it is indeed in the FAQs! " i find this ridiculously unfair. | |||
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"I understand the need for safety, but I agree, Absolutely ridiculous" why would there be safety issues for single men but not other groups? | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. I didn’t know this until this thread... but I went for a nosey and it is indeed in the FAQs! i find this ridiculously unfair. " I can only presume there is a legitimate reason for it. A higher percentage of fake profiles perhaps? I’m not sure when it was introduced. I’ve never seen it referenced in the forums before and I’ve definitely seen single male accounts with only verifications by cam. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. " I don’t think anyone should be allowed to be cam verified! The amount of ‘couples’ that are only cam verified and I use chat rooms regular and have never seen the female half on cam! | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. I don’t think anyone should be allowed to be cam verified! The amount of ‘couples’ that are only cam verified and I use chat rooms regular and have never seen the female half on cam! " so that could count for a meet? surely if you didn't see both on cam you wouldn't verify the MF couple | |||
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"You can cam off your phone. Download Puffin browser and log onto the full site not mobile app then cam will work on your phone or tablet. But to be fair it sounds like you don't want to make the effort and expect it all to fall in your lap. " whys that? | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available" I've verified loads of single males on cam. It's never been an issue. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available I've verified loads of single males on cam. It's never been an issue. " so you think its fair single fellas cant be verified for 1st meet by WhatsApp video call but others can? | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available I've verified loads of single males on cam. It's never been an issue. so you think its fair single fellas cant be verified for 1st meet by WhatsApp video call but others can? " If your quoting me, that not what I said?! | |||
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"You can cam off your phone. Download Puffin browser and log onto the full site not mobile app then cam will work on your phone or tablet. But to be fair it sounds like you don't want to make the effort and expect it all to fall in your lap. " You read my mind. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available I've verified loads of single males on cam. It's never been an issue. so you think its fair single fellas cant be verified for 1st meet by WhatsApp video call but others can? If your quoting me, that not what I said?! " no but you made a dig at me wanting things to fall into my lap, when all my point was that particular rule is unfair, i dont really have any interest in cam fun, i prefer meets. im asking you if you think that particular rule is fair? if it wasnt a dig i apologise | |||
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"You can cam off your phone. Download Puffin browser and log onto the full site not mobile app then cam will work on your phone or tablet. But to be fair it sounds like you don't want to make the effort and expect it all to fall in your lap. You read my mind." hello... why would you make that assumption about me? | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available I've verified loads of single males on cam. It's never been an issue. so you think its fair single fellas cant be verified for 1st meet by WhatsApp video call but others can? If your quoting me, that not what I said?! no but you made a dig at me wanting things to fall into my lap, when all my point was that particular rule is unfair, i dont really have any interest in cam fun, i prefer meets. im asking you if you think that particular rule is fair? if it wasnt a dig i apologise " You've misread. I was talking to the OP about expecting things to fall into his lap not you. Sorry if I didn't make myself clear. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available I've verified loads of single males on cam. It's never been an issue. so you think its fair single fellas cant be verified for 1st meet by WhatsApp video call but others can? If your quoting me, that not what I said?! no but you made a dig at me wanting things to fall into my lap, when all my point was that particular rule is unfair, i dont really have any interest in cam fun, i prefer meets. im asking you if you think that particular rule is fair? if it wasnt a dig i apologise You've misread. I was talking to the OP about expecting things to fall into his lap not you. Sorry if I didn't make myself clear. " no problem. just as it followed my message so... | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed maybe someone can clear this up for me, iv recently been told WhatsApp video call is considered ok as Cam verification? if you read the faqs regarding verification, single makes can't receive cam verification as a first verification. that said, fan clearly haven't been able to stop it being available I've verified loads of single males on cam. It's never been an issue. so you think its fair single fellas cant be verified for 1st meet by WhatsApp video call but others can? If your quoting me, that not what I said?! no but you made a dig at me wanting things to fall into my lap, when all my point was that particular rule is unfair, i dont really have any interest in cam fun, i prefer meets. im asking you if you think that particular rule is fair? if it wasnt a dig i apologise You've misread. I was talking to the OP about expecting things to fall into his lap not you. Sorry if I didn't make myself clear. no problem. just as it followed my message so... " | |||
