FabSwingers.com forum: Finding it hard

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So over time I've known I'm bi sexual but always been in denial, this year I've pretty much come to terms with it and I've opened up to my other half about it and shes was so cool about it that it came as a shock a few months have past and we've spoke here and there about it but I'm still finding it hard to say I like cock, she wants me to come out to everyone but I dont know yet, any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a fairly similar situation to yourself a few years ago.

I was lucky in that my ex partner was very supportive and let me take things at my own pace, things like going to a soho gay bookshop filled me with trepidation at one point.

There are so many factors at play, not just sexual but emotional and intellectual too. Having her support is great but doing it at your pace is important.

Regarding telling people? Some know, some don't, a few at work know, some friends but it's really none of their business and 'coming out' is a nonsense in my opinion.

If you want to chat about it, then feel free to PM.

Tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who the hell cares it's your business and for you to decide good luck and yes take things a time your own pace maybe watching bi porn together and talking it over and communication is key x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I honestly cant Express how cool my other half has been through out all this, it's not bothered her in the slightest, we do watch bi porn and gay porn together now, we invested in a strap on and she let's me have a hall pass with a Male every now and then I just don't want it public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done mate on getting this far. Life is too short to live a lie. You don’t want to look back as an old man and regret wasting years of your life, think of it that way.

It is not so bad coming out these days, not like in the mid 1990s when I was brave enough to come out, got some bad homophobia. But it is no way as bad as that now

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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon tyne

Come out in your own time. You haven't long come to terms with it yourself. You get to decide when, how,and who you come out to. It's a very personal decision no one else can make for you. You do it when it feels right for you. Until then just enjoy yourself

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Its great your girlfriend has been so accepting. Must have been a massive relief not only to accept it yourself but to tell her. As everyone says thought, no rush. Maybe try changing your profile to bi? See how you feel with that?

Good luck whatever tho..

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

The only people who need to know your sexual preferences are the people you are having sex with.

My close friends know about my sexuality, and some of my fab experiences.

But nobody at work needs to know, my relatives don't need to know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all, always count on fab to cheer me up on a shitty day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly cant Express how cool my other half has been through out all this, it's not bothered her in the slightest, we do watch bi porn and gay porn together now, we invested in a strap on and she let's me have a hall pass with a Male every now and then I just don't want it public "

She sounds very supportive

Is she aware your on fab swingers?

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