FabSwingers.com forum: Advice for a younger guy

By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Hey so I’m wondering what advice people could give a younger guy on fab as I understand a lot of people don’t support younger people being on here.

However I have been struggling with getting replies and even when I get replies they either end suddenly or end up as dud meets.

I’m just wondering what advice you would give as while I do understand I’m one of thousands as a guy. I would like advice on what can make me stand out and what to fix regarding my profile and what can be added

Thanks in advance

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many cock pics does a person need???

Your profile does not stand out, and the blurb about your cock is very hard to understand.

Legal warning is pointless.

Simple forum search will show you loads of threads with advice for single guys. Though in my personal opinion (which I am entitled to, before Fab police scorns me for it), you should be out and about, trying your game in real life. Fab is not easy for single men, and you are still very young.

Anyway, good luck.

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

As I’ve said in my profile was born like that I can’t help it.

Real life isn’t as easy for me hence why I prefer somewhere like fab but thanks anyway and less cock pics consider it done.

I know there’s other posts but I’m being a pain Cus I want personalised advice hahah

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"As I’ve said in my profile was born like that I can’t help it.

Real life isn’t as easy for me hence why I prefer somewhere like fab but thanks anyway and less cock pics consider it done.

I know there’s other posts but I’m being a pain Cus I want personalised advice hahah"

You're entitled to ask for advice

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I would say rotate your avatar so it's the right way up. Otherwise you'll probably need to be quite patient and I'm afraid your age will probably work against you. Nothing you can do about that but looking on the bright side you will eventually get older

Good luck

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

May I ask what would the people of fab recommend I do to make my profile stand out?

And thank you and I’ve heard worse so don’t worry about it.

Also thanks

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hey so I’m wondering what advice people could give a younger guy on fab as I understand a lot of people don’t support younger people being on here.

However I have been struggling with getting replies and even when I get replies they either end suddenly or end up as dud meets.

Thanks in advance"

If I was 18 again I'd be out socialising with mates in pubs and clubs doing things the old school way with buying girls drinks and dancing and hoping to get lucky

Good luck on fab but don't put all your time and effort into just fab or you'll miss life going on around you.

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Yeah I know I’ll eventually get older it’s a slow thing and I do laugh how now I’m wanting to get older but come a few years I’ll be wanting to be young and I’ll try and get some pictures which are nicer thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The advice is the same for all single guys. Read those:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/868684

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/877648

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Mate I do all of the going out with the clubs and pubs but sadly it seems most my age aren’t overly adventurous

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Also what kind of photos would people recommend I have on my profile and what can I talk about on my profile to be unique?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why you are on here. Are you annoying in real life too?"

no need to be nasty.

I'd work on your profile text OP, plenty of good advice on the forum if you do a search, I see you've been given some links above. Unfortunately your age will work against you here, but you'll get there eventually with perseverance I'm sure

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"I don't see why you are on here. Are you annoying in real life too?

no need to be nasty.

That’s what I’m asking what exactly could I do to improve my profile text I know it sounds a bit dopey but I’m really unsure what would be effective. But thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s what I’m asking what exactly could I do to improve my profile text I know it sounds a bit dopey but I’m really unsure what would be effective. But thanks for the advice"

OP, nobody is going to write a profile for you or tell you exactly what to put in there. It is YOUR profile, your own shop window, you need to sell yourself, tell us what you can offer and why are women supposed to meet you and not other, more experienced men.

Have you even bothered reading the links I suggested? They are very straight forward, and explain exactly how to be more successful. You just need to put some effort in rather than just being plain lazy. No effort=no success on Fab.

What's the point asking for advice if you're not going to listen to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why you are on here. Are you annoying in real life too?

Sorry but there's really no need for that.

Hi OP

Ok someones posted some links above it will help if you give them a read through.

They have brilliant advice in them.

Remember that your bio is where people will look to see if there is anything they like the sound or look of. Anything you put in there make it count;-)

Yes your age is probably going to work against you but don't be disheartened although you may possibly get more luck out in the real world. But that doesn't stop you from trying

Good luck

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"I don't see why you are on here. Are you annoying in real life too?

Sorry but there's really no need for that.

Hi OP

Ok someones posted some links above it will help if you give them a read through.

They have brilliant advice in them.

Remember that your bio is where people will look to see if there is anything they like the sound or look of. Anything you put in there make it count;-)

Yes your age is probably going to work against you but don't be disheartened although you may possibly get more luck out in the real world. But that doesn't stop you from trying

Good luck

So should I talk about myself as a person focus on my sexual preferences do BDSM tests help as I’ve seen a lot of them sorry I’m asking so many questions haha

I will keep trying and I won’t stop in the real world my only negative in the real world is it’s bloody rare for people my age to have any sort of kink in em hahah

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Hi OP.

I definitely recommend reading the links provided.

Specifically for you based on what you already have?

Better punctuation, and some humour needed and less apparent obsession with the fact your cock is a bit different.

You need to stand out but still be you, and we don't know you.

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"Hi OP.

I definitely recommend reading the links provided.

Specifically for you based on what you already have?

Better punctuation, and some humour needed and less apparent obsession with the fact your cock is a bit different.

You need to stand out but still be you, and we don't know you."

