FabSwingers.com forum: Stoma

By *orthwest2some OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

What’s people’s thoughts on meeting people with Stoma’s ? Be interesting to find what people really think and like us honesty best policy please

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No experience of this personally so I'd be a bit unsure. If you explained it to me I'd be fine.

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By *orthwest2some OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"No experience of this personally so I'd be a bit unsure. If you explained it to me I'd be fine."

When you say explained it to you do you mean informed you beforehand and thanks for your response

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No experience of this personally so I'd be a bit unsure. If you explained it to me I'd be fine.

When you say explained it to you do you mean informed you beforehand and thanks for your response "

Yes and just explained what's involved. I understand that they're pretty discreet.

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By *orthwest2some OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"No experience of this personally so I'd be a bit unsure. If you explained it to me I'd be fine.

When you say explained it to you do you mean informed you beforehand and thanks for your response

Yes and just explained what's involved. I understand that they're pretty discreet."

Yes they are and Steve always leaves his tshirt on if we meet anyone so they don’t have to look at it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No experience of this personally so I'd be a bit unsure. If you explained it to me I'd be fine.

When you say explained it to you do you mean informed you beforehand and thanks for your response

Yes and just explained what's involved. I understand that they're pretty discreet.

Yes they are and Steve always leaves his tshirt on if we meet anyone so they don’t have to look at it "

I can't see a problem then. The main thing with things like this is lack of understanding and not knowing what to do. I'd want to know if it would hurt him or damage it if I knocked it for instance

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By *orthwest2some OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"No experience of this personally so I'd be a bit unsure. If you explained it to me I'd be fine.

When you say explained it to you do you mean informed you beforehand and thanks for your response

Yes and just explained what's involved. I understand that they're pretty discreet.

Yes they are and Steve always leaves his tshirt on if we meet anyone so they don’t have to look at it

I can't see a problem then. The main thing with things like this is lack of understanding and not knowing what to do. I'd want to know if it would hurt him or damage it if I knocked it for instance"

Yeah no it doesn’t hurt him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't bother me at all aslong as I knew before hand.

And only reason for me needing to know is so I wouldn't hurt him.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"No experience of this personally so I'd be a bit unsure. If you explained it to me I'd be fine.

When you say explained it to you do you mean informed you beforehand and thanks for your response

Yes and just explained what's involved. I understand that they're pretty discreet.

Yes they are and Steve always leaves his tshirt on if we meet anyone so they don’t have to look at it

I can't see a problem then. The main thing with things like this is lack of understanding and not knowing what to do. I'd want to know if it would hurt him or damage it if I knocked it for instance"

Likewise this. If I want to go with someone, I want to go with them. But what's important to me is having an understanding of anything that may need some considerations/precautions so everyone can play safe, without embassement and has a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP. My Dad had a Stoma Bag for 2 years while he battled with Bowel Cancer. I saw the good and bad side to it.

As long as you are honest and tell whoever you guys are meeting about it and let them decide I think its up to the person(s).

If the Stoma Bag is going to be a permanent thing and alot of people dont want to meet after that, I can see it being a problem for your OH and may knock his confidence.

Alot of people don't know what a Stoma Bag is so a bit of Google-ing and answering questions probably will happen. It needs to be looked at as something, not normal, but not weird. That those who have Stoma Bags can still live normal lives and have sex.

I hope you have a positive response and time on here in regards to the Stoma Bag. C Xx

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By *orthwest2some OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Hi OP. My Dad had a Stoma Bag for 2 years while he battled with Bowel Cancer. I saw the good and bad side to it.

As long as you are honest and tell whoever you guys are meeting about it and let them decide I think its up to the person(s).

If the Stoma Bag is going to be a permanent thing and alot of people dont want to meet after that, I can see it being a problem for your OH and may knock his confidence.

I hope you have a positive response and time on here in regards to the Stoma Bag. C Xx"

Thank you very much and yes we have had meets with understanding people but they are few and far between and we are always up front about it beforehand in the initial contact stages

It is a permanent fixture and yes we lead a normal sex life as a couple but still like to swing but since it was fitted finding it harder nowadays xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think it's like most things, as long as people are honest and explain upfront there shouldn't be an issue. That's why our profile explains about Jez having to inject himself for his equipment to work.

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By *helsea_PowellTV/TS
over a year ago

Bradford

I know a girl who had the full colostomy. She told me more than once and I though "so you had a camera up your arse, so what"

We banged a couple of times and I obviously realised what it actually meant and I honestly never batted an eyelid. She was confident as fuck and didnt it didnt bother her so it didnt bother me!

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By *orthwest2some OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"We think it's like most things, as long as people are honest and explain upfront there shouldn't be an issue. That's why our profile explains about Jez having to inject himself for his equipment to work."

Like us honesty best policy although we haven’t added Steve as a Stoma on our profile we always mention it within the first few messages and admire your openness in your profile and just a shame your not closer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No experience of this personally so I'd be a bit unsure. If you explained it to me I'd be fine.

When you say explained it to you do you mean informed you beforehand and thanks for your response

Yes and just explained what's involved. I understand that they're pretty discreet.

Yes they are and Steve always leaves his tshirt on if we meet anyone so they don’t have to look at it

I can't see a problem then. The main thing with things like this is lack of understanding and not knowing what to do. I'd want to know if it would hurt him or damage it if I knocked it for instance"

Yes this, long time ago on my previous profile, he didn't tell me beforehand and sex was amazing but I was so worried I would hurt him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a guy with one, he was hot. Was quite difficult trying not to get him too wet tho

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

As an ex nurse , I know about stomas, but would want to be aware of somebody having one before I met them.

Have you considered putting a photo in your profile pics. Explain it's a long standing feature, that does not affect sex except xyz. Happy to answer any questions etc

It wouldn't bother me at all. But it's up to you , if you put it in the profile or tell people once you strike up conversation. It's your profile after all.

All the best

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By *orthwest2some OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"As an ex nurse , I know about stomas, but would want to be aware of somebody having one before I met them.

Have you considered putting a photo in your profile pics. Explain it's a long standing feature, that does not affect sex except xyz. Happy to answer any questions etc

It wouldn't bother me at all. But it's up to you , if you put it in the profile or tell people once you strike up conversation. It's your profile after all.

All the best

We always tell people we are chatting to and leave it upto them as regards meeting and accept it’s not for everyone so we always tell people more or less within the first couple of messages x

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

I had a stoma before i stared swinging i hated every minute of it and had bad reactions to the flange ,was so glad when i had it reversed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A stoma does not bother me i use to change them.I use to be a care worker.

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By *irralsiMan
over a year ago

Wallasey

My ex wife had a stoma for a couple of years,

Didn’t interrupt our sex life in anyway, it’s was more about confidence with her and once she realised I still found her sexy all was good.

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