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"I can relate to everything you have said, I've also struggled with depression. Most people on sites like this, and dating sites in general, are on them because they feel something is missing in their life. Some are lucky enough to find it online, but most are disappointed, left with lower self esteem. Sometimes you just need to step back, get back to reality and reassess your life. I agree with what you have said, if you are not happy with your life, be the person you want to be." Exactly this 
It's hard sometimes so just have patience with yourself OP,
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"A message, like from most single men on here to be unread, ignored and deleted... However perhaps it may help I, after several years of coasting am selling what I have and am going exploring and working in France and Spain to live the life I want. sun, sea and the naturist way of life... Depression, loneliness and isolation have crept up on me and the optomist in me has brushed it aside thinking things will get better. Tinder, Pof and fab ect can make you doubt your worth with people brushing you aside for something 'better'. I know full well in a regular social situation, when relaxed on holiday or a at a swinging party I get on famously with many people...on here I couldn't feel any less wanted.. But this is not real life My age means all of my friends are settled and are happy just being conventional. If you are not happy, you project it to other people whether you know it or not and if you are in a situation where you are not tied or have anyone or anything then there is no reason to not go and do exactly what you want... When you are happy people will notice and you won't come across as needy / horny / desperate, you will also realise that you don't need apps and fab to meet some really cool people... Anyway rant over.. Please if you are not happy with your life, be the person you want to be " Good for you - all the best | |||
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"A message, like from most single men on here to be unread, ignored and deleted... However perhaps it may help I, after several years of coasting am selling what I have and am going exploring and working in France and Spain to live the life I want. sun, sea and the naturist way of life... Depression, loneliness and isolation have crept up on me and the optomist in me has brushed it aside thinking things will get better. Tinder, Pof and fab ect can make you doubt your worth with people brushing you aside for something 'better'. I know full well in a regular social situation, when relaxed on holiday or a at a swinging party I get on famously with many people...on here I couldn't feel any less wanted.. But this is not real life My age means all of my friends are settled and are happy just being conventional. If you are not happy, you project it to other people whether you know it or not and if you are in a situation where you are not tied or have anyone or anything then there is no reason to not go and do exactly what you want... When you are happy people will notice and you won't come across as needy / horny / desperate, you will also realise that you don't need apps and fab to meet some really cool people... Anyway rant over.. Please if you are not happy with your life, be the person you want to be " I know exactly what you are saying, having suffered for many years. I'm of an age where, something had to change, or I wouldnt be here. I loaded up my car with everything I own, got on a ferry and away. I wish you all the luck in the world op. | |||
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"I am surprised men let this site get to them so much, allowing it to destroy their confidence or turning to men in wigs on here in order to get sex or a verification. If it is not working get on in the real world to meet women, I am sure many of you will do better. Or just listen carefully to the advice women give about profiles...." Really supportive of you lol | |||
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"I use to get a bit down. In real life I wasnt use to rejection so when I first used this site it came as a shock. A few years on and now I do not really care. Its only sex. I'm at the age now when I have realised that enjoying life and being myself is more important than chasing a quick bonk. This site is fun and has lots of friendly, sexy and beautiful ladies but I do not take it to serious. Fab is Fab in small doses." Fully agree | |||
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"A message, like from most single men on here to be unread, ignored and deleted... However perhaps it may help I, after several years of coasting am selling what I have and am going exploring and working in France and Spain to live the life I want. sun, sea and the naturist way of life... Depression, loneliness and isolation have crept up on me and the optomist in me has brushed it aside thinking things will get better. Tinder, Pof and fab ect can make you doubt your worth with people brushing you aside for something 'better'. I know full well in a regular social situation, when relaxed on holiday or a at a swinging party I get on famously with many people...on here I couldn't feel any less wanted.. But this is not real life My age means all of my friends are settled and are happy just being conventional. If you are not happy, you project it to other people whether you know it or not and if you are in a situation where you are not tied or have anyone or anything then there is no reason to not go and do exactly what you want... When you are happy people will notice and you won't come across as needy / horny / desperate, you will also realise that you don't need apps and fab to meet some really cool people... Anyway rant over.. Please if you are not happy with your life, be the person you want to be " You should not let this place get to you... I think it’s more hurtful when you are on dating site and they match you and end up costing you than on here when you really don’t know if other person finds you attractive and if you are saying the right thing
I was in very similar situation like you. I was very social and outgoing but last few years depression and anxiety have taken over and so many people have hurt me that I try to stay away and be very careful what people I’m letting close. I guess that’s why I enjoy swingers club experience so much So many nice, chatty and like minded people in one place
I have learned to truly enjoy my own company, travel on my own but there is times when I’m very sad that I can’t share intimacy and feelings with someone or times when you are unwell you are only one who can do shopping for yourself and bring that glass of water to your own sick bed I have dated some lovely guys but always failed as I have had really bad examples of how real relationships or family looks like.