Better punctuation I can work with, humour I can try my best with that and my cock well in the past few days I’ve had some horrible messages about it and I was advised to make it more clear so I did and I know it’s not ideal having a whole section on my cock but for personal reasons so I don’t consistently end up belittled and made to feel disgusting I’ve put it there but thank you for the advice I am reading and adjusting as I get more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why you are on here. Are you annoying in real life too?

Sorry but there's really no need for that.

Hi OP

Ok someones posted some links above it will help if you give them a read through.

They have brilliant advice in them.

Remember that your bio is where people will look to see if there is anything they like the sound or look of. Anything you put in there make it count;-)

Yes your age is probably going to work against you but don't be disheartened although you may possibly get more luck out in the real world. But that doesn't stop you from trying

Good luck

So should I talk about myself as a person focus on my sexual preferences do BDSM tests help as I’ve seen a lot of them sorry I’m asking so many questions haha

I will keep trying and I won’t stop in the real world my only negative in the real world is it’s bloody rare for people my age to have any sort of kink in em hahah"

Take a look around some of the profiles to see how they are written out. (DONT COPY THEM THOUGH!) sorry for the shouty bit lol.

BDSM test everyone's seen them now and don't think they are taken much notice of and it takes up space that you could be using to chat about you

There is a fine line on here.

You need to be confident but not arrogent.

Interesting enough for us to make contact or reply to messages without being cocky.

Find the right balance but don't expect people to be dropping at your feet lol.

Men outweigh women here drastically and for alot of people (not everyone)the older more experienced guys are higher on the list.

But even they struggle.

Honestly read those links.. they will give you an idea

Good luck

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"I don't see why you are on here. Are you annoying in real life too?

Sorry but there's really no need for that.

Hi OP

Ok someones posted some links above it will help if you give them a read through.

They have brilliant advice in them.

Remember that your bio is where people will look to see if there is anything they like the sound or look of. Anything you put in there make it count;-)

Yes your age is probably going to work against you but don't be disheartened although you may possibly get more luck out in the real world. But that doesn't stop you from trying

Good luck

So should I talk about myself as a person focus on my sexual preferences do BDSM tests help as I’ve seen a lot of them sorry I’m asking so many questions haha

I will keep trying and I won’t stop in the real world my only negative in the real world is it’s bloody rare for people my age to have any sort of kink in em hahah

Take a look around some of the profiles to see how they are written out. (DONT COPY THEM THOUGH!) sorry for the shouty bit lol.

BDSM test everyone's seen them now and don't think they are taken much notice of and it takes up space that you could be using to chat about you

There is a fine line on here.

You need to be confident but not arrogent.

Interesting enough for us to make contact or reply to messages without being cocky.

Find the right balance but don't expect people to be dropping at your feet lol.

Men outweigh women here drastically and for alot of people (not everyone)the older more experienced guys are higher on the list.

But even they struggle.

Honestly read those links.. they will give you an idea

Good luck

Halfway through reading the links above definitely gonna add a bit more humour to my profile as well as try to be clearer about what I can do and what I’m interested in thanks

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Hi OP.

I definitely recommend reading the links provided.

Specifically for you based on what you already have?

Better punctuation, and some humour needed and less apparent obsession with the fact your cock is a bit different.

You need to stand out but still be you, and we don't know you.

You do need to be thick skinned on here but should report any abuse to admin. Then block them.

Anyone who is worth your time will not care about the difference, they will simply be interested. One line should be enough to cover it.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP.

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly the few lines that you currently have written on your profile won't impress anyone. Expand it by writing something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you.

Put on some better pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile. Anything in between is great. Try to show yourself in a good way, and be imaginative.

However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too. Then get off the site and meet people socially or try a club.

Good luck.

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"Hello OP.

Put on some better pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile. Anything in between is great. Try to show yourself in a good way, and be imaginative.

However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too. Then get off the site and meet people socially or try a club.

Good luck."

Thank you for that brilliant piece of advice and saying I’m not chubby means a lot hahaha. I’m hoping to finish up my profile. Face pics are difficult on public due to my career path I’ve chosen but I will when I get the chance get real creative with some pictures. Chat rooms I’ll try to get involved in and clubs I have a seperate thread where I’ve asked for advice on that but thank you for your kind advice

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

I’ve updated my profile so I would love it if those who have commented about my profile needing work would give me feedback thanks and sorry for being a pain hahaha

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It reads a lot better know and gives a good glimpse into your personality.

Good luck

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"It reads a lot better know and gives a good glimpse into your personality.

Good luck

Thank you for all your advice happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It reads a lot better know and gives a good glimpse into your personality.

Good luck

Thank you for all your advice happy fabbing"

What an amazing difference!

Where did all that come from

Nice one OP.

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"It reads a lot better know and gives a good glimpse into your personality.

Good luck

Thank you for all your advice happy fabbing

What an amazing difference!

Where did all that come from

Nice one OP.

Thank you that means a lot

And where it came from I believe it came from all of your advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking loads better OP, well done and good luck

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By *man013 OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

"Looking loads better OP, well done and good luck

Thank you and happy fabbing

Also if anyone has any pointers feel free to keep chucking them in as I know I’m far from perfect hahaha

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