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"There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications. Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having! " such a sensible and seriously intelligent point made ... we see verifications as part of the overall due diligence process ... it makes sense and it is welcomed | |||
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"There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications. Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having! " Well said.x | |||
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"There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications. Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having! " _______ Totally agree! Plus the veri’s are often accumulated over many years. It’s an imperfect system. Often as a male you’re best meets never get a veri, or they go off the site and the veri disappears!! | |||
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"I only ask for veris every now and then, just to prove I am who I say I am. I don't feel the need to collect one from every man I meet. I don't publish them, I feel that would be showing off a bit. Ironic really as I like to read men's veris before meeting them. " “Problem” is you cannot refuse or reject a verification ( I think there are rules if it’s fake but how do you prove that?!!! ) | |||
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"I only ever show a few, don't wish to broadcast how many I've met. Veris are just an indication of a real person, people still get messed around by verified profiles" | |||
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"I only ask for veris every now and then, just to prove I am who I say I am. I don't feel the need to collect one from every man I meet. I don't publish them, I feel that would be showing off a bit. Ironic really as I like to read men's veris before meeting them. “Problem” is you cannot refuse or reject a verification ( I think there are rules if it’s fake but how do you prove that?!!! ) " Very true. I usually just say, no need to veri. | |||
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"I used to display veris but I had unpleasant messages coming from men who read them or even bit of jealousy from those I met before and they commented on veris from someone else. So I don't show them now but happy to reveal if anyone asks just to prove I'm real." I use those unpleasant messages to pad my block list, because they're not people I want to meet. | |||
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"When I meet someone I tend to ask them if it’s ok for me to leave them a verification as I know not everyone wants one.I have no problem doing a verification for someone I have met and if I get one back great and if I don’t So what it’s not the end of the world." Why wouldn't they want one? | |||
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"I used to display veris but I had unpleasant messages coming from men who read them or even bit of jealousy from those I met before and they commented on veris from someone else. So I don't show them now but happy to reveal if anyone asks just to prove I'm real. I use those unpleasant messages to pad my block list, because they're not people I want to meet. " of course I block them. But it's tiring to block all day for different reasons so at least this way I prevent it from happening again. | |||
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"I used to display veris but I had unpleasant messages coming from men who read them or even bit of jealousy from those I met before and they commented on veris from someone else. So I don't show them now but happy to reveal if anyone asks just to prove I'm real. I use those unpleasant messages to pad my block list, because they're not people I want to meet. of course I block them. But it's tiring to block all day for different reasons so at least this way I prevent it from happening again." Fair! Different ways of dealing with it. | |||
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"When I meet someone I tend to ask them if it’s ok for me to leave them a verification as I know not everyone wants one.I have no problem doing a verification for someone I have met and if I get one back great and if I don’t So what it’s not the end of the world. Why wouldn't they want one? " Because I only need people to know I'm real and 1 or 2 recent veris is enough for that. Anything else feels like bed post notching! | |||
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"I used to display veris but I had unpleasant messages coming from men who read them or even bit of jealousy from those I met before and they commented on veris from someone else. So I don't show them now but happy to reveal if anyone asks just to prove I'm real. I use those unpleasant messages to pad my block list, because they're not people I want to meet. of course I block them. But it's tiring to block all day for different reasons so at least this way I prevent it from happening again. Fair! Different ways of dealing with it. " Yup indeed. I wish there will be one day when I don't block anyone. I think it can only happen when I don't log into fab for 24 hours | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , " Why dont you just arrange meets with verified and site supporter ? Might help with the let downs ? Just a suggestion xx | |||
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"When I meet someone I tend to ask them if it’s ok for me to leave them a verification as I know not everyone wants one.I have no problem doing a verification for someone I have met and if I get one back great and if I don’t So what it’s not the end of the world. Why wouldn't they want one? " . Not sure why someone wouldn’t want one a couple I met for a social said they didn’t want one which I thought a little strange but I respected there decision and a couple of single ladies I met said the same thing again I respected their decision.After all you don’t have to display for all to see and like I said earlier if you want to give me a verification back great if not so what it’s not the end of the world. | |||