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"And I know of no rule that states WhatsApp, Kik or Skype can't be used either. " apparently its in the FAQs... | |||
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"And I know of no rule that states WhatsApp, Kik or Skype can't be used either. apparently its in the FAQs... " It's not there. Whoever told you that needs to actually read the faq section lol. | |||
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"You can cam off your phone. Download Puffin browser and log onto the full site not mobile app then cam will work on your phone or tablet. But to be fair it sounds like you don't want to make the effort and expect it all to fall in your lap. You read my mind. hello... why would you make that assumption about me? " Was on about the op, not you. | |||
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"You can cam off your phone. Download Puffin browser and log onto the full site not mobile app then cam will work on your phone or tablet. But to be fair it sounds like you don't want to make the effort and expect it all to fall in your lap. You read my mind. hello... why would you make that assumption about me? Was on about the op, not you." no worries. i made the same mistake with someone else. apologies | |||
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"And I know of no rule that states WhatsApp, Kik or Skype can't be used either. apparently its in the FAQs... It's not there. Whoever told you that needs to actually read the faq section lol. " a lady earlier in the thread. x | |||
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"1) Cam verifications don’t require play, just an appearance on cam and a conversation. If I were you I’d be biting Msgiveswood’s hand off for a veri. 2) if you’re daunted at the idea of turning up to a pub to meet 20 or 30 people, who also don’t know each other, then I would have thought you’d be daunted at the thought of going to a complete strangers house for sex. I know which I find most stressful. If you’re not good at socialising then fab might not be the best place for you. Swinging is by its nature a social exercise. Hook up sites maybe not so much." Yep guys who make the effort on here reep the rewards far far to many guys on here now with no veris . People who can’t socialise are defo in the wrong game swinging is not for them | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. I don’t think anyone should be allowed to be cam verified! The amount of ‘couples’ that are only cam verified and I use chat rooms regular and have never seen the female half on cam! so that could count for a meet? surely if you didn't see both on cam you wouldn't verify the MF couple " You think so but some people are so stupid x | |||
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"And I know of no rule that states WhatsApp, Kik or Skype can't be used either. apparently its in the FAQs... It's not there. Whoever told you that needs to actually read the faq section lol. " It actually is! I was surprised myself and didn’t believe it so I went to check. It says couples and single women can be verified by cam but single males must be verified by meet. https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#verify | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. I don’t think anyone should be allowed to be cam verified! The amount of ‘couples’ that are only cam verified and I use chat rooms regular and have never seen the female half on cam! so that could count for a meet? surely if you didn't see both on cam you wouldn't verify the MF couple You think so but some people are so stupid x" It doesn't count as a meet veri as its a cam veri. I will not cam veri a couple when only one of them is on cam. They both have to be. I will also only verify faces. | |||
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"And I know of no rule that states WhatsApp, Kik or Skype can't be used either. apparently its in the FAQs... It's not there. Whoever told you that needs to actually read the faq section lol. It actually is! I was surprised myself and didn’t believe it so I went to check. It says couples and single women can be verified by cam but single males must be verified by meet. https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#verify" Yep - just looked myself. Is that a new stipulation? I was unaware of it before today. | |||
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"And I know of no rule that states WhatsApp, Kik or Skype can't be used either. apparently its in the FAQs... It's not there. Whoever told you that needs to actually read the faq section lol. It actually is! I was surprised myself and didn’t believe it so I went to check. It says couples and single women can be verified by cam but single males must be verified by meet. https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#verify Yep - just looked myself. Is that a new stipulation? I was unaware of it before today." I’ve also never seen it before - either on the FAQ or in the forums. I presume it must be relatively new! | |||
