FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling to Cumming at a club?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So me and a fwb have started doing club visits recently.

when we have sex at mine or hers I am allways able to cum from just sex

but during our club visits I haven't been able to cum without either masturbating to get to cum or our first visit I sort of cane without any climax.

has anyone else had this issue or got any support?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Psychological?

Nerves?

Like Frankie said "Relax"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So me and a fwb have started doing club visits recently.

when we have sex at mine or hers I am allways able to cum from just sex

but during our club visits I haven't been able to cum without either masturbating to get to cum or our first visit I sort of cane without any climax.

has anyone else had this issue or got any support? "

Are you playing in private at a club or in full view of others ?

Loads of men have issued cumming or staying/getting hard in clubs if it's in public or in front of others. It's very very common.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Just go for it..get to wild horses won't stop me mode ...if you don't cum ..it doesn't matter... just be happy for the pleasures you're giving

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you playing in private at a club or in full view of others ?

we have used the more private rooms but people are still able to watch.. whether it be through a 1 way mirror or through some sort of viewing window (allthough these may be partly obscured)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you playing in private at a club or in full view of others ?

we have used the more private rooms but people are still able to watch.. whether it be through a 1 way mirror or through some sort of viewing window (allthough these may be partly obscured) "

I really wouldn't worry about it in that case. Playing in a comletely private room would fix the problem of cumming but you may enjoy being seen and then enjoy the insane sex at the hotel or home afterwards.

Just know that this is complete normal and happens all the time... Not being able to cum or get/stay hard when in view of others. I've played with several different guys and have friends who have also and this happens all the time. Hence I prefer playing in private in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So me and a fwb have started doing club visits recently.

when we have sex at mine or hers I am allways able to cum from just sex

but during our club visits I haven't been able to cum without either masturbating to get to cum or our first visit I sort of cane without any climax.

has anyone else had this issue or got any support?

Are you playing in private at a club or in full view of others ?

Loads of men have issued cumming or staying/getting hard in clubs if it's in public or in front of others. It's very very common. "

And some men are turned on by having sex in public....or so I have been told

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Happens to a lot of people from experience. We met a couple once and was at it for like 80 minutes and eventually the heat killed us off... There's definitely nothing wrong at home as a good 20 to 30 min is average there and same with other meets 20 to 30 mins. But the odd occasion especially in quest in summer with no air conditioning the heat kills you off first xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's almost certainly psychological. I had huge problems being unable to cum entirely with my first 2 sexual partners. It was purely psychological and once my 3rd partner "fixed it" somehow it was fixed for good (and I was able to cum with those two previous partners at later encounters)

Specifically in clubs it can definitely have an effect, as can the type of meet. I've got the exact reverse problem. I've never suffered from premature ejaculation, until we started playing with couples in clubs. 2 MMFFs, 2 premature finishes. Not entirely sure what's causing it but it's frustrating.

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By *ackieSteveCouple
over a year ago

Newbridge

I had trouble when we first started going, fine in a private room, but not with other people watching.

Didnt feel nervous, but must have been subconsciously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very difficult to focus in clubs. Too many distractions, noise/other staff going on around me

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By *reelanderMan
over a year ago

rotherham

I find it adds to the excitement fucking in front of people.if u take ur mind from what ur doin to look round then this is whats killing it.men cant multi task its a well known fact lol

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

What do you think/focus on when having sex in a club? Are you free and totally lost in the moment? Or are distracted or focused on other factors. Maybe distracted by things like:

Am I pleasing the other person/s

What's my next move/forward planning the next sexual act. Afterall if your not in tune or experianced with the person/s things don't always flow naturally without thinking.

The surrounding, lighting furnishings, other noises in and around the club

Thinking what others will think of your performance or worried about putting on an exciting show for others

Other people watching

In my experience unless you can be totally free and uninhibited it can be difficult in clubs. It's something that gets better the more at ease you are with clubs and yourself. After all practice makes perfect. People often think men are sex driven performing robot but we're not. We have to be aroused, undistracted and in the moment (as anyone in the porn industry will tell you). Sex is far more mental than physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My trouble is cumming too much at clubs haha!! It’s mind blowing at times!

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I (him) get this. Usually it's when I'm aware of others around me. I'll either have errection problems or won't be able to cum. It doesn't happen all the time and it depends how in the moment I am.

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By *trangeleftyMan
over a year ago

London

"So me and a fwb have started doing club visits recently.

when we have sex at mine or hers I am allways able to cum from just sex

but during our club visits I haven't been able to cum without either masturbating to get to cum or our first visit I sort of cane without any climax.

has anyone else had this issue or got any support? "

Relax

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