FabSwingers.com forum: Message read and not deleted

By *piritualSFC OP Man
over a year ago

london

Ladies.. Is this a good sign or a bad sign?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies.. Is this a good sign or a bad sign?"

You'll have to see the fortune-teller.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person ... I do it because I'm going to come back to it

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By *TJxComboMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"Ladies.. Is this a good sign or a bad sign?"

It's a bad sign just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies.. Is this a good sign or a bad sign?"

Not sure what your asking, I read messages then delete probably every two weeks all read messages, however not always right away so its no real indication of I like or dislike, generally if I don't reply its because the guy had ignored my profile if the send cock pictures its delete immediately

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You can't know. Don't dwell, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies.. Is this a good sign or a bad sign?"
It's a bad sign if you put something controversial in that message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a sign, there is nothing to interpret. They haven't responded, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just do a mass delete every now and then.

If she hasn’t replied she’s probably not going to.

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

They could just be busy & not have time to reply there & then. If they are interested they will reply....there is no time limit in sending a reply to a message keep your options open...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a sign that the message has been opened, not necessarily read, but it has not yet been deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask yourself What would it mean if you didn't reply and deleted the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask yourself What would it mean if you didn't reply and deleted the message. "

...and NOT deleted.

Means there's possibly some hope but as the days go by it's less likely as each day her inbox has been refilled and you're now at the bottom of the list of read but not deleted messages.

I give 3 days as a general rule. Then it's no interest and block n move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask yourself What would it mean if you didn't reply and deleted the message.

...and NOT deleted.

Means there's possibly some hope but as the days go by it's less likely as each day her inbox has been refilled and you're now at the bottom of the list of read but not deleted messages.

I give 3 days as a general rule. Then it's no interest and block n move on."

My bad I read it as "read and deleted"

In that case I'd try and look at it with an open mind and just leave it at that... If they reply at a later date then bonus, if not nothing lost.

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

I often read but don’t reply until I’ve spoken to my husband or aren't ready to meet yet but want to keep you in my radar (previously I’d reply to people I was interested & say I’ll be in touch soon but i soon found out that means they’ll message me every day which ultimately makes me lose interest)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As touched up on mate! Key is not to dwell on it and or take it personal.

Just think about how many messages women get daily? Even to answer no thanks to every message it would consume their day and this is about fun, not being a chore.

You have to really take yourself out of your own thoughts and interpretations and really try to think of theirs with pure volume of messages per day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never delete mails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As touched up on mate! Key is not to dwell on it and or take it personal.

Just think about how many messages women get daily? Even to answer no thanks to every message it would consume their day and this is about fun, not being a chore.

You have to really take yourself out of your own thoughts and interpretations and really try to think of theirs with pure volume of messages per day."

Wise words there daz.. We had a chat about this the other day lol I was saying the same thing to you.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I may leave a message to come back to, but my messages only stream so much then it's gone. If I've not deleted/blocked you, it's worth picking up with me again with a polite message at some point in the future - it was probably just bad timing

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

For me if a message is read but not deleted it’s a good sign as they maybe considering me.If however the message is read but not deleted after say 3 days and the lady or couple have been logged in during that time and not responded to my message then it’s a bad sign.I delete and move on

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

"I never delete mails."

This, they soon drop off the bottom.

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By *piritualSFC OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I may leave a message to come back to, but my messages only stream so much then it's gone. If I've not deleted/blocked you, it's worth picking up with me again with a polite message at some point in the future - it was probably just bad timing"

Thanks guys.. il remain optimistic but not persistently optimistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask yourself What would it mean if you didn't reply and deleted the message.

...and NOT deleted.

Means there's possibly some hope but as the days go by it's less likely as each day her inbox has been refilled and you're now at the bottom of the list of read but not deleted messages.

I give 3 days as a general rule. Then it's no interest and block n move on.

My bad I read it as "read and deleted"

In that case I'd try and look at it with an open mind and just leave it at that... If they reply at a later date then bonus, if not nothing lost. "
approach every message with the view you didn't know them before and you don't now and you can't go far wrong

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By *anni and RicCouple
over a year ago

York

"I often read but don’t reply until I’ve spoken to my husband or aren't ready to meet yet but want to keep you in my radar (previously I’d reply to people I was interested & say I’ll be in touch soon but i soon found out that means they’ll message me every day which ultimately makes me lose interest)"

This for us...delete and block if not interested or they are odd....polite no thank you if they seem nice but we just don't fancy them xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This for us...delete and block if not interested or they are odd....polite no thank you if they seem nice but we just don't fancy them xxx"

Can’t be any more polite and fair than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete your outbox and forget about it.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

My general rules are:

blocked = not interested

A reply to say they aren't interested = not interested

Anything other than those kind of emphatic and unambiguous responses should be interpreted as the following:

"At the precise moment they opened your message, they decided not to take things further"

While disappointing now, the upside is that you are free to message them again after an appropriate length of time has passed.

That might be an unpopular opinion with a few on these forums, but in my not inconsiderable experience of this swinging malarkey, it is a cold hard fact.

I have lost count of the number of times that a speculative wink or message sent 2 or 3 months after the initial failed contact has yielded a positive result.

Often times the person I had comtacted had no recollection of my first message.

Other times they remembered it but had so many conversations on the go and so many meets they were trying to fit into their diary that they didn't want to waste my time or theirs chatting about a meet that was likely to be a long way off in the future.

I once even had a couple who had blocked me within seconds of my first message, approach me at a social asking who I was, remarking that I never seemed to come up in their searches. (oh how we laughed when we discovered the reason)

Caveats.

Be patient - minimum and I mean MINIMUM 6 weeks before trying to re-establish contact.

Be selective - save it for those people who you genuinely feel like you would have had a connection with

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

If a message is interesting, and the guy looks good, then I'll answer straight away. If not, then I block, and have a weekly clear out of my messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'm waiting for a bus, or drifting off to sleep, or sorta busy but had a quick look. My intention is to reply later but often later the message is at the bottom of my inbox, so I forget it. Or more likely its my age and I simply forget I was going to reply xx

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Just delete messages after you have sent them, if you get a message back it will have your draft.

Can’t imagine why someone would be hanging on when there is so many lovely ladies on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I do personally that I delete every sent message. You've done your bit by saying hi and it's out of your hands.

Saves a knock to your confidence if and when they're deleted. It isn't important...

The only thing that is would be the replies

Happy to help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on the recipient. Only they will know

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

For me it means the message is polite and worthy of a response but I don’t have time to reply. Depending on message numbers and my available time I may reply I may delete.

Wanna fuck messages instant delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a message is interesting, and the guy looks good, then I'll answer straight away. If not, then I block, and have a weekly clear out of my messages."

I tried messaging you as you looked at my profile, I’m just a little to young....... anyway good way of dealing with you inbox lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just delete messages after you have sent them, if you get a message back it will have your draft.

Can’t imagine why someone would be hanging on when there is so many lovely ladies on here.

Yeah that’s what I do. Well sometimes I forgot to attach pictures so send a second one with the tittle forgot pics sorry, so they know I’m not pestering just simply adding what they wanted.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

The moment you start looking is the moment you start taking Fab too seriously.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Ladies.. Is this a good sign or a bad sign?"

It's not a good one. If they were interested they would have replied.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I usually reply quickly if i'm

interested ,maybe they do a bulk delete every now and again who knows

Delete messages from your sent box and you won't torture yourself op.

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By *imAndHerKentCouple
over a year ago

Folkestone

"It's a sign that the message has been opened, not necessarily read, but it has not yet been deleted.

This

and nothing more.

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