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"And I know of no rule that states WhatsApp, Kik or Skype can't be used either. apparently its in the FAQs... It's not there. Whoever told you that needs to actually read the faq section lol. It actually is! I was surprised myself and didn’t believe it so I went to check. It says couples and single women can be verified by cam but single males must be verified by meet. https://m.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#verify Yep - just looked myself. Is that a new stipulation? I was unaware of it before today." No its not new. I think it possibly hasn't been updated. Surely of si gle guys can't be cam veri then they wouldn't go through. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. I don’t think anyone should be allowed to be cam verified! The amount of ‘couples’ that are only cam verified and I use chat rooms regular and have never seen the female half on cam! so that could count for a meet? surely if you didn't see both on cam you wouldn't verify the MF couple You think so but some people are so stupid x It doesn't count as a meet veri as its a cam veri. I will not cam veri a couple when only one of them is on cam. They both have to be. I will also only verify faces. " I’ve seen men on cam in chat under a mf profile and asking to be cam verified, people do verify them! There’s plenty that the f is never seen on cam but they’re cam verified! It’s a big problem on this site ......... false verifying | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. I don’t think anyone should be allowed to be cam verified! The amount of ‘couples’ that are only cam verified and I use chat rooms regular and have never seen the female half on cam! so that could count for a meet? surely if you didn't see both on cam you wouldn't verify the MF couple You think so but some people are so stupid x It doesn't count as a meet veri as its a cam veri. I will not cam veri a couple when only one of them is on cam. They both have to be. I will also only verify faces. I’ve seen men on cam in chat under a mf profile and asking to be cam verified, people do verify them! There’s plenty that the f is never seen on cam but they’re cam verified! It’s a big problem on this site ......... false verifying " And that's exactly why I have strict rules about how and who I verify. I want no part in dodgy or fake veris. Happy to help with them on my terms. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed Phone with a cam ? If so you can get cam verified using WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime....... apparently single fellas cant be verified for 1st meets by WhatsApp video call... id love to know the reasoning behind this. I don’t think anyone should be allowed to be cam verified! The amount of ‘couples’ that are only cam verified and I use chat rooms regular and have never seen the female half on cam! so that could count for a meet? surely if you didn't see both on cam you wouldn't verify the MF couple You think so but some people are so stupid x It doesn't count as a meet veri as its a cam veri. I will not cam veri a couple when only one of them is on cam. They both have to be. I will also only verify faces. I’ve seen men on cam in chat under a mf profile and asking to be cam verified, people do verify them! There’s plenty that the f is never seen on cam but they’re cam verified! It’s a big problem on this site ......... false verifying And that's exactly why I have strict rules about how and who I verify. I want no part in dodgy or fake veris. Happy to help with them on my terms. " I don’t verify anyone unless I’ve met the whole profile, cam veries should be scrapped! IMO | |||
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"1) Cam verifications don’t require play, just an appearance on cam and a conversation. If I were you I’d be biting Msgiveswood’s hand off for a veri. 2) if you’re daunted at the idea of turning up to a pub to meet 20 or 30 people, who also don’t know each other, then I would have thought you’d be daunted at the thought of going to a complete strangers house for sex. I know which I find most stressful. If you’re not good at socialising then fab might not be the best place for you. Swinging is by its nature a social exercise. Hook up sites maybe not so much." This really ^^^ If you are too nervous for a social in the pub, can’t honestly see you making it as far as any sort of swinging meet. Maybe look into ways to build your confidence first. | |||
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"1) Cam verifications don’t require play, just an appearance on cam and a conversation. If I were you I’d be biting Msgiveswood’s hand off for a veri. 2) if you’re daunted at the idea of turning up to a pub to meet 20 or 30 people, who also don’t know each other, then I would have thought you’d be daunted at the thought of going to a complete strangers house for sex. I know which I find most stressful. If you’re not good at socialising then fab might not be the best place for you. Swinging is by its nature a social exercise. Hook up sites maybe not so much. Yep guys who make the effort on here reep the rewards far far to many guys on here now with no veris . People who can’t socialise are defo in the wrong game swinging is not for them " omg a guy with no veri he's the absolute pits | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed " You can get web cams for as little as £10 Socials are just socials. They are not sex parties. Socials are normally open to everybody. You don't have to be verified to go to a social. | |||
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"Veries mean sweet FA anyway! People dish out fake veries all the time, I met someone that was 20 yrs older than his profile stated or any pics he’d sent me!!! He had been verified a few months before we met, by another male I suspect the other male was the genuine him with the recent pics of himself " Generally I avoid guys with only one or two veries particularly if they are not displayed. I get asked to leave fake verifications by guys all the time, I block those who ask. Verifications are important if meeting as a single person because they can give you an indication as to whether or not the person is likely to be safe.... I would reccomend you attend an organised social or visit a club in order to receive a few verifications. | |||