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"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. " The longer I'm here the less fucks I give. Which is ironic really. | |||
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"The verification minefield...... I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like. If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing. But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves. Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me. Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea. You just can't win. If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super. I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people. Job done." In a nutshell this - if someone doesn't want to meet me because of my veris then it's no problem at all for me | |||
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"The verification minefield...... I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like. If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing. But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves. Job done." How strange that they hadn’t looked at your verifications before arranging a social meet! Jeez, the world takes all sorts. | |||
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"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. The longer I'm here the less fucks I give. Which is ironic really. " For me it started very early, when a guy laid into me for meeting one of the first people I met. Said I was tainted by association blah blah. The guy I met is one of the most lovely, trustworthy people I've come across on Fab. Figured out it was their drama not my problem. | |||
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"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. The longer I'm here the less fucks I give. Which is ironic really. For me it started very early, when a guy laid into me for meeting one of the first people I met. Said I was tainted by association blah blah. The guy I met is one of the most lovely, trustworthy people I've come across on Fab. Figured out it was their drama not my problem. " I'm oft reminded of an olde saying: "Not my monkey, not my circus" | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , " Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol. | |||
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"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. The longer I'm here the less fucks I give. Which is ironic really. For me it started very early, when a guy laid into me for meeting one of the first people I met. Said I was tainted by association blah blah. The guy I met is one of the most lovely, trustworthy people I've come across on Fab. Figured out it was their drama not my problem. I'm oft reminded of an olde saying: "Not my monkey, not my circus" " Oh for sure. But in some cases it seems like, bullet dodged! | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol. " And the fee thing has been done to death. Idiots still site support. Making the fee higher and/or compulsory will drive away those with less money, which isn't just idiots. | |||
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"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. The longer I'm here the less fucks I give. Which is ironic really. For me it started very early, when a guy laid into me for meeting one of the first people I met. Said I was tainted by association blah blah. The guy I met is one of the most lovely, trustworthy people I've come across on Fab. Figured out it was their drama not my problem. I'm oft reminded of an olde saying: "Not my monkey, not my circus" Oh for sure. But in some cases it seems like, bullet dodged! " True story...... I often see one of my blockers on the forums pontificating about the stupid reasons people have for blocking and telling people to grow up. Must admit I find it hard to stop myself doing a little wee..... | |||
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"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. The longer I'm here the less fucks I give. Which is ironic really. For me it started very early, when a guy laid into me for meeting one of the first people I met. Said I was tainted by association blah blah. The guy I met is one of the most lovely, trustworthy people I've come across on Fab. Figured out it was their drama not my problem. I'm oft reminded of an olde saying: "Not my monkey, not my circus" Oh for sure. But in some cases it seems like, bullet dodged! True story...... I often see one of my blockers on the forums pontificating about the stupid reasons people have for blocking and telling people to grow up. Must admit I find it hard to stop myself doing a little wee....." Haha. I block for any and all reasons and make no apology for it. | |||
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"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. The longer I'm here the less fucks I give. Which is ironic really. For me it started very early, when a guy laid into me for meeting one of the first people I met. Said I was tainted by association blah blah. The guy I met is one of the most lovely, trustworthy people I've come across on Fab. Figured out it was their drama not my problem. " Exactly this I'm here for NSA uncomplicated sex not dragged into drama x if I wanted that I would get a bf lol x | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol. And the fee thing has been done to death. Idiots still site support. Making the fee higher and/or compulsory will drive away those with less money, which isn't just idiots. " | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol. And the fee thing has been done to death. Idiots still site support. Making the fee higher and/or compulsory will drive away those with less money, which isn't just idiots. " It's also been stated that many of the higher fee charging sites have just as many idiots - which I guess just goes to prove the truth behind the "a fool and his money are easily parted" phrase | |||
