FabSwingers.com forum: Conversation

By *lwaysdiscreet OP Man
over a year ago

Ashford Kent and Dartford

How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50

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By *trangeleftyMan
over a year ago

London

"How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50 "

Want the short answer or the long answer?

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By *at4fun888Woman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I think you may underestimate how many messages a female gets on here. Fellas outnumber us 100 to 1 at least!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

It's the same for other animals... Male cats for example... "Oh ffs, do I really have to compete with other male cats for this female? Why do I always have to fight? Why can't she just come to me?" Reality is that men are generally more keen sexually, and that's generally because they have much higher levels of testosterone.

Women can afford to be picky. However, there's a simple way around it. Be different! For example, a clever male cat would go to visit the female when the other cats are eating their fucking dinner or something. Loool.

Seriously, be different. How can you be different on a very sexual, swinging site, which is full of sexual, horny men? The answer is in the question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally, I see a guy I like the look of and want to message, but having done that in the past, guys seem to think it's a given that we will meet.. His profile and pics might be nice but the personality of a wet fish

So now I just chat to the ones I know....

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50

Want the short answer or the long answer?"

Is it the same? 2 letters? Do I get a prize??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to message all the time, you can always wait until someone messages you first ya know

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By *trangeleftyMan
over a year ago

London

"How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50

Want the short answer or the long answer?

Is it the same? 2 letters? Do I get a prize??

yes

and yes

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Do you think it should be 50 50 "

You are free to try that approach if you wish. No one is going to tell you how to approach Fab because it’s for you to decide what you prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you will find the good looking fit handsome gym fit inelegant guys don't have that problem OP.

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By *il73Woman
over a year ago

Hyde

Its very easy to lose a person amongst the 100's of new messages a woman gets...even if it is a guy you message a lot and want to keep in touch with

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Its very easy to lose a person amongst the 100's of new messages a woman gets...even if it is a guy you message a lot and want to keep in touch with

Oh oh this for sure!!! It’s nothing personal but women get hundreds of messages a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't have messages it means that nobody wants to talk to you. If people wanted to talk to you, you'd have messages. You don't have to try harder, just miss out on conversations. Harsh but true x

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50

Want the short answer or the long answer?

Is it the same? 2 letters? Do I get a prize??

yes

and yes "

Oooh excited...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50 "

How can you feel so bloody entitled?! You put up a list of wants and a couple of cock pics and you think it's reasonable to think people should contact YOU? Are you some kind of charity case? People on this site owe you nothing.

If you want couples or the 18 single women on this site to choose you over the thousands of single men here then make an effort. Show them you have their interests at heart. Show them you respect them. Show them you have a sense of humour. Show them you are somebody they might enjoy spending time with. Show them how nicely you dress and present yourself.

People on this site are not here for you and nor should they be. If you want their attention then act like you have some understanding of them. What have you put in your profile that would attract anybody?

If you went into a bar or club and sat in the corner with your cock out and said "I want I want I want" do you think they'd come flocking? Hopefully not. So why would it work here?

I realise the people on here are fairly sexually liberal but they still have standards. If you don't meet those standards, that's your problem not theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I get messages some ignore because women can be just like some men on here. For example do you have a bbc no introduction. But women get 100s of messages the moment they join I may get 2 3 a week

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Look at your phone with someone you fancy. If the majority of the conversation is blue i.e. you, then I think you're basically wasting your time trying to be in someone's life that isn't really into you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much anywhere in nature the male is the woo-er and the female is the woo-ee. In this way males who are not man enough for the rigours of courtship don't carry their genes down to the next generation. Yup this is swingers site but men are still men and women are still women. And faint heart still doesn't win fair lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a message lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"How can you feel so bloody entitled?! You put up a list of wants and a couple of cock pics and you think it's reasonable to think people should contact YOU?"

I think that sums it up nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can you feel so bloody entitled?! You put up a list of wants and a couple of cock pics and you think it's reasonable to think people should contact YOU?

I think that sums it up nicely

But.... but.... I was told fab is a place where you just put up a cock pic to prove you have one and women send you FAF messages! So much for getting laid and not having to put any effort in!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"But.... but.... I was told fab is a place where you just put up a cock pic to prove you have one and women send you FAF messages! So much for getting laid and not having to put any effort in!"

To quote Dirty Harry (I think

"I'd say you've been misinformed."

By the way, what does FAF stand for? I've seen it a few times on the forum.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If I didn't get as many messages I would start conversations. Occasionally - if a guy gets my attention with a strong positive presence here - I do. And I do so in the way I like to be approached.

As it is, I do get heaps of messages, and 80%+ of male profiles here are poor.

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"I think you will find the good looking fit handsome gym fit inelegant guys don't have that problem OP."

I am one of them.

So one out of five isn't bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't have to message all the time, you can always wait until someone messages you first ya know"

I think I saw someone who tried that hit the news once, he was thawed from a glacier and his last words were recorded as "any day now..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But.... but.... I was told fab is a place where you just put up a cock pic to prove you have one and women send you FAF messages! So much for getting laid and not having to put any effort in!

To quote Dirty Harry (I think

"I'd say you've been misinformed."

By the way, what does FAF stand for? I've seen it a few times on the forum. "

Fancy A Fuck

Hallmark are making a card for it...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"By the way, what does FAF stand for? I've seen it a few times on the forum.

Fancy A Fuck"

Thank you!

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By *ania2000Couple
over a year ago

liverpool

"How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50 "
...i focus on my meets...could b chatting for weeks...months..i love the build up ..the tease..well message eachother throughout the day n night..i dont wait for him t message me...even sent pics t him while hes in work ...its all about the chemistry ..connection..n imagination ...love it ..T..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell you what OP. Why not give it a try.

If messaging first is bothering you that much, take a break from sending messages and wait for others to message you.

See how you get on

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

We have a couples account plus we both have single profiles. I get the most messages but our couples and hubbys single profiles both get people messaging

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"It's the same for other animals... Male cats for example... "Oh ffs, do I really have to compete with other male cats for this female? Why do I always have to fight? Why can't she just come to me?" Reality is that men are generally more keen sexually, and that's generally because they have much higher levels of testosterone.

Seriously, be different. How can you be different on a very sexual, swinging site, which is full of sexual, horny men? The answer is in the question!

:D"

Good answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually have not recieved one message from a woman on here i do all the messaging but i dont mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50

If you went into a bar or club and sat in the corner with your cock out and said "I want I want I want" do you think they'd come flocking? Hopefully not. So why would it work here?

I realise the people on here are fairly sexually liberal but they still have standards. If you don't meet those standards, that's your problem not theirs. "

Very well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many other guy's feel like i do.

That it's always you that has to start a conversation.

You never open up your messages to find that someone else has taken there time to message you first.

And unless you message someone first your never get any messages.

Even when your chatting to someone sometimes it's still you that has to be the first person that has to start the conversation.

Do you think it should be 50 50 "

Your pics arent very inviting. I took a quick look and came out. Scarey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, can’t say I do tbh, I hang around here a lot but don’t do much though, that’s probably why.

I send a few, I receive a few, I delete a lot without replying lol.

Can’t say this without sounding arsey, but your profile shows more of your cock than your face, your text is quite robotic and the natural occurrence of bone growth isn’t an achievement

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve had messaged out of the blue from ladies and couples on Fab. It does happen and when it does it’s lovely.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Life isn't fair and neither is this site, some guys on here will drop me like a stone if a real girl shows some interest in them. Cest la Vie.

Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed. Everyone on here has some complaint about the site, too many messages or no messages etc..

Look at your profile and if it isn't working change it, read some of the advice threads and learn from them

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