Good luck to you to find right balance and right place and person for you | |||
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"A message, like from most single men on here to be unread, ignored and deleted... However perhaps it may help I, after several years of coasting am selling what I have and am going exploring and working in France and Spain to live the life I want. sun, sea and the naturist way of life... Depression, loneliness and isolation have crept up on me and the optomist in me has brushed it aside thinking things will get better. Tinder, Pof and fab ect can make you doubt your worth with people brushing you aside for something 'better'. I know full well in a regular social situation, when relaxed on holiday or a at a swinging party I get on famously with many people...on here I couldn't feel any less wanted.. But this is not real life My age means all of my friends are settled and are happy just being conventional. If you are not happy, you project it to other people whether you know it or not and if you are in a situation where you are not tied or have anyone or anything then there is no reason to not go and do exactly what you want... When you are happy people will notice and you won't come across as needy / horny / desperate, you will also realise that you don't need apps and fab to meet some really cool people... Anyway rant over.. Please if you are not happy with your life, be the person you want to be You should not let this place get to you... I think it’s more hurtful when you are on dating site and they match you and end up costing you than on here when you really don’t know if other person finds you attractive and if you are saying the right thing
I was in very similar situation like you. I was very social and outgoing but last few years depression and anxiety have taken over and so many people have hurt me that I try to stay away and be very careful what people I’m letting close. I guess that’s why I enjoy swingers club experience so much So many nice, chatty and like minded people in one place
I have learned to truly enjoy my own company, travel on my own but there is times when I’m very sad that I can’t share intimacy and feelings with someone or times when you are unwell you are only one who can do shopping for yourself and bring that glass of water to your own sick bed I have dated some lovely guys but always failed as I have had really bad examples of how real relationships or family looks like.
Good luck to you to find right balance and right place and person for you "*ghosting not costing | |||
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"A message, like from most single men on here to be unread, ignored and deleted... However perhaps it may help I, after several years of coasting am selling what I have and am going exploring and working in France and Spain to live the life I want. sun, sea and the naturist way of life... Depression, loneliness and isolation have crept up on me and the optomist in me has brushed it aside thinking things will get better. Tinder, Pof and fab ect can make you doubt your worth with people brushing you aside for something 'better'. I know full well in a regular social situation, when relaxed on holiday or a at a swinging party I get on famously with many people...on here I couldn't feel any less wanted.. But this is not real life My age means all of my friends are settled and are happy just being conventional. If you are not happy, you project it to other people whether you know it or not and if you are in a situation where you are not tied or have anyone or anything then there is no reason to not go and do exactly what you want... When you are happy people will notice and you won't come across as needy / horny / desperate, you will also realise that you don't need apps and fab to meet some really cool people... Anyway rant over.. Please if you are not happy with your life, be the person you want to be " Good luck mate. | |||
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"A message, like from most single men on here to be unread, ignored and deleted... However perhaps it may help I, after several years of coasting am selling what I have and am going exploring and working in France and Spain to live the life I want. sun, sea and the naturist way of life... Depression, loneliness and isolation have crept up on me and the optomist in me has brushed it aside thinking things will get better. Tinder, Pof and fab ect can make you doubt your worth with people brushing you aside for something 'better'. I know full well in a regular social situation, when relaxed on holiday or a at a swinging party I get on famously with many people...on here I couldn't feel any less wanted.. But this is not real life My age means all of my friends are settled and are happy just being conventional. If you are not happy, you project it to other people whether you know it or not and if you are in a situation where you are not tied or have anyone or anything then there is no reason to not go and do exactly what you want... When you are happy people will notice and you won't come across as needy / horny / desperate, you will also realise that you don't need apps and fab to meet some really cool people... Anyway rant over.. Please if you are not happy with your life, be the person you want to be You should not let this place get to you... I think it’s more hurtful when you are on dating site and they match you and end up costing you than on here when you really don’t know if other person finds you attractive and if you are saying the right thing
I was in very similar situation like you. I was very social and outgoing but last few years depression and anxiety have taken over and so many people have hurt me that I try to stay away and be very careful what people I’m letting close. I guess that’s why I enjoy swingers club experience so much So many nice, chatty and like minded people in one place
I have learned to truly enjoy my own company, travel on my own but there is times when I’m very sad that I can’t share intimacy and feelings with someone or times when you are unwell you are only one who can do shopping for yourself and bring that glass of water to your own sick bed I have dated some lovely guys but always failed as I have had really bad examples of how real relationships or family looks like.
Good luck to you to find right balance and right place and person for you "This is a fantastic reply I will add it might not be good to look for someone when you are in the middle of a depression period. If you are looking to just chat try the chat rooms some really friendly people Try support groups, friendship apps, walking groups all those will help getting you out and about | |||
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"... I’ve been suffering depression for over 4 years. Fab and sites like it are a double edged sword. The amount of messages ignored, the time wasters, the idiots can just make things worse, so next time you just delete a message, THINK please " Whilst I really see the point, many people get so many emails that it's reasonable for them to delete them and people aren't going to change their behaviour. The real issue is that some people lookfor replies to validate them and make them feel better - which means they essentially hand over some control over feelings of self worth and happiness to strangers who they have never met. That's not a good idea. I agree with the poster above that you might have a more interesting chat on the forum. To be honest though you would be far better off joining a non sex related forum (think hobbies) or a club and meeting a bunch of real people in the flesh. Bring around happy people is a good tonic for depression. Hunched over a computer screen on some sex site, isn't. A decade ago, I lost my wife, my child, my house, my job and both my parents within 18 months. I know what it's like to feel depressed. However, there's no substitute for taking up a new hobby, getting out there in the real world and meeting real people. The Internet is not the best place for it and this site is not the best place on the Internet. Best. | |||
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