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" Exactly this I'm here for NSA uncomplicated sex not dragged into drama x if I wanted that I would get a bf lol x " Here, here! | |||
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"The verification minefield...... I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like. If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing. But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves. Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me. Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea. You just can't win. If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super. I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people. Job done." Absolutely this | |||
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"It's not the amount of veries that can be off putting,but the content sometimes. I read veries,but don't need to know every detail of every meet . Miss" I used to worry about the contents of the veris on my page, but I've let it go. I can't control much about what others say about me. (I don't give graphic veris myself) I realised I judged the giver not the displayer on graphic content. (others may feel differently of course) | |||
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"The verification minefield...... I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like. If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing. But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves. Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me. Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea. You just can't win. If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super. I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people. Job done." | |||
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"I always think its a bit odd on a so called swingers site where the point is to meet others and have the freedom to do what you like that some would judge others on how many veris they have or who they have met. Some people may hide them all and the summary and have hundreds but you'd not know. Its a good system but seems to cause a lot of grief for some. I see updates with some saying if they've met a certain person then they won't meet them. I'm sure they don't really care tbh! I've known people to get funny whith others when they haven't verified them but did verify "her" lol, bit sad really. I don't take any notice of what a stranger has written about another stranger, I'll make my own mind up about a person and hope others do the same. " | |||
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"There seems to be a sort of snobbery about single men and women with lots of verifications. Seems a bit mad to me- if someone is genuinely single and mostly has sex in clubs or via this site then they will accumulate lots of verifications Couples seem to forget that they have sex as a couple and Fab is an extra For us singles our verifications may be all the sex we are having! " | |||
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"I see reaction to my veris as a bit of a filter. If you have a problem, then we don't need to meet. " that's my attitude .I wouldn't mind but it's not anywhere near an indication of actually how many people I've had sex with. For instance a group session a few weeks back that was over 20 guys.. 4 verified me. I also do meet the odd person off fab... so there are those too. It makes me giggle if someone says I have to many... I normally say you would have kittens if you knew the real number then | |||
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"I see reaction to my veris as a bit of a filter. If you have a problem, then we don't need to meet. that's my attitude .I wouldn't mind but it's not anywhere near an indication of actually how many people I've had sex with. For instance a group session a few weeks back that was over 20 guys.. 4 verified me. I also do meet the odd person off fab... so there are those too. It makes me giggle if someone says I have to many... I normally say you would have kittens if you knew the real number then " Yeah, there's that too | |||
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"I like to see varifications on a profile .It gives some indication as to what they are like . I like to read their varifications and can see how many are a play or just social. I have plenty myself as I have co hosted swinging social events and love to visit different clubs. That's not to say I've slept with all my varifications. If it puts people off me then I probably wouldn't want to meet them in the first place. " | |||
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"Veris actually serve a few purposes for us A. They show we are up for fun with no drama B. People can gauge what we are like C. The dreamers, messers, snobs avoid us (win, win) D. We give veris as a thank you note E. That we actually play not just talk about it" | |||
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"^ what he said. Here are my verifications. Don't like it? Don't contact me/ be prepared for me to not give a rat's arse then block you. " | |||