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"Wow, interesting thread. It seems like a few folk on here think I asked the question because I couldn't get a meet. Of course I could have gotten a webcam. Of course I could have attended a social or club. (Admittedly not something I would relish on my own) certainly doesn't mean I'm uncomfortable in social situations. The level of assumption from some people is absolutely mind boggling. There's an old saying, "assumption can be the mother of all fk ups" This leads on to the point that, you never really know someone until you really know someone. The only time verification works, is when you have a good few to display. Many people had nothing but good things to say about Ted Bundy. Charming, boy next door, etc etc. Personally I think the system is flawed. It concerns me that someone could go into chat rooms or Pop to a social, get verified and that is broadly accepted as "oh they are verified so they must be ok" Utter bollocks. It would be far better, if fab had a check in system, where you could leave details of where your meet is taking place and who with. If you don't check out after the meet, the police are informed. Obviously it wouldn't be so straight forward as that, but the principal is far sounder than verifications. Like most of you put it "crucifixions a doddle" sorry " verifications a doddle" Have a wonderful day " Written verifications along with profile help us decide if they are the right people for us to meet with so it's not just about safety. If a person has a profile with no information and limited written verifications then makes it hard for us to make a judgement. We have to do this as both have very busy lives and limited time for swinging. | |||
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"Wow, interesting thread. It seems like a few folk on here think I asked the question because I couldn't get a meet. Of course I could have gotten a webcam. Of course I could have attended a social or club. (Admittedly not something I would relish on my own) certainly doesn't mean I'm uncomfortable in social situations. The level of assumption from some people is absolutely mind boggling. There's an old saying, "assumption can be the mother of all fk ups" This leads on to the point that, you never really know someone until you really know someone. The only time verification works, is when you have a good few to display. Many people had nothing but good things to say about Ted Bundy. Charming, boy next door, etc etc. Personally I think the system is flawed. It concerns me that someone could go into chat rooms or Pop to a social, get verified and that is broadly accepted as "oh they are verified so they must be ok" Utter bollocks. It would be far better, if fab had a check in system, where you could leave details of where your meet is taking place and who with. If you don't check out after the meet, the police are informed. Obviously it wouldn't be so straight forward as that, but the principal is far sounder than verifications. Like most of you put it "crucifixions a doddle" sorry " verifications a doddle" Have a wonderful day " Far from being utter bollocks, I find the verification system and photo verification (along with a little common sense) helps me to sniff out catfishes! Of which there are many on this site! | |||
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"Wow, interesting thread. It seems like a few folk on here think I asked the question because I couldn't get a meet. Of course I could have gotten a webcam. Of course I could have attended a social or club. (Admittedly not something I would relish on my own) certainly doesn't mean I'm uncomfortable in social situations. The level of assumption from some people is absolutely mind boggling. There's an old saying, "assumption can be the mother of all fk ups" This leads on to the point that, you never really know someone until you really know someone. The only time verification works, is when you have a good few to display. Many people had nothing but good things to say about Ted Bundy. Charming, boy next door, etc etc. Personally I think the system is flawed. It concerns me that someone could go into chat rooms or Pop to a social, get verified and that is broadly accepted as "oh they are verified so they must be ok" Utter bollocks. It would be far better, if fab had a check in system, where you could leave details of where your meet is taking place and who with. If you don't check out after the meet, the police are informed. Obviously it wouldn't be so straight forward as that, but the principal is far sounder than verifications. Like most of you put it "crucifixions a doddle" sorry " verifications a doddle" Have a wonderful day " What was the point of your original post then? I'm a bit miffed tbh as you obviously knew all the answers to it already? Is there something we have missed? Very good analogy about Ted Bundy though. Spot on with that. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed " Is that not a verification on your page | |||
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"It was a simple question regarding other ways to get verified. It was not because I expect meets to fall into my lap. Nor was it a question born out of not being able to get verified. I then decided to voice my opinion on the validity of the verification process. Here's an example for you. A person goes to a couple of socials. He/she is well received and gathers a couple of lovely reviews. Said person manages to get a meet based on those verifications. Said person ends up being quite the opposite of what people thought,and as a result, somebody gets abused or god forbid, worse Maybe I'm alone in my doubts about verifications. If so I'll get my coat. And yes, it's a verification, how else am I supposed to find my victims That last comment was of course in jest. " I have never yet come across someone who will meet another member purely based on verifications alone! I don’t consider unverified accounts purely because I don’t have the time or energy to deal with all the dreamers and fakes. Atleast if they’ve been photo verified and other members have met them I know they are taking this seriously and I can then decide if I’m interested in taking the time to get to know them myself. It’s also why, I will ALWAYS, insist on a public social first. | |||
