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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london

Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't think it would. Just because you're unverified doesn't make you a fraud. Just someone who hasn't been able to meet anyone. It's hard enough for some on here as it is

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

Desperation, lots of men make no effort and look for a easy fuck.

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt "

I think it's a great idea for people that don't get photo verified....at least that way you know you have a good chance of them being who they say they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt

I think it's a great idea for people that don't get photo verified....at least that way you know you have a good chance of them being who they say they are "
You can set a filter to prevent unverified folk from messaging you already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're talking about mandatory face/naked body pic verification, which is not to everyone's taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt

I think it's a great idea for people that don't get photo verified....at least that way you know you have a good chance of them being who they say they are You can set a filter to prevent unverified folk from messaging you already."

The solution is already there, and still we get people pissing us about or looking for wank talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're talking about mandatory face/naked body pic verification, which is not to everyone's taste.

"
naked body verification process nothing other than they're naked and holding a bit of paper

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?"

I don't understand. Why make it harder for unverified people to set up the meets they need to get verified?


"I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt "

Huh? Many women don't put pictures on the site, or at least not to begin with, so that's quite a proportion of the site you're suggesting we rule out. I obviously wouldn't meet without seeing pictures, but photos can be swapped at any time via PM. I certainly wouldn't pass up the opportunity of messaging someone who shared my interests and was in the right area, or had an interesting description, just because they had no profile pic. And I'm not "playing" anything.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt "

Filters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I don't understand. Why make it harder for unverified people to set up the meets they need to get verified?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt

Huh? Many women don't put pictures on the site, or at least not to begin with, so that's quite a proportion of the site you're suggesting we rule out. I obviously wouldn't meet without seeing pictures, but photos can be swapped at any time via PM. I certainly wouldn't pass up the opportunity of messaging someone who shared my interests and was in the right area, or had an interesting description, just because they had no profile pic. And I'm not "playing" anything."

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By *ltcouple666Couple
over a year ago

cheshire


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt

I think it's a great idea for people that don't get photo verified....at least that way you know you have a good chance of them being who they say they are You can set a filter to prevent unverified folk from messaging you already."

Oh Thank you that a great, didn't realise x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's because new females are seen as fresh meet by desparate men and couples trying to meet them before everyone else gets a chance to. Maybe better to not allow incoming messages to them for the first week so it gives them a chance to sort their profile and set filters. I've had 2 friends who have left because they were literally hounded off the site by being bombarded by unwanted messages. Not being able to receive them for the first week would have given them a better chance.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Or women could just block single men, and do the chasing themselves...

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

https://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"It's because new females are seen as fresh meet by desparate men and couples trying to meet them before everyone else gets a chance to. Maybe better to not allow incoming messages to them for the first week so it gives them a chance to sort their profile and set filters. I've had 2 friends who have left because they were literally hounded off the site by being bombarded by unwanted messages. Not being able to receive them for the first week would have given them a better chance. "

They could have used their filters

https://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

A new profile is given lots of tips before they start and every time they go to their mailbox they are reminded of the filters they could use to limit mails

I assume your friends didn't want to use them

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

The whole naked photo with the piece of paper thing... I'm amazed it's legal. Imagine Tesco doing similar! "Customers can only use our store if they supply a nude photograph holding their clubcard number for our records"... crazy.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

The naked thing came about because some people didn't their face in a PV pic, so Admin gave them a choice of what they can put in it. Of course for 99% of people it isn't compulsory anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My FB on here put all her filters on and searched for people herself with much more success than the normal way of waiting for guys to message. There's no need to be bombarded with lots of messages if filters are used appropriately although I do think it might be an idea to limit the amount of messages new users can receive to help them find their feet so to speak. I'm sure many new women have been overwhelmed in the first few days and left because of it.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Two of the best meets I’ve had on here have been from unverified users. I gave them their first verification...

They had a good profile, a sufficient number of photos and had the right approach when messaging me. And I am glad they did. So no, I don’t think it would be a good idea really...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"The naked thing came about because some people didn't their face in a PV pic, so Admin gave them a choice of what they can put in it. Of course for 99% of people it isn't compulsory anyway"

Lucky me eh?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

How would they then get a verification is they can't contact others?.

I've met unverified men on my single profile and had no problem

Miss

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"...

I think it's a great idea for people that don't get photo verified....at least that way you know you have a good chance of them being who they say they are "

Photo verification isn't difficult.

Why isn't it mandatory or even womandatory?

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt "

I think ladies are more than capable of dealing with fab-related issues such as “bombarding” without needing your help. And if someone wishes to send a message without a pic so what?

Unless you’re playing the “white knight” card of course......

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Wouldn’t an approach which stopped any unverified profile being able to send or receive messages be a step in the right direction?

I’ve seen a lot of women claim they have 100 messages but not even added a pic! Why men even message those types of users is beyond me. Playing the % no doubt "

How would you feel if you saw a profile which caught your eye and couldn't message because you are not verified?

Everyone is unverified when they first join here. If they couldn't message then they'd be a lot less people on the site and no newbies.

Mr2

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