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"if you have been on here for over 10 years and only had a few meets a year , in can add up to several veris...maybe the site should show how long you have been a member in order to give some perspective." The verifications are dated- if you show them- maybe people just look at the numbers but don’t read them? | |||
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"The verification minefield...... I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like. If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing. But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves. Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me. Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea. You just can't win. If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super. I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people. Job done. Absolutely this " Nailed it. | |||
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"The verification minefield...... I've had 2 social meets cancel and block me because I'd had a social meet with someone they don't like. If I'd fucked her I'd kind of understand it, although I'd still do the rolls eyes thing. But over a social? Get the fuck over yourselves. Someone said I have too many social verifications. Her profile insisted on a social meet first. And she had more than me. Someone the other day was whining that hidden verifications was an alarm bell. Same thread someone else said hiding veris was a good idea. You just can't win. If my verifications, the number of them, that they're hidden or not hidden, my summary is visible or hidden puts you off meeting me, super. I only want to meet open minded non judgemental people. Job done. Absolutely this Nailed it. " yep | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , " Charging wont change a thing. I've been on a couple other sites for about 10 years now. You get your time wasters on all them. | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , Charging wont change a thing. I've been on a couple other sites for about 10 years now. You get your time wasters on all them. " I used to pay £30 a month on another site. No forums. No verification system. Limited text count. No filters or blocks. No more than 10 pictures. What it did have was hundreds of site generated profiles and hundreds of fake single female profiles. I often see people saying "I'd pay xyz for blah blah blah" Don't think I've ever seen anyone actually go off and do it. | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is." Contradicted yourself in your first paragraph, do not sound open minded at all.... | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is." that makes no sense.. and how do you know they are veries from sensible people | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. that makes no sense.. and how do you know they are veries from sensible people " What ARE sensible people? Where can I find some? | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Contradicted yourself in your first paragraph, do not sound open minded at all...." That’s why I used the words “I try” and “but” I am well aware that I’m far too fussy. It’s something I’m working on. | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Contradicted yourself in your first paragraph, do not sound open minded at all.... That’s why I used the words “I try” and “but” I am well aware that I’m far too fussy. It’s something I’m working on." Was just overwhelmed by your irony that was all.... | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Contradicted yourself in your first paragraph, do not sound open minded at all...." I love it when people make a statement then prove it wrong in their next fews words. Always makes me chuckle. | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. that makes no sense.. and how do you know they are veries from sensible people What ARE sensible people? Where can I find some?" I was going to say "over here". Then I remembered I've read my posts and wrote my profile. Sorry, as you were...... | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , Have you not heard of site supporter? £5 silver or gold. Try it. They will charge you lol. And the fee thing has been done to death. Idiots still site support. Making the fee higher and/or compulsory will drive away those with less money, which isn't just idiots. " I'm a site supporter, which is ironic because if a subscription was mandatory I wouldn't use the site at all. I appreciate the availability of a'premium' option and to some extent I feel like it might mark me out as less of a potential time waster considering I'm a single guy, unverified and all that good stuff. | |||
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"I used to be on a paid one and it was worse as site made up loads profiles they got taken to court for it " Oh the pay sites are awful. £30 or more a month to sign up and an inbox that is full of messages if you're on a free account, that mysteriously stop arriving as soon as you go 'premium'. Fake profiles that are meant to be a 'local hottie in your area (Devon) ' who just happens to obviously live in California and probably be a member of a Venezuelan street gang. It kinda disgusts me how cynically others seek to make unfair profits from our desire to meet people for honest, uncomplicated relationships/physical relations. | |||
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"if you have been on here for over 10 years and only had a few meets a year , in can add up to several veris...maybe the site should show how long you have been a member in order to give some perspective. The verifications are dated- if you show them- maybe people just look at the numbers but don’t read them?" Precisely! I had that - "Oh, you have all those verifications! And from women as well!" :D | |||