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"we always look for recent veris, say in the last few months...year old veris only always a red flag for us ...this system works for us " | |||
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"It was a simple question regarding other ways to get verified. It was not because I expect meets to fall into my lap. Nor was it a question born out of not being able to get verified. I then decided to voice my opinion on the validity of the verification process. Here's an example for you. A person goes to a couple of socials. He/she is well received and gathers a couple of lovely reviews. Said person manages to get a meet based on those verifications. Said person ends up being quite the opposite of what people thought,and as a result, somebody gets abused or god forbid, worse Maybe I'm alone in my doubts about verifications. If so I'll get my coat. And yes, it's a verification, how else am I supposed to find my victims That last comment was of course in jest. I have never yet come across someone who will meet another member purely based on verifications alone! I don’t consider unverified accounts purely because I don’t have the time or energy to deal with all the dreamers and fakes. Atleast if they’ve been photo verified and other members have met them I know they are taking this seriously and I can then decide if I’m interested in taking the time to get to know them myself. It’s also why, I will ALWAYS, insist on a public social first. " | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed " Jumped a few postings. However what has stood out is if you are scared to go to a club, is this generalised into other sexual areas, are you open minded? Only you can answer that. | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed Jumped a few postings. However what has stood out is if you are scared to go to a club, is this generalised into other sexual areas, are you open minded? Only you can answer that." Not scared as such, just uncomfortable going alone for the 1st time. As for open minded, please see profile. | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed Jumped a few postings. However what has stood out is if you are scared to go to a club, is this generalised into other sexual areas, are you open minded? Only you can answer that. Not scared as such, just uncomfortable going alone for the 1st time. As for open minded, please see profile. " Profile is only words. Actions speak hundreds of words at so many different levels. | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed Jumped a few postings. However what has stood out is if you are scared to go to a club, is this generalised into other sexual areas, are you open minded? Only you can answer that. Not scared as such, just uncomfortable going alone for the 1st time. As for open minded, please see profile. Profile is only words. Actions speak hundreds of words at so many different levels." That's exactly what my 3rd sentence on my profile eludes to | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed Jumped a few postings. However what has stood out is if you are scared to go to a club, is this generalised into other sexual areas, are you open minded? Only you can answer that. Not scared as such, just uncomfortable going alone for the 1st time. As for open minded, please see profile. Profile is only words. Actions speak hundreds of words at so many different levels. That's exactly what my 3rd sentence on my profile eludes to " I’ll take your word on it. | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed Jumped a few postings. However what has stood out is if you are scared to go to a club, is this generalised into other sexual areas, are you open minded? Only you can answer that. Not scared as such, just uncomfortable going alone for the 1st time. As for open minded, please see profile. Profile is only words. Actions speak hundreds of words at so many different levels. That's exactly what my 3rd sentence on my profile eludes to I’ll take your word on it." Bit like verifications | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed " No feathers ruffled, just people with a different opinion to you | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed No feathers ruffled, just people with a different opinion to you " More to the point, people don't like something that gives them comfort being questioned | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed Jumped a few postings. However what has stood out is if you are scared to go to a club, is this generalised into other sexual areas, are you open minded? Only you can answer that. Not scared as such, just uncomfortable going alone for the 1st time. As for open minded, please see profile. Profile is only words. Actions speak hundreds of words at so many different levels. That's exactly what my 3rd sentence on my profile eludes to I’ll take your word on it. Bit like verifications " Ha ha, verifications are others words. We don’t need people to look at our profile ( working off early comments) so please don’t look. As for verifications, does give a tad insight to people, if consistent and people are real, or just words amongst the imps of cyberspace. | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed No feathers ruffled, just people with a