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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Evening fabbers,

As a 19 year old I get a lot of people who reject the idea of a younger guy. Although mature never get the chance to prove to the individual. Is there any advice or time to call it quits?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening fabbers,

As a 19 year old I get a lot of people who reject the idea of a younger guy. Although mature never get the chance to prove to the individual. Is there any advice or time to call it quits?

Thanks "

What does "mature" mean to you? Mature for a 20 years old will be very different to mature for 40 a years old.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mature as in a straight head and not ‘immature’ as people see my age group, that they are wanting a shag and leave. I wanted to get into FAB as it seemed welcoming, it is more the social side for me of meeting and making older friends as well as the obvious

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I dunno, I've met loads of immature 40 year olds!!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a tough gig for a guy under 25 or 30. I've always been an old soul, so I get it, but I'm afraid I'm still an old soul so 19 is still way below what I'm comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a tough gig for a guy under 25 or 30. I've always been an old soul, so I get it, but I'm afraid I'm still an old soul so 19 is still way below what I'm comfortable with. "

Such a shame, that is the problem really, too many old souls/ people with old views that swinging is for a certain age/ type. Swinging should be for everyone to enjoy as at the end of the day everyone loves the social and the fun side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You started earlier than me, i first started swinging at 23 but even back then for me it was never just about the sex, i enjoyed making friends, chatting ladies, guys and couples (both mr and mrs) over mutual enjoyement of sexual freedom and open mindedness and if anything eventually lead to actual sex then it was always relaxed fun at everyone's own pace

So to cut a long story short keep going as you are and chatting, making friends and eventually you should find some fun along the way

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Swinging should be for everybody, but purely down to experience, I won't meet anyone under 45. My preference

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's a tough gig for a guy under 25 or 30. I've always been an old soul, so I get it, but I'm afraid I'm still an old soul so 19 is still way below what I'm comfortable with.

Such a shame, that is the problem really, too many old souls/ people with old views that swinging is for a certain age/ type. Swinging should be for everyone to enjoy as at the end of the day everyone loves the social and the fun side "

Yes, but you should only meet people you want to meet. As a 33 year old with a mindset which is older, I tend to go older and rarely go under 30. I'm afraid most preferences aren't negotiable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just got to tough it out, stick with it. You’re going to get people who won’t give you the time of day cos of your age and then others who are specifically after lads your age. Just need to put in the leg work and find compatible people and try and enjoy and learn from the search.

You don’t get owt for nowt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a tough gig for a guy under 25 or 30. I've always been an old soul, so I get it, but I'm afraid I'm still an old soul so 19 is still way below what I'm comfortable with.

Such a shame, that is the problem really, too many old souls/ people with old views that swinging is for a certain age/ type. Swinging should be for everyone to enjoy as at the end of the day everyone loves the social and the fun side "

There is a difference between the "views" and the "preferences". Swinging doesn't mean "everyone with everyone".

Mrs

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's a tough gig for a guy under 25 or 30. I've always been an old soul, so I get it, but I'm afraid I'm still an old soul so 19 is still way below what I'm comfortable with.

Such a shame, that is the problem really, too many old souls/ people with old views that swinging is for a certain age/ type. Swinging should be for everyone to enjoy as at the end of the day everyone loves the social and the fun side

There is a difference between the "views" and the "preferences". Swinging doesn't mean "everyone with everyone".

Mrs "

This. An immature 18 year old who's really into you might think it's a shame you won't consider her, OP. Is it a shame that you are who you are and your preferences honour that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a tough gig for a guy under 25 or 30. I've always been an old soul, so I get it, but I'm afraid I'm still an old soul so 19 is still way below what I'm comfortable with.

Such a shame, that is the problem really, too many old souls/ people with old views that swinging is for a certain age/ type. Swinging should be for everyone to enjoy as at the end of the day everyone loves the social and the fun side

There is a difference between the "views" and the "preferences". Swinging doesn't mean "everyone with everyone".

Mrs "

Of course there are preferences however when you are not instigating it and purely trying to be kind or offer a compliment

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello Op,

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you.

You've said on your profile that you've been here before and 'had some good experiences' so is there any chance that others could verify you?

Post some more pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile. Anything in between is great. Your young and in decent shape, even if you do describe yourself as curvy, so show yourself off. Don't assume though that you've got to show off every square inch of flesh, this is one occasion in life when less is more.

However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, it will give you a chance to show your maturity. Get involved in the chatroom too.

Good luck.

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