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"I had 11 veris before I left and returned but lost them all. Its an interesting dichotomy as this is a sex/ sensuality based site and whilst many here hate the rhetoric that comes with being labelled promiscuous, many seem far too quick to judge others. I remember saying to a lover that I would prefer if she had 400 lovers than be a virgin ( but not all in the same night) when she was concerned about her 'count'. (I was attempting to ease her concerns) And now I cannot get a veri nor do people reply to my messages. For me this site smacks of judgement concerning labels IE; sexual status and age. Footnote is that I appreciate others wish to know a bit about me for their safety. But i have yet to be asked to meet on cam , talk on the phone or indeed 'meet in a public place'. Must be the crypto aftershave... " How is it judgement if they don't want to meet you? What are acceptable reasons for people not wanting to meet? | |||
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"And surely ladies and couples, that if you only meet verified men you are slowly choking the monkey ( ) so to speak. Where will future partners come from as variety will soon be limited and the world will come to an end ( we are doomed i tell yer )" Men who go to clubs and socials or are verified by those willing to take more chances. Repeat meets. I meet or don't meet for any reason I want to. | |||
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"I used to be on a paid one and it was worse as site made up loads profiles they got taken to court for it Oh the pay sites are awful. £30 or more a month to sign up and an inbox that is full of messages if you're on a free account, that mysteriously stop arriving as soon as you go 'premium'. Fake profiles that are meant to be a 'local hottie in your area (Devon) ' who just happens to obviously live in California and probably be a member of a Venezuelan street gang. It kinda disgusts me how cynically others seek to make unfair profits from our desire to meet people for honest, uncomplicated relationships/physical relations. " Exactly this. | |||
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" And now I cannot get a veri nor do people reply to my messages. " Your profile says you are a member of 2 clubs. Why can't a member of staff verify you ? | |||
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"I had 11 veris before I left and returned but lost them all. Its an interesting dichotomy as this is a sex/ sensuality based site and whilst many here hate the rhetoric that comes with being labelled promiscuous, many seem far too quick to judge others. I remember saying to a lover that I would prefer if she had 400 lovers than be a virgin ( but not all in the same night) when she was concerned about her 'count'. (I was attempting to ease her concerns) And now I cannot get a veri nor do people reply to my messages. For me this site smacks of judgement concerning labels IE; sexual status and age. Footnote is that I appreciate others wish to know a bit about me for their safety. But i have yet to be asked to meet on cam , talk on the phone or indeed 'meet in a public place'. Must be the crypto aftershave... How is it judgement if they don't want to meet you? What are acceptable reasons for people not wanting to meet? " What's acceptable reasons on fab seem to be the reason a particular viewer has. This will change with the next viewer, what's acceptable or not. | |||
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"As long as they have regular sexual health check ups,many do not." Very good point | |||
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" What are acceptable reasons for people not wanting to meet? " Any reason whatsoever is acceptable. No one on here is compelled to meet. | |||
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" What are acceptable reasons for people not wanting to meet? Any reason whatsoever is acceptable. No one on here is compelled to meet." no one should feel they have to give a reason either. | |||
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"Verifications mean Jack shit in here !! We been let down 16 times in total and most had veris ,I'll say it again the day fab admin starts charging for this service it will a when lot better ,we'll be there first paying customer , Charging wont change a thing. I've been on a couple other sites for about 10 years now. You get your time wasters on all them. I used to pay £30 a month on another site. No forums. No verification system. Limited text count. No filters or blocks. No more than 10 pictures. What it did have was hundreds of site generated profiles and hundreds of fake single female profiles. I often see people saying "I'd pay xyz for blah blah blah" Don't think I've ever seen anyone actually go off and do it." This is all very true. | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is." Do you actually read the veris or just assume they are all one night stands for sex? You see, that's the problem with a lot of judgemental people on here, they can't see past the numbers and just make incorrect assumptions a lot of the time. Attending repeat meets, parties, clubs and organised socials can very quick rack up a large number of veris. Also, fab only states over a year, the person could have been on here 3, 5 or 10 years and have that amount. I choose not to display my summary as narrow minded people will judge without reading and assume they have all been within a year, when in fact I've been here 4 years. Your post leads me to believe that you do make assumptions. | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Do you actually read the veris or just assume they are all one night stands for sex? You see, that's the problem with a lot of judgemental people on here, they can't see past the numbers and just make incorrect assumptions a lot of the time. Attending