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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Planning on attending a club in the next week or two with a regular playmate of mine. Neither of us have been before but we would really like to try it out. Now ive found a regular guy i get on with really well and trust totally i think im ready for it-I wouldn't go by myself! We would be looking for other couples, a few guys or (unlikely) a single female.

We are in the bristol area but are prepared to travel a little bit, but any advice/tips on what to do, what not to do and where to go(i presume you are allowed to recommend places by name?) Private message me or just post on here-thanks in advance

Lucy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chameleons in newport isn't too far away from you and is very relaxed and has a lovely easygoing atmosphere, us welsh folk are very friendly too! lol

Just take your time to have a look around, chat to folk in the bar or smoking area and just do what ever feels right. it isn't the busiest club but we have always had a great night and always leave with a big smile on our face enjoy xxx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Planning on attending a club in the next week or two with a regular playmate of mine. Neither of us have been before but we would really like to try it out. Now ive found a regular guy i get on with really well and trust totally i think im ready for it-I wouldn't go by myself! We would be looking for other couples, a few guys or (unlikely) a single female.

We are in the bristol area but are prepared to travel a little bit, but any advice/tips on what to do, what not to do and where to go(i presume you are allowed to recommend places by name?) Private message me or just post on here-thanks in advance

Lucy xx"

Dont know your area, but in terms of dos and donts...

Dont get too nervous, daft i know but seriously try to treat it as a normal night out where they may be extras. Dont go expecting anything to happen, dont get too d*unk your first time ,and do have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the lovely replies guys. I shall take all of that onboard and hopefully have a good time :P

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Lucy,

Ideally go on a couples night, simply because its your first time, and the enviroment is less likely to be overwhelming for you (That's not to say mixed nights can't be fun, they can be great) be when you first start out on the clubbing scene choosing the right club on the right night can be fairly important.

People will have different views on what makes a good club, but there's probably a few small points that most people will agree on -

It's only as good as other people there, the best club in the world would still be shite if you're the only people there.

It should be clean and safe.

The hosts and / or owners should be welcoming and friendly without be intrusive or overbearing.

It should have an atmosphere that is condusive the playing.

The hosts and or owners should make sure the rules of the club are enforced.

We could go on, but even a small club that gets all of the above right will rarely give you a bad night.

If you're prepared to travel then the UK is you're oyster, you have over 75 to choose from, almost 100 if you include the private party network.

For first timers we would recommend the following clubs, mostly on a Saturday evening:

Chameleons

The Vanilla Alternative

Liberty Elite

La Chambre

Ourplace4fun

The first three of these, if you book well ahead can also all offer you on site accomodation.

Closer to you, the best one is a house party called Decadence which is at Burnham on Sea but as mentioned above, Chams Newport isn't bad either, but its not a patch on the main Chams up in Darlaston. There is a club called The Office in Bristol, the owners are nice, but the club suffers from a bad location and a limited appeal as a result. (It's also not a good first impression of what is out there)

Hope this helps you.

A and A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lucy,

Ideally go on a couples night, simply because its your first time, and the enviroment is less likely to be overwhelming for you (That's not to say mixed nights can't be fun, they can be great) be when you first start out on the clubbing scene choosing the right club on the right night can be fairly important.

People will have different views on what makes a good club, but there's probably a few small points that most people will agree on -

It's only as good as other people there, the best club in the world would still be shite if you're the only people there.

It should be clean and safe.

The hosts and / or owners should be welcoming and friendly without be intrusive or overbearing.

It should have an atmosphere that is condusive the playing.

The hosts and or owners should make sure the rules of the club are enforced.

We could go on, but even a small club that gets all of the above right will rarely give you a bad night.

If you're prepared to travel then the UK is you're oyster, you have over 75 to choose from, almost 100 if you include the private party network.

For first timers we would recommend the following clubs, mostly on a Saturday evening:

Chameleons

The Vanilla Alternative

Liberty Elite

La Chambre

Ourplace4fun

The first three of these, if you book well ahead can also all offer you on site accomodation.

Closer to you, the best one is a house party called Decadence which is at Burnham on Sea but as mentioned above, Chams Newport isn't bad either, but its not a patch on the main Chams up in Darlaston. There is a club called The Office in Bristol, the owners are nice, but the club suffers from a bad location and a limited appeal as a result. (It's also not a good first impression of what is out there)

Hope this helps you.

A and A x"

It's responses like this that are the reason I have a lot of time for this site. Perhaps I'm doing you an injustice, it's the people, not the site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great answers, just what i wanted thank you theres only so much you can learn from google, isnt there! I will pass all this onto the guy that i may go with xx

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

wherever you go be sure you're confident and don't agree to anything simply because someone suggests it!

clubs can be great fun and very liberating, but its easy to get swept up by the atmosphere. if you're not sure or are not keen then a simple no thanks or can i think about it will suffice.

that much maligned phrase 'proper swingers' comes into play here! anyone who understands the true ethos of swinging will never expect you to to join in unless its wholehearted. anyone who takes offence or gets sulky when told no politely is not a proper swinger!!! (never thought i'd use that phrase!)

and anyone who touches without invitation is well out of order - i've known guys who i've made eye contact with, beckoned over, then smiled broadly at who have still checked verbally that i meant them.

bad behaviour is rare at well managed clubs, but it can still occur. its your body and don't let anyone make you feel like you can't stop at any time or even simply say 'i don't need a hand on my butt to get up the stairs thanks'.

that being said i have a great time at clubs, and some of my non playing nights have been just as successful as the playing ones!

good luck honey

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