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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am planning to go to a Swingers club for the first time later this month.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is what I am scared about if I do go - nobody talking to me.

Think I might need to find someone to at least go in with.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

It depends what kind of event it is you're going to, nightclub style, house party, spa club?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It is a private members adult club in the UK.

I want to go to a Greedy Girls event so hopefully won't be ignored due to the amount of guys who should be there, but I also am not sure if I will feel comfortable to get involved or just want to watch for a while.

Am a bit nervous

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By *-am-who-i-amMan
over a year ago

Preston

What is the criteria for joining this “private members” club?

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By *r TonguetasticMan
over a year ago

North Essex

Your profile is saying that you are in New Zealand, there are plenty of good clubs in the UK but its difficult to recommend one if you are the opposite side of the world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What is the criteria for joining this “private members” club?"

Approval from the person organising the individual event via their profile on here or FL (face pic required)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What is the criteria for joining this “private members” club?

Approval from the person organising the individual event via their profile on here or FL (face pic required) "

And payment on entry

Or that is my understanding of it without having made direct contact with them yet.

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By *-am-who-i-amMan
over a year ago

Preston

So you’re not actually going, as you’ve not even been accepted. So why the worry? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you’re not actually going, as you’ve not even been accepted. So why the worry? Lol"

I want to be sure I will attend before I request to attend.

I am not a time-waster.

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By *-am-who-i-amMan
over a year ago

Preston

Send me a face pic of you then and i'll give you my opinion over being accepted or not from your looks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Send me a face pic of you then and i'll give you my opinion over being accepted or not from your looks"

Is not about me being accepted. I am no Oil painting, but am more attractive than the bag end of a bus lol.

I just wanted some advice or some people's experiences from attending clubs, particularly from female perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am planning to go to a Swingers club for the first time later this month.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. "

Just go along, sit have a drink, be social. You will get approached. You are in a safe environment, so don't be afraid to say no if he doesn't interest you

I went to alone recently to a club, was nervous but had a great time, and the staff knowing I was alone asked another single lady to sit with me. I had a wander around, chatted to a few people before getting a drink. The staff are great, and were never far away.

Go along and have fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still remember my very first time in a swingers club. I didn't have enough confidence to go on my own so went with an experienced guy I met before. He made me feel more at ease, and introduced me to some people there.

It was definitely eye opening experience, seeing people of all shapes and sizes having good time.

If you tell the club it's your first time, they will look after you and give you a tour of the club, as well as they might introduce you to some of the regulars.

There is no pressure to do anything you don't want to do in a club, it's fine to just watch, relax and socialise. And I'm sure you won't be short of attention, you're a woman! Lol. Just be prepared for the possibility of encountering the infamous 'Wanking Dead'- guys that just walk around in towels, don't talk to anyone, keep staring at women and wank... Also, you need to remember that even in a swingers club 'no' still means 'no'.

Have fun .

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I still remember my very first time in a swingers club. I didn't have enough confidence to go on my own so went with an experienced guy I met before. He made me feel more at ease, and introduced me to some people there.

It was definitely eye opening experience, seeing people of all shapes and sizes having good time.

If you tell the club it's your first time, they will look after you and give you a tour of the club, as well as they might introduce you to some of the regulars.

There is no pressure to do anything you don't want to do in a club, it's fine to just watch, relax and socialise. And I'm sure you won't be short of attention, you're a woman! Lol. Just be prepared for the possibility of encountering the infamous 'Wanking Dead'- guys that just walk around in towels, don't talk to anyone, keep staring at women and wank... Also, you need to remember that even in a swingers club 'no' still means 'no'.

Have fun . "

Exactly this OP. Just be your normal self, you'll have a great time whether you choose to play or not. X

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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago

warwickshire

The key thing is to literally socialise with people and have confidence in yourself

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If I'm on my own I find it easiest to chat to people in the hot tub.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the great advice and reassurance.

Am feeling more confident about going now.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Thanks everyone for the great advice and reassurance.

Am feeling more confident about going now. "

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