different opinion to you More to the point, people don't like something that gives them comfort being questioned " It doesn’t give me comfort. That’s the part I struggle to understand. Your posts imply that because someone is verified I’ll meet them without question. When infact it couldn’t be further from the truth! | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed No feathers ruffled, just people with a different opinion to you More to the point, people don't like something that gives them comfort being questioned It doesn’t give me comfort. That’s the part I struggle to understand. Your posts imply that because someone is verified I’ll meet them without question. When infact it couldn’t be further from the truth!" Quick L hide the verifications. | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed No feathers ruffled, just people with a different opinion to you More to the point, people don't like something that gives them comfort being questioned It doesn’t give me comfort. That’s the part I struggle to understand. Your posts imply that because someone is verified I’ll meet them without question. When infact it couldn’t be further from the truth!" My posts don't imply anything about you | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed Jumped a few postings. However what has stood out is if you are scared to go to a club, is this generalised into other sexual areas, are you open minded? Only you can answer that. Not scared as such, just uncomfortable going alone for the 1st time. As for open minded, please see profile. Profile is only words. Actions speak hundreds of words at so many different levels. That's exactly what my 3rd sentence on my profile eludes to I’ll take your word on it. Bit like verifications Ha ha, verifications are others words. We don’t need people to look at our profile ( working off early comments) so please don’t look. As for verifications, does give a tad insight to people, if consistent and people are real, or just words amongst the imps of cyberspace." I agree, I seem to remember saying that just 1 or two shouldn't be considered gospel, i did go on to say if there are plenty of similar verifications then that would be more acceptable. | |||
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"It was a simple question regarding other ways to get verified. It was not because I expect meets to fall into my lap. Nor was it a question born out of not being able to get verified. I then decided to voice my opinion on the validity of the verification process. Here's an example for you. A person goes to a couple of socials. He/she is well received and gathers a couple of lovely reviews. Said person manages to get a meet based on those verifications. Said person ends up being quite the opposite of what people thought,and as a result, somebody gets abused or god forbid, worse Maybe I'm alone in my doubts about verifications. If so I'll get my coat. And yes, it's a verification, how else am I supposed to find my victims That last comment was of course in jest. " Thanks, that's clearer. | |||
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"It was a simple question regarding other ways to get verified. It was not because I expect meets to fall into my lap. Nor was it a question born out of not being able to get verified. I then decided to voice my opinion on the validity of the verification process. Here's an example for you. A person goes to a couple of socials. He/she is well received and gathers a couple of lovely reviews. Said person manages to get a meet based on those verifications. Said person ends up being quite the opposite of what people thought,and as a result, somebody gets abused or god forbid, worse Maybe I'm alone in my doubts about verifications. If so I'll get my coat. And yes, it's a verification, how else am I supposed to find my victims That last comment was of course in jest. Thanks, that's clearer. " Better than SpecSavers | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed No feathers ruffled, just people with a different opinion to you More to the point, people don't like something that gives them comfort being questioned It doesn’t give me comfort. That’s the part I struggle to understand. Your posts imply that because someone is verified I’ll meet them without question. When infact it couldn’t be further from the truth! My posts don't imply anything about you " You literally said it quoting my post | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed " I think people should use a lot of common sense and not take veris as gospel, or indeed what they are being told by potential meets as well. Ultimately people are responsible for their own safety on here. | |||
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"Hi all. So, my question is. Methods of verification. I don't have a webcam, so that's out. I can't get a social (probably because I'm not verified) I know I could go to a club or social, but that is a little daunting for a first timer. Would happily go with someone (but I'm not verified. Any other means of verification, or am I completely screwed " You can use your phone camera to webcam in here. | |||
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"Well I seem to have ruffled a few feathers over my concerns for people's safety, very worrying indeed No feathers ruffled, just people with a different opinion to you More to the point, people don't like something that gives them comfort being questioned It doesn’t give me comfort. That’s the part I struggle to understand. Your posts imply that because someone is verified I’ll meet them without question. When infact it couldn’t be further from the truth! My posts don't imply anything about you You literally said it quoting my post " Sigh | |||
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