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"If I verify someone outside of the range in my age filters are they then able to message me? Or do I have to wink/message them for them to be able to message me?" They can message you back if you message them x I am guessing you mean someone you have seen on cam? X x x | |||
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"If I verify someone outside of the range in my age filters are they then able to message me? Or do I have to wink/message them for them to be able to message me? They can message you back if you message them x I am guessing you mean someone you have seen on cam? X x x " must be cam otherwise they would have messaged and if they messaged age or not he could message her, doesn't sound good for the guy she verified though lol  | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess" Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples." You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom  xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss | |||
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"No. I met and played with two people in a club. We haven’t messaged at all. Having verified them would they then be able to message me? And yes, I have now messaged them, but I assumed that as I’d verified them they could message me but I’m not sure that’s the case. Hope that is clearer." in order to verify you talk to his profile and he receives and accepts it otherwise you wouldn't be able to see it so one imagines yes he can | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss"Thanks for the condescending advice, which having had sane conversation with you outside of the forums I’m a little surprised by, but hey ho. Most of this year I have had men blocked. It improves my fab experience no end, but for reasons I won’t go into here, at the moment I don’t. Blocks or not I’m perfectly capable of seeking men out. None of which clarifies whether people outside of my age range can message me if I’ve verified then. I’ve also now found out that one of the people in question verified me at an earlier date but that never came through, or showed on his profile when I looked at him. The plot thickens.. | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss
Thanks for the condescending advice, which having had sane conversation with you outside of the forums I’m a little surprised by, but hey ho.
Most of this year I have had men blocked. It improves my fab experience no end, but for reasons I won’t go into here, at the moment I don’t. Blocks or not I’m perfectly capable of seeking men out.
None of which clarifies whether people outside of my age range can message me if I’ve verified then.
I’ve also now found out that one of the people in question verified me at an earlier date but that never came through, or showed on his profile when I looked at him. The plot thickens.."I don't know how many veris you get but one would imagine difficult to miss a veri maybe he never sent it | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss
Thanks for the condescending advice, which having had sane conversation with you outside of the forums I’m a little surprised by, but hey ho.
Most of this year I have had men blocked. It improves my fab experience no end, but for reasons I won’t go into here, at the moment I don’t. Blocks or not I’m perfectly capable of seeking men out.
None of which clarifies whether people outside of my age range can message me if I’ve verified then.
I’ve also now found out that one of the people in question verified me at an earlier date but that never came through, or showed on his profile when I looked at him. The plot thickens.."Aww I was only messing and the condescending attitude wasn’t aimed specifically at you, just at the numerous “crap messages, too many messages” posts that frequent this site, maybe I’m bored, maybe Im been my usual “devils advocate” maybe I’m just bitter? Maybe I’m in a mood? Mwah xx | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss"WTF are you on about?? Somebody got out of the wrong side of bed this morning didn't they. The lady has asked for a bit of simple advice, not a ruddy lecture on how to run her message filters x | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss
Thanks for the condescending advice, which having had sane conversation with you outside of the forums I’m a little surprised by, but hey ho.
Most of this year I have had men blocked. It improves my fab experience no end, but for reasons I won’t go into here, at the moment I don’t. Blocks or not I’m perfectly capable of seeking men out.
None of which clarifies whether people outside of my age range can message me if I’ve verified then.
I’ve also now found out that one of the people in question verified me at an earlier date but that never came through, or showed on his profile when I looked at him. The plot thickens..I don't know how many veris you get but one would imagine difficult to miss a veri maybe he never sent it "I didn’t. I’ve had problems with veris coming through before. Not bothered whether he sent it or not, although I can’t imagine why he’d lie about it. | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss
WTF are you on about?? Somebody got out of the wrong side of bed this morning didn't they. The lady has asked for a bit of simple advice, not a ruddy lecture on how to run her message filters x"Thank you. Cos my profile and forum threads scream out ‘attention seeker with no ability to run her profile competently’..