repeat meets, parties, clubs and organised socials can very quick rack up a large number of veris. Also, fab only states over a year, the person could have been on here 3, 5 or 10 years and have that amount. I choose not to display my summary as narrow minded people will judge without reading and assume they have all been within a year, when in fact I've been here 4 years. Your post leads me to believe that you do make assumptions. " Why is it narrow minded though? I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing and I have my reasons for that. People will be attracted to things they like. So the ones who like to see lots of veris will want to meet the person with lots showing. | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Do you actually read the veris or just assume they are all one night stands for sex? You see, that's the problem with a lot of judgemental people on here, they can't see past the numbers and just make incorrect assumptions a lot of the time. Attending repeat meets, parties, clubs and organised socials can very quick rack up a large number of veris. Also, fab only states over a year, the person could have been on here 3, 5 or 10 years and have that amount. I choose not to display my summary as narrow minded people will judge without reading and assume they have all been within a year, when in fact I've been here 4 years. Your post leads me to believe that you do make assumptions. " You're also quite judgemental in how you have just assumed that it's just the numbers imo. For some it's maybe the way the numbers are accrued. One example could be that as you say those who go to clubs accrue loads. One can look at that and think, clubs=less selective (based upon see, fancy, fuck in the moment). Could be gangbangs=less scrupulous to get the numbers, (many never have been met prior to the event and most likely never meet again). Party again similar to clubs approach with group plays. I'm just giving examples that may not be purely about the numbers but more the type of fabber and the way they acquire the numbers. | |||
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"I have quite a few but perhaps only a third have i actually done anything with" Same for me. Plus I go to big, organised socials too x | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Do you actually read the veris or just assume they are all one night stands for sex? You see, that's the problem with a lot of judgemental people on here, they can't see past the numbers and just make incorrect assumptions a lot of the time. Attending repeat meets, parties, clubs and organised socials can very quick rack up a large number of veris. Also, fab only states over a year, the person could have been on here 3, 5 or 10 years and have that amount. I choose not to display my summary as narrow minded people will judge without reading and assume they have all been within a year, when in fact I've been here 4 years. Your post leads me to believe that you do make assumptions. " Eh? Nothing to do with numbers. I see my post got people heated for some reason. I clearly stated that it’s MY issue and that I recognise it’s unreasonable. But to reiterate - if a persons veri’s are from a people that a) have visibly poor health b) have photos showing themselves doing bareback c) have met anonymous gloryhole profiles that have in turn met dozens of anonymous people Then I won’t meet them. It’s my choice for my health. Of course it’s not fool proof but it’s a filter of sorts. Nothing to do with numbers at all. We all make choices based on something (at least I hope everyone else does). Is that unreasonable? | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Do you actually read the veris or just assume they are all one night stands for sex? You see, that's the problem with a lot of judgemental people on here, they can't see past the numbers and just make incorrect assumptions a lot of the time. Attending repeat meets, parties, clubs and organised socials can very quick rack up a large number of veris. Also, fab only states over a year, the person could have been on here 3, 5 or 10 years and have that amount. I choose not to display my summary as narrow minded people will judge without reading and assume they have all been within a year, when in fact I've been here 4 years. Your post leads me to believe that you do make assumptions. Eh? Nothing to do with numbers. I see my post got people heated for some reason. I clearly stated that it’s MY issue and that I recognise it’s unreasonable. But to reiterate - if a persons veri’s are from a people that a) have visibly poor health b) have photos showing themselves doing bareback c) have met anonymous gloryhole profiles that have in turn met dozens of anonymous people Then I won’t meet them. It’s my choice for my health. Of course it’s not fool proof but it’s a filter of sorts. Nothing to do with numbers at all. We all make choices based on something (at least I hope everyone else does). Is that unreasonable?" Not unreasonable at all. It wasn't that long ago that I posted about asking someone if I could view their summary and veries, (Won't meet anyone who hides them, what else are they hiding), I got told I was being rediculous...lol. | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Do you actually read the veris or just assume they are all one night stands for sex? You see, that's the problem with a lot of judgemental people on here, they can't see past the numbers and just make incorrect assumptions a lot of the time. Attending repeat meets, parties, clubs and organised socials can very quick rack up a large number of veris. Also, fab only states over a year, the person could have been on here 3, 5 or 10 years and have that amount. I choose not to display my summary as narrow minded people will judge without reading and assume they have all been within a year, when in fact I've been here 4 years. Your post leads me to believe that you do make assumptions. Eh? Nothing to do with numbers. I see my post got people heated for some reason. I clearly stated that it’s MY issue and that I recognise it’s unreasonable. But to reiterate - if a persons veri’s are from a people that a) have visibly poor health b) have photos showing themselves doing bareback c) have met anonymous gloryhole profiles that have in turn met dozens of anonymous people Then I won’t meet them. It’s my choice for my health. Of course it’s not fool proof but it’s a filter of sorts. Nothing to do with numbers at all. We all make choices based on something (at least I hope everyone else does). Is that unreasonable? Not unreasonable at all. It wasn't that long ago that I posted about asking someone if I could view their summary and veries, (Won't meet anyone who hides them, what else are they hiding), I got told I was being rediculous...lol." I remember that thread. You did come across a bit judgemental. | |||
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"I try and be as open minded as possible - but if I see someone has met with multiple people that I wouldn’t meet, then it is off putting. It makes me question their standards, and that in turn leads me to question their sexual health (which might be an unreasonable train of thought) and after that I’m instantly turned off. And in reverse, if they have amazing verifications off tons of hotties and sensible people then it’ll make me even more eager to meet them. I’m sure people probably go through the same process when viewing my profile and make decisions based on whatever their view is. Do you actually read the veris or just assume they are all one night stands for sex? You see, that's the problem with a lot of judgemental people on here, they can't see past the numbers and just make incorrect assumptions a lot of the time. Attending repeat meets, parties, clubs and organised socials can very quick rack up a large number of veris. Also, fab only states over a year, the person could have been on here 3, 5 or 10 years and have that amount. I choose not to display my summary as narrow minded people will judge without reading and assume they have all been within a year, when in fact I've been here 4 years. Your post leads me to believe that you do make assumptions. Eh? Nothing to do with numbers. I see my post got people heated for some reason. I clearly stated that it’s MY issue and that I recognise it’s unreasonable. But to reiterate - if a persons veri’s are from a people that a) have visibly poor health b) have photos showing themselves doing bareback c) have met anonymous gloryhole profiles that have in turn met dozens of anonymous people Then I won’t meet them. It’s my choice for my health. Of course it’s not fool proof but it’s a filter of sorts. Nothing to do with numbers at all. We all make choices based on something (at least I hope everyone else does). Is that unreasonable? Not unreasonable at all. It wasn't that long ago that I posted about asking someone if I could view their summary and veries, (Won't meet anyone who hides them, what else are they hiding), I got told I was being rediculous...lol. I remember that thread. You did come across a bit judgemental." In what way was it judgemental? That I use it as a filter much like others use age and not meeting someone them to see if they look or act a particular age? I think those who thought thought felt it unfair that someone is filtered because of verifications imo. | |||
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"After all this I don’t see the point in showing any ! I am now hiding all mine and the summary. My profile still shows as verified - if that isn’t enough- tough !! " What kind of people do you want to meet? Why did you decide to hide them all? | |||
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"So far on fab I’ve learned that it’s ok for people to say things “no Blacks or Asians” because “it’s preference”. But it’s bad and “judgemental” for people to have a preference based on verifications? (Which is something totally in your control). Oooookay then " You've noticed that too. My take is that it excludes them, no one likes to be excluded, irrespective of whether they wanted to meet or not. By taking away that choice they feel grieved. | |||
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"After all this I don’t see the point in showing any ! I am now hiding all mine and the summary. My profile still shows as verified - if that isn’t enough- tough !! What kind of people do you want to meet? Why did you decide to hide them all?" I don't really expect to find what I am currently looking for on here - and what that is I am not telling. | |||
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"So far on fab I’ve learned that it’s ok for people to say things “no Blacks or Asians” because “it’s preference”. But it’s bad and “judgemental” for people to have a preference based on verifications? (Which is something totally in your control). Oooookay then You've noticed that too. My take is that it excludes them, no one likes to be excluded, irrespective of whether they wanted to meet or not. By taking away that choice they feel grieved." | |||
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"After all this I don’t see the point in showing any ! I am now hiding all mine and the summary. My profile still shows as verified - if that isn’t enough- tough !! What kind of people do you want to meet? Why did you decide to hide them all? I don't really expect to find what I am currently looking for on here - and what that is I am not telling. " Hope you do find what you're looking for. You never know where you might find it. | |||
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