Now, about the messaging of people who have verified you but you are outside of their age filters.. | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss
Thanks for the condescending advice, which having had sane conversation with you outside of the forums I’m a little surprised by, but hey ho.
Most of this year I have had men blocked. It improves my fab experience no end, but for reasons I won’t go into here, at the moment I don’t. Blocks or not I’m perfectly capable of seeking men out.
None of which clarifies whether people outside of my age range can message me if I’ve verified then.
I’ve also now found out that one of the people in question verified me at an earlier date but that never came through, or showed on his profile when I looked at him. The plot thickens..I don't know how many veris you get but one would imagine difficult to miss a veri maybe he never sent it
I didn’t. I’ve had problems with veris coming through before. Not bothered whether he sent it or not, although I can’t imagine why he’d lie about it."I'm not sure about here but I know that on Cottaging and Dogging.co.uk there is a feature where you cannot leave a verification for someone you have not exchanged messages with. But the feature is bugged. It does let you leave a verification but neither party can see it and it doesn't show on the profile until after you've messaged. Might be the same here. | |||
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"If I verify someone outside of the range in my age filters are they then able to message me? Or do I have to wink/message them for them to be able to message me?" No they can't. You have to communicate by message for them to message you. | |||
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"Yes if they are outside your age filters and you have never exchanged messages, I believe the verification is unable to come through." This would make sense. I know Killer Kurves had some trouble verifying me as well even though only one of them was outside my age range. | |||
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"If I verify someone outside of the range in my age filters are they then able to message me? Or do I have to wink/message them for them to be able to message me? No they can't. You have to communicate by message for them to message you." Ok. Thanks. | |||
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"Amazing how the age criteria goes out the window, many a time we’ve played with people at clubs only for them to be shocked when they’ve looked at our profile after the fact and seen they’ve played with us over the hill geriatrics, poor loves.... Hence we allow any age to message us thus not getting into this type of mess Well its hardly a massive mess is it? And having dropped my age filters for a couple of weeks and been snowed under with rubbish messages from horny 25 yr olds typing with one hand there is no way I’m dropping them again. You know that message patterns for single women are way different to message patterns for couples. You are right of course, we understand you probably get 100 times more messages than us hence having to control who sends, but here is a thought, why not block everyone from messaging you and go search yourself? End of problem, it’s okay, no need to thank us, we’ll be here all week with words of wisdom xx
Amazed that no ones mentioned it before imagine how many “crap messages, too many messages I can’t answer them all” etc etc threads would not have happened! Bliss
Thanks for the condescending advice, which having had sane conversation with you outside of the forums I’m a little surprised by, but hey ho.
Most of this year I have had men blocked. It improves my fab experience no end, but for reasons I won’t go into here, at the moment I don’t. Blocks or not I’m perfectly capable of seeking men out.
None of which clarifies whether people outside of my age range can message me if I’ve verified then.
I’ve also now found out that one of the people in question verified me at an earlier date but that never came through, or showed on his profile when I looked at him. The plot thickens..I don't know how many veris you get but one would imagine difficult to miss a veri maybe he never sent it
I didn’t. I’ve had problems with veris coming through before. Not bothered whether he sent it or not, although I can’t imagine why he’d lie about it.
I'm not sure about here but I know that on Cottaging and Dogging.co.uk there is a feature where you cannot leave a verification for someone you have not exchanged messages with. But the feature is bugged. It does let you leave a verification but neither party can see it and it doesn't show on the profile until after you've messaged. Might be the same here."Thanks. I think this is what has happened here. | |||
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"Yes if they are outside your age filters and you have never exchanged messages, I believe the verification is unable to come through." I'd hazard to agree as it's a form of messaging, but then again you can fab their pics so maybe one can. .......... I'm surprised a mod hasn't put this straight by now. Maybe it's never been raised before. | |||
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